u/throwaways383

I decided to give a chance to a friend’s friend. We met in our friend’s birthday and she’s the wife of one of his closest friends. We were both marriage testimonies in their wedding and we started getting closer after 1 year because he confessed to our friends that he liked me.

It never crossed my mind that his goal was to drag me into a casual relationship until I got to know that he never had a long-term relationship at almost 40, would text me minimally, superficial conversations, being emotionally lazy and low effort. I’m much younger than him and virgin, he started losing interest because I don’t want to have sex until our relationship becomes official. I ended things with him because I feel he lead me on and disrespected me because he made it seem that he wanted a monogamic and committed relationship in the beginning.

Now things are weird between us and our friends were excited about us and thought we looked good together because like me, they assumed he wanted something serious. Is this something common to do? Did I miss out something?

I was played by a guy who just tried to manipulate me into trying to have casual sex, gave me fake hopes, acted cold and disrespectful, was never serious about me and lied in my face. The worst thing is that I gave him a second chance. I went back to his city to see him just for him to leave the country and discard me. He promised he would visit me in my hometown but he never did. I wanted to talk about something to him because I was confused and he never did!! I feel so disrespected and ignored. I feel like I was abandoned. Now he’s in the country of another woman that I’m sure he prefers over me. She was always the first option but I was too blind to see.

I feel disgusted of myself. I feel like a dumb and low value woman. I don’t even have self esteem to properly date again because my future man would be so embarrassed of this. How my future children would feel about their mom if they know she was discarded and rejected this way? This is so pathetic and humiliating.

I’m limerent to a guy I met last year. We kissed and cuddled and I got so attached to him because I thought he was beautiful and caring, it’s important to mention I had recently left an abusive relationship when I met him. It was the most magical and romantic moments of my life until I got to know how evil he is. I used to daydream a lot about him and even write unsent love letters.

He tried to manipulate me into sex, lied that he loved me and wanted to marry me, didn’t keep his promises (he promised to visit me in my hometown and never did), made me look like a fool in front of my friends, treated me like an object and wouldn’t message me for months after kissing me and trying to have sex. The worst part is that I gave him a second chance and the result was him discarding me and choosing a woman he always spoke badly about. He emotionally neglected me in a way that no one ever did, it’s scary.

Yesterday I saw that he moved to the country of that woman he used to lie he was never interested because she’s his best friend’s girlfriend, is dirty and crazy. Everything was a lie. All his promises. All his loving words. He’s after a woman who made oral sex in his married best friend in a bar’s bathroom while drunk and who cheated on her boyfriend. I deserve better but I still can’t stop thinking about him and what he did to me. He left me without saying a goodbye.

I’m a 26 years old woman and I left an abusive relationship in December 2024. Since then, my love life has been a completely disaster. I’m not the kind of person who becomes attracted to men easily, if I’m single, I tend to become interested in 1 man once a year but when I’m interested, I really get obsessed with this person. My ex stalked and blackmailed me for a whole year and said every guy would just try to use me for sex and he’s the only guy who can love me genuinely. Now I start thinking this is true.

Basically, I fell in love with someone in May 2025 who just played with my feelings, tried to manipulate me for sex, didn’t keep his promises and in the end, discarded me and chose a woman who according to him wasn’t good. Alright, it was 1 year of suffering and I just couldn’t feel attraction or trust someone again. I only had eyes for this guy. I ended up giving him a second chance because I was so blindly in love just to make a fool out of me again. I tried to talk and date other men through the year but nothing worked out.

Regarding my career, I was relatively happy with my job in the summer of 2025 until the company forcefully transferred me to a call center kind of job which was horrible for my mental health. I hate picking phone calls and I decided to quit it. I’m unemployed since March and I can’t find a job because my city doesn’t have good job opportunities but I can’t leave until I get my driving license. I applied to get my driving license and I failed the theory exam last month.

In friendships, I have some good friends but my best friend forgot about my birthday and doesn’t feel like to make plans with me because she’s constantly going on dates with different men everyday and doesn’t care to listen to me. My health is not good too. I have a lot of tension in my body and I suffer with headaches.

The man I loved couldn’t care less about me and chose another woman, unemployed, health is not great, no car, no husband and I tend to feel lonely. I’m still looking for a job, I muted the man who broke my heart and I will retake my exam this month, just wanted to vent.

I was in love with someone I met during my vacations last year. He never reciprocated my feelings and tried to use me for sex, we never had sex but I got attached with making out. He was constantly hooking up with new women while I was waiting for him. The last time we saw each other was in May and he promised we would visit me in my hometown. He only stays in my country in the summer for work and he never kept his promise. It’s been 10 weeks since we don’t text each other, his last text was “see you soon” but it never happened. All he did was liking every story and posts. He’s probably leaving forever.

