u/jenniecat444

hello! i’ve been seeing a few posts talking about O levels and feeling discouraged, so i assume O’s are around the corner or in the next few months?

i wanted to come on here and share some words of encouragement coming from someone who basically failed O’s 3x.

TLDR; it’s not the end of the world haha

i was a NA kid in a neighbourhood school. struggled a lot mentally and educationally growing up. l always compared myself to my brother in express and my classmates who were far better than me. (i was always bottom 3 in class lol)

come N levels, i exceeded my expectations and scored well enough to take Sec 5 and do O’s. i immediately took it up thinking i could pull through. was very delusional back then.

in sec 5, i was in a (ex)friend group who bullied me for being the dumbest person in the group. they told me i would never make it to poly. i had failed EAE into my dream course. also failed O’s that year scoring 32 points. all my “friends” moved on to their respective polys and i was stuck retaking O’s for the next two years.

i was extremely depressed, scream-crying almost everyday and getting into a lot of verbal arguments with my family, i cut off everyone and hid at home. wanted to quit doing O’s so many times.

but while taking O’s for the third time, i decided, why not just apply for EAE into the same course again? i really buck up my portfolio, did so much research about interviews, and to my surprise, i was the only person from my interview group who was offered a spot!

fast forward, i managed to score 27 points with a bonus CCA point (so basically i failed but got lucky LOL), and after all those years of being demoralised, i finally made it into my dream course and dream poly.

now, in 2026, i’m finishing up my year 3, i have also completed a minor diploma in psychology, and just finished my internship at my dream company (was also first in my class to even secure an internship spot haha). also have much better friends and a much better self-esteem now! 😛

i guess what i’ve been trying to say is that O levels may be a very defining step in your life, but it is NOT the end of the world. it’s really your vision, determination and focus which sets you apart. how hungry are you for success? how badly do you wanna stop feeling sorry for yourself and finally live out your dreams? and lastly, how scared are you of not giving it your all?

you still have a few months, it’s better to do something than nothing. it’s better to lock in when there’s still time to make a change than end up like me, depressed and ready to quit when it mattered the most.

if someone who has always been the WORST at education could make it, i don’t see why you can’t!!!

with that being said, don’t be too hard on yourself. take necessary breaks, check in with yourself mentally and don’t be afraid to seek help and advice during this period 💕💕💕

found her so pretty as a kid LOL. when i was like 10 or 11, i saw her smoking at novena square and i felt like i found out santa claus isn’t real 🥲🥲 also, think i messaged her on facebook last time and she was super friendly tho!!

do u think my mom came in my room and turned off my fan?

i own this fan, Midea Bladeless Fan with Air Purifier (model series MAM060).

i hung my clothes in my bedroom round 11am this morning. i went out around 1130am and just got back at 10pm.

my fan was on from about 9am and i’m not sure when it turned off.

usually when i leave my fan on in my room (not oscillating), on level 5-6/10 and leave the house, when i come home it’s still on.

today, i left it oscillating from around 11am onwards. coincidentally my mum is home. today.

anyways. i asked my mum and she’s rlly not one to lie to me. especially knowing how i feel about her coming into my room cos of my ocd. when i asked her if she turned off my fan she said no and she didn’t even know it was on. i asked her multiple times. i told her oh i just forgot i’d i left it on or off. she said i better dont forget in the future or it’ll explode/overheat. so now i’m confused.

all my clothes feel pretty dry actually. i’m also not sure what time the fan turned off. i really have no clue and didn’t pay attention when i got home at 10pm. i went to shower and now it’s 11pm. i think the fan was off before i even went to shower and i didn’t notice.

this is the first time it’s ever happened. this fan as far as i know never turns off by itself but maybe it’s cos i dont leeave it oscillating for more than like 1 hour max.

i’ve been literally breaking down crying over this feeling so contaminated and having so many intrusive thoughts. google AI literally told me my mum was lying to me just to not trigger my ocd.

*i made this text days ago and am posting it now. i’ve been non stop thinking about this for days and it’s driving me insane. i also asked my mum again the next day and she told me she 1. didn’t feel any wind 2. didn’t hear anything considering how quiet the house was when she was home alone*

not sure if this is the right place to ask but i thought people with an engineering background could help me figure this out.

did my fan shut off on its own or could my mum have turned it off? what’s the most likely scenario. i need some advice on if my fan shut off on its own due to overheating/clogged filter, etc. or if my mum turned it off.

to preface, i have very severe contamination ocd. i hate anyone coming into my room. and i just want a straight answer.

i own this fan, Midea Bladeless Fan with Air Purifier (model series MAM060).

