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So like most adopted kids threw out my life I always wondered who my birth parents were and my siblings. For years I’ve grappled with the idea of trying to find out who they are, what they did, what they looked like ect.

Unfortunately it was a closed record adoption and the birth mother asked for her name to be kept from my mom and me and they didn’t want contact with me. I have my adoption paperwork but any name is redacted and isn’t on any of the paperwork

All I really know is my birth mother was 28, the birthdad was 44 I had two sisters who were 35 and 43 and a brother who was 32. I know the dad got divorced before I was born and at the time had no knowledge she was pregnant ( got bs k together afterwards) and the mom gave me up because she knew she couldn’t give me a good life and wanted me to know she loved me and always will and asked for a picture of me a few years later in adoption follow up meetings.

So I only really have 3 ways to find out

1. is I can ask my my aunt who’s my moms sister- she was the lady who delivered me but I’m not sure I’m comfortable having that discussion with her

2. I know the the birth dad played d1 football ( I know school he attended) knowing his age I can roughly have an idea about when he played for them. Maybe reach out to school and see if they would send me a team photo from those years and roster and use process of elimination. Ie I’m white so eliminate anyone who’s not. I know he wasn’t a star so probably not a starting qb or wr ect, I know his height ect… maybe from a photo I can see someone with similar looks?

3. ancestry. Com. This would probably be the easiest but I don’t know how accurate these things are. Anyone have good experience with this or are options 1 and 2 more full proof?

So I 36(m) feel like I need to sit down and talk to my sister about stepping up to help my mom. Basically about 8 months ago my dad died which has obviously been hard on every one but especially my mom considering me and my sister are all she has for help

Now that being said, it’s more like just me helping her out. My sister has this idea or belief that everything should be dumped on me. Anytime my mom asks her to help her out it’s well can I do it. I try to help as much as possible but there are legitimate times I can’t help and when I say I can’t help my sister out I get attitude from her and given grief even though she has no clue how much i actually do to help.

Like I’ll give you an example, my mom needed some boxes for moving ( more on this later) I said I couldn’t because I was doing work things and where I work it’s a minimum 2 hours to get back ( that’s my commute for said project) but I get yelled at for my sister because she had to reschedule her gym session.

Now back to the moving, my mom is downsizing and selling her house she is going to need alot of help. Obviously I’ll help as much as possible but I’m
Also moving myself so my time is going to be limited because I have things I need to do on my end on top of work. Am I overreacting by telling my sister she is going to have to really step up with her time being available to help my mom?

So I’m currently looking at a house for me as a primary residence not as an investment. I’ve seen alot of things I really like but when I look at the numbers I’m just like what is this person thinking

I looked at 4 places in two communities and it’s almost like people don’t look at comps

In one subdivisions one place is listed at 440k, the other at 460k ( that one been on the market over a year) the last identical unit sold for 400k

In the other subdivision their asking 475k ( dropped from 500k) most recent one that layout in sane area sold for 445k and of last year

Are people today just making up numbers, or is it a my area problem. Like the one listed for 475k ( which o actually like and will make an offer on) has called my realtor a few times asking if her client is still interested so the market seems to be agreeing with me

So I’m curious to hear from fellow fans what your thoughts are on Cadillac so far this season has it been

A) better then you expected
B) as expected
C) worse then expected

I’m going with A. They have been consistently able to finish races ( which towriss said was their main goal, it seems like their gap times are coming down not by alot but still coming down

So I m(36) l live in an apartment building and there’s a girl I find attractive and seems pretty cool who lives on my floor and I kind of want to ask her out

So we actually are familiar with one another so I’m not just a rando saying hey want to go out sometime. Basically a few months ago I was outside with my dog and she asked if I could help jump her car to get it off the tow truck which turned into a two hour thing at 1 am. She drove through a puddle and fried the electrics and had to get a new car. So that’s how we know each other. And we always talk when we see each other in the hall way

So would it weird asking her out considering we have a familiarity between us

2nd would it be weird if I asked her by leaving a note on her car ( obviously I know which car is hers) ? Before everyone immediately says yes, I don’t know what unit she lives in and I’m moving out in 3 weeks and I don’t know if and when I will see her again. Sometimes I will see her 3 times in a week, sometimes I will see her 1 time in a month and a half, sometimes it may be my only option

So here’s the situation and this is not my realtor but the realtor for the other party

So I’m selling a house in another state, basically I’m in the process of selling off all my properties and 1031 exchange them for properties where I live. Currently I have a property under contract scheduled to close June 16th

The other day the buyers realtor reached out about the possibility of closing early (yesterday). My realtor who I have used for 10 years said closing early is fine but the date would not be possible simply because the required paperwork isn’t ready yet. My attorney got the deee package to me Tuesday and being out of state it would take a few more days for me to sign notarize and send