Some days ago, he posted a story on Instagram saying “the regret of not meeting him one last time” I don’t know if it was for me but if it was, it was to just play with my feelings and make me feel like a fool. He always had the habit of not texting but post indirect stuff for me on his social media.

I just saw he’s in a specific country where a girl he used to hook up is from. I know he’s visiting her and her friends because they’re more sexually open than me. He just wanted sex from me and I was in love with him more than a year. It hurts that they’re more important and interesting than me because I know they don’t love him.

I know there’s nothing I can do besides of moving on. I tried to date a new person last month but his communication decreased too which is not helping. I’m feeling so sad and replaceable. I know it’s not about my worth and it’s better to stay loyal to my values and morals than giving my body to a lustful guy but it still hurts. I won’t see him again because he’s leaving my country permanently and I feel a knot in my throat.

I’ve been going on dates with someone 11 years older for 1 month. We went on 6 dates and this last one I stayed in his place and we were intimate for 4
hours (grinding and kissing because I never did PIV sex). I did my best to make him cum without penetration and he even fell asleep in my arms which I thought it was a sign of emotional connection. It would be our last date until he comes back from his home country because he’s going to stay there the next 3 weeks.

When I came back home, he just texted me asking if I reached home and react with a kiss emoji to my reply. No good night message. No good morning message. No see you soon message. He just texts me the next day saying he landed because I asked him to and again, he reacts with a heart emoji. Today no messages too.

I thought it’s cold from his side to do this and I was expecting more communication after being intimate and flying to another continent, especially because he knows I’m a virgin and we aren’t even official. I feel used and ignored. I’m 26 and he’s 37. We belong to the same friend group and I feel so ashamed and embarrassed of this situation. He literally came on my ass and is acting like nothing happened. I feel like to stop seeing him. Besides of this situation, things are going so slow and he just texts me every other day and his dating history is only short-term relationships that lead nowhere because it “had no future.”

I’ve been going on dates with someone 11 years older for 1 month. We went on 6 dates and this last one I stayed in his place and we were intimate for 4
hours (grinding and kissing because I never did PIV sex). I did my best to make him cum without penetration and he even fell asleep in my arms which I thought it was a sign of emotional connection. It would be our last date until he comes back from his home country because he’s going to stay there the next 3 weeks.

When I came back home, he just texted me asking if I reached home and react with a kiss emoji to my reply. No good night message. No good morning message. No see you soon message. He just texts me the next day saying he landed because I asked him to and again, he reacts with a heart emoji. Today no messages too.

I thought it’s cold from his side to do this and I was expecting more communication after being intimate and flying to another continent, especially because he knows I’m a virgin and we aren’t even official. I feel used and ignored. I’m 26 and he’s 37. We belong to the same friend group and I feel so ashamed and embarrassed of this situation. He literally came on my ass and is acting like nothing happened. I feel like to stop seeing him. Besides of this situation, things are going so slow and he just texts me every other day and his dating history is only short-term relationships that lead nowhere because it “had no future.”

I’ve been going on dates with someone 11 years older for 1 month. We went on 6 dates and this last one I stayed in his place and we were intimate for 4
hours (grinding and kissing because I never did PIV sex). I did my best to make him cum without penetration and he even fell asleep in my arms which I thought it was a sign of emotional connection. It would be our last date until he comes back from his home country because he’s going to stay there the next 3 weeks.

When I came back home, he just texted me asking if I reached home and react with a kiss emoji to my reply. No good night message. No good morning message. No see you soon message. He just texts me the next day saying he landed because I asked him to and again, he reacts with a heart emoji. Today no messages too.

I thought it’s cold from his side to do this and I was expecting more communication after being intimate and flying to another continent, especially because he knows I’m a virgin and we aren’t even official. I feel used and ignored. I’m 26 and he’s 37. We belong to the same friend group and I feel so ashamed and embarrassed of this situation. He literally came on my ass and is acting like nothing happened. I feel like to stop seeing him. Besides of this situation, things are going so slow and he just texts me every other day and his dating history is only short-term relationships that lead nowhere because it “had no future.”

I’m feeling extremely sad because I recently moved on from a huge heartbreak where a guy played with my feelings and lied about his intentions. It took me around a year to be able to forget it and heal myself. I met this guy in a party so I thought it was such a bad idea to give him a chance because most guys just want hook ups in that kind of environments so I decided I’d look for a potential partner through friends, family or work.

