u/losingmymind202

Salam sisters! I’m in my early 20s, wear hijab, and have recently developed a pretty big crush on a Christian guy I work with.

It’s funny because I barely noticed him at first, but over time I started finding him attractive and noticing little things about his personality that I really like.

We’ve had a few playful interactions and conversations, and I sometimes wonder if he’s picked up on the fact that I get a little nervous around him. But honestly, I have no idea whether he’s interested in me or just being friendly.

The problem is that he’s Christian and, from what I can tell, seems fairly serious about his faith. I’m Muslim, and I know the Islamic position on marriage, so realistically I don’t see how anything could come of this.

I know having a crush isn’t inherently wrong, but I’m noticing myself becoming increasingly invested in someone I don’t even know that well. And it makes me sad knowing that even if the feelings were mutual, there’s a pretty significant obstacle. I don’t want to compromise my faith, but I also can’t just switch off my feelings. It’s especially difficult because I see him regularly.

Has anyone else experienced this? How did you handle having feelings for someone you knew you couldn’t realistically pursue? Did you distance yourself emotionally, let the crush run its course, or eventually move on?

I’d really appreciate some advice from sisters who’ve been in a similar situation. ❤️

admissions told me that my average after the boost from my undergraduate degree is a 98% i’ve seen people talk abt only getting in with over 100% so now i’m worried…

i’m not sure which courses they used to calculate this so i’m waiting to hear back. when I calculated my average I had over 100% so I’m kind of worried regarding what they used to calculate this. Regardless, if I do inevitably have to apply with a 98% am I even going to get in?

hey all, lost 24 year old here trying to figure out what i want to do with my life. i have a biology degree and it’s essentially useless - unless i go into healthcare. i’m planning to research and apply to healthcare programs for next Fall but am still confused regarding what exactly i want to commit to. i’ve been working an admin job since i graduated a few years ago and there’s no growth there. i got into a few programs this year but they didn’t feel right for me and i wanted to think more before committing more time and $ in school. however, i also know that my current situation isn’t great and i’ve been stagnant since graduating, it’s making me really depressed. ik i can do much more with my life than this bs administrative role (i make 50k no growth - ppl have been here decades who make the same).

the bio degree i did required me to take an absurd level of difficult courses so i pretty much qualify to apply to almost all healthcare programs. however, my main reason to go into healthcare is because it’s a very stable sector - especially with this economy. i feel like i’d be wasting my degree by not using it. i think being able to work pretty much anywhere and have a license is also very valuable + the pay is usually good with growth over time. being able to give back to the community and have a fulfilling career is also great.

on the other hand, someone suggested i look into civilian jobs with my municipal police department or train to become a police officer. apparently this provides the same level of job security / stability but i truthfully don’t know enough. most of my friends are “ACAB” so that’s def a tough pill to swallow…personally i feel like there are good and bad ppl everywhere but is the profession truly this corrupt?

i’d love to hear from ppl in both fields what they’d recommend or what questions i should ask myself. i want stability, decent pay, decent work life balance and a job where i can go home at night and feel good about myself.

hey all, lost 24 year old here trying to figure out what i want to do with my life. i have a biology degree and it’s essentially useless - unless i go into healthcare. i’m planning to research and apply to healthcare programs for next Fall but am still confused regarding what exactly i want to commit to. i’ve been working an admin job since i graduated a few years ago and there’s no growth there. i got into a few programs this year but they didn’t feel right for me and i wanted to think more before committing more time and $ in school. however, i also know that my current situation isn’t great and i’ve been stagnant since graduating, it’s making me really depressed. ik i can do much more with my life than this bs administrative role (i make 50k no growth - ppl have been here decades who make the same).

the bio degree i did required me to take an absurd level of difficult courses so i pretty much qualify to apply to almost all healthcare programs. however, my main reason to go into healthcare is because it’s a very stable sector - especially with this economy. i feel like i’d be wasting my degree by not using it. i think being able to work pretty much anywhere and have a license is also very valuable + the pay is usually good with growth over time. being able to give back to the community and have a fulfilling career is also great.

on the other hand, someone suggested i look into civilian jobs with my municipal police department or train to become a police officer. apparently this provides the same level of job security / stability but i truthfully don’t know enough. most of my friends are “ACAB” so that’s def a tough pill to swallow…personally i feel like there are good and bad ppl everywhere but is the profession truly this corrupt?

i’d love to hear from ppl in both fields what they’d recommend or what questions i should ask myself. i want stability, decent pay, decent work life balance and a job where i can go home at night and feel good about myself.

