u/catnoir_luver

I (24) recently started this job program a month ago with OVR, since OVR is going to help pay for my driving lessons at the rehab hospital, where the program is held, it makes sense I would do both. However, in the past month, I honestly don’t love this program. Some of the job coaches have made Lowkey ableist comments, which I’m sure they didn’t realize, have us do puzzles to “get the mind moving” that I literally made the comment of saying “ a literal child could do this” and the job coach laughed it off, and I also got a micro aggression comment from him as well 🙄.
I’ve easily had crying breakdowns over the work I’m tasked with (unit attendant).
For context my family is very much ADHD/anxiety but I was born with cerebral palsy and was never diagnosed with having either ADHD or autism but very much neurodivergent, I have Dyscalculia from my mom and general learning disabilities, anxiety and ocd. (I suspect it could be audhd, and so does my therapist).
Even though I’m able-bodied, I feel like jobs are so hard to keep because of how they destroy you mentally, I have to retain so much information and put a smile on my face for others, talk to people and masking etc.
i’ve also been struggling with my hormonal reactions due to my first IUD from the summertime as well and the program happening not long after it was put into effect didn’t help, it’s 5 days a week and I had to go home yesterday because of really bad cramping, they already know about me needing to take ibuprofen and/or Tylenol to help with the pain. But it’s just so hard to do it 5 days a week, I last had a part time job 3 years ago and been unemployed since and I’m currently making a list to help explain for certain accommodations I might need at the program. At the end of the program internships, they have something called job development, which is basically job hunting with resume tweaking and going to interviews, they hope I can get a job at the end of the internship and I would like to get a part-time job, despite the current job market and I did ask them about that and one of the job coaches said “oh, we’ll see how it is in 9 months” but it’s so hard to find one that’s just right for me, no matter where you work, jobs tend to also just be ableist and not give a f*ck about your accommodations half of the time and hope to find one that I actually like (I’m also a digital artist and if I had a part-time job, I would like to work in a cozy bookstore or library and do my illustrations(probably commissions)/stickers or other art business merch on the side, until i’d be able to make it my full time if possible despite ssi)
Can anyone relate to this when it comes to having a job? If so, please help me feel not alone 🫶🏽. Thanks!

Why does voc rehab and counselors take FOREVER to respond back about anything? I missed my 30 min follow up meeting last week bc the work program I’m in is part of OVR (Pennsylvania) and I got home tired and simply forgot. And after my mom emailed her… crikets over the weekend or just “I’ll be out of work the following week” I JUST WANT MY DRIVING COURSES TO START! 😭 I have to be reevaluated after signing papers last week, it feels like OVR just wants you to sign papers and give them records and barely help. Can anyone reassure me? What’s your experience?

So I went to my Therapist today and spilled all the tea lol on voc Rehab’s help and the new job training program. He agreed with me about the infantilizing comments from the coaches and the questions I asked yesterday about finding a job. Cause I told them that I have my Resume and already looked at a few places near me to apply to and telling them about how bad the market is but there answer was “we’ll see how it is in 9 months” it ends in May, between June-Aug I’d be doing the job hunting and ideally having a job by September next year (and 6 months in they check in that I’m okay and leave me alone) but I feel like I can do my resume, cover letter and applications all on my own and am able to. I’m only really getting skills out of this I guess.
But what do you do bc VR and the program magically assume w/ their help and a job coach, you’ll get a job, the job market and economy as a whole has been bad for years now, I bought this up in therapy too bc Job’s won’t always accommodate for you, they often are ableist and if they see you are able bodied and pretty “normal” they just want to get the work done.

So me (24, F) knows that my friend (26, F) basically got into a relationship in October last year after being friends w/ a girl (19, now 20 I’m assuming) after they met on Roblox and I am happy for her and helped get through her breakup last summer, then October comes and she meets the girl in person and they move in together after 1 week of knowing each other (my friend just got her own apartment for the first time for like 2-3 months).
I get that it’s common to roommate, but 1 week is crazy fr. The GF is barely an Adult 🥲.
Then in January they moved from the east coast, back to California where the GF is from and live w/ her family. I barely hear from my friend of a few yrs now, we last had a catch up a month ago and I thought things were good and she does the “I do read your messages, i’m just super busy” and in the past yr has stated she hasn’t talked to her other friends as much and she says it’s nothing I did wrong or anything but I feel conflicted since I reached out last Monday and just saw that it was “read” and no response… idk wtf to do bc we grew so close over the past couple years with personal things but now I barely hear from her anymore. I don’t want to call myself jealous but it’s crazy to me because they call each other “wifey”, “soulmates,” love of my life” etc like you guys JUST met and i’m not one for age gaps so that was a red flag for me but I didn’t want to be rude or judge.
What should I do?

For a few days I noticed that my tv (Westinghouse) randomly turns off by itself after some time (even after one hour of use) I mainly play youtube on it, and I get that tv’s do naturally shut off sometimes but it’s been pretty frequent lately and I have the latest firestick remote (and update)
so for whatever reason, every time I turn it back on I have to go into settings> manage tv> tv> hit yes for turn on/off for tv>volume test> hit no> then finally do the ten seconds wait then the volume works and it’s so tedious to do. Why is the tv randomly shutting off? I feel like it shouldn’t this much but if anyone can help that would be great!

I came across a reel on IG of a white girl explaining the story (don’t think she’s of any Latin Caribbean based on her mispronunciation of “Taino”). She was retelling the hummingbird story with background images of a children’s book based on it. All of the comments were telling her how inaccurate and that it’s not of actual Taino origin etc I knew of it prior and that it was a “fairytale” or “folklore” in a sense, but is it actually Taino? Thanks!

My mom just noticed that her phone says “encrypted” with the lock symbol under only my contact.
I guess her phone has the latest update w/ it since I don’t & I tried to figure out what it was or of you could remove it at the top. She says that our old messages are gone and not sure what to do, i have googled other Reddit threads and looked any videos or article links but most are info about the encryption and not anything about missing texts or what to do really. Where did the old messages go? Is this an update problem and something we have to wait until apple sends out the next update? Please help or if you know anything that would be great!

I googled how to connect them together and did the Equipment control>manage equipment>change tv but it’s not working when I do the volume test. Nothing works and I don’t know what to do, please help!

I decided to change my primary email name (not the display first and last name) because I made the first apple ID name years ago and wanted to change it, my question is that will my icloud storage and history, texts, apps etc change or be affected at all since I changed the Primary email ID name? it asked if I wanted my texts under the new Apple ID and even though I clicked yes I feel paranoid lol, what happens if I remove the old name? should I do a iCloud backup?