Recently I started dating someone else. I met him through mutual friends. Since we belong to the same social circle I never thought his intentions were just sex. We already met each other 6 times but I noticed things are going so slow. He never asks about intentions, desires, marriage and kids. We hug and kiss but he’s not romantic as well. He only texts me every other day to ask how my day was or to plan another date and his communication is decreasing. Now he’s going to his home country for 3 weeks, I don’t know how it will be if he keeps communicating so less. He promised to buy me a dress which makes me happy but I’d like someone who would like something serious with me. Another thing that scared me was when I asked about his dating history and he told me his relationships never lasted 1 year, it was only short-term relationships because he wasn’t ready for commitment until 30 and never met anyone he saw a future with.

I was having high expectations about this guy because my friend told me so many good things about him. I thought he was a serious guy but it seems I’m just time pass for him. For example, yesterday we made out, he just asked if I reached at home and that’s it. Today he’s leaving to his country and no message. I just wanted to vent my frustration. I’m so sad and disappointed, especially because it takes me so much time and effort to move on from people and find someone else I’m attracted to think about a relationship.

I’m currently dating someone who’s 11 years older than me and he’s from Brazil. He’s a friend of my friends and we met each other in their wedding but only started seeing each other romantically in the beginning of the month.

I’m so confused. The other boys I dated were of around my age and we were constantly texting each other and sometimes phone calls. This one man texts me every other day to ask how I’m doing or to plan another date. He never tries to start any conversation through text, which can be good so we have more to talk about in person but I wonder if this is lack of interest in getting to know me.

Sometimes he invites me to restaurants and bars but he also invites me to his house in order of trying to get intimate. Which is normal but I thought I should mention it here. Sometimes I ask myself if he’s interested in a serious relationship with me or we’re just casual with no future because things are going so slow. He never asks directly what I want regarding relationships, marriage and kids unlike my previous dates. We’ve been together 6 times this month and I don’t know where I stand.

I asked about his dating history and I got to know he only had short-term relationships that lasted only some months. I asked him the reason, he said he wasn’t ready for dating until he was 30 and didn’t meet someone he could see a future yet. This scared me a little bit because he’s almost 40 now but maybe he’s just unlucky.

Now he’s going back to Brazil on vacations for 3 weeks and he’s going to gift me a dress from there. This is a good sign but I’m still anxious about his intentions and scared of asking him directly because it might be too early and I don’t want to pressure him.

My previous partners were so intense and communicative. I know there’s this big age gap and maybe people in their late 30’s don’t enjoy texting and sending reels on social media that much. Maybe this is healthier but I feel like I’m in the dark because I don’t know if things are going well or bad.

When we’re looking for a serious relationship, is it correct to see multiple people and sleep with them?

Would you want a serious relationship with a woman or man you’re seeing that is sleeping with other people at the same time as you? When someone is making efforts to impress you and plan dates, is it correct or a sign of disloyalty? Or is it better to only get intimate with the one you’re more interested or even wait until you get exclusive?

Imagine this person already had sex with around 7/8 people from dating apps this summer, would you still invest to have a serious relationship with them or it’s totally a red flag to you? Interested to hear your opinions.

Hi everyone. I hope all of you are doing well. I’m a 26 years old woman and I’m quite unlucky when it comes to my love life. I want to share something very personal and look for some advice or people who feel the same way as me. If someone wants to chat about this, feel free to PM me.

I guess I have anxious attachment and I started dating someone new recently. I became like this because of my dating history. I ended an abusive relationship 2 years ago and after that, I met someone very emotionally avoidant, bad communicator (would go months without speaking) and I got to know through mutual friends that he was pretending he was interested and trying to use me for sex. These were very traumatising experiences because I was a naive girl and I only had good intentions in my heart for both of them. The last one was very humiliating because I used to say good things about him to my friends and I was deeply in love with him.

Now I have trust issues because I’m always scared they’re faking their feelings just to get access to my body or they will leave me after making out. If my romantic interest doesn’t like or watch my Instagram story, I start overthinking. I’m always afraid their feelings will change suddenly or that they never had good intentions since the beginning.

I really want to love someone and be loved. I want marriage and build a family. How can I stop being so anxious and worried if they like me or not? I’m still a virgin so I’m very careful to whom I trust with my body but I like kissing to check physical chemistry and I feel sad if they don’t continue with me or were never serious about me.

The current person I’m dating is 11 years older than me. He’s an amazing guy. He’s very kind, sweet and patient with me, takes me to nice places and he’s going to gift me a really nice dress which makes me feel so special. However, he doesn’t text me everyday and it makes me anxious. I don’t want to spoil it because I like him a lot.

Hi everyone. I hope you’re coping well and I send a virtual hug to everyone who’s heartbroken right now. I thought I was moving on but today I posted a story on Instagram and he didn’t watch it yet. He posted a story after long time and I used a third party website to see it. My heart started pounding so fast when I saw he posted something after a long time. I know it’s pathetic but how can I control the way I feel?

