u/dental_princess491

Hi, i’m at FPM and wondering if it’s a good idea to do the isla mujeres excursion for 5ish hours with my husband and infant. We would rent a golf cart to explore the island, have lunch, and check out the beach + snorkel

We’ve heard the water is beautiful and it’s a cute activity to remember and make memories

My concerns
- cancun is HOT, currently LO naps indoors. obviously in the island we can’t make this work, i’m worried about overheating
- is the beach extremely overcrowded? would it be difficult to find a shaded area to sit? we won’t be making the trip until around 11am (the 7:45 time is too early for us)
- is the golf cart thing easy to do with an infant? could my husband just drive it while i hold the baby
- the excursion itself isn’t cheap, will i make it to the island and end up spending 100s more on the cart / beach chairs / food? (not interested in organizing the trip w/o my hotel as it’s too much work, i know it’s cheaper that way)

just concerned it’ll be more of a headache than a fun trip, if anyone has gone with an infant i’d love to hear from you

affordable event spaces that hold 50ish guests

Looking for a clean basic space to host a birthday party where I can ideally bring my own food, decorate, and use the space for 4-5 hours

No alcohol if that makes any difference

it would be in the winter, january specifically. TIA!

Kinda looking for some hope-core / positive stories of sleep improving with no sleep training before weaning, i’m getting really really tired of the nightly wakes, it’s hard to keep up when you’re exclusively breastfeeding

I posted in the new parents thread asking when people started to see 5-6 hour stretches more regularly and the average reply was around month 2-3 :) I have never in my life seen a stretch longer than 4 hours and that was only a handful of times. I didn’t experience a 4 month regression because i’ve been living in it since birth. I know it’s normal, but it just seems like the wakes are going to be every 2-3 hours for the rest of my life

Baby learned to roll over, people said it would start to improve - it actually got worse lol she wakes up so much more frequently on her belly

Baby started solids - no change

Baby learned to fall asleep independently - no change

It just feels like we’ve plateaued, and that i basically have to wait until i wean to sleep again, i really thought that around 7 months that we’d atleast be getting 4-5 hours here and there

Anyways, any positive stories would be appreciated

Half a year of waking up every 2-3 hours has been tough lol, i’ve adjusted for sure but i did think id be seeing sliiightly longer stretches at this age.

Out of curiosity im coming to reddit, when did those 5/6 hour stretches become more common, or even show up at all?

Before i get the every baby is different replies, i know 😭 im just bored and wanna hear from others

LO is 6 months and since about 3 months old i’ve tracked naps and overnight sleep. the day sleep tracking is helpful to plan my day out since we don’t do set naps, to see when her next nap would be approximately or whether to cap a nap. overnight sleep seems less helpful but i do it anyway for completion purposes, really the only useful info for my day is her wake and bed time (fluctuates slightly each day). obviously i look at her cues mostly but the tracking does help

I’m wondering if clocking in every night wake (usually 3-5 a night) is just making me feel more tired… i always take a look at the timer when she’s up and i genuinely get kinda bleh when i see a really short stretch, on the other hand when she sleeps great i feel like my mood is better, i used to just think it’d because im sleeping more but i think it literally just might all be in my head …

idk if what im saying makes sense but im considering dropping the night wake tracking, but curious if what im wondering is true at all or if anyone experienced it too

So i’m not planning to sleep train, i also don’t co sleep, just room share, and we wake about 3-5x a night for feeds, which i know is normal and im not too worried about it, baby is 6 months old

ive heard from friends and relatives that i can expect this to continue unless i sleep train or wean. or, if i dont want to wake up i could try co sleeping and sleep while baby feeds

Is this actually true? do the stretches not lengthen naturally on their own? does something have to happen on my end to give her this ability? I kinda just assumed with age, solids, and just overall growth that I could expect her to naturally drop a feed maybe every couple of months.. am i extremely naive?

