u/crazyfroggy99

Im trying really hard to declutter and its proving more and more difficult (now with a child too). I wish stuff i put on ebay/Facebook would sell or even the free listings would get taken but it ends up being admin heavy with back and forths and no shows. My local op shop/thrift store only takes very specific things. So I have lots that still has use in it but nowhere to give it. If i put it on the street council will put illegal dumping on it. Street libraries are full (i can only do so much driving around filling them up). My stuff is everything from small and big furniture to books, bric-a-brac, kitchen items, etc.

So, im at a point where I need to start using the recycling bin and landfill bin and im feeling extremely guilty. I dont want to "throw" things out :(

How do I make myself feel better about it? I cant just keep holding onto stuff we arent using/creating a mess/piling up.

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How are they now?

For context, I feel like my 2.5 does not stop talking. She even talks in her sleep. Its non-stop! Shes talking about what she sees, how she feels, what she wants to do, where she wants to go, its a lot. And I love it. She has strong vocabulary, uses full sentences, but its also very tiring because its not always a 2-way conversation. Shes usually just sharing her own opinions and thoughts. Or being assertive!

So if you have a kid that was like this at 2.5, what are they like now?

I like the "idea" of owning but I dont feel excited about actually owning. My partner and I are debt free but at the age and life stage where everyone seems to be buying or talking about buying. We have a child together and sometimes wonder if its unfair that we dont also own a place. Is it unfair? Should all parents own their place?

I feel like everyone around me owns their property. We are renting (Sydney, australia). We could never afford to buy. We never had the support to be able to save for a deposit. Both moved out of home as teenagers. Rough upbringing. No one to fall back on financially. We are already almost 40 and 40s and have no debt. Even trying for a home loan right now feels like a burden (rather than an exciting "yay our own home" feeling), and i wont have the same earning power I used to before being a mum, and my partner doesnt want to "live to pay debt" as he calls it.

I got made redundant and that helped financially and I can be a sahm living within our means. But sometimes I wish we owned our place too.. even if i was working fulltime with our child in daycare, majority of my earnings would go to daycare costs.

We have to move again as the landlord is selling. Part of me is excited as I like change and enjoy moving. I love going to open homes, but I also feel jealous of people who own their place. I guess just a vent..

I got approved for FTB A and B. And then they mailed out a rent certificate. I filled it out, got real estate to fill it out, and uploaded it. Ive started getting the FTB payments but haven't heard anything about rent assistance since early June when I uploaded it. Are they supposed to mail me an outcome? Or does it mean not eligible for rent assistance anyway.

I REALLY wish judges had used seperate plates for tasting like they do on masterchef. Its such a small.thing but seeing them eating deserts/going for seconds with the same spoon on the same plate makes me cringe every time. Why didnt they follow the masterchef style??

Just started season 1 and im so frustrated already.

Is anyone constantly battling eczema in their kids? My toddler has had it since she was a baby. We cycle through QV bath oil, QV ointment, a supra-aid steroid cream for flair ups. Right now shes battling itchiness and ive tried putting antiseptic on broken skin and covering it with bandaid. Its never ending! Sometimes even a bath seems to trigger it. Constsnt rashes behind the knees, ankles, elbow creases. What else can I do? I read some kids outgrow it as they get older. Anyone got positive stories?

We have also done bleach baths, sensitive laundry detergents, letting the skin "breath" with light fabrics. Im at my wits end and want to cry!

Why doesnt the census give option of defacto in the relationship status option? It only has never married, widowed, divorced, separated but not divorced, married.

My friend is having a big celebration for her 1 year olds birthday party. The theme is prince/princesses and adults have to dress up too. Shes expecting 80 people a mix of her friends and family. We dont have a "dress up" lifestyle and my toddler has a handful of dresses that are not princess-like at all.

We were out together and my friend pointed out dresses shes expecting to see and they were beautiful fluffy ones like $45 for one dress that'll last maybe 3 months before my toddler outgrows it. And not to mention i have nothing that will suit her ideas in my own or my partners wardrobe. I looked at Facebook marketplace and op shops but things were far away or very worn.