my fan was on from about 9am and i’m not sure when it turned off. the last time i used it was 11-1130am before i left the house (got home at 10pm)

usually when i leave my fan on in my room (not oscillating), on level 5-6/10 and leave the house, when i come home it’s still on. today, i left it oscillating from around 11-1130am and it was off when i got home at around 10pm. i can’t say for sure how long it was on for but i assume longer than 4-5 hours?

anyways. i asked my mum and she’s rlly not one to lie to me. especially knowing how i feel about her coming into my room because of my ocd. when i asked her if she turned off my fan she said “no” and she “didn’t even know it was on.” i asked her multiple times and telling her “oh i just forgot i’d i left it on or off.” she said i better dont forget in the future or it’ll explode/overheat. so now i’m confused.

this is the first time it’s ever happened. maybe it’s because i dont leave it oscillating for more than like 1 hour max.

i’ve been literally breaking down crying over this feeling so contaminated and having so many intrusive thoughts. google AI literally told me my mum was lying to me just to not trigger my ocd.

do u think my mom came in my room and turned off my fan?

i own this fan, Midea Bladeless Fan with Air Purifier (model series MAM060).

i hung my clothes in my bedroom round 11am this morning. i went out around 1130am and just got back at 10pm.

my fan was on from about 9am and i’m not sure when it turned off.

usually when i leave my fan on in my room (not oscillating), on level 5-6/10 and leave the house, when i come home it’s still on.

today, i left it oscillating from around 11am onwards. coincidentally my mum is home. today.

anyways. i asked my mum and she’s rlly not one to lie to me. especially knowing how i feel about her coming into my room cos of my ocd. when i asked her if she turned off my fan she said no and she didn’t even know it was on. i asked her multiple times. i told her oh i just forgot i’d i left it on or off. she said i better dont forget in the future or it’ll explode/overheat. so now i’m confused.

all my clothes feel pretty dry actually. i’m also not sure what time the fan turned off. i really have no clue and didn’t pay attention when i got home at 10pm. i went to shower and now it’s 11pm. i think the fan was off before i even went to shower and i didn’t notice.

this is the first time it’s ever happened. this fan as far as i know never turns off by itself but maybe it’s cos i dont leeave it oscillating for more than like 1 hour max.

i’ve been literally breaking down crying over this feeling so contaminated and having so many intrusive thoughts. google AI literally told me my mum was lying to me just to not trigger my ocd.

i feel so demoralised.

my mum is in her 50s, single parent, supporting my household (my brother and i who are 20 and 21). he’s in NS while i’m finishing up my poly. my dad is not in the picture besides monthly maintenance fee of 1.5k. he’s living his single bachelor life with his new 3 room bto (he ghosted me when i asked him if we can move in). oh and forgot to mention, my mum has chronic disease and medical debt of 80k. maxed out all her bank loans to pay off the bills, i’ve even loaned her some money from my savings to help coast through expenses for the month awhile back. she recently got a job but the company retrench so now we’re back to square fucking zero.

we’ve been going at this for years. since 2022. i’ve been taking part time jobs here and there to support myself as best as i can. but as someone with debilitating ocd (have an appt for official diagnosis and treatment in august), i feel like functioning in life is already so bloody hard. now we’re considering selling off the house and renting just to pay off the debt + allow my mum some time to find a less physically demanding job for her health. she is emotionally and physically burnt out, broke down crying and it broke my heart. i question how we even end up in such fuckass circumstances.

don’t even know if i’ll receive advice as my situation is not the norm. but if i can know how should i cope with such circumstances, it would be really nice ;))

i feel so demoralised.

my mum is in her 50s, single parent, supporting my household (my brother and i who are 20 and 21). he’s in NS while i’m finishing up my poly. my dad is not in the picture besides monthly maintenance fee of 1.5k. he’s living his single bachelor life with his new 3 room bto (he ghosted me when i asked him if we can move in). oh and forgot to mention, my mum has chronic disease and medical debt of 80k. maxed out all her bank loans to pay off the bills, i’ve even loaned her some money from my savings to help coast through expenses for the month awhile back. she recently got a job but the company retrench so now we’re back to square fucking zero.

we’ve been going at this for years. since 2022. i’ve been taking part time jobs here and there to support myself as best as i can. but as someone with debilitating ocd (have an appt for official diagnosis and treatment in august), i feel like functioning in life is already so bloody hard. now we’re considering selling off the house and renting just to pay off the debt + allow my mum some time to find a less physically demanding job for her health. she is emotionally and physically burnt out, broke down crying and it broke my heart. i question how we even end up in such fuckass circumstances.

don’t even know if i’ll receive advice as my situation is not the norm. but if i can know how should i cope with such circumstances, it would be really nice ;))

