I want to volunteer and also meet other late 20s/30-somethings in the area. I’m still trying to meet people and the activities and classes I’ve tried have ended up being just me. Is anyone involved in activities that have more people involved? I like arts, the outdoors, music but am open to other ways to serve and really just want to get involved!!
I move in late August. Where should I go and what to do? I’m open to trying new hobbies.
30F always identified as straight here and not sure if this is the place to post this so apologies if not but I am currently questioning if I like men anymore. I have never really been emotionally fulfilled in any of my relationships but am avoidant and picked avoidant partners.
I enjoy sex with men and am attracted to them (the main reason I’ve dated them at this point) but after witnessing their bad behavior and some conversations with my queer friends whose observations of me and things I say have made me question my sexuality, I’m wondering what other signs might be there that I should explore dating women?
I let my Cuisineart pan sit empty over a flame for maybe half an hour or so for a while not realizing it was on and being interrupted by something urgent. When I realized it was on, I turned it off and let it cool and washed and dried as normal but now my food is sticking and burning. Did I warp and ruin the coating and if so how do I fix this?
Is it safe to use still?
Naps or just waking up, you get cozy drifting off and then your alarm wakes you. Why does that happen?
I’ve encountered a small handful of malicious people who harassed or intimidated people. Several men whose weird or bad behavior is labeled as “quirky” and they can manipulate and charm their way out of looking guilty.
For example, someone who taught at my program was accused of harassment in academia and everyone knew but still associates with this person even though the accuser left the program. We kept a very surface and uncomfortable relationship because he could be very hostile and antagonistic but this was part of the “academic” culture. A lot of professors admittedly liked stirring up drama and picking on students. Mind games. Just toxic stuff.
How do you navigate these people once in the real world? Communities are small and your career and reputation depends on creating relationships so how do you deal with professors, peers, advisors and people who harass or try to harm you and even smear you to cover their own actions? Especially when you have mutuals?
You’re telling me she ghosted Katie a second time??? For scrolling on her phone? Wouldn’t a good friend of multiple years try to talk to you first before disappearing for years? That is some top tier gaslighting and manipulation but also very middle school coded of “you hurt my feelings and I’m gonna tell everyone else but you why.”
Now because she has a show she wants to reconcile but does she actually miss the friendship? Katie said she missed her family and kids but Stassi said she wanted someone who “gets” reality TV. It’s just sad Katie talked about their history and genuinely felt a deep history and friendship between them all these years but Stassi was able to easily discard it again after doing it once before. Does Stassi really value Katie as much as she does her because I only saw Katie cry and the fight felt like nitpicking but I don’t know…
EDIT: I really liked them as friends even though they had tough moments and would like them to still be friends. Their dynamic is very relatable. I’m hoping they’ve both grown. I think there’s more to the story that’s maybe not being said.
How to deal with interactions with them when they are unpleasant and cut me off and seem annoyed when having to talk to me. Sometimes they ignore me and make me repeat myself and I’m pretty sure they talk shit about me to my coworkers because they stopped talking shit to me constantly about people and that need hasn’t stopped I’m sure.
Do I try to ask questions to learn from them still? Keep conversations short? Push back against feedback? Respond when they say something rude or take it? Everyone else kisses their ass and that seems to work but I feel this person is somehow threatened by me or just dislikes me enough that I don’t know how to work this situation to my advantage.
I have never gone after or dated really beautiful men. I’ve dated guys that weren’t considered the most attractive to my friends but I liked their personality and was attracted to them. Now my friends and other women are telling me I need to “expand my horizons” and look for guys that are shorter, might not have hair, might not be as attractive etc.
I don’t get it. I already was doing that and it didn’t work out so why date someone even less attractive? I’ve also seen people get mistreated by these types of nice but less attractive guys too. I’m talking to a few guys now who I’m not attracted to and their personalities are different.
Am I really shallow for wanting to be with someone I can picture myself being physically intimate with? To want a little bit of intrigue or interest? Are you supposed to have some sort of initial chemistry or attraction to men you’re dating? How long do you wait to see if you enjoy spending time with people and how do you enjoy the process and loosen up a bit more? I want this to be fun!
I’m in a *weird* situation I’ve never experienced at a new job of 6 months so too soon to leave. It was fine at first but now getting pretty weird and I have no teammates to ask what’s happening.
