u/smhthought

It's been almost 49 weeks since we stopped talking. There hasn't been a single conversation between us during that time—no texts, no calls, nothing. I had accepted that we'd probably never speak again and slowly learned to live with it.

Then, out of nowhere, she tagged me in the post.

The post is basically an apology. It says she's sorry for the things she said that she never should have, for the mistakes she made unknowingly, and for the pain she caused me. She says she isn't asking for everything to go back to the way it was. She just hopes that when I think of her, I don't feel hatred anymore—maybe just a small smile—and asks if I can forgive her one last time so both of us can move on with lighter hearts.

Honestly, I never expected something like this after almost a year of complete silence.

I'm not angry anymore, but seeing that notification brought back a lot of emotions I thought I had already dealt with. Part of me appreciates that she apologized because I never thought I'd get one. Another part of me keeps wondering... why now? Is this just guilt? Is she looking for closure? Did something happen in her life that made her think about the past? Or is this her way of trying to reopen communication without directly messaging me?

I don't want to assume anything, and I know none of you can read her mind either. I'm just trying to understand how others would interpret something like this.

If you were in my position, would you reply? Would you simply accept the apology and move on? Or would you leave it alone and keep the chapter closed?

This is an update to my previous post about my girl I used to talk to tagging me in an apology post after 49 weeks of no contact. A lot of people said it sounded like she was looking for closure, and honestly, I thought the same.

Well... things got a little weirder today.

She first deleted the tag/comment on that apology post around 9:00 PM. I figured that was the end of it and maybe she had changed her mind.

Then, around 9:45 PM, I got a DM from her saying:

"Bro... How do you not miss me?"

I haven't replied yet

Now I'm even more confused than I was earlier. If she wanted closure, why delete the apology and then message me that? If she didn't want to talk, why reach out at all? And if she did want to reconnect, why start with "Bro" and then ask such an emotional question?

For context, I still haven't contacted her once during these 49 weeks. Every interaction today the apology post, deleting it, and the DM was initiated by her.

I'm trying not to read too much into it, but I'd be lying if I said it didn't catch me off guard.

What would you make of this? Is this someone testing the waters, acting on impulse, or just having a moment of nostalgia? And if you were me, would you respond or leave it alone?

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It's been almost 49 weeks since we stopped talking. There hasn't been a single conversation between us during that time—no texts, no calls, nothing. I had accepted that we'd probably never speak again and slowly learned to live with it.

Then, out of nowhere, she tagged me in the post.

The post is basically an apology. It says she's sorry for the things she said that she never should have, for the mistakes she made unknowingly, and for the pain she caused me. She says she isn't asking for everything to go back to the way it was. She just hopes that when I think of her, I don't feel hatred anymore—maybe just a small smile—and asks if I can forgive her one last time so both of us can move on with lighter hearts.

Honestly, I never expected something like this after almost a year of complete silence.

I'm not angry anymore, but seeing that notification brought back a lot of emotions I thought I had already dealt with. Part of me appreciates that she apologized because I never thought I'd get one. Another part of me keeps wondering... why now? Is this just guilt? Is she looking for closure? Did something happen in her life that made her think about the past? Or is this her way of trying to reopen communication without directly messaging me?

I don't want to assume anything, and I know none of you can read her mind either. I'm just trying to understand how others would interpret something like this.

If you were in my position, would you reply? Would you simply accept the apology and move on? Or would you leave it alone and keep the chapter closed?