u/sagiibabbi

I just need to rant quickly here.

From the get go everyone told me just to formula feed her or bottle feed her. Why would I when I breast fed my first? I know I can do it and that’s what I did. I ignored them all up to today and now I’m just raging.

So today I ended up in the ER because of mastitis (not my first rodeo with it) I had tried the cold/hot compress, the dangle method, the manual and auto pumping, the lactation massager, and the sunflower Lecithin. Finally it got bad enough that I told my husband to drop me off at the ER so I could get antibiotics. (No urgent cares near us and telehealth dr told me to go in). So that’s what I did. Sure enough it’s a nasty case of mastitis. Got the prescription and got told to keep doing everything.

Well we got home and got bombarded with messages that I need to just dry my milk up and give her real food and milk. SHES 10 MONTHS! She also CANT have dairy!! (She has a lot of allergies and medical issues) She does eat table foods she eats A LOT! But she loves her yiddies and I love that I’m able to provide for her. Finally after my 8th message from family I just lost my crap. I started crying and asking my husband if I need to just stop. Thankfully he was being supportive and told me to keep doing whatever made me feel comfortable. My grandmother also came over with purple cabbage to help dry my milk up. -_-

And the thing that is the worse they aren’t telling me to do it for my health. They are telling me to do it so they can take baby places without her having to be attached to me. (She throws fits if I’m not there or in eye sight) she’s definitely a mommies girl. But they get so annoyed because baby is constantly with me and they can’t hold her because she will start crying.

Her pediatrician and GI doctor even said that it’s better for her to be on breastmilk because it has more nutrition and antibodies for her. Heck even my oldest still drinks breast milk here and there especially when she’s sick and it helps soooo much! Why would I want to stop that??

So PLEASE stop telling me to wean my baby when I don’t want to!!

I’ve been in and out of the urgent care and ER for the past week. I’ve been getting told that I just have a really bad rash on my butt. Then they would give me some ointment and hope it works.

Well today I had gotten to the point where sitting and standing was putting me at a 10 on the pain scale. I would have much rather do child birth naturally all over again. So I went to the ER.

There is where the doctor examined me and I mean thoroughly examined me instead of just looking at the area.

That’s where she laid it on me that I had Herpes. How?! What?! I’ve been tested time and time again and everything came back negative. I have only had one partner for the past 3 years.

Why now? How?? She gave me antivirals to start taking and swabbed the area to see if it’s 1 or 2.

Im by myself in the room crying to a random stranger that I’ve never had anything before. That I’m so very safe when it comes to sex. She told me that I could have gotten it from my husband that gets the occasional cold sore but even then I always take precautions when he has one. How could I have gotten this!?

My dearest husband can’t take care of our baby while our oldest is in school.

He is refusing to look for a job and I have two offers to work. I was going to accept them while my husband stays home with the kids, but he’s so short tempered.

I’m trying to bust my ass to get the baby in daycare, but it’s not going fast. I’m going to have to decline the offers just to make sure our baby gets taken care of.

If I can get her into daycare then all he would have to do is worry about dropping them off and picking them up, but I’m so scared he’s going to be to busy playing games to pick them up.

He constantly getting short and cussing at the baby just for being loud because he has a headache. Dude I have chronic migraines and still play with her. I’m constantly down and take care of both kids.

He doesn’t want to work and just wants everything handed to him. I hate it so much! I’ve tried talking to him but he doesn’t want to talk. He argues and tells me I don’t support him!

WHAT THE HELL!!

My husband keeps asking me to be intimate with him, but I just can’t bring myself to sleep with him.

So much goes into me not wanting him he’s constantly trying to grab on me or make sexual jokes and I hate it! He’s ALWAYS doing it. Then when I tell him it bothers me he goes “Fine. I just won’t talk then.” It’s so annoying!!

I’m running a household and taking care of kids all while trying to maintain my health so I don’t keep pushing myself into flare ups or episodes.

He does nothing all day as he quit his job. He doesn’t help with the kids or the house chores. He plays video games constantly. I ended up getting a work from home job so that way our bills were paid and our kids had food and diapers.

I’m so worn out by the time I get the kids to bed. My mental health is also so bad. I’m constantly stressed to the point I’ve lost a lot of my hair.

