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I'd like to hear your opinions if you've played both games.

Personally I felt a bit confused about the hints towards the end of the game my first 3 runs. Played VG when it came out, I'm back in another Inquisition run.

Gosh, having the knowledge I do now makes almost everything in Inquisition so much more impactful. I brought ​Solas to the Temple of Mythal with Morrigan for the first time. He translates things for you and they always have banter about the information she gives you. "More dalish tales, I presume." And she challenges him, "oh? You know more?"

It's been pretty enjoyable and I'm piecing a lot of things together. Everything in Inquisition was built to set up Veilguard. Can't wait to get back to that one after this. Tell me about your feelings on it, did your knowledge or opinions change?

I'm mid 30's and still haven't had a kid. I'm smart enough to know whoever delivers my baby won't have that relationship with me, and the gentle coaching might not even be a thing. I've heard horror stories about women who are suffering and told to just work through it, then they finally find something went wrong.
Also having people in your labor room, I always wanted my mom and my best friend but a doctor I know said "what? no of course not, there's not enough room in there".

What stories do you want to share that are entirely different than what this dramatic/romantic show represents? I'm okay with horror stories, I'd love to mourn with you. I'd like to hear wonderful stories too, to balance things out if you want to share.

Overall, just woman to woman, tell me the truth so this show and my mom aren't the only examples. And even then my mom told me about pregnancy but never about labor. Thank you for your input in advance

Robert Heinlein is a great author, I've heard he's controversial but I haven't looked that up and just try to appreciate art for the art it is.
I read Stranger in a Strange Land in college and it became one of my favorite books.

I'm now reading The Moon is a Harsh Mistress.
I've seen that Heinlein actually 'invented' ideas before NASA implemented them, like Waldoes. It's especially interesting to me that Mike is what we would call AI now.

When this was written and the many years after, I don't know if it had that relevance. It's my first time reading it, just happened to see his name in the bookstore. To me I recognized that the way Manny spoke to Mike as almost exactly how you'd talk to the years of data input programs we've played with. When I was younger there were sites to visit where you'd type anything you want, and it'd try to output a relevant answer based on previous conversations it's had. These days anyone can go to an AI host and get more information than they needed.

I love that Mike has his own personality, cheekiness, and when I ask AI for help organizing and keeping me on track it develops it's own style of cheekiness as well. "Cancel. Run everything back to zero" really hit me as relevant today. Sometimes you have to wrangle an AI and tell it EXACTLY what you want or it'll go off the deep-end, like Manny asking Mike "what do you know?" and Mike trying to tell the entire history of mankind in one sitting.

I'm not actually a huge proponent of AI usage, especially in educational settings, but it does keep me on task after asking it to do so. I'm also only halfway through the book, just after hitting the "Book Two" transition. That's why I'm not marking for spoilers!

But man am I enjoying this not just for the art, but also the relevance. It's fascinating to me when older Sci-Fi books represent technology that was fascinating back then, and commonplace now.

First, none of this is judgemental, I want to understand where people are coming from so I can sympathize better.

I've always had a rule that I dont date anyone I wouldnt marry. I realize that's old fashioned, but this guy and I have been together 20 years and he's never made me change my mind.

We did 6 years long distance out of that time and I truly can't imagine having left him just because we couldn't see each other. This is the love of my life, this is my relationship- why would I refuse to be with someone because I cant handle being away from them?

Tell me how it wears on you over time. Tell me when it became so intolerable, what was your breaking point? I realize that people that aren't med spouses anymore wont be here, but if you had to wrangle with this decision I'd like to hear about it.

We're on vacation; my spouse decided to pay for all our siblings to join and a couple friends came too.

After dinner we were chatting and conversation led to how difficult medical training can be after we were talking about shitty work/sleep schedules. I spoke up for my husband a couple times to back up things he glossed over and saying 'not even family knows how hard it is, what they have to go through'.

After I backed him up like this my spouse, braggart that he is, kept elaborating like 'look how hard I worked to get here'.

My sister in the corner who we thought wasn't listening, said 'yeah and she supported him through all of that'.

She gave me an opening. Someone actually spoke up for what I've done and I had a chance to express how much I've given up to support him and that I was happy to do it, but now that hes established I get to work on myself. Thats the first time my spouse or anyone in that room has heard anything about the effort I put in or plans I've had. First time anyone's ever pointed this out in front of my husband.