Im feeling very down and dont want to go. I got some costume outfits that were cheap but its not the calibre that my friend had pointed out. My partner says im overthinkng and we should just wear some "nice" clothes and go anyway.

Is this normal for 1 year old parties these days? I didnt have a party for mine so I'm feeling like I'm the problem.

I'm a stay at home mom with a toddler. Some days I have pangs of misery, missing my old life which was so independent, travelling without a second thought, feeling so fit and atractive, and so free. I really miss that. Maybe having an only makes it harder to accept or makes it more obvious how I'm feeling?

If you were a stay at home mom at any stage of your child's life, when did you feel more like yourself again?

Sometimes I feel like I do a lot of fun things during the week such as a combination of library, zoo, pool, playground, but when the weekend rolls around, the pace suddenly slows down. Just when I think we can do stuff as a family, my partner tells me hes tired and wants to just chill. He works a standard office job from home. It baffles me that he hears everything we get up to but doesn't express any desire or initiative to be a part of it.

When hes off work, we stay home or end up in a playground nearby or something else thats just easy. If i do manage to convince him, its like having two toddlers to help regulate because he gets frustrated with minor things like a traffic delay or waiting in a line. But still insists on sticking it out (while being visibly miserable).

I also feel like if I didnt put any effort during the week, our toddler wouldnt get to do all the fun things she does and sees.

Im not saying im ALWAYS on the go. I also have quiet days during the week where we stay in or close to home. But I just hate that when hes finally off work, he just has no enthusiasm to do stuff.

I've talked to him about it and he either says hes fine for me to do these things during the week or agrees to do it and the same frustration happens. Idk what Im asking. Can anyone relate?

Toddler is 2.5. My partner works from home most days. I organise kid activities, do most of the cooking. He does all the washing, most laundry, bathtime. By the time the day ends and toddler goes to sleep, I'm so drained that I want nothing to do with my partner. But hes the opposite. He wants closeness while im wanting to be by myself. Im struggling to find balance. I have time on weekends I do things for myself. Some weekdays he even takes toddler to the playground if the weather is good. I feel resentful of him and I cant figure out why. On the surface life is pretty good then why am I so upset?

My mazda has lots of little chips on the windscreen. Its more visible at night. Looks like water droplets. Is this normal or is it something about the way I'm driving? I do a lot of highway driving.

My colleagues would moan about their partner sick at home with "the man flu" and I never really understood. Now I have a parnter who has "the man flu" and Im struggling to have empathy. On top of it our toddler is also sick now and im pretty sure im sick aswell but I cannot just lie down for days like him. He apologised for being useless these past couple of days but its been BETTER because I cant have any expectations of him anyway and if I do, he literally runs to the bathroom as if to show me how sick he is. I feel like I've never been sick in my life.

Theres a centre doing toddler dance classes (from 2.5) but it looks really expensive. Theres fees for enrolment, costumes, performance, and the class itself.

I havent done anything like this at such a young age. For anyone that has, what was your experience? How did your toddler respond to it?

How is it? Does it tell you which lane you should be in? Does it have junction view split screen to show correct lane to slip into?

What is it? Theres always an extremely sweet chemically smell in there. Its disgusting.

My partner was in a freak accident years ago when a tree fell on his car. He wasn't injured, but it left him with severe driving anxiety. He tried driving again, had another minor accident, did driving lessons and therapy, but eventually stopped driving altogether. We didnt really need the car as everything is accessible for us on foot and public transport so sold it.

We now have a 2-year-old and recently bought a car hoping to do road trips, but my partner is visibly anxious in the car and our toddler doesn't settle well either. I'm finding the whole thing stressful and disappointing, and I'm regretting buying the car. I even checked its resale value and we would only lose a couple grand if we sold it right now. But my partner says i shouldn't let his anxiety get in the way but he doesn't know when he will be comfortable driving or being in the car again. He says he mentally keeps trying to prepare himself but freezes.

I feel guilty for being upset. Am I being unempathetic? How can I help him?

My friends kid is always only half strapped in his carseat. She doesnt put the shoulder straps on so he can lean forward and look out the window easily. Is this normal? Do most parents do this?