So comes tonight. He once again try’s to get me to sleep with him and I told him fine go without videos games for a week and I’ll sleep with you. Well never mind that he quickly goes “No. I’m not going to have sex turn into bets and deals.” Then takes out his phone and walks out angry.

I’m just so done. I’m tired. I’m fed up. He doesn’t want to do anything. It’s to the point his own parents have apologized to me about him.

My migraine is so bad!! Nothing is working. I’ve tried Tylenol, ibuprofen, and Advil. I’ve tried the hot and cold masks. I feel like I’m being stabbed in my temples, neck, and eyes!!

What do you do when nothing else helps?

My husband and I have only been married for 2 years, but I’m starting to have resentment towards him.

We have 2 kids together. I have no friends or family. When I got pregnant and we moved in together I ended up isolating myself from everyone. After my second birth we ended up having to move in with his parents as I needed extra help and had extreme health issues that we were trying to figure out. And they had agreed to help me while he worked.

Well he ended up quitting his job to stay home and “take care of me and the kids” which was actually just him playing video games all day. Or as he says starting his content streaming career. We have bills and our children need things. His parents said they would cover our bills as long as if HE cleans the house and does what they ask.

Now everything has fallen onto me. I clean. I cook. I take care of our kids. I take care of MIL youngest 2 kids that are special needs. I’m drained and worn out. My doctor has told me I’m not stable enough to drive or work and I hate that. I ended up getting fired from my job because I couldn’t do it fully.

My husband and I argue so much about him working. He yells at me saying I don’t support him on his dream career. I told him to be realistic and that we have bills to pay and that our kids need things.

Finally I told him I just want to separate. He laughed and said that I have no one and no where to go. That if I leave he’s going to take the kids since he is the one with the roof over their house. He can’t even be left alone with our baby because he gets too angry and starts cussing at her and being me. I went to shower one day it took me 7 minutes and when I walked out he was yelling at her to just “stop fukibg crying” while violently putting her down.

I can’t leave my kids with him they would end up hurt but I so desperately want out. I’m tired of stressing and being with him. But he’s right I have no where and no one. I don’t have money and I can’t provide for my kids. At least with me here they are safe and taken care of..

I love the bond my baby and I have. It’s great. However I’m starting to regret just exclusively breastfeeding her.

She started taking to a bottle. Then she woke up the other day and just cried and cried. We went tried all day with a bottle. Each time she purple cried and hyperventilated until she was sweating and about to pass out. She’s 7 months so now she’s pinching and biting and grabbing at me.

I’m so touched out and overstimulated. No one can hold her and soothe her. Hell I tell husband to hold her just long enough for me to shower and by the time I’m done she’s screaming her head off. As soon as I walk out of eye sight she screams over and over. It’s an ear piercing scream.

My arms, chest, and face look like I got beat up. I have bruises and scratches all over me from where she thrashes, pinches, hits, and scratches me. I keep her nails trimmed short but she still cuts me.

I’m just tired of it. It’s so bad it’s to the point that I just want to sit her down, leave, and never come back. I regret having kids, because my oldest also now wants to hang all over me. I can’t even shower in peace since she learned to open doors. She comes in there and try’s to get in. I tell her no and she meltsdown bad
My first was breastfeed, but I pumped and used a bottle so I never experienced this with her. She also went to everyone and I got somewhat of a break.

Right now I’m sleep deprived, overwhelmed, extremely touched out, depressed, and easily annoyed. I am also on the highest dose of antidepressants and it feels like it’s not doing anything for me.

I don’t know how to feel..

I just overheard my husband telling his friends that he prefers my old body over my body now..

Before I was 90 lbs with a very nasty drug and drinking problem. I also worked out a lot but that was because I had so much energy and couldn’t sleep.

Now my body has birthed two children back to back. I’m 150 pounds now. I have stretch marks.. and my body never bounced back. I’m also breastfeeding a baby. I try to work out, but as soon as my heart rate goes up or I start getting hot I just pass out.

I have always hated the way I looked after children. But he also reassured me that I was beautiful and whatnot. He even started making comment when I started losing the baby weight that he wish I hadn’t because he liked me better with the “mom” body.

I don’t get it. He tells me one thing but to his friends he tells them that he misses how skinny I was and that I was super active. He found me more attractive then than he does now.

I feel like I’m Overreacting, but this really stings

•Edit•

I have seen a doctor. I was diagnosed with a chronic illness.
Also to add I eat healthy. I’m on a very strict diet due to baby having so many allergies. I eat extremely heart healthy.