I don’t feel ready to block him. I just silenced his profile. Its been a year and few months that I feel this way about this person. I’m not looking for any kind of advice, I just wanted to express my sadness somewhere, free of judgment.

What hurts the most is that he promised he was going to visit me this summer. Summer is almost gone and he doesn’t text me for 9 weeks. Am I that unimportant? I feel so insignificant and I think about this person everyday for more than a year. I wish I didn’t care.

I’m a 26yo woman and I was raised in a more conservative environment and I dated mostly South Asian guys. I’m still a virgin and I don’t have that much dating experience. I’m not religious or anything, it’s just the way I am, I’m more in the shy and quiet side.

I started dating a 37yo from Brazil recently. He’s a good friend of my friend’s husband and we met each other in their wedding. He confessed to my friend’s husband that he liked me and asked him if I was single. In the beginning, he was shy to approach me (probably fear of getting rejected). Few weeks ago, he invited me to his birthday party and got drunk and kissed me.

I want a serious relationship which could lead to marriage. I was seeing someone of my age before but this person was so inconsistent and lied about his intentions so I was hoping that dating a 11 years older man would be better. I’m confused because he’s very different of the men I dated previously. He’s very sweet and asked me what I was looking for in a relationship but there’s some signs that I’d consider he’s not that serious about me:

• He tried to have sex in our first meeting. He invites me to his house expecting sex and doesn’t talk much to me, it’s mostly making out. However, when he invites me to daytime dates, we talk to each other, including past relationships and family.

• He doesn’t text me much. He only messages once a day to ask about my day or to plan another date and sometimes no message for 1 day.

• His texting decreased this week but we started seeing each other in person more. Now we see each other twice a week instead of only once so I don’t know if it’s a bad sign.

• Last time we saw each other, he tried to have sex without protection. Isn’t he afraid of STD’s or pregnancy?

I’m a bit confused and I’d like some advice. I asked my Brazilian friend for advice and she said having sex in the first date is totally normal in Brazilian culture.

I’m 26 years old and I’ve been single for almost 2 years. After 5 months of my break up (an abusive relationship) I fell in love with someone else. Unfortunately, it was someone very inconsistent and wasn’t taking me seriously. He would go months without sending a single message, bread-crumbing, flirting and hooking up with other women and not caring about me in general. This situation was making me anxious and affected my self-esteem.

It was difficult to move on because I can’t click with someone that easily and I’m not a fan of dating around. I tried to talk to other men but I couldn’t forget this one guy. I was sad and losing hope that I wasn’t going to find my person.
After 1 year, I finally met someone special through mutual friends. He’s kind and very consistent. We aren’t official yet but it feels like heaven. Finally I’m dating someone seriously, talking almost everyday, having deep conversations and going on dates.

I’m writing this to everyone who’s going through a similar situation of being in love with someone who doesn’t love them back. Someone else is waiting for you. You deserve to be respected and appreciated. I’m feeling so happy that I left that situation and found someone better. This new guy really wants to get to know me, takes things slowly, respects me and wants to spend time with me.

I was talking to someone for 10-12 days in a row for many hours, we had really good conversations and connected to each other so well because we had so many common interests and goals. I was enjoying a lot until he had to take a trip. While he was there, I could understand he was busy and couldn’t chat and he apologised for the inconsistency.

After he came back, he would only send me 1 or 2 messages a day for a whole week. He would barely come online. I decided to walk away and I didn’t reply his last message for 2 days. I noticed when I stopped replying, he started coming online often like before. He never reached out to me again. He watches my social media stories and that’s it. He never asked if I was doing well or anything. I decided that I won’t speak to him anymore.

Was he avoiding me? How come he was so interested and saying he never felt a connection like this and loved every minute with me to act so indifferent after? He even wanted to plan a trip with me and promised he would be consistent with me. I just can’t understand what happened. Should I remove him from my socials since probably we will never text again after intense and long talks?

I met this boy last year and we had a lot of misunderstandings because I heard from others he didn’t have genuine feelings for me and just wanted sex from me.

I feel confused because he has more options but he tried for almost an year to reconnect with me, always reacts to my posts, cooks for me, gives me kisses, small gifts, cuddles with me and wants to travel 7 hours to see me even though I rejected his sexual advances many times and he knows I’m a virgin.

He always makes time for me even if he barely sleeps just to spend time with me. He says he thinks I’d be a good wife but he can’t make me promises because he’s moving to another country. Last time we met, he came to the station to tell me goodbye and kissed my forehead. I’m okay if he doesn’t want anything serious but is all this fake? Sometimes I feel he has some feelings for me (not enough to commit to me but they still exist) and other part of me tells me he just wants access to my body but he seems so consistent compared to other f#ckboys and he’s a good looking guy.