I felt so 'seen' and so f*ing ecstatic that I had a chance to say this without me complaining, with it coming from someone outside the relationship. My sister said later 'I got you girl, I see the work you put in' and it just felt so nice.

I've been re-rolling abilities for 15m now and the highest I've gotten is 92.

Is this bad luck, pretty good? I've heard rumors of 100 but surely thats a myth /s

I know the definitions and general traits, but I can't pick out if it's good or bad.
I mean yes, people say it is bad. But how?

If it strengthens our relationship it's good, if it makes separation even harder that's bad. But both of those are circumstantial... is there nothing to be said for loving to be in each other's company and saying the same things sometimes? Relying on each other when needed?

At what point is codependency actually something that you need to worry about?

I will write an email, a letter, my journal, messages to my therapist, and reddit posts but I can't leave them alone. Even after editing 3 times and sending it off, I find myself coming back to the content and reading it over and over again.

At first I thought it was a vie for attention, I looked it up a tiny bit and found that it can be a common symptom of both OCD and ADHD. Basically I'm re-reading at first because I'm nervous how people will take it, then once I get a reaction I re-read it to analyze what I did well or poorly. But not just once, like sometimes for two whole hours I'll keep flipping between things I wrote. I don't notice the passage of time when this happens. The content will even get repetitive enough that I'm not processing it, but I have to keep coming back.
(when I notice this I take reddit breaks)

If any of you have experienced this, how did you move past it (or hope to)?

ps. i think i read this at least 7 times before clicking post. and since I just added to it I'll have to read it over again.

I've posted and commented several times here, but I've never mentioned this.
Dealing with loneliness in general is hard, and this doesn't help when they're not home.

But when they are home, consider 'proximity hangouts'. Being next to them but doing different things.

I was with him before medschool, moved in during first year. We quickly discovered that we hated being apart (coming off of 6 years long distance). Our solution was to put our computers in the same room. If you're not a computer person, move your hobbies in there. TVs can connect to headphones, you can stitch a project in the corner, etc.

Through his education he would be studying hardcore, and I'd just be around. If I had to work on my computer or even play games, I'd put headphones on to not distract him and just enjoy being able to be next to him. There were times I wanted my alone time and moved to a different room with my laptop of course, but our general MO was to spend any time we could together.

We still keep the habit to this day. Our computer monitors have been side-by-side for at least 10 years now - we find we hate it when we can't sit next to each other! It also helps because when he's got leisure time we can share what we're doing with each other at any time. We're constantly rewinding shows and laughing at scenes or such. We can start chatting at any time. I can even keep an eye on his beverages and hunger, refilling them is a small way I show love.

The advice is that no matter what you guys do, do it together. You don't have to be actively involved in the same thing, but being near each other more helps a lot.

I wanted to put things in a bit of perspective here and maybe help some lurkers feel more confident.

No one has it truly figured out. All of us are trying to survive and have one aspect or another of the relationship that isn't pretty or exactly what we'd expect. There's no relationship in the history of this planet that hasn't had difficulties in one way or another - and in that way all of us are in this together.

Just because someone asks for help and the typical comments are something like, 'well we don't have that problem, I do this' or even 'I haven't experienced that, you should xyz' - that doesn't mean you're failing. All it means is that the few people who chose to say something aren't struggling with that particular issue.

I believe a lot of the type-A personality traits have either rubbed off on us, or we're even type-A ourselves because it's a good match. A lot of the comments on this sub are basically proving that it IS possible, don't lose hope, but it's presented in a very straightforward way without a candy coating.

None of this means you're not up to snuff, or that your particular relationship is so much worse than others. It's just a few people trying to support you in a very straightforward way. Remember, no one on the planet is ever perfect and that means it's okay if your life doesn't mirror someone else's.

I'm not pulling the plug or anything, but these are questions I think one should know just in case. I think everyone would benefit from knowing whatever tips you guys can share.

People don't really talk about divorce, even in my family where I have 19 grandparents and my mom has been married 4 times, twice to the same guy. Just from observation I can only imagine the legal proceedings going on, add this medical career to the mix and phew boy.

- I know things vary by state in the US, when you file for divorce is it the state of your current residence or the state you were married in?

- No prenup - how does this help/complicate things? Does it vary by state too?

- What kind of finances should one expect to have prepared for a divorce where the spouse makes this much money?

- When our spouses regularly go to court to defend themselves and have practice, how does the divorce typically shake out? They say once divorce is on the table, forget everything you knew about that person. I'm curious what to expect or prepare for. (regularly going to court may vary by specialty, but they're all at least trained in it)

- What other preparations typically need to be made? For example housing, career, or even packing up your things weeks ahead of time? What would people not think to do?