This is a mini vent and also discussion space. please share your experiences if you have them!!

just had an argument with my mum and realised how insanely uneducated she is about OCD.

i had a roach disappear in my room last night and she yelled at me for still coming to her 24 hours later about being disgusted and wanting to turn my room upside to find it and clean it. she told me that if i had OCD i wouldn’t let trash pile up in my room and attract bugs. she said i don’t have OCD and i’m only selective about what i like to clean. apparently having OCD means your room has to completely white and sterile lmao.

i got super frustrated and realised that even when i literally have an appointment with a psychiatrist for diagnosis and treatment in august, she will never ever believe i have OCD. i know she’ll say things like “well of course the doctors will diagnose you, they want your money”

having your mind stuck on intrusive and sticky thoughts which literally affect every waking moment (i even dreamt of the roach last night), i think that has to count for not having a normal brain??? my boyfriend also told me “if a roach disappeared in my room, it’s out of sight out of mind for me.” but i told him “if it’s out of sight, it’ll be constantly in my mind.” i think that shows a huge fucking difference between how “normal” people vs people with OCD think??

i had to go to work today and all i did was sit in a corner and googled a million things to try to ease my mind. i literally could not function. but it’s alright because i don’t have OCD and i just have to accept living with insects.

This is a mini vent and also discussion space. please share your experiences if you have them!!

just had an argument with my mum and realised how insanely uneducated she is about OCD.

i had a roach disappear in my room last night and she yelled at me for still coming to her 24 hours later about being disgusted and wanting to turn my room upside to find it and clean it. she told me that if i had OCD i wouldn’t let trash pile up in my room and attract bugs. she said i don’t have OCD and i’m only selective about what i like to clean. apparently having OCD means your room has to completely white and sterile lmao.

i got super frustrated and realised that even when i literally have an appointment with a psychiatrist for diagnosis and treatment in august, she will never ever believe i have OCD. i know she’ll say things like “well of course the doctors will diagnose you, they want your money”

having your mind stuck on intrusive and sticky thoughts which literally affect every waking moment (i even dreamt of the roach last night), i think that has to count for not having a normal brain??? my boyfriend also told me “if a roach disappeared in my room, it’s out of sight out of mind for me.” but i told him “if it’s out of sight, it’ll be constantly in my mind.” i think that shows a huge fucking difference between how “normal” people vs people with OCD think??

i had to go to work today and all i did was sit in a corner and googled a million things to try to ease my mind. i literally could not function. but it’s alright because i don’t have OCD and i just have to accept living with insects.

i think her finance’s heart was already 100% out of the relationship for years lol. feel bad for her and wish her all the best in healing. she’s still so young.

will f1 release more batches of 3 day tickets?

my bf is a fan of f1 but we only recently decided we want to go watch it live this year for my birthday.

wanted to ask if generally, will f1 release more batches of 3 day tix for walkabout even tho it’s already july? maybe between now and october?

if not no worries and we might just go next year instead haha.

my bf is a fan of f1 but we only recently decided we want to go watch it live this year for my birthday.

wanted to ask if generally, will f1 release more batches of 3 day tix for walkabout even tho it’s already july? maybe between now and october?

if not no worries and we might just go next year instead haha.

hello! i didn’t secure tickets for the f1 grand prix this year but i’m very interested in listening to the performing acts this year as i’m a huge fan of them.

i was wondering if there’s any places i can just listen to (not view) the concert live? i know most areas around padang is blocked off but if anyone knows a close-by enough area to listen please lmk! tysm :))

i made a post earlier on here about my bf wanting to dump 20k into an old car when we are looking to apply bto in the next few years.

for context: both 22F and M, he’s in NS command sch looking to sign on, i’m entering uni. both broke. known each other for close to 10 years, been dating for a total of about 2 years. both not from wealthy background. we also DO NOT want kids. nor do we want a wedding.

i took a good look at the comments on the previous post and really wanted to know how do sgeans start calculating finances when looking to settle down?

he wants to be comfortable like afford house, car 😴, and have pets in the future. i also want the same thing but i feel like he hasn’t really shown much initiative in planning our future besides glancing at the romantic and comfortable dream life.

i can understand he’s in camp 5 days of the week, he’s not as free as me to do all this planning and he’s ok discussing over weekends. but meanwhile, i feel like i’m kinda left figuring this out on my own? it’s pretty overwhelming. we are both very committed to each other and determined on making it work. but not sure where to start and not sure HOW to start this discussion. feel like mapping out the finances will also make him reconsider the car purchase as our goals will be clearer. (i am very against him getting a car before house lol)

not sure how this is going to be received but just really wanted to know what steps we can take as an early 20s couple.