u/divine-feminine420

There are honestly so many things that caused us to drift apart. but I was friends with a girl for over six years and we used to be very close. She was a free spirited girl and a lot of fun. We were both very independent women.. so I had thought. A little bit after we both graduated. She had her first child with a man that she knew was not going to be a good father. Then when she split things off with him, she got with someone else and had a child within the next year. I am child free so our lives drifted a little bit, but I continued to be friends with her. However, the new guy she got with is a very jealous and weird man. He won’t let her do anything without him and whenever I would try to hang out with her, he would stand there hovering over us monitoring every single thing we say even when I would call her on the phone he would be listening. When she would come to my house, he would be blowing up her phone or getting mad at her starting arguments to make her leave and go home. mind you she’s only known him for a couple years and she met him through her baby daddy. I explained how this made me feel several times, but nothing ever changed so I completely ghosted her and haven’t talked to her in months. It makes me feel like shes too male-centered and I don’t want to be close to someone like that. She will randomly message me to temperature check and I leave it on red.

For some context I respect other peoples choices, including their religion. Its just gotta to a point where they’re disrespecting me.
They’re VERY Christian. Like youth leaders. They weren’t so overbearing until their tres dias trip last year.. anyway, when they got back from their trip his mother kept trying to force me to go. Saying id benefit from it so much and trying to shove it down my throat. Ever since then she wont let it go. Even getting my partner Christian/Jesus related gifts for Christmas.. knowing we aren’t.
Shes always making jabs at me, talking with his brother’s girlfriend in front of me saying “we LOVE god dont we ___” Then literally pans over to look at my reaction. I never give her one because I know thats what she wants. But its really starting to get to me as ive been with her son for a long time and plan on staying with him.
At dinners she will constantly bring up church and god and what she thinks, however if I were to ever say my opinion it would be as if satan sat across from her.
The other day we’re talking and she assumes* my sibling isn’t Christian and says she would benefit from the church… I was like “she is Christian and she goes to church?” She goes on her spill (judging me passively) and I usually wouldn’t say anything but I said “I have my own personal connection with my spirituality that I feel comfortable practicing at home” she goes on being sanctimonious as always.
These are the type of “Christians” that make non religious people run as far as they can from the church!
She’s been so disrespectful its making me want to say something to put a stop to it. But then id be the bad guy! Just like she wants.
Its getting to the point I dont even want to interact with them anymore. I just wish I could have a good relationship with her but I feel like she wants a “good ole Christian girl” to come in and make her son be the way she wants.

For some context I respect other peoples choices, including their religion. Its just gotta to a point where they’re disrespecting me.
They’re VERY Christian. Like youth leaders. They weren’t so overbearing until their tres dias trip last year.. anyway, when they got back from their trip his mother kept trying to force me to go. Saying id benefit from it so much and trying to shove it down my throat. Ever since then she wont let it go. Even getting my partner Christian/Jesus related gifts for Christmas.. knowing we aren’t.
Shes always making jabs at me, talking with his brother’s girlfriend in front of me saying “we LOVE god dont we ___” Then literally pans over to look at my reaction. I never give her one because I know thats what she wants. But its really starting to get to me as ive been with her son for a long time and plan on staying with him.
At dinners she will constantly bring up church and god and what she thinks, however if I were to ever say my opinion it would be as if satan sat across from her.
The other day we’re talking and she assumes* my sibling isn’t Christian and says she would benefit from the church… I was like “she is Christian and she goes to church?” She goes on her spill (judging me passively) and I usually wouldn’t say anything but I said “I have my own personal connection with my spirituality that I feel comfortable practicing at home” she goes on being sanctimonious as always.
These are the type of “Christians” that make non religious people run as far as they can from the church!
She’s been so disrespectful its making me want to say something to put a stop to it. But then id be the bad guy! Just like she wants.
Its getting to the point I dont even want to interact with them anymore. I just wish I could have a good relationship with her but I feel like she wants a “good ole Christian girl” to come in and make her son be the way she wants.