Salam sisters. I am so desperate for honest advice right now please read this if you can. I wanted to share my situation because I feel really lost, and I would appreciate an Islamic perspective from people who may have gone through something similar or are wiser than me. I have been crying for days.

I graduated with my degree a couple of years ago. While finishing it, I knew I would most likely need further education to build a stable career in my field, so I applied to the program/career path that I really wanted. I didn’t get in.

Alhamdulillah, I ended up finding a full-time job immediately after graduation (but completely unrelated to my degree and not very secure or transferable tbh) I kept working, tried to stay positive, and applied again for the following year. I was rejected from my first choice again, but I did get accepted into some backup competitive programs. At the time, I chose not to pursue them. I had recently received a promotion at work and decided to continue working and try one last time for the path I felt sure about.

This year, I applied for the third time, I put in so much effort and did healthcare hours on the side of my job to make myself more competitive. All my mentors said this was my year. Again, I had my heart set on the same path, but I was rejected. At the same time, I was accepted into pretty much all of the backup options I had applied to.

Since Ramadan, I had been praying for guidance, making so much dua and istikhara, and asking Allah to lead me toward what was best for me. There was actually one backup option that I leaned toward much more than the others for months. But every single time it came down to actually committing, I just couldn’t do it. I kept going back and forth, overthinking everything, and eventually I ended up turning everything down. Now I’m sitting here feeling like I’m in almost the exact same place I was in years ago - maybe even worse because I have no plan.

Interestingly, I do feel like Allah has slowly detached my heart from the career I originally wanted so badly. And I think I’ve actually reached a place where I’m okay with that. Maybe it simply wasn’t meant for me!
What I’m struggling with now is the fear that Allah gave me other opportunities that maybe were good for me, and I was the one who failed to take them.
I keep thinking: what if one of those offers was the answer to all of the dua and istikhara I was making, and I ruined it because I was too scared or indecisive to commit? It’s breaking me. I feel like I’ve ruined my life.

For the past few days, I’ve been regretting not just choosing something and starting school. My current job is fine, Alhamdulillah, but it isn’t something I see myself doing forever, and I don’t have some amazing career or clear plan that makes staying where I am feel like an obvious decision. I’m easily replaceable by AI and I did a very difficult undergrad degree to eventually end up in healthcare - which is a very stable sector. I cannot forgive myself for turning down offers to other healthcare programs…why couldn’t I just accept one? I don’t even get paid that well at my current job and the amount I will cap off at is very low. I could make that amount working part time (which was the plan when i have kids) in one of the careers i turned down.

I just turned 24, and I think that is making everything feel more overwhelming. If I finally start a program next year, I’ll be around 25 when I start. I see people my age progressing in their careers, getting married and having children, while I feel like I’m still trying to figure out what I’m supposed to do with my life….

I’m also conflicted about marriage because I would love to find someone, but part of me is afraid of getting married before I have my education/career figured out and then trying to balance school with marriage, children and other responsibilities. I fear I will give up and won’t pursue anything at that point. I also need that stability for myself - simply having a degree isn’t enough, I need a stable career. I know comparison isn’t healthy, and I know everyone has their own timeline. But emotionally, I’m struggling to actually feel that right now.

I think what scares me most is not even the original rejection anymore. It’s the thought that maybe Allah opened other doors for me and I was too afraid to walk through them and now I will have to pay the price.

How do you practice tawakkul when you’re worried that your own choices may have caused you to miss something that was good for you? Can something that Allah has written for you truly pass you by because you made the “wrong” decision?
And for anyone who has gone through a period in their 20s where they genuinely had no idea where their life was going…how did you ease your heart and stop feeling like you were running out of time? I cannot stop crying I am so lost.

basically the title. i know the day in the life can look different based on what area you practice in but i want to be sure this is the career for me. i feel like sometimes people don’t do enough research and end up miserable years later - i don’t want that to be me.

hi all! i am looking into furthering my education to land a stable and well paying job. i am currently debating between dental hygiene and radiation therapy (they treat cancer patients not xray techs)

i’m a lot more interested in hygiene because the courses feel more familiar with my biology background and the school is close to home. i love how flexible the job is and that i can temp if im burnt out or work less hours once i have a family. however, i dont know if there is a huge demand for RDH in ontario (id graduate in 2029) and i also dont know what to expect in an offer package. i believe hourly rate is $45-50 and you pretty much stay there?

radiation therapy is unionized and you only work at hospitals so guaranteed hoopp, benefits and pto (IF u land a FT position) it’s also 3 yrs so 2029 grad but the courses are a lot more intimidating and the commute is around 3hrs round trip. i’d also be limited to 14 centres in ontario and there is not much flexibility. you work M-F 7-3 or 8-4.

i wanted to hear from my future employers so im posting here. firstly, what should i expect as an RDH and would you recommend the field ?

