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I only track what time I feed him, which breast I feed from, and his wet/dirty diapers. As far as wake windows and amount of naps and nap duration... no clue. I just wing it and go off vibes. If he seems sleepy during the day, I'll let him nap after nursing or in his stroller if he's grumpy, I will walk around with him and bounce him until he's tired. During the day he will stay up for hours, sometimes 4 or 5. His Dr. said its fine and he's what she calls a "FOMO baby". I don't really have a bedtime routine other than changing his diaper, putting him in a sleep sack, feeding him, then rocking him until he is in a deep sleep.

He's 6 weeks - should I be tracking this stuff? Should I be trying to get him to nap at a certain time based on a pattern? Will knowing this help us set him up for a good sleep routine when he's older?

Edit to add: if my guy didn't have a heart issue, I probably wouldn't be tracking his feeding frequency and diaper output either at this point.

Just curious...

How long would you wait to allow family/visitors to meet your newborn who has CHD?

Would you allow toddlers or other kids around them right away?

Would this change if the newborn didn't have CHD?

Edit: I'm asking because my baby has mild aortic stenosis and our family is in an uproar over our visiting rules. I'm not budging but just curious what others have done.

What is it about babies that makes people go insane? My mom is jealous that I am lettting my mother in law watch my baby for an hour.

I had a baby 4 weeks ago. My family lives an hour and 20 minutes from me and I have invited them to my home several times to visit but there's always an excuse. The biggest issue seems to be that I will not invite my mom to stay the night at my house. I've told her I don't want overnight visitors because it is too overwhelming. I'm an adult woman who is married and has a baby and don't want her staying overnight at my house. Because of this, she just hasn't visited at all.

My husband and I want to go out to dinner so my mother in law is going to watch the baby. My mom laid on the guilt with the sad emoji and "so it begins..." because she is worried the other grandma will have more access to the baby, even though I've told my mom in the past that the access she gets depends on the effort she puts in. I told her she doesn't get to make me feel bad about this. I have invited her several times, and I am doing the best I can with a very fussy and colicky baby. She then said I should have invited her to babysit and offered her to stay the night, then said fuck it have a happy birthday.

I called her to have a rational conversation about this and she was yelling so hard I couldn't even make anything out. I hung up, she blocked me.

We didn't talk for 3 weeks in Jan because I wouldn't tell her the gender of my baby. She and my brother are the only family I have so I haven't gone NC and usually greyrock etc but the jealousy over the in laws and the baby have made greyrocking difficult, because I shouldn't have to lie about my baby spending 1 hour with his other grandma, who actually does make an effort to see us.

I'm expecting a very long stretch of not communicating. It's extra hurtful because she won't get to know my son as a newborn this time, and she clearly doesn't care about supporting me postpartum. I guess I'm just looking for advice and reminders of how to not let this weigh on me so much.

Edit to add: she said her eyesight and fatigue are the reasons she doesn't want to drive here and back in the same day, so I have suggested my brother drive with her.

Also adding that I went NC with my dad when I was 20 and he died when we were NC. He tried to contact me regularly and I ignored him. He was a good dad but started having a drinking problem and I went NC and he died thinking I hated him, so I carry a lot of guilt with that. I think that is why I struggle with going NC with mom.

I have a 4 week old and his pediatrician just gave him famotidine because she thinks he has reflux. I was wondering if anyone else had a baby whose symptoms were similar, or if anyone has any tips or tricks.

-He does not have issues gaining or maintaining weight. In fact, two doctors have called him a tank.

-He spits up frequently, only projectile one time. He will arch his back and seem a little fussy before he spits up. He does not fuss after he spits up. Sometimes he spits up well after he has eaten (1 to 2 hours). He is breastfed.

-He does not like to be horizontal. He can fall asleep in my arms but wake up the second I turn him horizontal. Getting him to sleep in his crib (or anywhere other than on me) is very difficult. I've stopped trying to get him nap in the crib because once he wakes up and cries it will take an hour or two for him to settle again.

He only settles or is soothed by breastfeeding. He wants to eat all the time, even when he's not cluster feeding. Sometimes he sounds congested when he is feeding.

He has FOMO. He just doesn't nap at all during the day and can be up for hours at a time. He only naps if he feeds and then I don't move and keep him there.

He does have times when he is chill and happy but lately it seems he is more agitated and crying. Hoping the famotidine could help him feel better.

My son is 4 weeks oldand I am a FTM. My little guy was born via c section after a long labor and he has mild aortic stenosis. Does this sound like the typical newborn experience? I know babies are supposed to sleep a lot but my guy doesn't and I'm not sure if its normal or if it could be reflux or something else.

- He hates to lay on his back, whether in our arms, crib, bassinet, etc. He will be very tired in our arms vertically but wakes up and cries once turned horizontally. This means we are only doing contact naps.

- He does spit up a lot, sometimes while breastfeeding, then he wants to continue feeding. He is very difficult to burp but our ped said not to worry about it since breastfed babies don't burp as much.

- He only falls asleep if he is at the breast. Walks, shushing, swing, rocking, paci, white noise... he will get drowsy and go into a light sleep but wakes up as soon we he is moved or turned horizontally.

- He can only be soothed by breastfeeding. This has really started to hurt my nipples and take a toll on my mental health on the tougher days. I think I am offering him the boob a lot more than he needs for feeding because sometimes he will just cry inconsolably and nothing else works. He falls asleep with boob in mouth, sometimes I delatch and then he immediately gets fussy again.

- I'm thinking of giving up on trying to transfer him to a crib during the day after feeding him because he inevitably wakes up, cries, and needs boob again to calm down again. Lather, rinse, repeat. There are days where he eats for several hours in one stretch because the transfers don't work. They don't seem to be aligned with growth spurts or cluster feeds because if I just choose not to transfer him he stays asleep on me.

