u/thatpilatesprincess

Hi wife, I’m sure husband told you what happened yesterday, but I wanted to reach out because this is now the second time husband has approached one of my friends outside the house and yelled and cussed at them about their car when they were there for less than 5min, weren’t blocking traffic or causing any obstruction.

The first time, my friend’s mom was dropping her off and they were talking in the car for a moment before she left. Husband approached their window yelling and cussing at them to move, even after my friend showed him her handicap placard saying she needed to be dropped off close to the house. She came inside crying, and her mom later said husband blocked the road and prevented her from leaving for several minutes.

I tried to address it calmly with him afterward, but he was aggressive with me as well and told me to have my friend come to his door next time so he could “talk to her.” The way he said this felt very confrontational, so I ended the conversation and said that if there is a young women outside our building, it is likely one of my friends, and if he could please be kind to them moving forward.

Yesterday, it happened again. Another friend was coming over to pick me up. She had been outside for exactly two minutes with her hazards on when husband approached her car yelling and cussing at her to move. She wasn’t blocking anything. When I came outside, she was crying, had rolled up her windows, and was clutching her mace because she felt unsafe. She’s now afraid to come back to my house.

I completely understand politely asking someone to move if they’re actually blocking something, but aggressively approaching women sitting alone in their cars like this is not okay. I’m sure you can understand how frightening it can be as a woman to have an unknown large man (he is a tall bodybuilder) come up to you an aggressive manner.
After how husband reacted when I tried to address it the first time, I don’t feel comfortable speaking to him about this again.

I really want us all to be able to live next to each other peacefully, so I’m asking that husband please leave my guests alone unless there is a genuine issue, and if there ever is one, that it be addressed calmly and respectfully.