u/The_Chilled_Arvo

Our house went live on Funda on Friday afternoon, it’s in one of the 4 big cities in the Randstad.
After about 36 hours (Sunday evening), we have:
● ~3,600 appearances in search results
● ~445 listing views
● 45 saves
I tried to find benchmarks online, but Funda doesn’t seem to publish any statistics on what is typical for the first few days, and I couldn’t find much from makelaars either.
For those of you who have recently sold a house in the Netherlands:

How many saves did you have after the first weekend?
How many viewings did that translate into?
Did it end up selling quickly or with multiple offers?

I’m mainly looking for real-world experiences rather than guesses, as I’m curious whether these numbers are relatively high, average or low. I’m slightly desperate to sell before the holidays 😅

My daughter is almost 3 (in a week). She often sleeps around 9:30 p.m. to 6:00–6:30 a.m. and many days doesn’t nap. She wakes up naturally, is healthy, happy, energetic, and developing completely normally. The days where daycare manages to get her to nap she sleeps even less (I’ve asked to cap her naps or make her not nap at all but they’re not so understanding, and I’m so tired I didn’t insist)

I’m not really looking for sleep advice. I’m looking to know whether anyone else is living this reality.
I feel like people don’t appreciate how much it changes family life. Friends whose children sleep 11–12 hours overnight and still nap (or even don’t have but still have a normal lenght night) have several extra hours every day to spend together, catch up on chores, exercise, or simply rest.

Meanwhile, we’re parenting through those hours instead. It genuinely feels like we’re living a different version of parenthood. I’ve always needed 8,5/9 hours a night to sleep and there are nights where that would literally be more than my toddler.

If your child has always had very low sleep needs, did it stay that way as they got older? How did you cope with having so much less downtime than other families?

Edit to add that those 8,5/9 hours of night sleep are WITH wakes (although they are very brief)

So I’m aware this will obviously vary very widely, however we have a 3 year old daughter and, despite the fact that I sleep on a floor mattress right up against her floor bed, she will randomly wake two or theee times on an average night by yelling/crying. It’s brief, I give her my hand or pat her, and she’s right back down.

However it does disrupt my sleep quite a bit, and I’ve been wondering at what age I can realistically accept that she will sleep (mostly) through the night without parental intervention. I don’t mind sleeping next to her, but it’s the waking up and needing to help part that’s really wrecking my sleep, after years and years of broken sleep, especially since I also have a 5 month old I need to do night feeds for.

So I posted this morning and my post got removed. My previously excellent sleeper (from month 2 to 4 let’s say - he’s now almost 5 months) went from waking just twice a night to feed and straight back to sleep, to needing quite a bit of help to drift off (frequent pacifier reinsertion and back caresses), to multiple (4 or 5) night wakes.

I read different takes on pacifier. Is it ok to use with ferber if I only put it in once at the start?

Also, my boy is a big guy, he’s 8,5 kilos at just almost 5 months, wondering if it’s realistic to ask him to have just one night feed? He had 3 night feeds last night (100ml, 60 then another 100 at 5am). We haven’t started solids yet

My son is 5 days shy of 5 months old and I’m wondering whether sleep training is appropriate or whether I should wait things out.
He used to be a pretty good sleeper. He could often fall asleep independently at bedtime and wasn’t a baby who needed extensive rocking or feeding to sleep. However, over the last few weeks his sleep has deteriorated significantly.
Current schedule:
Wake-up: usually around 5:30–6:30am (recently often closer to 5:30am)
4 naps per day
Wake windows: roughly 2 hours
Most naps are exactly one sleep cycle (35–40 minutes, usually around 37 minutes)
On a good day he’ll occasionally do a 1-hour nap
Total sleep is now around 13.5 hours per 24 hours according to Huckleberry

A typical day looks something like:
Wake 5:30am
Nap 1: ~35–45 min
Nap 2: ~35–40 min
Nap 3: ~35–40 min
Nap 4: ~35–40 min
Bedtime around 7:30pm

The main issue is nights. He used to give much longer stretches, but now he’s waking multiple times. This started before he recently got sick with a viral upper respiratory infection, although the illness has certainly not helped.
He is also very dependent on the pacifier when falling asleep. During nap attempts I often find myself repeatedly reinserting it because he spits it out and gets upset.
Today, for example, he woke at 5:30am and by 3:30pm had only accumulated about 1 hour 50 minutes of daytime sleep across three naps. He was rubbing his eyes and clearly tired, but would become upset whenever I tried to put him down for a nap.
My questions:
Does this sound like a baby who is undertired, overtired, or on an age-inappropriate schedule?
Are 2-hour wake windows still appropriate at almost 5 months?
Would you try moving to 3 naps, or is that too early given the short naps?
Does this sound like a situation where sleep training could help, or would you wait until after he’s fully recovered from illness?
I’m exhausted and struggling to figure out whether I should change the schedule, sleep train, or simply ride this phase out.

