u/Willing-Share-5617

Hey everybody, I’m newly single and I’m looking to get back on the dating apps, but I’m a little hesitant because I’ve learned that there are Facebook groups called. Are we dating the same guy where women will post your photo to tens of thousands of people to ask questions and judge you.

I’ve been with the same woman for the last 8 years, so I have no bad history that could come out, I just don’t really use social media and have no interest in being scrutinized or posted in front of thousands of people

I’m curious what men are doing to avoid being posted on these groups if there’s anything you can do at all

My ex definitely won’t be posting on there about me, we had a clean break up, neither one of us were cheating so nothing like that will come out

I just don’t know if I want to get on the apps simply because I just don’t want to have any of my personal information being chatted about with strangers on the Internet

To be honest, I think it’s kind of loser behavior, but I’m wondering if there’s guys that do anything to avoid women who hang out on there, or how I can avoid a woman who would be the type to post on there

I've been talking to a woman from Bumble for a few weeks and recently found out that she posted my photos and profile information in one of those "Are We Dating The Same Guy?" Facebook groups.

Nothing negative was said about me. As far as I know, she was just asking whether anyone knew me, had dated me before, or had any information about me. Apparently this is considered normal now. But honestly, the more I think about it, the more uncomfortable I am with the whole thing.

Maybe I'm in the minority, but I find it bizarre that someone can take photos I shared in a dating context and distribute them to thousands of strangers without my knowledge or consent. If I had taken screenshots of a woman's profile and uploaded them to a large Facebook group so that thousands of random men could discuss her dating history, personality, or private life, I don't think many people would consider that acceptable.

The justification is always "safety," and obviously nobody is against people protecting themselves. But at some point there has to be a distinction between genuine safety concerns and crowdsourced gossip. From what I've seen, a lot of these groups seem less focused on identifying dangerous individuals and more focused on collecting information, exchanging stories, and discussing people who never agreed to become the subject of a public review board.

The thing that's really bothering me is that it changes how I see her. Not because I have anything to hide, but because it suggests a level of entitlement to other people's private information that I find hard to relate to. If we're getting to know each other, I'd rather be judged on our interactions than be unknowingly submitted to a panel of strangers.

Am I overreacting, or would this be a dealbreaker for you too?

I'm sorry the truth hurts. To fight against modern feminism, we must starve it of what it feeds off of - men.

If you live with your girlfriend in the UK, now is the time to either move yourself out or move her out.

A few months ago, I was posted in an AWDTSG group. Before I get into the issue, I want to be clear that I generally support these groups. I think they can be a valuable tool for helping women identify cheaters, abusers, and other genuinely harmful people. I don’t have a problem with women sharing experiences and looking out for one another.

My concern is that one commenter falsely claimed that I have an STI. I’ve only been intimate with one person in the past year and have been tested both before and after that relationship. My results confirm that I do not have any STIs.

What makes this especially frustrating is that the person making the claim had never slept with me and had no firsthand knowledge of my sexual health. Having that accusation made publicly alongside my photo was upsetting and feels potentially damaging to my reputation.

For additional context, I was talking to multiple women while dating. I don’t deny that. None of us were exclusive, and most of those interactions were only first or second dates. Things either naturally fizzled out or I ended them when it became clear we weren’t a match. I eventually met someone I wanted to pursue more seriously and stopped dating other people. I had not slept with any of the women who were commenting or discussing me in the group.

If someone wanted to say I was talking to multiple women at the same time, that’s fair and I have no issue with that being shared. My concern is specifically the false claim about my sexual health.

I have screenshots of the comments, copies of my test results, and I’ve already contacted the group’s admins/moderators. At this point, what would you do in my situation?

Social media enables the weapon of false allegations to be used against men. Lawmakers are too afraid to do anything about this problem out of fear of being viewed as "anti woman". Women instinctively know that a false allegation is the best way to destroy a man. It's the best revenge in the world. What can a man do to protect himself? DO NOT DATE!! It isn't safe anymore. Let the birthrate collapse. Let women be lonely. Let the boss babes, the cat ladies, the slam pigs, and the OF girls wonder why they can't attract and keep a good man. You will gain peace of mind and a drama free life.

Unlike before, now you won't be able to see who is running a particular group unless you are a member of that group. This is clearly to protect admins and moderators from being sued.

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I feel like I just wait for guys to approach me and they always stare but never do . i’ve always wanted for a guy to come up to me and have a conversation with me then ask for my phone number all romantically but it’s never happeneddddd . does this just not happen anymore??

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Seeking thoughts from men who have been posted and the women who are members.

Seeking thoughts from men who have been posted and the women who are members.

Are lawmakers aware of these groups? Why is no one doing anything? Are they being protected to keep the anti-male agenda going? Meta clearly wants to keep these groups going because they fuel engagement and keep the profits coming in. But why isn't this more of a mainstream social issue? They are doing serious damage to tons of innocent people.