I just overheard my husband telling his friends that he prefers my old body over my body now..

Before I was 90 lbs with a very nasty drug and drinking problem. I also worked out a lot but that was because I had so much energy and couldn’t sleep.

Now my body has birthed two children back to back. I’m 150 pounds now. I have stretch marks.. and my body never bounced back. I’m also breastfeeding a baby. I try to work out, but as soon as my heart rate goes up or I start getting hot I just pass out.

I have always hated the way I looked after children. But he also reassured me that I was beautiful and whatnot. He even started making comment when I started losing the baby weight that he wish I hadn’t because he liked me better with the “mom” body.

I don’t get it. He tells me one thing but to his friends he tells them that he misses how skinny I was and that I was super active. He found me more attractive then than he does now.

•Edit•

I have seen a doctor. I was diagnosed with a chronic illness.
Also to add I eat healthy. I’m on a very strict diet due to baby having so many allergies. I eat extremely heart healthy.

Hi there! I’m new to the sub and just wanted to know if anyone else had a reaction like this?

I was diagnosed with POTS. Neurologist prescribed me Midodrine. Well I took it today and 15 minutes after taking it my heart rate skyrocketed to 150 my blood pressure increased to 132/110. My heart felt like it was beating out of my chest. I passed out a total of 8 times. My heart rate never dropped below 80 and that was even with me sitting/laying down. My blood pressure finally dropped down to 110/80. I couldn’t stand longer than 4 minutes without getting dizzy and weak.

I instantly got a ahold of my neurologist and she told me not to take the second dose. Then she called me again and told me it was because of my Lexapro. I’m on 30mg of Lexapro and the Midodrine is 5mg. She then tells me to stop taking the Lexapro and to try the Midodrine by itself. I’m scared to take it again and also scared to just cut out my Lexapro as I’ve been on it for 7 months now without missing a dose.

For starters my baby is 7 months and is 21 pounds almost 22 pounds. She was born 5 pounds. She exclusively breastfeeds and never took bottles or formula. I’m also an extreme over supplier

For the longest time I had to hear “Just put her on a bottle. She’s too attached to you. You’re just spoiling her.”

Finally the day has come that she took a bottle for the first time. It took a lot of fighting and I have battle wounds, but she did it. She took a bottle and actually finished it. Afterwards she ended up falling asleep.

I was holding her and my MIL goes “she sleeping so peacefully. You’re probably just starving her! She’s not getting enough milk when you feed her! That’s why she is always attached to you!” And she just kept going on about me starving her.

I made the point to her that she has gained a lot of weight with me feeding her. But now I’m just sitting here feeding baby as she’s going to bed thinking what if I am starving her?? I’m crying and feel terrible

We have been married for almost 2 years. Together for 3 years.

He use to have such a great work ethic. Use to be so sweet and so kind. He had the rugged look and would never complain about work or if anything needed to be done.

We had our first kid. He still maintained everything and I love him for that. We had ups and downs as postpartum was extremely bad for me, but we managed.

Now we have our second baby. He’s gone and quit his job. He never helps around the house. If I ask him to do something then he complains and whines. Both our kids are starting to cry and not want to be around him as he pays them no attention. He’s usually up playing his games or scrolling on his phone.

I’ve tried having multiple conversations with him and he just blows me off. Telling me that I’m the problem and I’m just looking for something to complain about. No I work. I maintain the house. Even while working I still take care of the kids. I cook every meal. And on top of it all I just diagnosed with a chronic illness that is manageable but not curable and he couldn’t care less.

I’ve tried suggesting therapy or couples counseling, but once again it was an argument and he doesn’t want to do it.

I look at him now and I’m just disgusted with him and want nothing to do with him. He complains that I won’t sleep with him any more, but I can’t even get turned on enough to try with him.

My baby is 7 months old. We have fought colic, reflux, allergies, and now we’re fighting the fact that she doesn’t want to be held by anyone but me. She is exclusively breastfed and refuses bottles. We have tried every brand as well as sippy cups, straw cups, having others feed her, waiting until she has already eaten, waiting until she’s hungry, even worked with a Lactation consultant and nothing worked.

We accepted that she won’t take bottles, but it would be nice to not have to hold a baby all day long or have her attached to me. My husband, her grandparents, and even our friends have tried holding her. It never goes pass 5 minutes. Then she starts whimpering. Then if she’s not in my arms she starts crying.