My son is 4.5 months old and I’m struggling to believe what the sleep data seems to be telling me.
According to Huckleberry:
June 2–8: average total sleep = 14h 25m (11h 15m night + 3h 10m naps)
June 10–16: average total sleep = 13h 31m (10h 12m night + 3h 19m naps)
So in the space of roughly a week, his average sleep appears to have dropped by almost an entire hour per day.
What confuses me is that:
His naps haven’t really changed much (actually slightly increased).
The difference is almost entirely coming from night sleep.
He generally seems happy, active, rolling, practicing lots of new skills, and doesn’t seem obviously overtired.
He’s 4.5 months old, which I know is around the time of the “4 month sleep regression” and a lot of developmental changes.
I guess my question is:

Is it actually normal for a baby around 4–5 months old to show this much variation in total sleep from one week to the next?
Could this simply be normal week-to-week fluctuation and averaging effects, or would you interpret a drop from ~14.5 hours to ~13.5 hours as evidence that his sleep needs have genuinely decreased?

I stopped breastfeeding 2 months ago, my partner handles most of the wakes while I sleep in another room, yet I’m still quite tired and randomly wake up at 4:30/5:00 am each day without being able to get back to sleep (I fall asleep anywhere between 21:30 and 22:00 and don’t handle any night wakes between those times)

I feel already a LOT better since I stopped breastfeeding and a bit of a fog has lifted but still quite drained by the end of the day. I have a 3yo toddler but she goes to daycare most days of the weeks. I handle all baby duties on my own every day except the weekend where we split with my husband.

Still, given that I don’t breastfeed and am given ample opportunity to sleep why am I still so darn tired !? I got everything checked and only have mild hyperthyroidism

Home all day with the baby, everything is on me every single waking moment, and in his sleep he often has microwakes where I need to intervene and pat his stomach before he fully wakes up.

I’m spending my day trying to do things only to hear moans of protest (not full out crying, but just moaning and grunting that will escalate to indicate he needs to be held or picked up).

Today he’s completely skipping his last nap even though I’m sure he needs it (put him down at the right time too!) Tried rocking him, feeding him, baby wearing him, caressing him… just constant squirming and moaning , only happy if he’s held and shown around the house or outside.

It’s 18:00 and his moaning is sending me over the absolute edge … what do you fricking WANT?

In The Hague.. the place has been put up for sale a few weeks ago already

I have a nearly 3-year-old and a 4-month-old. Neither child is especially difficult. The baby is actually pretty easygoing, and my toddler is a normal toddler with the occasional meltdown, though she is quite sensitive and demands an insane amount of patience, as I’m guessing most toddlers. I’m currently on maternity leave while my toddler goes to daycare 4 days a week (come at me..), and the weekend feel like I’m running an absolute marathon and I’m crawling to the finish line. Once I start work again in a few months, the plan is to have the baby in daycare as well

But I am finding life with two kids exhausting, there is this constant background load: cleaning, cooking, tidying, laundry, organizing, meeting everyone’s needs, dealing with the fact that the house is never really “done” and there is always something waiting to be done. I’ll add that my husband is heavily involved and does pretty much half of everything if not a bit more.

I feel like I have very little time to myself, and even when I do, there’s usually a mental list of things I should be doing. There’s definitively a part of me that’s always liked my me and quiet time and I’m not super resilient to noise and stress

What’s making it harder is that I think I’m resisting it. Part of me keeps wishing things were calmer, tidier, easier, more under control. I keep thinking “this is just a phase,” but realistically we’re talking years before life becomes substantially less demanding.

I’m starting to wonder whether the answer is some kind of acceptance or surrender rather than constantly fighting reality. Not in a depressing way, but in a “this is my life right now and I need to stop wishing it were something else” kind of way, if I’m making any sense

Has anyone else felt this? Did you eventually learn to embrace the chaos, or did life simply get easier with time?

My son is just over 4 months old and weighs a little over 7 kg (about 15.5 lb).
He was breastfed until around 2 months old and then gradually transitioned to formula. Since birth, he’s actually increased his growth percentiles rather than dropping them, and he’s currently tracking very well on his growth curve.
He’s now exclusively formula-fed and typically drinks around 1,100 mL in a 24-hour period, which works out to about 37 oz per day.
We’ve always fed responsively and follow his hunger cues rather than trying to hit a target. He doesn’t always finish his bottles, and we don’t encourage him to. Sometimes he leaves some behind, sometimes he drains them completely.
What confused me is that my Huckleberry app recently gave me a message saying that babies shouldn’t regularly exceed 32 oz of formula per day and that higher intakes should be discussed with a pediatrician.
So now I’m wondering:
Is 37 oz/day actually excessive for a 4-month-old who weighs 15.5 lb?
Did anyone else have a baby who consistently drank more than the “recommended” amount?
Did their intake naturally level off later?
Is there a point where feeding to appetite becomes overfeeding, or should I just keep following his cues?
Would love to hear others’ experiences, especially from parents whose babies seemed to be naturally big eaters but were growing appropriately.