Hey guys, which option would be better to pursue as someone living in the GTA? I have a biology degree and want to get into a stable healthcare career. I’m 24F and have a job right now that pays around 50k I’m just working here while I figure out what path I want to pursue. I have weekends off, benefits and PTO which I love.

I have offers to start rad therapy (3ys) or MRI (1yr) this year the course content is very intimidating to me though and i’m worried about job prospects. I didn’t start looking into dental hygiene and nursing until recently and I really like the flexibility both careers have. So another option would be to decline my offers, keep working this year and apply to more programs for next Fall. I’m wondering if I’m self sabotaging out of fear and if the offers I have are just as good for a long term career.

I’m very extroverted and love talking to people, it helps me get through the day and makes me happy. While working my current admin job I realized that I also love slow paced and quiet work. So it’s been hard to pick what to do.

I was wondering if anyone here has worked in one of the other professions or has more insight to share. It’s so hard to make these decisions because it feels like your entire life is at stake.

*edit for some more context*
—— I feel like the type of shift work MRI has doesn’t give good work life balance. You work 8hr shifts which can be morning, evening or overnight. I’ve heard of ppl getting scheduled 5 days in a row with 3 overnights in there. Then maybe 2 days off or 7 days straight work then a few days off. No one has given me a good answer though it seems to vary. A lot of midnight positions too (M-F 11pm-7am) idk that sounds like hell to me but maybe i’m being naive.

- rad therapy you’re treating cancer patients which i’ve heard is not as depressing as it sounds. most patients are not at end of life yet. however the schooling is very physics and anatomy heavy and we don’t have many cancer centres in ontario. This is a M-F job but very fixed schedule so complete opposite of mri

- the course content for both dental and nursing sound more interesting and less intimidating to me. of course it’ll be hard but a different type of hard. both careers also give flexibility in their own ways and nursing has sooo many more opportunities.

pay is great for RT, Dent and RN around the same.

basically the title. i want to send my parents to hajj this year but idk exactly what the costs will be. i want them to have a comfortable experience. how do i plan this? please guide me if you can i want to surprise them jzk

basically the title. there are like 10 jobs in the GTA and most seem to be overnight so M-F 11-7am. i have an undergrad in science so i wanted to go back to school to get a solid career under my belt but those hours are insane to me. i don’t think it’s realistic to work nights my whole life.

I have an offer to a program but i’m considering declining. i assumed that night shifts would be like nursing where you work 1-2 twelve hr shifts a week and then a couple of 8hr day / evenings. that sounds reasonable however working nights everyday is wild.

i don’t want to go into mri and then have to change my career again in a few years. i know that’s a part of life but I’m almost 25 and i want to get my life started.

I don’t live in central GTA either i’m more on the outside and there’s no jobs. Some are also part time which i’m assuming have the same issue where they can make you work Monday-Sun random shifts each day. I’m feeling really overwhelmed.

basically the title. I have a biology degree and have since been working at a car dealership, doing quality assurance reporting on our sales. While I don’t have direct experience selling, I do have a lot of experience dissecting where people go wrong and reporting it

I really want to work in a healthcare adjacent field and make some more money.. kept seeing videos on medical device sales, but most people are from the states

For those in Canada, how exactly did you break into this industry in? Which company should I look at?

Does my experience seem enough to help me break in or do companies tend to prefer actual healthcare providers? Because I do have an opportunity to do a year long course and become a regulated, healthcare professional in MRI. However, instead of working clinically, I would want to leverage the credential to get into Sales or field training

basically the title. i haven’t heard back from admissions yet but i was reading that they add 1.5 for pre health students. does having a biology degree give you any advantage?

i have a biology degree and got lucky during my gap years and landed a job unrelated to my degree. i make 55k working FT. its not great but its better than nothing. my boss is great and i could maybe grow to 65k maybe more idk it depends on if another role opens up in the company.

the plan was always to go back to school to do smth in healthcare related to my degree but i’ve honestly gotten too comfortable at my job. i’m scared to quit.

i have offers from healthcare programs but i’m getting scared accepting any. i’ve been saving aggressively living with my parents and i want to start contributing. i can honestly do that right now too but my parents told me to wait until i land in a profession that pays better. i’m so grateful for that but idk if it’s worth it.

one program is a little under 3 years long (30k tuition total) , will make me a licensed provider and starting pay right now is around $40/hr so around 78k and some places even offer $43. you can also make extra if you work PT in lieu of benefits. it’s M-F 7-3 or 8-4 shifts. however i’d be losing 3 years of guaranteed income and a cushy office job.

another one is significantly shorter (less than a year 11k tuition) starting pay is around $36/hr or more PT in lieu. however the hours are all over the place and it’s shift work. morning, nights, weekends, evenings it’s all fair play.

i will be paying for tuition and commuting and my parents will still let me stay with them rent free.

am i being stupid? is this worth the risk..i feel like this job market has scared the shit out of me. i don’t know if i should just do it or just try and grow where i am or job hop maybe.

