u/ukiyo98

Curious for those who are 1V and have interacted closely with 4V and vice versa. What are your ideas and impressions? Theory-based ideas also welcome.

I used to travel twice a year as a kid and I remember how comfortable and pleasant transcontinental (and even regional) flights were. The flight attendants would give you some hard candies, you'd always get fed and have a selection of drinks to choose from, I'd get some toys and coloring books (because I was a kid). We flew economy for the most part, but I think the positive impression was omnipresent regardless of the class we were in.

Then from 2015 to 2022 I didn't fly at all. Once I started flying again I noticed that the process was just plain shitty. Paying for selecting a seat (I was mind boggled when I saw that for the first time, like I never thought that could've even been an option), no food or drinks at all or you have to pay extra for it, you have to pay if your bag isn't some random size down to the millimeter, constantly pay, pay, pay. It's not just the shitty lowcost airlines that are like that, though I hate them the most (they're not even a low cost), even Lufthansa makes you pay for seat selection now, and they're a flag carrier!

I don't know if it's a regional thing (I lived in the US as a kid and now I live in Europe), if airlines always sucked and I enjoyed them just because I was a kid, post-COVID complications, or the fact that once lowcosters entered the market every airline realized that people were willing to pay for horrific conditions and service and years later the price and quality difference between Ryanair and Delta isn't that big anymore. They're both expensive and low quality.

It deters me from air travel altogether but unfortunately no way to reach the US from Europe otherwise. Booking air tickets now feels so... disgusting? I'm paying hundreds of dollars for a service but I feel like I'm haggling at a market with some cheapskate.

I've been on this planet for two and a half decades and for the entire duration of that I think I drank maybe one glass of water per week on average. I come from a country where drinking tea is a big part of the culture but I very rarely drank plain water. Last week my doctor asked me if I was drinking enough water and I asked how much that would be, she said two liters daily....

I'm trying to do that now but I'm struggling because it's just so new to me. I don't like the taste of water but I do have to say I feel more energized. Wild that I just learned about this though.

I've been wearing Converse and Doc Martens my entire life, but I feel I'm not doing my future self any favors with that. Are there any shoes that look similar (an alternative style), and preferrably with a thicker sole? I've been wearing ONLY platform shoes for like 10 years now and I think I would have a hard time switching to a thin sole immediately

I'm studying abroad AND in an LDR and this made me despite absolutely everything about traveling. When I was younger it was nice to take a trip somewhere, listen to cool music and go sightseeing. I never went too far from my home city so it was a nice way to leave the comfort zone but not yeet yourself out of it. Also I traveled maybe once or twice a year.

Now though, I travel every couple of months to see my partner and family and friends and while it's usually not that long of a journey I just fucking hate everything about it. I'm a 'routines' person, I absolutely abhor being snatched out of my everyday life, which is solitary and some might say even boring, but I like it.

Navigating logistics, disgustingly trashy airlines (at one point ryanair dumped the prices so low it drove out competition and now the only direct flight that exists is a 100 eur 'lowcost' ryanair flight), packing, getting used to the change of environment, not being able to eat and sleep whenever you want, just really really sucks. I'm waiting for graduation and to start working just so that I literally HAVE to stay in one place nearly all year. Traveled enough for years ahead to be honest.

I just booked a flight back home and I feel mostly dread of the journey. I'm glad to see my loved ones, but that's a feeling I'm going to have once I'm done with the journey. I'm looking at the calendar with anxiety as I see the date approach.

I'm writing my master thesis and a friend of mine who already finished hers has half-page long acknowledgements section where she very eloquently and warmly expresses gratitude to her supervisors and loved ones. I'm thinking whether I should do the same? I think the worst part of this would be if I don't do a good job and then I would feel pretty cringe about it

TW: sexual topics mentioned

I'm definitely more attracted to women than men, but every relationship I've had with a woman ended in heartbreak, usually going in the same scenario of those women saying 'actually I want to date a man' which, okay valid, I'm from a pretty conservative area so I get it but it was the same for both my first relationship when I was 14 to a girl I was seeing at my (very liberal) college, and nearly everything inbetween. At one point I just gave up but that doesn't stop the attraction.

I've been in a two year relationship with a man and he's a great person: very open, communicates healthily, has the same life goals as me, and we're both partners and best friends to each other. If he was a woman we would've probably gotten married at this point honestly. But the thing that really irks me is how the gender games are inescapable in this relationship. Even though my partner is well-educated on women's issues and speaks out against misogyny in his circles, it's impossible to not let aspects of the patriarchy influence your relationship when society is fundamentally patriarchic.

We're childfree and using multiple BCs but that doesn't stop my body from having an inherent reproductive function, and if anything it's my body, career, and life that are on the line. This puts me in a constant state of anxiety and I can never fully enjoy sex. There's the stupid gender division at parties when guys and girls mingle with each other, there's the straight people discussions with relatives and acquaintances that try to impose conservative marriage and family values onto me and my relationship and it makes me feel so alienated from my own life.