30yo female, 168cm and 62kg. I’m 4 months post partum with my second baby (though no longer breastfeeding) - and wondering whether it would be realising to go back to my pre baby weight (53/54kg), using OMAD

I’ve always had quite saggy breasts since I was a teen, I’m now 30 and finished breastfeeding 2 kids (not planning on having any more children).

I have pretty big breasts compared to the rest of my body, but I don’t mind their size, it’s just the sag that I mind

Without a breast reduction, for those that have had a breast lift, were you happy with the results?

Small detail, but why did Daisy tear up the note she received from mayday in what, like.. 6 pieces and just threw them on the floor? With all the surveillance going on, it just seems so so risky! It would take someone one minute to put the message back together

June realising Daisy is in the same school as Hannah: I’m surprised she hasn’t thought about it being a possibility sooner! Also, why didn’t she ask a thousand questions about Hannah, her whole heart whom she’s been desperately looking for for a decade ! I’d ask everything, not just “what is she like?” and hugging Daisy on her way back

My son is a big boy, he’s 4 months old and in 75th percentile for his weight. It would be great if he could start shifting some more of his calories to during the day. He’s currently on 2 night feeds, about 150ml for the first feed and maybe 60ml for the second feed. His total intake is around 1000ml

I was wondering if anyone had any success in reducing to one night feed at this age? He’s currently feeding every 3 hours, with maybe one stretch of 4 hours at night

I live right above an empty commercial unit that had been scrapped of everything. It was recently purchased by someone/a company and there will be major renovations done to transform it into an office space and accompanying residential unit.

I know it will be loud to the point of not being liveable, as when the previous owner did demolition work with drilling and hammering and it very severely impacted the ability to live there (I have young children and a 2 month old baby who naps).

Now of course these works are all legal etc and I can’t do anything about it, but I know I’ll probably need to relocate or live somewhere else. It would be insanely loud and just not possible to chill in my flat. Could I get financial compensation in any way?

I have broken af sleep no thanks to my 3yo toddler and 3 month old baby… I need naps to survive and was wondering if anyone has ever used their Apple Watch to track sleep?
I put mine in sleep mode before a nap but it doesn’t seem to register..

A bit specific , but my baby is 3,5 months and I swear he sleeps quite little.
Over naps and night?

Couldn’t edit the title but wanted to add: “for you?”

Asking because our 3,5mo, who, since the start had always put himself to sleep independently, today randomly refused his last bridge nap, I had to hold and rock him which has never been necessary. He’s usually very calm throughout the bedtime routine and it ends in me putting him wide awake but calm in his bed.
Tonight since 6pm he had been super fussy (maybe overtired?) and he had this 20mn bridge nap from 18:15 to 18:35 that I had to cap

He needed more help tonight to fall asleep, and woke 15mn after having fallen asleep (also never happens)

He also didn’t eat much during the day (only a bit over half of what he usually drinks in a 24h period, so he’s gonna make the rest up tonight… not sure how to get out of that cycle)

Not sure if he’s maybe a bit sick and hence why he didn’t eat as much and was more difficult to put to bed ? Or whether he’s started his regression early

Usually he’s on 4 or 5 naps, 14.5 total hours of sleep (usually 4 hours nap and 10,5hr night) and it’s worked like a charm.
This morning he woke very early (5:30am), when he usually wakes up closer to 6:30am, and he only napped 3,5 hours … could it be overtiredness?

So my little one is three and a half months old. For the first two months, I would say he was pretty bad sleeper in the sense that he would wake up every 2hrs and much often from 4 a.m. We just had to hold him from 4am because of cramps I believe . I lost hundreds of hours of sleep because of that.

He was, by any accounts, just a bad sleeper. Then things kind of shifted pretty rapidly. Around 8 weeks he was down to two to three feeds a night. A few weeks later, two feeds a night. And now, on occasion, he does just one feed a night. So he literally goes down to sleep without assistance at 7:30 p.m., wakes up around 1:30 a.m. for a feed, and then is back down with almost no additional wakes until 6, 6:30 a.m. Obviously, this is really welcome. the first two months were so tough.

I'm wondering what are my chances of this lasting. I have to say he's a pretty chill dude, for the most part,m and I can just lay him down in bed and he just fusses a bit and then closes his eyes and falls asleep fully independently. He's exclusively formula-fed.