It genuinely throws me off and irritates me when people do this, i get so distracted by them preemptively guessing my words that I forget what im saying. What makes people do this??

I get it, criticism is natural and there will always be discourse especially involving polarizing people like Tana. But PLEASE give it a rest and go touch some grass. Ive seen 10 different posts pop up on this subreddit about her wisdom teeth calling her every name under the sun. Shes a “crybaby” , “promoting gum disease”, “first person to have ever gotten her wisdom teeth out”...and thats the nicer comments I’ve seen. Can y’all please calm down. I mean i guess its good for her because her “fans” (even tho they act like they aren’t) are obsessed with her every move, even getting her wisdom teeth out. Theres been so many pick me’s saying “mine didnt hurt at all😆”, “I could eat the second day😜”… do yall want a cookie?? everyone’s health is different and people heal differently. Yall treat some people like they’re not human and have to have the same exact experiences, emotions, and life as you.

This toxic culture has ruined a lot of good things. And will continue to do so in the future. If you don’t like what someone does then find someone else that interests you.. its gotta be exhausting to hate watch 24/7

When I was young I had a lot of fun and made a lot of great memories that make me smile to think back on. I cant think of a memory in the past 5 or 6 years that makes me feel that way. It’s just been really hard lately. I feel like no one understands me and I mean it when I say I can’t name one actual “friend” right now. Yes there r people I’m cool with and have casual conversation or when they need something I’m the person there for them. Its just really draining and sad I feel like no one wants to actually be my friend and when they do its for their gain. For me to be a listening ear, or a comfort, or a car ride, or help them clean their house, or for them to drain all my energy and hobbies and make that their whole personality. But as soon as i need something I cant think of anyone. Also I feel like being somewhat attractive makes keeping female friends very hard. I feel uncomfortable because I can feel what theyre thinking or feeling and it makes me feel like I cant be my full potential. Random Ex. I will listen to them all day and when I go to finally bring up something Im thinking people look bored when I havent had it thru the first sentence, like theyre thinking of what they want to say next. Or Going swimming, I always have to wear a shirt or something to accommodate them because if i wear a swimsuit they feel uncomfortable or have resentment. Or bringing up my hobbies or music taste… it feels like a lot of women want to be in competition with others when all I want is a real bitch that has her own personality to hang with.

When I was young I had a lot of fun and made a lot of great memories that make me smile to think back on. I cant think of a memory in the past 5 or 6 years that makes me feel that way. It’s just been really hard lately. I feel like no one understands me and I mean it when I say I can’t name one actual “friend” right now. Yes there r people I’m cool with and have casual conversation or when they need something I’m the person there for them. Its just really draining and sad I feel like no one wants to actually be my friend and when they do its for their gain. For me to be a listening ear, or a comfort, or a car ride, or help them clean their house, or for them to drain all my energy and hobbies and make that their whole personality. But as soon as i need something I cant think of anyone. Also I feel like being somewhat attractive makes keeping female friends very hard. I feel uncomfortable because I can feel what theyre thinking or feeling and it makes me feel like I cant be my full potential. Random Ex. I will listen to them all day and when I go to finally bring up something Im thinking people look bored when I havent had it thru the first sentence, like theyre thinking of what they want to say next. Or Going swimming, I always have to wear a shirt or something to accommodate them because if i wear a swimsuit they feel uncomfortable or have resentment. Or bringing up my hobbies or music taste… it feels like a lot of women want to be in competition with others when all I want is a real bitch that has her own personality to hang with.