- Because of this, I don't even think about wake windows and I just go with the flow for what I think he needs in that moment. But when I see the typical schedule/wake windows for his age, he is nothing close to that. He will be awake for hours at a time if I don't let him contact nap. I thought he'd eventually get tired enough to sleep on his back during the day but he doesn't.

- When he is tired enough, sometimes we get him to sleep on his back in his crib for 3 hours or so at night (only if my husband puts him down and we follow a strict 2 hour feeding + rocking/shushing routine but even then it's just luck if it works). Then, he wakes to feed and he will maybe go back to sleep for another hour or so before he is awake. From there, lots of grunting, flailing, lifting his legs up and slamming them down, kicking, etc, which I've heard is normal, so I usually let him do it until he starts to scream/cry.

If this is all completely normal newborn behavior then I am hoping to get some tips and tricks. My husband was back at work after 1 week and I am struggling. I should also mention that I do think he is full after eating and I've done two weighted feeds with a lactation consultant.

I gave birth 3 weeks ago. I woke up in the middle of the night and one of my boobs was really sore. There was a little leakage on my shirt but not much. I fed baby from that side which softened the inner part of the boob, but the outer part near my armpit is still hard and sore. It doesn't look red or feel hot but just very firm and tender. I tried massaging the area and pumping but no luck. I've been taking ibuprofen around the clock for my c section, so I took another dose of that, and I am icing the area.

I plan on gently massaging and trying the manual pump in a little bit. Is there anything else I can do right now? I've read horror stories about how quickly mastitis can come on.

If this isn't resolved by the morning, would I call my OB or a LC?

My little guy is almost 3 weeks old and I adore the contact naps when I am awake and alert, but I need him to be in a safe sleeping space when I start to feel really drowsy. My husband is back at work and I am trying to power through the times when I am alone but sometimes I am worried I am going to fall asleep holding him during a contact nap and I know that isn't safe.

This is our first and I know you can't spoil a baby, he wants to be on us 24/7, etc and we are embracing that, but I am curious to know if there is anything I haven't tried. Pleaseeeeee give me your tips and tricks for transferring a passed out newborn to a bassinet or crib without them instantly stirring and waking up. This boy will be totally passed out and then wake up the second human contact breaks. Additionally, he will settle as soon as we pick him back up.

Currently: I breastfeed him, rock him, wait until he is passed out for at least 15 to 20 min and his limbs are completely limp, I bend over real slow and gently and lay him down feet/legs first, I keep rocking him with one hand and keep a heavy hand on his chest with the other, then I continue rocking and keeping the heavy hand, then slowly fade out the rocking, then eventually remove the heavy hand. The second human contact breaks, he will start stirring, kicking, rolling, and then eventually crying. This leads to another feeding session, lather, rinse, repeat. My husband has had some success gently holding his arms/legs still after setting him down so he doesn't stir but that is hit or miss. He is not in a swaddle anymore because he rolls on his side, so he is in a sleep sack with his arms free. I have the omni sleep sack, a magnetic me sleep sack, and a woolino.

I have tried: heating pad on mattress before setting him down, white noise, gentle music, heartbeat/womb sounds, keeping my hand in his crib (it is next to my side of the bed), talking/singing to him once he is in the crib.

I can babywear and contact nap all day but just don't know what to do when I am dangerously close to falling asleep with him. Appreciate any advice or just words of encouragement.

Hello. FTM here. My son was born via c section 13 days ago. He wasn't producing enough stools when my milk was still coming in, so the pediatrician recommended we give him 1oz formula after breastfeeding until my milk came in (we did this for about 2 days).

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I met with a LC during this time who had me feeding on demand and pumping 8 to 10 times a day to ramp up supply. He ate well during the visit and she had me taper down to pumping 4 times a day. She came back 4 days later and he was above his birth weight and was transferring milk well so he "graduated" and her plan for me is to continue to feed on demand but also pump twice a day indefinitely (once to build up a freezer stash, the other so my husband can bottle feed once daily).

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My goal is to EBF and I work from home at a very family friendly company. Lots of moms at my company are able to bsf and care for their littles while working, it is truly a very chill environment/role and not a demanding WFH job. No meetings or calls, just get my work done at some point during the day. I feel so lucky to have this job while raising my son.

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Here's where I would like feedback: the LC said its good for baby to still have a bottle every day in the event that someone else needs to feed him, if we have to go out of town, etc. Everything I read and all the classes the hospital offered stated not to introduce bottles so early, can cause nipple confusion, etc. I understand we did bottles for a couple days because we had to for his weight when he was 3 days old, but now that he is eating from the breast so well, I didn't expect to still need to pump and have my husband feed him once a day. For some reason, I was just disapponted to hear this recommendation and it made me feel very emotional, and I'm not entirely sure why. I am also still very much feeling hormonal shifts, some anxiety, etc, so I am fully aware of that.

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I am not an expert by any means but I curious to see if this is common and if other moms do this just in the event that the baby needs to take a bottle from someone else. I wasn't expecting to introduce bottles for several more weeks, but since he has already had one, is it best to just continue with it at this point? I trust the LC but am struggling with this for some reason. Are these feelings common?

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Another layer that has me stressed is my in laws know he can take a bottle now, so they are making comments about how I should bring bottles with me when I visit them in case he is hungry, (y'know for those times when I leave the house and forget to bring my boobs). They also ask me to drop my son off with a few bottles so they can watch him and I can have a date night (I am nowhere near ready for this). I think the bottle feeding opening this door could also be contributing to some of the feelings I'm having. Appreciate any feedback or advice 🙏