Well my realtor gets an email from the other agent saying the deal is closed and settled and the title company is going to file with the county. My realtor said back this is not possible considering they don’t have the original deed to which she said they filled a copy of it

Now the other realtor is pissed because my realtor is refusing to give them possession of the property told her he has personally contacted the title agent to tell them they don’t have to original deee so they won’t file anything and proceeded to tell her what she did was borderline illegal and will be contacting her principle broker

She responded as per the contract since we settled we have to surrender possession of the property, Even though my agent said we haven’t settled
Anything yet because you never recieved a signed copy of original deed and this is real estate 101

Is this situation worthy of reporting to the real estate board because to me it seems like borderline fraud

So I just got back from a date and even though I thought it went well I got the dreaded it was fun but didn’t feel a romantic connection, but that got me thinking is me not being more physical the reason this keeps happening?

I don’t struggle getting dates, dates generally seem to last a few hours, usually have a lot in common, and generally the vibes are good then I just get hot with this line and it’s the only thing I can really think of being a continua problem. Furthermore when I think back the last few people I’ve ended up dating more on the reserved side of physical contact.

And for anyone asking I’m this way because I’m the past I was accused or borderline sexually assaulting a girl simply for trying to kiss her after a date so this has weighed on me and Implanted a mental block on me ( ironically said girl and I ended up dating 2 years later and she was a good friend of mine for almost 14 years)

So I’m currently in the market for my own home because my lease expires in 3 months and I am going to be buying something.

The two properties I have targeted to make an offer on are both townhomes ( what I can get in my budget. Now both townhomes are in the same complex three doors down from one another. Both are 1600 sg ft one is two bedrooms 1 garage the other is three bedrooms 2 car garage.

I like the three bedroom one because pretty much all the sg footage is on one one floor as opposed to the other being equally divided across two.

So the two bedroom is 425k the other is 475k. Is it worth paying more money for an extra bedroom I will probably never really use and an extra garage spot simply because I like the layout better

Also my down payment is going to be around 300k

So today I got two money orders and the person didn’t fill them out correctly. On one for they pay to he wrote my first name correctly but didn’t put my last name. On the other under pay to he didn’t put my name he put my address ( correct one tied to my account. Do you think the back will accept these as is?

If not could I just write my last name after my first name in the pay to section and just write my name above the spot where he wrote my address or would this be considered altered?

So question, with the airbuses how do I get the plane to descend using auto pilot. I change the altitude on the altitude selector push it in and absolutely nothing happens. I’ll turn the v/s to minus still nothing. Am I missing something pretty obvious?

So two months ago I had a family move in ton one of my rentals. Perfect credit, perfect rental history so checked out. Well days after the move in his wife left him which is a problem because she was the responsible one when it comes to paying the bills. The very first month he’s there that he would have to pay rent outside of getting keys was this month ( April)

Well I knew in March I was going to have potential rent payment issues. It took forever to get the utilities switched over because he was having problems with getting the deposit. Well April 5th cones and of course I don’t get a payment. First month eh cut him a break for a few days. Couple of days nothing

So I reach out to him and I get the yea man I’m sorry with my wife leaving it’s been hectic is Zelle fine I’ll send money. Dude sends me 500 bucks ( rent is 1600) and says give me a few more days I get paid for work on Friday. Well of course he dosent. I reach out to him and go well you need to pay this because next weekend we’re looking at May and your going to owe 2700 instead of 1100 and from my experience that dosent usually have a good ending “ oh it won’t be a problem I’ll get it to you”

Well hasn’t now we’re at May. Question is do I put him on a payment plan of 675 a week ( that would get him current by June) or do I say nothing and wait till the sixth and file because I know he’s going to be a problem. I’m fully aware he’s going to default on a payment plan I guess the question is do I try to get back as much as I can before he does. What would you do?

So I’m selling off one of my investment properties. I’m actually selling all of them because I moved out of state and am getting rid of them and replacing them with houses closer to where I live. But basically the house is supposed to close tomorrow

Well tonight I get a call from my agent which let’s be honest is usually not a good sign before a closing. Of course he says there’s and issue and closing may not happen tomorrow. He then goes on to say it’s nothing in regards to the buyers or inspection and ect but because of the lender

Basically it centers around the appraisal. The appraisal was fine, house appraised for the selling price, however the appraiser marked on his appraisal that the area the house was in is a declining market. Because of this the bank is now asking them to put more money down for the loan. I’ve been doing this for ten years and my realtor probably 30 and neither one of us have ever heard of this.

Apparently it’s a bank policy not a legal thing

Has this ever happened to y’all? It’s so crazy to me I mean markets change all the time. The house is worth its worth as well. Like when I sell a house or buy one I don’t get to ask for more money from them because the market area has been going up. The entire thing is pretty absurd to me