u/Wandering_Song

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I've been married for a long time. Recently my husband "married" another woman, much younger than me and now we all live in the same house. It seems to me that he favoures his new wife and I feel put aside. He spends most of the nights in this new wives bedroom. I'm considering having a single room and a single bed for the three of us. How do I deal with this?

Some of them are so absurd it's fun to think about.

Like yesterday I was in a Jhin/Braum Lane and I thought: what on earth could possibly lead Braum to supporting Jhin? So I started making up this whole story about how Braum found Jhin rounded and helped him out. Jhin spins a whole story about how he's being persecuted by the kinkou for practicing a forbidden magic that creates beautiful art. Braum helps him to travel over the mountains, fending off "assassins". During the day they travel and Jhin tells stories and at night Braum keeps watch while Jhin makes beautiful ice sculptures.

Only at the end does he realize the tiny artist is actually a murderous psychopath--when Jhin slaughters all the people who've come to get him. He tries to help Shen capture him, but Jhin escapes once more.

Anyone else? What crack stories do you invent inspired by gameplay?

DO NOT COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS! I am not the OP. Thread originally posted in r/nonmonogamy by u/inbro13a

Link to original: https://www.reddit.com/r/nonmonogamy/s/COudWt7k4v

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My wife lost interest in swinging after one positive experience. I think I may have caused it. Is there a way back?

Hi everyone.

I'm looking for honest opinions, especially from people who have been in the lifestyle for years.

My wife (42F) and I (42M) have been together for over 8 years, married with two young children. We have always had a very loving relationship and a good sex life. We say "I love you" every day, cuddle a lot, and generally have a strong relationship.

About a year ago we started talking about swinging.

It wasn't something I forced on her from the beginning. We spent many months talking about it. She understood why people do it, she said she could understand the biology behind attraction to other people, and she even admitted that the idea itself was exciting to her. She especially liked the idea that it would be "our secret", something kinky that only belonged to us.

Eventually we met another couple.

She was surprisingly relaxed. Probably even more relaxed than I was.

We had a full swap.

She later told me she really enjoyed the experience, also being with another woman. For several days afterwards she was still excited about it and talked positively about the whole experience.

Then things slowly started falling apart.

Looking back, I made several mistakes.

* I drank too much that evening.

* I wasn't strict enough about condoms, which later resulted in an STI scare and treatment.

* I had previously discussed swinging with a female friend (Paula). There was nothing physical, but my wife felt I had broken the feeling that this was "our private thing".

* I kept bringing up swinging afterwards, even when she wasn't always emotionally ready.

* Sometimes I didn't understand her "no" quickly enough. Not because I wanted to force anything, but because I genuinely thought she was uncertain rather than saying a firm no.

Recently we had probably the biggest conversation of our marriage.

She told me something that really hurt.

She said the biggest issue isn't actually swinging.

The issue is that she no longer feels I respected her boundaries consistently enough.

She listed several examples where she felt I pushed after she had already said no.

She says she doesn't currently feel emotionally safe enough to continue swinging.

She also says that because of everything that happened, swinging no longer excites her.

That's the part I struggle to understand.

What confuses me is that:

* she genuinely enjoyed the experience,

* she still says she understands non-monogamy intellectually,

* she still says she understands that attraction to other people is normal,

* she still jokes about sexual topics sometimes,

* we still have frequent sex,

* she tells me I'm the best lover she's ever had,

* she says she loves me and wants to spend her life with me.

But when I mention swinging, she completely shuts down.

She says it currently does nothing for her.

Since then I've changed a lot.

I've lost almost 20 kg (44 lbs).

I barely drink anymore.

I've been trying much harder to respect every boundary and become a better husband.

The frustrating part is that I made these changes after everything happened, so now I feel like I'm paying for mistakes that I finally understand.

I'm not asking how to convince her.

I'm not planning to pressure her anymore.

In fact I've decided to completely stop bringing up swinging for as long as necessary.

My real question is this:

For those of you who have actually lived this lifestyle...

**Have you ever seen a partner completely lose interest after initially loving it, and later regain that interest once trust was rebuilt?**

Or...

**When someone says "it doesn't excite me anymore", is that usually the end of the story?**

I'm genuinely looking for honest experiences, not false hope.

Thanks.

I am not the OP

How about I call you a bunch of data-harvesting, planet-destroying techno-fascists?

That's right, I told my boomer gen dad from The Old Country™ that he was diagnosed and he told me autism isn't real! It's just a Western word made up by people who are brainwashed! By who? For what purpose? No one knows!

Anyway, if you need a quick fix for that pesky autism just talk to your parents like I did. Bam! Cured!

(Hope you enjoy some Monday morning humor. My son will still be getting all the services and interventions available).

For me, it's Miss Fortune.

I know. Her default skin is this horrible peep-show, Party City Pirate skin. But her later skins are amazing.

And yes, she's overtly sexy. But when I am strutting across the rift in my Vivienne Westwood bitch heels, with my perfect hair, laying fucking waste to my enemies, damn that goes hard. I am a fucking goddess.

Anyone else have a character like that?

Totally normal, right guys?

Guys?