I know every baby is different, and there’s some toddlers who still wake hourly and newborns who sleep through, but i’d love to hear from people who did nothing and saw baby sleep through or atleast slowly drop the feeds on their own, and what the timeline looked like, TIA!

edit: i think people are missing the part of my post that mentions weaning, either purposeful night weaning or completely weaning all together is something i consider an adjustment and not ‘nothing’.

Baby just turned 6 months. She’s been rolling for a while, but didn’t roll when asleep. Now she’s rolling over when i put her down in the crib. even when she’s pretty heavily asleep already, i know it’s safe as per my paediatrician since she’s rolling herself, but her stretches got cut in half!

We used to get 3-4 hours in the start followed by 2-3 hour stretches till wake, i’m totally fine with this, it’s usually about 3-4 wakes a night and she feeds and back to bed.

Now that she’s rolling onto her tummy she’s giving me 1-2 hour stretches only :( I know it has to do with the belly sleep bc she can do the longer stretches in a lounger (supervised) where she’s on her back the entire time. (ik lounger sleep isn’t recommended - this isn’t the point of the post)

Is this just her getting used to being on her belly? Or am i just the unlucky one who’s baby sleeps worse this way, everyone told me sleep improves on the belly 🥲

I don’t care or want to sleep train. My almost 6 month old has started to prefer to fall asleep on her own. She used to nurse/bounce completely to sleep and require multiple transfers, she eventually somehow started to prefer the whole “drowsy but awake” method and she likes cooing herself to sleep.. don’t ask me how because it was so sudden and random and almost overnight she started hating being bounced. so bedtime has been decent (for now)

She still wakes 3-4x a night, so almost every 2-3ish hours. I have no major problem with this as i don’t mind feeding her and then right back into the bassinet she goes and she falls back asleep.

I’m just confused because when I was curious about sleep training back before i understood it much, i basically learned that once baby falls asleep independently (through whatever method you train them) that usually night wakes reduce on their own.. or should reduce, because baby is waking up in the same space they fell asleep in, or something like that.

Now my baby is falling asleep and waking in her exact same sleep environment, but it’s had absolutely no effect on reducing night wakes. So is this just a load of BS from the ST market? Just curious and wanted to see if anyone else has had a similar experience or if my baby is just the odd one out who likes her motn boob.

My husband will be off and I have a 6 month old, it’s gonna be hot af and i’m thinking of making a fun day of it rather than being just home all day

Any recommendations on what we can do? maybe a day trip or something fun? Any fireworks that are worth seeing?

(Is grand bend / port stanley a death sentence idea lol)

Ok idk if everyone around me is just trolling me or is very lucky, but I keep getting told “oh man that’s rough have you tried _____?” or pitiful vibes from moms when i tell them that my 5.5 month old is averaging 3 wakes a night (feed and back to sleep, 15 mins of feeding usually)

Am i wrong or is that completely… average/normal? This sub has showed me some people are up hourly, some people once a night, but i wanna say 2-4x is like very average especially for my LOs Age, and being EBF

Just curious

Edit: thank you for the replies!! Good to know for sure

Title basically

I was fully expecting to sleep train until I actually had my baby and realized I cannot do that to her. I am not against co sleeping and have done it a lot since she was born, just want my husband back in my bed and I notice i sleep way too lightly when she’s with me and feel extra tired in the morning

Right now (5 months) we’re mostly just room sharing with motn wakes being side lying feeds and then transferring back into bassinet. It’s pretty decent, i don’t mind getting up and putting her back in the bassinet if it means i don’t have to worry about co sleeping

I know she’s growing out of her bassinet soon tho, and i’m considering bringing the crib into our room and continuing this trend until she’s no longer waking 3-4x a night and I can put her in her nursery, or if i should just try the nursery flat out, but i don’t want to do any crying/training. Im wondering if going straight into the crib in her own room would help her sleep better?

If you did something similar, please tell me what you did, when you introduced it, and how it’s going!