The crying has gotten so bad that she started sweating and turning red and purple. That was because I decided to go to a doctors appointment (hour and a half total time gone) by myself. I walked in and she had tears my husband looked like he had just fought a war.

As soon as I take her crickets. She’s cooing and quiet.

I don’t know what to do. I’m losing my absolute mind with having a baby on me 24/7

Very long story rant short. My husband isn’t biological my oldest father. However he was there the moment I found, went to every appointment with me, was even there for the birth. Biological father didn’t want anything to do with her.

My husband ended up getting put on her birth certificate. That man is the only father she knows and that’s how me and my husband were wanting to keep it unless something else came about.

My MIL knows who the biological father is and knows his family well.
Well now that she’s growing she looks more like her father.
My daughter was being goofy and my mil goes “she’s really starting to look and act just like him (name drops)” she’s been making these comment so much and it honestly upsets my husband and I.

Yes we are aware of it, but we aren’t actively saying anything especially with her right in front of us. She’s at the age now that she asks why or repeats names.

We told MIL to stop the comments and if she’s going to say anything to wait until she’s not in the room. Her response was “well he’s (husband) isn’t the real dad and she needs to know.”

SHES 2! She doesn’t need to know anything until she’s a little older! But her comment stabbed my husband in the heart and now he’s questioning a lot.

We all knew what we were signing up for when he decided to be dad. My husband and I had multiple talks about it. He’s an amazing father with her. She’s a huge daddy’s girl. It breaks my heart to see him hurt because of the constant comment from my MIL.

**Update**
We did sit her down and talk to her. We are now making it an every night story for bed.

-Extra Background-
Where I was mostly upset were the comments my MIL was making towards my husband. It hurt me bad to see him so hurt because of the comments she made.
We have also had conversations about biological father and our daughter was present for that. When she was first born I did lay in bed telling her about her father, but I ultimately stopped it when my husband got put on the birth certificate.
The day that happened she was 3-4 months and we had a celebration party for it. The stories ended up turning into how me and my husband were best friends and he has always loved me and her. But again I stopped those when she was becoming more aware and I was just so tired from being pregnant with our second. Then life turned into being chaotic with having two babies.

So biological father has been mentioned, but never flat out said “hey this is this and that is that”

I’m never one to judge someone’s parenting, but Ive had it with her!!

My MIL has 3 kids. (24 M BIO, 13 F Adopted, and 8 M Adopted). My husband and I have been married for 2 years now but together for 3.

Ever since I met MIL you could tell she had a favorite child. That being her 8 year old son. He could do nothing wrong. Hell he’s been violent towards his sister and the 13 year old was the one to get into trouble.

So 13 year olds birthday is coming up and MIL decides she’s going to take a family vacation. She calls us and asks if we can watch the 13 year old because apparently she didn’t want to go. Okay yeah 9/10 I’m usually watching her anyways. Like MIL NEVER wants to be around her. The last time they ever did anything together was 2 years ago and that was simply her going to the store with her.

So we’re watching 13 year old and she makes the comment that she’s upset because she wanted to go with them, but that her mom made mean comments to her about her being fat and that MIL was going to be miserable if she went so that’s why we were asked to watch her.

Well we end up FaceTime because MIL wanted to talk to the grandbabies. Daughter gets on the phone trying to talk to her and MIL goes “Hi. I’m not talking to you nor do I want to.” Then you hear the 8 year old in the back making the rude comment about his sister “why is she saying hi. Doesn’t she know you don’t love her?” “She’s so ugly.”

I hung up the phone and the 13 year old is in tears crying. Also it’s her birthday. Not even a happy birthday or anything to her.

WHY ADOPT HER IF YOU ARENT GOING TO LOVE HER LIKE YOUR OWN!!

So now we’re taking her out to go have a fun day and making her favorite foods.

My heart is breaking and when MIL comes back I’m going to just ask to take custody of her. Hell she’s with me so much everyone thinks she’s mine anyways.

I’m never one to judge someone’s parenting, but Ive had it with her!!

My MIL has 3 kids. (24 M BIO, 13 F Adopted, and 8 M Adopted). My husband and I have been married for 2 years now but together for 3.

Ever since I met MIL you could tell she had a favorite child. That being her 8 year old son. He could do nothing wrong. Hell he’s been violent towards his sister and the 13 year old was the one to get into trouble.