* i want to add i am not necessarily passionate abt anything. passion fades anyway. as long as my job gives me work life balance, isnt harming anyone and pays well for the work i’m happy. i’m 24F and won’t be moving out until i’m married but want to start paying some bills and contributing to household expenses while i stay with family.

basically the title. i have a bsc and had good grades in high school. i’m hearing that most ppl get in with the pre health diploma. can i use my uni grades? my cgpa was around a 3.4 or 3.5 on the 4.0 scale. i think he grades were high 80s-90s in the prerequisites.

Hey! i’m a canadian looking to apply to the states after no luck in canada for multiple cycles. we don’t have enough schools or seats here.

i’m very confused about the american application cycles tho. in canada applications for fall 2027 open in fall 2026 (soon) and close around jan 2027. the time in between is waiting and hopefully getting mmis.

how does it work in the states? i saw somewhere that applications open in APRIL the year before? so did fall 2027 applications open april 2026? also when do you close?? i’m worried that i might be too late. would appreciate the help!

also if anyone has any “canadian friendly” school recommendations please lmk!

basically the title. i’m canadian and got into a 3yr rad therapy program. i find the career interesting and like the work life balance it brings while having a stable healthcare job. i have a biology degree so this will be a further education for me.

i am terrified of the amount of physics we have to take. there’s one class per semester and some other courses incorporate it as well. i genuinely don’t know if i’ll pass - i was always really bad at math and physics growing up. if you fail one course they pull you back a year and you have to redo the entire semester.

is fear of failing a valid reason to decline my offer? i’m thinking i should just apply to other healthcare programs that don’t require these subjects like accelerated nursing or respiratory therapy.

basically the title. i’m at work right now and got an email that i have linkedin premium purchased a few minutes ago using my apple ID. I didn’t authorize this payment so i immediately cancelled the subscription. I’ve already been charged OVER $300 for this. I don’t know what to do. Do I dispute this with my bank? Maybe i accidentally clicked something while scrolling o have no idea

i have my undergrad and always wanted to do optpm but near the end of uni i gave up and never tried because i was scared. didn’t even attempt my OAT but have all my prerequisites and hours. USA wasn’t an option due to the cost

i decided to try for a diff healthcare career which ended up being just as competitive and i’ve been applying to that for a few years. always put off optom because it felt like it was too late.

well i’m 24 now. i have offers from a few other programs that im not super passionate abt and i can’t help but think “what if” i had tried at least once for optom.

my parents are encouraging me to start one of the programs i got into because ive been out of school for 2 yrs and they think a 3rd gap year will result in me giving up on school altogether. maybe that’s true.

i know i can’t attempt the oat if i start another program rn i would also only have a month to prep if i decline my offers to try. i just feel so lost and confused on what to do next.

what’s the competition like for optom nowadays? i already regret spending 2 cycles applying for another program so im scared of making a stupid decision.

basically the title. i’m 2 yrs post grad with some office work experience. i’m realizing i like this 9-5 lifestyle and environment but the pay at my current job is low and there’s no growth. i never wanted to go to med school so i applied and got into some healthcare programs but i’m realizing that i don’t really wanna pursue healthcare anymore.

i just can’t figure out WHAT i should do though. i want to do a masters program that will lead to a stable job / sector. does anyone have any recommendations?

*edit i wanted to add that i dont rlly like research. did a senior thesis and i was miserable. i want a corporate role with potential for growth. i am worried abt AI tho which is the only reason why i’m considering just accepting one of my offers to a healthcare program.

basically the title. i’m 2 yrs post grad with some office work experience. i’m realizing i like this 9-5 lifestyle and environment but the pay at my current job is low and there’s no growth. i never wanted to go to med school so i applied and got into some healthcare programs but i’m realizing that i don’t really wanna pursue healthcare anymore.

i just can’t figure out WHAT i should do though. i want to do a masters program that will lead to a stable job / sector. does anyone have any recommendations?

*edit i wanted to add that i dont rlly like research. did a senior thesis and i was miserable. i want a corporate role with potential for growth. i am worried abt AI tho which is the only reason why i’m considering just accepting one of my offers to a healthcare program.