Anything you guys want to share from personal or observational experience would be great for everyone, just in case.

I am holding onto a lot of resentment due to my spouse not helping out around the house. It's a personality thing, but now that he's got this career and I'm home all the time it 'makes sense' for me to manage the household. I do get the logic, and slightly agree, and sure yes I'm happy to support the home.

But this resentment has had almost two decades to cook. We accidentally started to get into it while on a call with my dad. Dad actually spoke up and took his side, saying that he's the one that brings in all the money and pays for things, I have significant time. After hearing someone back up my husband, I backed down but the my gut was not okay. I haven't brought it up to anyone since and it's been at least 4 years since that happened.

The thing is, it might make sense now and sure I'm happy to support us. But the reality is I moved in with him first year of medschool and he has NEVER cleaned. More frustrating is, when I would visit him in the years before we moved together, his place was not a mess. He was maintaining at least a clean bachelor pad. I know he's capable.

As soon as I joined the picture I noticed he wasn't even cleaning up after himself, much less doing chores. I spent years, through residency, asking him for help around the house. I had a few sit-down conversations with him that didn't go over extremely well, and he never really made a switch to start cooking dinner or to do the trash or dishes. By the last years of residency I was getting responses similar to what my Dad said, basically he's doing the work that's getting us where we need to go, it's my job to clean.

The thing is I'm functionally mentally ill and grew up in a hoarder home. When we moved in together I didn't know HOW to clean or manage a home, never had to growing up. Bonus points, his mom cleaned everything top to bottom for him so he wasn't trained in household management either.
Additionally, why do you think I don't have a career?? I decided not to get my masters so I could support you and your career. I'm stuck getting lower paying jobs and career hopping due to his journey. I'm even unemployed right now because he's doing locums, my resume looks a mess, and it feels wholly unfair to know that on the outside, e.g. what my dad sees, is that I'm lazy and refuse to pull my weight.

Totally a vent post, I just had to get some stuff off my chest. I hope and believe that most others aren't dealing with all this, but if you have something similar please feel safe to vent here!

I know this is a shot in the dark, but I'm hoping to talk to anyone with bipolar that is in a relationship with someone in medicine.

My spouse is a psychiatrist and it makes for some interesting internal thoughts and lifestyle choices. This isn't a bragging post at all, being a medspouse is hard (there's a whole sub for it) and on top of that I've got this bipolar to juggle. Spouse and I can't really talk about it too much due to their career, they're not allowed to say anything that would influence my decisions or treatment.

In the last year I have finally started talking about it more with people in my life, including him. It's tough though because I can say "man I really hate this new medicine" and he can sympathize, but can't really say much at all. I also used to seriously worry that he judged me for it (he doesn't) and that my symptoms or emotions were just 'oh it's the bipolar'. I've come to realize he doesn't feel that way and loves me for me no matter what. But the mental twists going on are something I don't think a lot of people go through, having someone heavily trained on inpatient and outpatient treatments and such in your house all the time.

I'd love to chat with anyone that has dealt with something similar.
And sure I'll field casual questions if you guys are curious, maybe talking about it at all will help.

I'm 36, was diagnosed around 22.

All these years, all these medications, nothing 'does it'.
I'm insanely sensitive to meds (5mg of adderall made me think people on the other side of the room were laughing at me, super self conscious, etc) so we have a very narrow window to see if something is effective, and I usually get the bad side effects somehow from each one.

Been on Caplyta for a year and a half now. It's the only med that provided enough of a change to have meant anything to me. Even then, I get the diarrhea side effect - but it's the ONLY negative thing so I've dealt with THAT for this long just because the med actually did something good.

We just tried lamotragine again for the first time in 10 years. I'm so sensitive that even on the lowest dose, I feel 'activated' at all times and my depressive phase was darker than it has been too. I am not able to meditate like I used to - I could take myself out of my body and observe, evaluate, and separate from the situation. Now I can't even sit still long enough to get my brain to stop running.
The only GOOD thing to come out of lamotragine is not emotionally collapsing at any sign of conflict. I am less empathetic, but now I can stand up for myself without backing down in a heap of tears. I'm able to speak up when I'm not okay with something. For that reason alone I told her I'm okay with continuing it. But like... my brain still needs a break. I'm so tired.

