u/noodlesnax

Ich arbeite seit Beginn meiner Berufskarriere im Büro, und da sind so Dinge wie Einstandskuchen, oder Kuchen zum Geburtstag sehr gängig.

Jetzt habe ich als Samstagskraft im Einzelhandel angefangen und habe mich gefragt, wie es da ist? Ich habe in einem Monat Geburtstag und weiß jetzt nicht ob das da dann komisch kommt wenn ich für die KollegInnen einen Kuchen mitnehme 😅

Ich finde leider kaum Insta Profile wo ich mir Bilder anschauen kann.

Kennt wer gute Friseure die schönes Balayage hinkriegen?

Being tall is one of my biggest insecurities.

I never wear heels or plateaus, because I feel like an ogre already with sneakers.
Especially in dating I become so very insecure because it’s always “Damn you are tall..” or “I feel so tiny next to you”

How did you learn to love yourself being tall?

I’m 25 and my ex cheated on me, and I broke up with him a year ago.

I took a lot of time for myself, and only recently got back into dating, but somehow there’s never a spark.
No matter how many times I’ve seen someone, how well we get along or how nice they are, I never had this feeling of butterflies in my belly, or this certain kind of spark.
It also feels like I forgot what it feels like. All I can remember is that I caught feelings pretty quickly before.

I started hanging out more with an old friend and thought that I would feel that kind of way towards him but the more we hung out, the more I realized I was only attracted to him because he seemed unreachable. It was just the excitement of something new as we grew closer than we used to be.

It’s starting to get exhausting. So many great people I turned down because I didn’t feel anything. I didn’t care whether they would message, didn’t care what their impression of me was after the date, didn’t care about nothing. I remember being all happy and excited after a good date, reminiscing about the good time but this never happened anymore.

I miss being close to someone, emotionally and physically. I miss cuddling, I miss talking about everything with someone who actually cares. I miss all that comes with love. But it seems impossible to achieve at this point.

Now I’m wondering if I just got more careful with people, or if I’m genuinely not able to feel that way anymore at all.
How long does it take for you to feel a spark?

This fear started a few months ago.
I live alone with my two cats and eventually I started hearing things that had me afraid, someone is hiding in my place somewhere

I know it sounds stupid, but this is getting out of hand.
Everytime I hear a noise somewhere that I can’t explain, I’ll search through every room, behind every door, under every table and inside every cabinet if someone’s hiding somewhere.
I’ll use an insect spray as a “weapon” which I’ll plan on spraying into their face. It got to the point where I’ll take that spray with me everywhere, and it even rests on my bedside table when I go to sleep.

When I hear those noises at night in bed I won’t dare to get up and look through anything though, and just hope to fall asleep asap so the fear goes away.

Adding to that I have very intense nightmares about intruders in my place almost every night.
Once I even dreamt that someone injected narcotics into my shoulder as I was in bed trying to call for help and I even felt that pain clearly and didn’t wake up from it.

My therapist suggested I stop searching through the rooms cause this basically tells my brain that it’s a valid fear but I can’t stop. Last night I tried to stop myself but I asked myself “What if this time there really is someone?” And I couldn’t restrict myself from searching.

My therapist tried to logically go through things but my brain creates an explanation for everything.
For example he said, if I didn’t see anyone from searching so far, why would there be someone suddenly? My brain says: Maybe the intruder switched rooms as I searched through them.
Or my therapist said that my cats would react to an intruder, especially since one of them is extremely scared of strangers. My brain says: The intruder has been here for long enough that my cats got used to him.

I feel like my brain switches every logical explanation with nonesense, but I can’t turn off this fear, even though I know it’s probably dumb.

It gets worse and worse and my therapist’s advice isn’t helping idk what to do

It’s always larger sizes = longer pants and longer sleeves

Oh you want longer pants? Try an L
Oh you want longer sleeves? Try XL

Those sizes are way too lose on you? We don’t care 😄

Sorry, just a rant cause this keeps happening with jackets and joggers especially

I just started watching this movie and I feel like it’s so important!!
It’s about the gender roles being swapped completely.

Men doing the household, while the women sit on the couch scratching their crouch.
A man being in a bad mood getting asked „Is it that time again?“.
Half naked men on magazines and advertisements.
Women in leadership, while the men are their secretaries.
Men being bodyshamed.
Men being sexualized.
And so on..

It’s a bit exaggerated, but in the end it’s just real.
If anyone ever questions why we need feminism, show them this movie! Huge recommendation for me.
It’s funny, but it also has a bitter taste with it cause it’s just the devastating truth

I’ve had this 57yo coworker and he was utterly disgusting, lazy and mean.
He insulted me multiple times like “piece of shit” and refused to do his work. When I told him to do his work, he insulted me or called in sick for weeks to months.

We work for the government and it’s almost impossible to get fired.

“Luckily” he was also sexually harassing me and other female coworkers.
He said things like I remind him of his ex wife and I could be nakedly wrapped into satin and look like a goddess, and commented on my clothing saying he prefers when I wear leggings and stuff like that.
Another coworker and me were talking about cats and he said “Wanna pet my pussy?”
It was annoying but it didn’t bother me as much as him avoiding work and insulting me.

Still I went to the head department and reported all of his sexual comments, cause I knew they would have to take it serious.
I reported that I felt sexually harassed, and he finally got fired.

1,5 months ago I met this dude on tinder and we hit it off really well.
He seemed very mature and we had a lot of serious and deep talks about topics like dishonesty, how important communication is and so on.
We also talked about expectations in relationships like respect, how important it is to respect each other and I made clear that respect is also about lying, cheating, and doing other things that you wouldn’t tell your partner about
We spent a lot of time together and a week ago he told me that he isn’t seeing anyone else. He also said that he completely focuses on me and that he is catching feelings.
We aren’t official yet, but the things he says give me the impression of us being somewhat exclusive.
I’ve been cheated on in the past and trust is hard for me. But the things he said and the way he behaved towards me told me that he is trustworthy.
Now I saw on tinder that he updated his profile with two new pictures that he just recently made.
One picture even shows him topless.

This looks like dishonesty towards me. It doesn’t fit together with the things he said about me being the only woman in his life (apart from family and his best friend) and everything we talked about.
I feel like I’m just a place holder as he is looking for someone better.

Now I feel like I’m just getting played again and I feel the deep urge to break things off before it gets more serious to prevent getting hurt again.
Would I be overreacting for breaking things off because of his tinder profile?

(Before I get hated on: I know I’m also still using tinder, but I usually just open the app to read the messages I got without even responding because I don’t have the mental capacity to talk to multiple men. And he is the one that started to say those things mentioned above)

My lash tech told me at my very first appointment (around a year ago) to use a foam cleanser without alcohol
So I bought one, but it seems to not clean very well. Even after 2-3 washes with a brush I can still see goo afterwards..
I always go in with tweezers to pick out any leftover dirt and end up destroying my lashes completely, as I also unavoidably rip out some lashes doing that

I now figured I might use a different cleanser, which ones do you guys use? And do you have any other tips for me?