I’ve heard from older gen family members that baby will be “extra tired” for bed when their naps are crap and i should be relieved, but then reddit told me that was wrong and introduced the term “overtired” to me

I’ve never capped my LOs naps, just because i assume baby will sleep as they need. she’s actually a good napper tbh, but i have noticed on days when we have outings and her naps are interrupted or shorter than usual, she does sleep better at night.

now i’m coming around full circle.. is the older generation right? is overtired even a thing? 😭 does it just depend on your baby?

I’ve noticed the effect when specifically her last nap is cut to only about 20-30 mins, i guess making sleep pressure higher? anyone have any experience with playing around with naps to help night time sleep?

edit: she’s 5 months !!

if you’re exclusively nursing and need to give baby a bottle, the consensus is to pump to make up for this feed

i’ve heard you can pump pretty much any time of the day as long as the number of feeds baby gets matches the number of times milk is removed (correct me if i’m wrong)

So, yesterday I had a wedding. I left baby whos usually exclusively nursed with my mom who gave her about 4oz while I was away. (i pumped everyday for 3 days before the wedding while baby napped to build up this amount). Baby is 5 months and my supply is regulated so i didn’t get painfully engorged while away (5 hours) but noticed on my way home my boobs we’re a bit more full (makes sense)

Once I got home, baby seemed like she wanted to feed, so i fed her through nursing. She then went to bed. I tried to pump about 30ish mins later to “make up” her bottle nothing.. maybe 10ml (i’m assuming bc I fed baby via nursing)

In this case, is my supply ok because I pumped, regardless of the output because I told my body that milk needs to be removed AKA am i good because baby fed 8 times (7 nursing, 1 bottle) and my body removed milk 8 times (7 through nursing, 1 pump)

OR.. is this not good for my supply because I did not pump the 4oz that my daughter drank? As in because baby had more than I pumped, even tho she nursed from me after, my body thinks she needed less milk..

Sorry for the very wordy question, i just still can’t understand how it works and i don’t ever wanna cause an issue with my supply, but as someone who nurses 4oz is impossible to pump out while also giving my baby the boob every hour or two (she snacks a lot)

TIA for any help

I’m 28, 5’0 and just had my first baby 5 months ago

I was borderline obese before pregnancy, at 68kg (i’m very short) and HATED my body for years. i lost 18 kilos, i was 50kg and i loved my new body, all i did was calorie deficit and walk 10k steps a day and within 8 months i shed 18kg. 2 months later i got pregnant

I am now sitting at 56kg, WAY better than what I was before pregnancy, but my body just looks odd.. tummy is so weirdly shaped now? and wide/flabby. i just feel sad that i only got to enjoy my goal body for so short. obviously im so grateful to be a mama and i love my girl, but i want to love how i look too and im in no rush, just want to be heading in the right direction, and definitely not backwards

i am now at a point where i feel like i can begin to start trying to cook again , which was a big part of helping me calorie deficit, and im able to do small works out/walks while baby naps, i am exclusively breastfeeding so i cant cal deficit heavily but im planning to do a very small cal deficit to slowly make progress

just feeling unmotivated and sad over my current body, any inspiration from other mommas who got back to to their goal weight did they like how their body looks now? with some minor walking and a slight deficit while breastfeeding did you get to where you wanted to be?

Was told its opening but I only see hollister? did they cancel the abercrombie part?

Anyone with insider information thanks for your input ! I have a gift card I want to use but i’ve been holding off till they open, if they’re not opening i’ll just use it online

Am i doomed to bouncing to sleep forever?
My baby stopped enjoying being rocked and would only sleep through bouncing since she was 2 months old

She’s turning 5 months on friday and i swear the bouncing is overstimulating her now? She seems okay with it at first and falls lightly asleep but then gets fussy as I continue to bounce rather than falling deeper asleep. For both her naps so far today the only way I could get her to fall asleep was just putting her down, giving her some space (she fussed for a few mins) until she fell asleep (i also needed the space honestly)

