u/dental_princess491

Hey all, LO just turned 4 months and is ebf

For context she usually sleeps her first stretch in her bed side bassinet and then when she wakes up in the motn we begin to co sleep. We’ve been doing this for the last 2 months

Usually for every motn feed it’s a quick 10-15 mins and she passes out. most often it would be only one side feed

Recently in the last week i’ve noticed it’s way harder to get her back to sleep, i’ve been using both sides to feed at each wake because one side isn’t enough to get her sleepy anymore. she also is way more fidgety and is tossing and turning after feeding and sometimes wakes herself up, i’ve actually had to pick her up and bounce her back to sleep (this is how i get her to bed for naps if nursing doesn’t work) a few times recently in the motn

I feel like i’m losing a super power! the whole point of co sleeping was being able to feed to sleep and not get up. i really want to be able to nurse to sleep because it’s the only way i can feel rested. anyone go through something similar ? how did it play out?

Paying 5 dollars for parking for a 10 minute appointment is kinda gross to me… especially with these gas prices lol

Anyone go here and have a street or area they recommend to park that is less than 5 minutes away walking?

My baby is 4 months next week and although her fussiness has declined since month 2 (probably the worst month of my life bc the crying was NON STOP) she is still just SO fussy and i’m kinda just over it at this point, i feel like everyone told me it would be soo much easier by now and she still hysterically screams atleast 4-5 times per wake window, for no apparent reason

She’ll literally go from happy chilling to SCREAMING for no reason, it’s usually when a different person plays with her/holds her but it happens with me too. could this seriously be stranger anxiety THIS early? she’s around people everyday tho and has so many different people hold and play with her since birth

she’s fed, diaper changed, burped, and has no allergies/issues with my milk. gaining weight well and naps decent, sleeps ok at night (3-4 wakes but it’s just a quick feed and back to sleep). but while she’s awake she’s just so difficult to deal with, it’s exhausting. It literally seems as though she’s scared or annoyed from the world? because taking her outside or distracting her can usually calm her down i don’t think she’s in pain, she’s just MAD and doesn’t like stimulation i think?

im just feeling defeated, i feel like every week someone says “don’t worry it gets better by next week when A, B, C..” im not expecting it to magically get better overnight but can colic seriously go on for this long??? im TIRED :( i just want to enjoy motherhood but im scared to go on walks, leave the house or drive alone with her bc she’ll probably get mad and it’s just no fun when that happens in public. I’m just tired.. it’s been non stop since birth honestly.

Just want to see light at the end of the tunnel, any success stories of very fussy babies getting better around this age?

Hellooo

I (28F) wanna go to a resort with my husband (29M) and new baby (she’ll be around 7/8 months). We’re up in canada and thinking mexico most likely but open to other carribean areas. it will be september of this year

Most important thing is that food is good AND easily accessible food. I don’t want to struggle with inconvenient hours or long waits/line ups with a baby who could get fussy at any moment, i want to be able to access good food at any time of day (obvs not overnight but late options would be appreciated). restaurants where reservations are very strict won’t really work either

I don’t really care if there isn’t a baby watching amenity, i don’t really feel like leaving my baby in someone else’s care, but would love a resort that has an area with baby toys etc for me to take my baby to and play with her

Also i wear a hijab, so i appreciate anything with a private pool if possible! also in case baby is napping and we want to sit on our balcony/terrace it would be nice to be able to get in the water

those are my three important things i’m looking for, some other great things i’d appreciate: a good spa for mama to take a break, a clean beach, lots of shaded areas to chill at on beach/poolside, swim up bars for drinks!

What i DONT care about: alcohol quality (we don’t drink), Loud entertainment (baby will prob not enjoy it, we prefer just calm family shows/entertainment), budget (we’re prettyyy open)

So far from what I can see it looks like Finest PM is our best option but i want to hear from u guys! TIA :)

Is postpartum hair loss simply just our bodies shedding all the hair we held onto for 9 months and it only seems dramatic because it’s all at once? or are we actually going bald / getting thinner hair permanently each pregnancy?

I just don’t wanna buy into all the nonsense pills and treatments that promise to grow back your hair. obviously i’m sure with better nutrition, sleep, exercise yada yada it would grow back faster but i mean in general if i keep up with my prenatal + vitamins and do a hair mask every other shower and maybe oil my hair a couple times a month.. will my hair probably go back to the way it was? that’s all i used to do with my hair pre pregnancy and i was happy with the amount of hair on my head. idk if it matters but im 28 and a FTM.

how long did it take your hair to go back? did it ever go back to the way it was? did you use anything fancy or just wait it out?

I’ve always wanted 4 kids, I have one infant right now and I’m so confused how people have multiple kids now! My mom has 5 and makes it seem like it was sooo easy

If you have 4 kids, how did each stage feel for you? (1 kid vs 2 kids etc etc) and how did you know you could handle more? Also what are your age gaps!

I hear a lot about north american babies sleeping 7-7 or sometimes even 6-6, super super early if compared to my culture where people who don’t work usually stay up late and sleep in (i’m a sahm, same applies for retired grandparents etc)

just wondering if the 7-7 idea is simply because of work/school life or is there an actual baby benefit to this? would a 9-9 or 10-10 for a baby be the same thing?

Asking bc my 15 week old settled into a 10-11pm ish bedtime (we tried a few times to let her sleep earlier and it ended up causing 3am parties) and wakes up around 9-10am but with 4-5 motn feeds which is exhausting honestly. she naps great in the day and gets a ton of feeds (ebf and i try to not pass 2 hours). i don’t mind her bedtime or wake time at all, im a night owl and so is dad, but im curious now if moving up bedtime and wake time would help her stretches go longer? i would reaaaallly love to only have 2-3 motn feeds if possible, she’s a baby so i’m not forcing anything or letting her cry but would love to see her naturally stretch her sleep

any advice from parents who have had experience with later bedtimes and wake times? or parents who’ve experimented with both?

I’ve been stalking reddit posts and i see so many parents saying their LOs around my LOs age only have 1-2 wakes or less. even google says 1-2 is standard with 3-4 being on the higher side so i’m feeling a bit concerned. just this morning i saw someone post about how they’re so tired of their 3 month old waking twice a night (my dream lol)

My baby is ebf and fed every 2ish hours during the day give or take. she naps well (thank u god) independently for 45 mins to 2 hours depending on the day

am i doing something wrong causing all the motn wakes? she just wakes eats and immediately falls asleep, i dont feel comfortable not feeding her when she’s up at her age, but would love if she would wake less.. im not gonna force anything and i dont mind her taking her time but i just am wondering how normal it is?

also shes always been like this, its not like she was sleeping well and we’ve hit a regression, its just been this way consistently since she was born tbh

the longest longest night stretch we’ve ever got was 5 hours and it happened twice. never seen again, its usually 3-4 hour first stretch, followed by 2 hour stretches until i get up

I’ve been stalking old reddit posts and i see some many parents saying their LOs around my LOs age only has 1-2 wakes. even google says 1-2 is standard with 3-4 being on the higher side so i’m feeling a bit concerned

My baby is ebf and fed every 2ish hours during the day give or take. she naps well (thank u god) independently for 45 mins to 2 hours depending on the day

am i doing something wrong causing all the motn wakes? she just wakes eats and immediately falls asleep, i dont feel comfortable not feeding her when she’s up at her age, but would love if she would wake less.. im not gonna force anything and i dont mind her taking her time but i just am wondering how normal it is?

also shes always been like this, its not like she was sleeping well and we’ve hit a regression, its just been this way consistently since she was born tbh