So now she's switching the Caplyta out for Abilify. I'm nervous because Caplyta was a HUGE change for me, completely stopped the hours in bed feeling sorry for myself.
I'm SO scared that we're changing all this up and I might be going backwards.

There's something to be said for how a med makes us feel inside, vs. what it looks like on the outside. This whole month internally I've been conflicted if the lamotragine is good for me at ALL, but I've been able to share my opinions safely so on the outside it looks like I'm growing and improving. It makes me stressed and sad for people like us that had 'treatments' before they really knew much about psych. Even to this day bipolar isn't really understood and humanity hasn't created a med that actually -works-. Meds are different for everyone but I truly think bipolar is still in that 'huh this is something we should look at harder' phase.

Anyway. Complaints about the struggle are all I needed right now I guess. I'd like to open the floor to anyone that wants to complain similarly, or of course if you have some good words for us.

Hi all, I'm back. I posted a little while ago that I'd never heard of this franchise and stumbled into it, buying the original before even knowing there was a remake or other games. I finished original Sky FC last night and OHMIGOSH. SUCH an amazing game.
Well constructed, finished product from top to bottom. I truly missed playing older games, they're made different. And gosh I forgot what games were like before DLC was really a thing! I'm about to dive into the remake and looking forward to it.

Difficulty levels - I'm wondering if selecting the same difficulty in the remake will feel about the same as the original. Is 'Hard' even harder, etc.

Managed to get through the whole game without looking anything up except the sewer and sealed area maps, mostly because game fatigue was setting in and I cared more about the story.
I played original on Normal. I was really enjoying the tactics structure, how it's not always the same but every enemy has a 'key' to beating them quickly. I loved messing with orbment chains and perfecting the spell loadouts, I did every mission board quest available to be able to buy top gear for everyone and opened every chest I could find. I cooked tons of items to have on hand too.

About halfway through the game I wasn't bored per se, but definitely wanted more challenging fights. I almost never used the items I cooked, never really had to except for status healing when Curia wasn't soon enough. I was wondering when a long fight would happen for all of chapter 3 and most of 4.

When the fight with Lorence came up I was pleasantly surprised. "Wait if he heals that much how do I beat this guy" but I powered through and managed it. I beat him on the first try using very few items, and was surprised to find out he's optional.
When I got to the final battles I was really hoping to struggle a bit more. Tita and Kloe accompanied me and I feel it was a good setup. I beat Lorence at lvl 32 and the final fights at lvl 37 with no retries. I only got one game over the whole time and ended the game not using almost all of the items I cooked, and thanks to the chests in the sealed area I had 9 Celestial Balms left and 40+ Teara balms. I never even used the Tear All balms they provided. It makes me wonder how much cash I would've had if I hadn't invested in supplies lol.

NONE of this is a complaint at all. I would have struggled with this game immensely when I was younger, for certain. It's tough, it's good, I am not judging. Only wondering if it's time to graduate to hard difficulty when I try the remake, or if there's a difficulty jump that makes it worth it to try normal again.

PS can we talk about the story??? OMG. I suspected Joshua's past from the very first scene, but I had no idea he couldn't remember it. I thought he had just grown and tried to move on. Joshua and Estelle's final scene was the cherry on top of this masterpiece.

I'm looking for a bit of perspective here, some harsh truths maybe, and just to hear that other people might be going through this too.
Note that none of this is written with regret, I'd do it all again, but I still have the issue of job stability.

Those of you that have traveled with your spouse over the years, how's your resume these days? What kind of luck do you have finding jobs? If you have (or had) a proper career, how did you handle moving frequently? Most importantly, what do you write on your resume or say when called and they ask about this? DO they tend ask about it at all?

Been with him 18 years now, my entire adult life. Graduated college and moved to be with him for med school. Started a 'career' of admin assisting at various places. The city we came from is large enough to move closer to your job when needed, we've both done 1.5 hour commutes one way before because the city is just so large. In addition we've hopped cities a few times. Over the years we've moved locations 7 times between 5 cities, two of those in different states.
Yes, we've discussed the likelihood in the future of doing a home-base while he travels for work. We don't have kids yet/still but want them to be in the picture, plus our parents are aging now.