Is my baby just over the bouncing? I feel bad letting her fuss herself to sleep but she’s fussing more during the bouncing? so i’m kinda at a loss here on what i’m meant to do, nursing to sleep also stopped working very very early on for us unless she’s extremely tired or it’s an overnight wake

I was told to keep supply up i should pump whenever baby gets a bottle

I pump twice a day, once in the morning after nursing and once while bedtime bottle is being given, or shortly after baby is asleep. I also nurse before bedtime bottle is given so the bottle is kind of a “top up” bottle. The only reason i pump in the morning is to store more milk for the bedtime bottle

When i pump, i only get 1-2oz total per session, sometimes less. So sometimes in a day i only get 2oz

If i give my baby a 3-4oz bottle of milk (sometimes all expressed, sometimes formula added) at bedtime, will my supply be ok simply because i am pumping at the same time + one extra time each day? even tho the output doesn’t exactly match what baby is drinking? or is this a risk to my supply

TLDR; is it ok to give baby a 3-4oz bottle if my replacement pump only produces 1-2oz?

Sorry if i sound dumb but im just confused and worried im starving my LO (5 months)

She always had decent diaper output (5 wets a day, 1+ poops a day) so i didnt worry. she’s gaining weight. her weight gain has slowed down a lot since 3.5 months, but never stalled or lost weight, doctor didn’t seem worried

I nursed exclusively for her first 4 months. she has never slept for more than 3-4 hours at a time, maybe she did 5 hours like 4x ever. We decided to try bedtime bottles to give mama a break, so ive been pumping twice a day, morning and when bottle is given, i never have pumped more than 2oz combined in a session.

At bedtime she will literally nurse from me, and still take and finish a 4oz bottle. I am kinda shocked bc i feel like she nursed a decent amount before the bottle but she literally seemed like she wanted the bottle SO bad, we offered 2oz first but she seemed ravenous and so we gave her 2oz more. obviously i have no idea how much she gets when she nurses, she’s kinda a snacker so i nurse 2-3x a wake window for 5-10 mins. After her bottle last night she slept 5 hours.. also i always nurse for motn wakes

Have i just not been feeding her enough? is that why she doesn’t sleep long stretches? sometimes when we nurse she just pops off and when i re-offer she sucks for one second and comes off again, i always assumed that meant im out of milk, maybe i just don’t have enough milk for her?

i don’t care about her sleep stretches being short i just don’t want my girl to be hungry.

LO is 4.5 months old, was never a good night sleeper and has always woken up 2-5x a night for a feed, we co-sleep after her first wake. she’s uuuusually only up to eat and then goes back to sleep but occasionally needs extra help

for naps, she’s usually great. independent naps in her crib and goes for decent stretches, but recently in the past week she keeps refusing her second nap specifically

She’ll show sleepy cues, i’ll take her to bounce her to sleep. for her first nap she’ll only need about 5 mins and she’s out, transfers amazingly usually, if it fails i just need to pick her up, bounce another few mins and the second transfer usually takes. for bedtime, she’s decent as well

now for her second nap, she’s needing to be bounced way way longer, and will NOT transfer. she won’t even let me contact nap with her on the bed, i have to BOUNCE her on my yoga ball the entire nap, i just about died right now bouncing for 45 mins and then she woke up. What gives? is she just not under enough sleep pressure? I use huckleberry to estimate wake windows but usually it’s about 2 hours of awake time before this nap!! I feel like that’s a good amount of time to be up? we’re also playing, rolling, tummy time and all so she’s definitely active.. she takes about 3-4 naps a day, and usually averages 4-5 hours of daytime sleep (i don’t cap naps and prefer not to)

i just can’t do the bouncing for longer than 15 mins, my back kills. any tips??

Besides the ikea one please, that is my last option right now, kinda looking for something a little bit more aesthetically pleasing, comes with a foot rest and can grow with baby, and EASY TO CLEAN! Its preferred that the legs don’t stick out like crazy as I am prone to tripping lol

i know i can find some on marketplace as well which Im keeping an eye on, but i mean in general what is decently priced and a good option