When I was young I had a lot of fun and made a lot of great memories that make me smile to think back on. I cant think of a memory in the past 5 or 6 years that makes me feel that way. It’s just been really hard lately. I feel like no one understands me and I mean it when I say I can’t name one actual “friend” right now. Yes there r people I’m cool with and have casual conversation or when they need something I’m the person there for them. Its just really draining and sad I feel like no one wants to actually be my friend and when they do its for their gain. For me to be a listening ear, or a comfort, or a car ride, or help them clean their house, or for them to drain all my energy and hobbies and make that their whole personality. But as soon as i need something I cant think of anyone. Also I feel like being somewhat attractive makes keeping female friends very hard. I feel uncomfortable because I can feel what theyre thinking or feeling and it makes me feel like I cant be my full potential. Random Ex. I will listen to them all day and when I go to finally bring up something Im thinking people look bored when I havent had it thru the first sentence, like theyre thinking of what they want to say next. Or Going swimming, I always have to wear a shirt or something to accommodate them because if i wear a swimsuit they feel uncomfortable or have resentment. Or bringing up my hobbies or music taste… it feels like a lot of women want to be in competition with others when all I want is a real bitch that has her own personality to hang with.

I used to be friends with someone, its hard to explain but we were friends, never had done anything physical not even kiss. But we had a bond where I would hang with them during the day and even stay over at their house sometimes and we would just cuddle and fall asleep? This was yearss ago and nothing bad happened between us we just went our separate ways over time. Just growing into different paths and i dont even remember the last time we talked. Flash forward to many years later (now) I randomly started having very vivid dreams where we are just hanging out, nothing crazy will be happening its literally just us chilling together. It got to the point where I was having these so often out of nowhere that I would literally tell myself okay I need to stop why does this keep happening. Then id go weeks or months without having a dream and forget.. then ill randomly have one again. I also randomly ran into their parents recently and they said hello to me and look at me like they know something i dont? Idk i might be paranoid. I just needed to talk about this and im curious what are your opinions?

Also wanted to add do you think theyre trying to communicate with me telepathically?

I used to be friends with someone, its hard to explain but we were friends, never had done anything physical not even kiss. But we had a bond where I would hang with them during the day and even stay over at their house sometimes and we would just cuddle and fall asleep? This was yearss ago and nothing bad happened between us we just went our separate ways over time. Just growing into different paths and i dont even remember the last time we talked. Flash forward to many years later (now) I randomly started having very vivid dreams where we are just hanging out, nothing crazy will be happening its literally just us chilling together. It got to the point where I was having these so often out of nowhere that I would literally tell myself okay I need to stop why does this keep happening. Then id go weeks or months without having a dream and forget.. then ill randomly have one again. I also randomly ran into their parents recently and they said hello to me and look at me like they know something i dont? Idk i might be paranoid. I just needed to talk about this and im curious what are your opinions?

Also wanted to add do you think theyre trying to communicate with me telepathically?

Im on season 3 episode 12 when they’re at Ramona’s vow renewal trip. Kelly gives me evil vibes especially the way she points fingers at everyone else. Calling them the “devil” or a “demon”. And she cant keep a straight thought or sentence to save her life. Also saying she has nightmares of Betheny 🔪 her… its so odd. Also coming at her saying she isnt a chef. I cant tell if this is just major insecurity (especially how she treats men vs women) or if this could be substances talking..

Im on season 3 episode 12 when they’re at Ramona’s vow renewal trip. Kelly gives me evil vibes especially the way she points fingers at everyone else. Calling them the “devil” or a “demon”. And she cant keep a straight thought or sentence to save her life. Also saying she has nightmares of Betheny 🔪 her… its so odd. Also coming at her saying she isnt a chef. I cant tell if this is just major insecurity (especially how she treats men vs women) or if this could be substances talking..

Jill was wishy washy the first 2 seasons but redeemable sometimes. Im on episode 9 of season 3 now and wow she’s been so hateful and rude this season. (I dont like Luann however) Im on the part where shes sitting in the front row of Luanns book release thing for class with the countess and intentionally talking and being loud, making jokes, and making it about herself in a way of putting herself above Luanns achievement or making fun of her in some way? It was just plain rude and it made me realize how many times i’ve seen her do that to other people. I cant think of the situations off the top of my head but shes always acting “bigger than the program” or blatantly rude in situations that aren’t about her.