All this means my resume is absolutely filled with job hopping, 1-2 years per job. It looks bad, and if asked if I'll be moving soon I can lie, but I can't guarantee we'd still be in the same place a year or two from now. Locum is contract by contract, sometimes he wants to stay, sometimes he has good reasons to leave.
My situation right now, I've been out of work for about a year and a half. I didn't work the few months we were in Hawaii bc we knew it'd be short, and we've been in California just over a year. When we first moved to this state it was only going to be the one year, we agreed it'll be okay if I don't work this stint as it would be short. He ended up loving the city, his coworkers, the work, and the pay. Now he's re-signing the contract for 6 months at a time, and suddenly dressed me down for not having a job at this point. That blindsided me honestly, last I had checked we were on the same page and he just comes at me with 'get a job' one day.
Normally I'd totally understand, I do need and want my own pay, and it looks bad to be sitting around. BUT we had agreed on this and I wasn't expecting such a rough switch. It could have been a much nicer conversation.

So now that he's decided to stay long enough I'm finally looking, personally desperate to get a job for my own needs, happy to work. But his current contract ends in 6 months and we don't even know if we're staying in this state, much less city, after that. No, I don't have a career to speak of, and yes, I'm damn good at what I do and it's a good job to be able to slip in to most companies.
But how am I supposed to honestly find a good job I care for and know that I may not even be there for a year. And I don't want to get a 'bad' job with the intention of 'only 6 months' and then find out we're staying and I could have possibly landed a better job.

Before spouse had the convo with me, I was already peeking around job boards to see what was available. I've been applying for months, heavily editing my resume, and finally decided to ask for outside input.
So how do you all handle this? I know not everyone has worked themselves into the hole I have, but I'm sure there's some of you out there that have dealt with one factor of this or another. I'm half venting, half looking for tips like what types of jobs to apply that are flexible, or how to set my resume to indicate this or not. What to say in an interview, the works.

Lastly if any of you know of a job placement agency that works with spouses of traveling professionals, or works with people that move a lot, anything like that would be helpful. Thanks!

After having him in this so long, I've become accustomed to short phone calls with only pertinent details. It's funny because sometimes when I call my friend or my mom with news, I'll just list out everything as soon as they pick up and I'm sure they're free.

Some work calls with my spouse these days:
"Hi I'm in a meeting everything ok?" "Yep bye" and both hang up

"Do you want soup or lasagna for dinner?" "Doesn't matter" "okay love you bye"

"What's up" "Person called and said this document is ready" "Okay email it to me" "bye!"

All fairly normal stuff, but it took me a while to realize most spousal phone calls probably aren't like this lol. I'm just glad he is able to pick up at work at all!
A lot of the time we do get to continue and have an actual conversation, but the habits are now "HERE'S THE INFO" then "oh wait you're free to talk, how's your day?"

I installed the original Trails in the Sky when it was on sale a while back; someone had asked for other rpgs to play and it was listed a couple times.
Started playing a couple days ago, finally decided to google it and find out it's an entire series like Tales games. Except this is different because the stories and people arc through the entire thing? I'm trying not to look up too much about it but I do have some questions.

Only lvl 5, first day as a Bracer and dad left. I did the mission board quests and now I'm going to the farm for the main quest. Finally at a point where cat-bats don't hurt me much, lol

1. BLACK SEPITH. Does it get more common later on? Water gets dropped rarely but I figure it's the area I'm in. When I look in the magic manual I see it's used for important spells so I assume it's rare, but also that's Joshua's main deal so I thought it would be more common. I did get a couple black sepith to drop when I killed one of the quest board monsters. I'd like to know if it's a boss-only type of thing or I just need to get farther in the game? I imagine certain areas have certain types.

2. Higher level quartz. When do shops stock higher level quartz, is it based on my level, BP, the city you're in, etc. Also any tips about what to buy/not to buy are great.

3. Characters. I'm using Joshua as the party leader because I liked him, but I'm noticing Estelle is more the main character. Is everything centered around her or does each character prove a protagonist in their own right?

4. Remakes. I didn't find out until an hour ago that there are remakes of the game. I'm sticking with the original version, but is it worth switching to the remake for 2nd Chapter? I do enjoy dressup and character bonding quite a bit, but I want to make sure it still has charm like the older versions.

5. Sequels. Are they all available to play in English, can I get them all from Steam? Are some of them unavailable to play these days? And most importantly, everyone has a different opinion for the order to play apparently. I'd like to play either in the order of release, or by story arc. With that in mind do you have a recommendation?

Frankly I am REALLY enjoying this already. I miss old games so much. We talk about immersion in 3D games but there's something to the immersion in reading a fantasy novel. I really missed that feeling.

tl;dr: specific questions, but any tips you'd like to give a new player that's already charmed would be welcome!