u/SuperTFAB

Thank you all so much. Your advice was so helpful. Here is the link to my original post.

Late last night I sent a fairly lengthy email to the superintendent, director of ESC at the school board, and the schools principal. I cc’d all involved including the ESE specialist at the school, the assistant principal that they said they conferred with as well as the person at the county that they said they spoke with.

Early this morning I got a phone call from the ESE at the school board level. I think director’s assistant is who called us. She also told me she will sit in on future IEP meetings. She said she is a certified advocate with the state. She was super nice.

She immediately apologized and told me that what I told her makes her realize that she needs to do some retraining on the phrasing that is used to describe the different classes and resources because apparently I wasn’t wrong in labeling my daughter’s class as inclusive. while I was talking to her, she told me that the principal of my daughter School had called her three times and asked if she could give me a call back in a minute and I of course, said yes.

She told me my daughter has been put in to an inclusive class that receives pushing services just like she was last year. She also said they were going to start the process to have her reevaluated by the psychologist.

Then I got a phone call from the ESC specialist who gave me all this trouble in the first place and she let me know that my daughter will be in the inclusive class with the push in supports and gave me the teacher’s name. It is the same class her little buddy from kindergarten is in and she was so excited to hear that. The Mom and I are friends too so thats cool!

Tomorrow will be her first day. I am beyond relieved. My body and my brain is so exhausted. it sucks that our last weekend before school started was a stressful one, but at least everything worked out. Recently, I have had a few situations where I’ve stood up for myself and it’s backfired. Medical related stuff and this whole issue just felt like another thing that was out of my control that was going to greatly affect my daughter.

I am so so thankful for this community. You guys are great.

If you want to read the email I can redact it and either put it in a comment or pm you.

I hope everyone has a great day!

ETA: I see grammar mistakes but I am too tired to fix it. 🫠 I feel like I could sleep for a week.

My child has ASD ADHD and is going into first grade. In kindergarten she was in a in an inclusive classroom with push in support. I think she was originally put in a classroom that had no push in support but the day of orientation I got a call from the head of ESE and she suggested, based on our conversation about my daughter, that she would do better in the inclusive class with push in support from and ESE education facilitator. I agreed. My daughter struggled a lot throughout the year. She started working with the teacher and the ESE facilitator and by the end of the year went from a level 2 in reading to a level 4 on the state testing in reading. Her math score stayed the same at a 2 which is below grade level. Originally this test was used to decide that she didn't need help anymore. I pushed back at this notion.

Now I am being told that because they didn't write the push in support on the IEP so she is not entitled to these services. The same services that helped her slight improve toward the end of the year. I made it clear that no one said that this help needed to be on the IEP to continue with them. I told them I feel like we are playing a board game and they are the only one with the rules. I asked her (ESE Support Specialist at the school) who dropped the ball on this and she was silent. I also realized she is due for her 3-year re-evaluation by the psychologist and no one scheduled it or mentioned it. Any time I asked for an accommodation to be put in the IEP I was told "oh we already do that for the kids." I am guessing this was said because she was in the inclusive class. Well now they are trying to throw her into the gen-ed class with no support and want to see her fail before they offer help. She already struggles emotionally and what little confidence she has developed in her abilities will be gone if she isn't able to keep up in the gen-ed class. With her ridged way of thinking I feel like building that confidence back up will not be an easy road.