Weird Things That Have Happened
-If I ask my boss something they now tell me to email their own boss. When I ask in a email their boss responds to my boss and ignores me?
-My boss has said they hate it here and want to quit in front of everyone
-My boss’s boss and other people will undermine my boss in meetings and get other people to join in
-My boss is Jekyll and Hyde. Sometimes nice sometimes cold. Contradicts themself. They admit they don’t like if I get praise and they don’t.
-My boss doesn’t do any work and no one wants to work with them because they’re difficult which affects me
-My boss’s and their boss now avoids eye contact with me and act weirdly and whisper when I walk by.
-My boss’s boss talks shit about them being unprofessional and makes sure people can hear
It’s so awkward and weird with no communication and more problems I don’t have time to explain. What is going on and what should I do? Am I being set up to fail? Should I leave?
I pivoted into this person’s field and they work at a good company. I liked working with them from another team and want to know if they are hiring/learn about the company but haven’t spoken to them in years.
How do I shoot my shot respectfully without being annoying or rude?
Manager has iced me of out from projects and just has a conflict-seeking personality. I’m being gaslit like I wasn’t doing well when I in fact was. Other people don’t like my manager including their own boss and coworkers.
Their work is drying up and they’re also removing me from work which I’m not sure why. It’s a toxic culture and pretty miserable situation where my manager offends people and then people take shots at my manager and my manager takes it out on me. I don’t even have teammates to vent to or bond with and a nice, well-respected coworker on a different team hinted I look somewhere else with a better culture or at least more people. How long can I last in this situation? Should I try to wait it out if my boss leaves? It feels like I’m being iced out and I’m job hunting in the meantime.
I have a strong personality and high expectations for relationships. Over time I’ve learned that I need to do more to nurture the kinds of relationships I want and learn how to identify people capable of meeting me where I want to be in terms of effort, values and alignment. I’m figuring out if romantic love is right for someone like me.
Dating is hard. I am ambitious, passionate, creative and have been told by men that I’m intimidating. I could go on about issues with men but people in general are lacking in consideration in dating now moreso than recent times. Finding someone in alignment with you can feel rare yet I don’t think it’s impossible. People are saying that women should celebrate being alone because much more of us aren’t forced to be with men for financial reasons like in the past. The best relationship is with yourself, etc.
Here’s the thing. I really like myself. I’ve been doing my own thing for years. I like being grounded in myself and my own wants without having to compromise to someone else and get why being alone is good for you to have a strong sense of self and identity. I also miss parts of having a relationship but I don’t want to sacrifice who I am again or tone myself down for a partner.
My question is, is romantic love still possible or aspirational for strong women? My happy friends are a bit more passive than me with different personalities and like partners that “lead” them. Men like the idea of a bold woman. But I haven’t met a man yet that seems to like that type of woman and doesn’t eventually resent her for it or try to shrink her. How have you found fulfillment either single or with a partner?
I’m a young woman in the industry wondering what tips have helped people be taken seriously and get teams to follow through to meet timelines.
I’m early in my career and want to network. This person is super experienced and doesn’t have a positive impression of our department who in the last meeting were very combative and burnt out during our all-hands.
What would you say to use them to network and learn about the future of your team with AI changes etc. and your growth in the company? Anything to avoid? I’ve never interacted with that level and don’t know what they’re looking for or what will impress them.
Lots of people being banned much more easily than Bumble or Tinder. I’ve noticed a lot of people of color especially being banned. Also some people get quality matches and others really poor ones. What gives?
I see absolutely nothing on Meetup. How do I meet more people here and make new friends? Where are people going? What groups or classes should I join?
New in town and trying to find single lady friends! People in meetups are nice but tend to gravitate more towards people who look like them. I’d love to expand my friend group but don’t know where to go!
Idk if middle school was just messy for me where I lived but girls could be brutal and you never knew if you were “in” or “out” with some girls. I’ve experienced this even in adult friend groups and it makes me nervous that people are talking behind my back or excluding me. I’ve had a lot of friends come and go and I talk to a lot of people who feel the same way. Maybe it would be less bad if I found “my people” or close friends that live nearby.
How do I outgrow this little middle school girl inside me? I feel like that Taylor Swift song in mastermind where no one wants to play with her as a little kid and the feeling just kind of never goes away :/
How do people avoid being the one people talk shut about? Do I just have to talk shit about other people? I’m left out of gossip now and am out of the loop on inside jokes, etc.