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I’m not sure if this post fits here but I figured I’d ask other girls about this.

Next month I have to get my first rib resected and 2 scalene muscles taken out. It’ll leave me with 2 pretty gnarly scars around the entire side of my neck and one across my collarbone. At first I didn’t give much thought to the scars and even thought they would look cool, but now I’m a bit nervous about how my body image will change because of this. I wear a lot of tank tops because I live in the desert and they’ll be visible most of the time. I’m only 19 so a lot of people that I’m around don’t have major surgery scars like this.

If you have surgery scars or scars in general, did you deal with body image issues? If so, how did you work through them?

Not urgent but figured I’d ask. Never seen anyone mention AZ in this sub - have a scalenectomy at AZ Hand to Shoulder Surgery next month and was curious if anyone had experience with them.

Ok this is my 6am bored shitpost.

I’ve been very chronically online the past few weeks recovering from surgery and I ragebait myself with the tiktok’s I watch. I see all the usual discourse of people calling CF folks the antichrist, but I’ve seen a recent argument I found especially funny.

APPARENTLY we are humanizing animals and dehumanizing children. Huh? By letting dogs sleep in the bed or involving them in our lives we are humanizing them. By calling out bad parenting and the lack of appeal in raising children, we are dehumanizing them. Now there is a chronically online revolution of them turning the tables and hating on dogs, saying they belong outside etc. to get back at us from hating on babies. I suppose I’m their target audience because I would in fact choose any dog over a fuckass baby but I’m curious to hear other people’s take on this lol.

Also seen takes that people that don’t like children are ableist, racist, and/or misogynistic and that children are the most oppressed class. I do agree that children are oppressed but it’s usually by their own parents taking advantage of them so I’m confused.

Anyways I’ll be going to touch grass now, PSA stay away from Tiktok parenting content if you don’t want to lose your mind.

I have this really annoying manager (but like a mini manager? Not much authority) I was close with at some point, her entire personality revolves around being a mom, showing me pictures of her kids etc. That’s annoying and I don’t like her because we have nothing in common but the main problem is that she’s genuinely horrible to be around because I have to walk on eggshells or she’ll cry, refuse to talk to me, or get mad. One time she didn’t talk to me for like 45 minutes ON THE SALES FLOOR AS MY MANAGER because I didn’t appropriately acknowledge a picture of her kid. I can’t communicate my issues with her or she cries like a child. How do I grey rock/avoid communication with her without causing a workplace conflict? Please don’t mention going to an upper manager I’m already doing that, I have to work with her 1 on 1 still (retail environment) and would like other advice.