I am from a country where safety of women is very bad and horrible, while researching about this I realised there are many countries where women are really safe and active in public life, considering 100 years back all over the world the situation of women was horrible , what did your country do to improve it ?
When it was our time to write 10th exams, CBSE reintroduced annual exams, when it was our time to write JEE , it became hard, pattern changed , COVID came, when it was our turn to get jobs, recession came in, even after we got a job AI came in so that people started losing jobs like hell,when we wanted to go abroad racism against Indians increased to peak , now that atleast we want to love or get married , gender wars have engulfed our society , our dad's and grandpa's got good wives without any effort and even if they were patriarchal, we are much better than them, but people say we might never be married and by 2047 marriage as an institution will end in India, why do we have to bear the brunt of everything?
Currently living in Namma Bengaluru, not looking to rush into marriage - just hoping to meet someone genuine and see how things go.
A little about me:
Working in IT (currently on rotational shifts) ,the pay is decent, however I am actively working towards a more stable and better role. Introverted by nature and enjoys a quite life. I have never been in a relationship before , but I am open to building something comfortable at a meaningful pace.
One thing I have realized about myself is that I would love to have someone I can care for , support and make feel special. Seeing couples look out for each other makes me look forward to have that kind of connection someday.More than anything I am looking for someone I can trust , be myself around and share both the good and difficult parts of life with
24M, my mom started to ask a bunch of relatives for AM proposals, same answers from all , even the most old and pro AM uncles and grandpas- Girls wont accept for AM these days - This has disheartened me to a large extent - Is this how its gonna be ?
I regularly follow social media and real life politics, the hate for vegetarians is next level with Tamilians also calling for genocide of vegetarians and banning vegetarianism in India. Meanwhile Karnataka despite having a large non-veg population never hate vegetarians nor hate Hindu practices , they embrace everyone with open arms , love Karnataka
24M, most of the people of our generation (GenZ) whom I see on reddit and in real life are against love, marriage , children in general, they are justified as well, considering AI, racism against Indians,population explosion, being general Category and middle class, global warming , climate change, it's best for Indians to stop breeding altogether , but a corner of my heart still wants love, still wants to get married , still wants to have kids , am I wrong to feel like this ?
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I am a Tamil Brahmin living in Bengaluru, I am hated by Tamils for being Brahmin and by Kannadigas for being Tamil, I speak Kannada fluently, I even speak Havyaka and North Karnataka accent fluently , I learnt these on my own by reading was born here,but sometimes my name gives away I am not Kannadiga, and some people (especially Telugus in my office ) , love to point out I am a " Konga" in from tof my Kannadiga colleagues and they hurl racial slurs at me once they know my identity, Tamilians always call me "Paapan" , " Aryan " and " Vandheri", I am always in a fear that I will be attacked by either for my identity , I can't take sides in any political debates and I fear I can't marry or have kids in future , because they will also be hated for their identity, what do I do?
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I work in a 24/7 Support team in Tech whose main job is to monitor and escalate alerts , we occasionally create dashboards as well, my director asked me to create a dashboard for him I spent 2 hours and did it , and handed it over to him,he appreciated me and later he uploaded my dashboard in a tool called Cursor AI and completely modified it (Yes the AI completely modified everything), this action of his made me feel horrible , I felt my efforts were completely invalidated , is this how tech is today?
Star Plus used to have such amazing reality shows back in the day Dance plus, Dance Champions, Nach Baliye, Dil Hai Hindustani and even The Voice. however as of date there are no reality shows and all these shows have been stopped even though they were doing pretty well. However I still see reality shows on other channels like Colors, Sony and Zee . Any tea on this ?
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24M , have met many girls at my workplace, they always like the company of guys who tease them based on their appearance like height , weight, dieting preferences ,inability to diet/exercise etc or those who are funny and make them laugh easily in general. However I find it really hard, infact I don't like to joke with women about their appearance or even behavioural patterns in general and I am not that funny, I have had people who said me that I will be a boring partner , I am not fun etc, in general, however I love to care for people close to me, my love language is all about caring, being there for someone and listening to them , I am unable to forcefully start developing a teasing personality or joking personality to be able to find love , what do I do ?
I was a day scholar all my life, since I interact mostly with women at workplace I only know how life is for women who live alone , these are the common experiences for women as I have heard
1.Cried on first day of hostel
2.Fell sick due to outside food
3.Struggled with common/dirty washrooms
4.Feeling like guest in own house and eventually accepting it
5.Mom/Dad asking girls to stay back one more day
6.Dad behaving very pookie and caring by tending for their daughters needs
7.Safety and sanitation issues due to travelling alone (Long journeys in buses )
Even worse experiences when they move to PG
Falling into relationships out of compulsion but not choice as they need someone to care for them
However at end of day they have blind trust on family and a sense of pride on being independent
Putting parents needs above theirs and spending for parents even if they end up with no money and they have to sleep hungry
Are all these experiences common for men as well or do they differ ?
Hello guys , this is my first post here, I am 24 M , I used to read a lot when I was in school (mostly fiction books like Heroes of Olympus and Harry Potter), I am returning to this journey after a long hiatus , what are some nice books (preferably non fiction) that I can start reading ?
I am 24 now about 3 to 4 years back when I was in college there were huge protests on reservation for Kannadigas in the private sector, there were debates on the "definition of a kannadiga" , what happened to those protests , why did they die down ?
I am 24 now, i remember the time when i was in college there wasa huge wave of diversity hiring, many companies used to hire only women and women only hiring drives were very common - however nowadays i am not hearing or seeing anything of that sort - has it stopped altogether - if so why ?
To all the men who never got married and who are in their late 30s and 40s now
1.Did you not get married out of personal preferences or other challenges?
2.How did you navigate issues like loneliness, mental health issues ( if you had any ) and physical health issues
4.How is it going for you now?
I have been observing guys around me in workplace offline , social media (online) in general all Indian guys behave as if 99 percent of men are never gonna get married and only 2 or 3 men in India are gonna get a girl . Why dont we understand that even though we dont have a wide pool and favourable circumstances like our parents they are still many normal women and girls out there with whom guys are gonna get married eventually . Why do we pretend as if 99.99 percent of Indians are gonna be single , at most about 10 percent of Indian men of our generation (Gen-Z) might be single.
As per me it would be
North - Yelahanka New Town
South - Bannerghatta Road (near Anjanapura)
East - Hopefarm ( Whitefield)
West - Kengeri
What are your opinions ?
I am in my 20s , never played sports seriously in my life , so my reaction time, reflexes and aiming skills are pretty bad, I can't even play a game of carrom, TT or Chess in my office, adding to this I can't even drive a car or bike due to lack of judgement skills, scooter with great difficulty,I also get randomly lost many a times and don't focus while crossing roads or even while walking on a road in general leading to people scolding me, is it too late for me to improve these things?
23M, had a conversation with a female colleague today, she was appreciating guys who were well settled and caring for parents and in laws , she also was talking about how she would prefer responsible guys over guys who are not family oriented, but on reddit I find people who ask men to concentrate on gaining relationships, this confused me what to focus on -career or relationships?-What would you say?