u/24-7_sylviaplath

idk if it’s bpd or my old trauma but i feel like i age regress and i’m not exactly happy about it. i just wanna be a baby so no one gets mad at me or be mean to me. sometimes i act like one around my bf too. when i’m sad i cry and become stubborn like a baby. i often eat baby food and baby vitamins and use utensils for kids. i watch bluey and stuff for kids cause it calms me down.

i really don’t like this but i’m not sure what the core reason is. is this a common thing among people with bpd? if you’ve been this way before why do you think it happens and how did you fix it?

I’m an exchange student and I’ve been looking for places that offer short term rentals forever. I can’t live in uni dorm since I’ll be staying with my bf who’s not a UKY student. My moving date is around late July/early August. I will take any place under 1000 total monthly fee. Pls can someone help me find a place I’m about to be homeless😭

tldr: My bf’s son told people he was being abused, his mom has been taken away and now they’re investigating my bf. He is not being abused, but they believe so because of a messy house. It’s been 2 weeks of DHS after 1.5 months of CPS. What could be the possible issue?

Sorry if this is all over the place. I’m just really worried what’s gonna happen now. Also we’re currently doing long distance and I didn’t wanna stress him out even more so there are some details that I’m not sure of.

So my bf has a child from his previous relationship. He’s 8 years old and mostly stays with my bf. 2 months ago he told the school that his mom abuses him and asked if they could arrest her. (she has two more children from different relationships. I have never met the mom so i have no idea how she keeps her children, but I know the fact that she was an opioid addict, she’s done drugs when she had her children, and wasn’t allowed to see them for a while because of ongoing drug issues.) CPS was called and opened a case about her. They visited both houses and took the mom away from the child after a few weeks and multiple visits.

During the visits, they noticed that my bf’s house is messy and started to make it a big issue. Yes the house is messy, but it’s just random stuff all over the place. There is no food waste, dirt, trash, animal waste etc that you would see in a hoarder’s house. It is messy but not unsanitary. My bf lives with two sick elderly family members who cannot get up and clean. He works 12+ hours a day including the weekends so he can pay rent and bills and take care of everyone. The child’s room is clean. He has access to enough food, has clean clothes, and most importantly is loved and cared for.

Shortly after the mom was taken away, the child told people that my bf “makes him wanna die” because he told him to tidy his room. This is NOT true. My bf is afraid to even slightly raise his voice at him since last time the mom did that to him he told people he was being abused. CPS workers believed that my bf is abusing him. He did multiple clean outs ever since this whole thing has started, so the initial problem(a messy house) is gone. But they kept visiting his house and questioned him for hours almost every day for like a month.

While all this has been going on, the child keeps misbehaving in school and the school keeps calling my bf in. Apparently he fell asleep in class one day, and the other day the teacher told him to focus on his work and he called her “rude”. I don’t understand but the school thinks it’s some kind of evidence that my bf is abusing him.

Now DHS has been called and been questioning my bf. Cops are escorting him in and out of the house. He told me he’s on the verge of getting charged. WITH WHAT?? I’m so frustrated because they won’t listen to him at all and try so hard to catch one bad thing to make it a huge issue. We were planning to move to a close state in July and live there for a short while. This cannot be cancelled.

I understand that teachers are mandatory reporters and they’re responsible for protecting children. But can’t CPS/DHS workers separate exaggerated or false claims from real abuse cases? This has been going on for 2 whole months and doesn’t seem to stop. My bf does everything for that child and is still getting framed as an abuser. He’s having serious GI issues and been puking blood daily due to extreme stress it’s causing. I’m worried to death. He gets questioned for hours every day with DHS and cops present and has to work 12 hours afterwards. This seems very unfair. What do we do?