So 13 year olds birthday is coming up and MIL decides she’s going to take a family vacation. She calls us and asks if we can watch the 13 year old because apparently she didn’t want to go. Okay yeah 9/10 I’m usually watching her anyways. Like MIL NEVER wants to be around her. The last time they ever did anything together was 2 years ago and that was simply her going to the store with her.

So we’re watching 13 year old and she makes the comment that she’s upset because she wanted to go with them, but that her mom made mean comments to her about her being fat and that MIL was going to be miserable if she went so that’s why we were asked to watch her.

Well we end up FaceTime because MIL wanted to talk to the grandbabies. Daughter gets on the phone trying to talk to her and MIL goes “Hi. I’m not talking to you nor do I want to.” Then you hear the 8 year old in the back making the rude comment about his sister “why is she saying hi. Doesn’t she know you don’t love her?” “She’s so ugly.”

I hung up the phone and the 13 year old is in tears crying. Also it’s her birthday. Not even a happy birthday or anything to her.

WHY ADOPT HER IF YOU ARENT GOING TO LOVE HER LIKE YOUR OWN!!

So now we’re taking her out to go have a fun day and making her favorite foods.

My heart is breaking and when MIL comes back I’m going to just ask to take custody of her. Hell she’s with me so much everyone thinks she’s mine anyways.

So long rant/vent short.. I got diagnosed with a chronic illness about 6 months ago and we’re still trying to adjust to life.

We took our two young kids out and the heat made me have a very bad flare up.

Later we were talking and I had made mention about the illness and the heat triggering it. He goes “the heat makes you flare up?” (I’ve told him before that it does). So that lead me to ask him if he had looked into it at all and if he even knew what I had gotten diagnosed with. He goes “Well I tried looking it up, but it was complicated and hurting my brain. So I stopped and wait for you to tell me things.” Okay. Ouch.

Lead me to tell him that it hurt me that he didn’t care to even just do a Google search on it. Which was apparently the wrong thing to say because once again he’s telling me now that his ADHD doesn’t allow him to think like a normal person. Which I agree it doesn’t which is why I try to work with him.

Now he’s mad because of me telling him I’m hurt and upset. He ended up telling me that we should just do a trail separation to see how it works. So now as he put it he does his own thing and I do my own thing.

I am now laying here with our kids bawling while he’s happy go lucky streaming and playing games.

My world once again feels like it’s crumbling and I know how our babies are going to handle it,.

My 6 month old is bruised and I don’t know how!

I only showered for 7 minutes. In 7 minutes my baby was left with her father she was red from crying so hard and bruised.

He said she had worked herself up to the point of choking herself so he ripped her out of the jumper so he could stop her from choking. Which she did have a huge hand print on her back from where he said he patted her.
As soon as I took her she finally stopped screaming and calmed down. She was shaking so bad and was beat red.

I asked him how hard did he grab her and he was honest and said probably pretty hard but her choking scared him because she apparently went quiet and limp.

Again it all happened in 7 minutes. Now baby showers with me and doesn’t leave my side. He came to me and told me he feels like crap because our baby is bruised. I’m just still trying to figure out how she got the bruises on the top of her shoulders (both sides).

**Just wanting to Rant**

I’ve been feeling extremely under the weather. I’m more tired. Extremely thirsty. Extremely hungry but throwing up everytime I eat. I’m dizzy and passing out.
For the past couple Of days I’ve been having a flare up, but today it is worse. I don’t know what to do

I’ve been told by my primary care doctor and my neurologist that I have POTS, but I still need the tilt table test to fully confirm it.

That being said I still don’t fully understand anything! I tried asking them what is it and what can I do to treat it. All I got told was drink more water, compression socks, and rest.

Well I drink a ton of water! I’ve tried the compression socks and they didn’t do anything. The resting is hard especially when I have two small children (1 and 6 months). I’m also exclusively breastfeeding so that also makes me drink 10X more water and electrolytes.
I’m taking care of two children, my husband’s sister with special needs, cooking, cleaning, and taking kids to and from doctors appointments. My symptoms have progressively gotten worse. I’ve tried talking to my doctors and I’m just told the same things or I’m told to wait for the cardiologist and they will explain more. I’m just so tired.

How do yall handle POTS?? I’m struggling and need some advice please.