▲ 4 r/ITunes

Do you own your iTunes Media purchases?

Before things went digital, you would buy a physical copy of music or videos. And you would own that copy, and if you wanted to, you could sell it to somebody else. People still sell cassettes and CDs and video tapes. But you can't sell your digital purchases? When you die, can you leave your media library to somebody in your will? Can they transfer it into their account or their name? Or do you just unofficially give them your password and username an account security info and hope they never get locked out?

Has this been discussed or challenged legally?

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u/AGuyInSoCal — 10 days ago

All these years

The movie ain’t till her wedding day
Shots rang out the police came
Marmalade mayhem on the front lawn
I prayed for Jackie’s strength

This is how I heard this song all these years. Can you imagine the scenery in my head? A chaotic scene of gunshots and marmalade smashed and splattered all over the lawn, people running around in mayhem and a little girl on her knees praying for her aunt Jackie’s the strength to get through this day. Was all the chaos because the bridesmaid was getting laid? By the groom?

Tori’s lyrics are already pretty abstract and the way I hear them are even more abstract. I was like that when I was a kid, the lyrics on songs usually didn’t mean much to me I didn’t understand them and I didn’t hear them and I was kind of nonverbal so I just went with the feeling of this song and the few lyrics I did understand just painted this abstract picture. But it was kind of amazing and I miss being that way. I was so hard on myself for being like that.

There was this one place on top of a hill overlooking a beachside city at night. I would go out there and all I would see were these big swirly yellow balls of lights against a black swirly backdrop. And it was breathtaking like a real life van Gogh starry night . And then I got glasses for the first time in my life, and I went back out there and seeing what everything really was… They were just street lights. And the effect of the humidity I guess was, swirling the lights. Well, now, I am realizing what some of these lyrics really are and I don’t wanna. I prefer the starry night perspective of Tori’s music, and the world.

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u/AGuyInSoCal — 14 days ago
▲ 1 r/CUTI

Recurrent UTI for years

I have been having problems for years at least since 2020. I started having symptoms, but I didn’t realize it was a UTI. I had a stricture in 2022 where I was hospitalized for a few days, and the urologist a balloon in my urethra to open it back up. in 2023 they diagnosed me with a bacteria called morganella. All of 2024 I have had strange smelling pungent urine, and frequent urination. An early 2025 they did an actual culture and found the bacteria Morganella again and they found that it was highly resistant, but sensitive to Levaquin. They put me on that after several days of Iv antibiotics in the hospital. Two months ago I had an extreme pain and a fever and I went to the hospital. They found a 10x6 mm uretal stone lodged between my kidney and my bladder. They put on a stent and they did another culture and found that now the Morganella is only sensitive to. zosyn and one other I’ve antibiotic I forgot its name. But these are very strong antibiotics. I went on zosyn for a month, And returned for them to remove the uretal stone Which I was hoping is what was causing the recurrent infections. For a couple weeks, I was doing relieved. But then a days ago I have been getting an urgency to pee, and Then I noticed that same pungent strong smell has returned, and it is getting more strong every day and just now it started burning when I pee.

I am tired of this. The bacteria is becoming more and more resistant. I feel like I’m going to die at this rate. And I don’t have the to keep returning room. They are very abusive in the hospital.

I and he told me to get a urine sample and I know that that’s gonna take a while and my symptoms are getting pretty serious. My primary physician will order me I’ve antibiotics if I want to, but I don’t want to be taking them irresponsibly. What should I do? I want us to be over. I don’t want repeated infections. I want to be free of this.

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u/AGuyInSoCal — 25 days ago
▲ 9 r/kfc

Do all KFC chains source, their food from the same place?

I have been to a few different KFC’s and a few different cities and I have noticed small differences in their food and I thought it was just the way that they handle it. Like one place the chicken would be juicy and fresh and crunchy and another place The chicken would be dry and the seasoning wouldn’t stand out. But what really stood out to me was that I got a pot pie the other day and it was so good that when I came to a new city, I ordered a pot pie again from a different KFC, but this time the pot pie was smaller and had less filling and it didn’t stand out like the first the crust tasted different as well.

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u/AGuyInSoCal — 1 month ago

Kitchen rant

this is a little bit of a rant. I have been looking for an apartment and all of the apartments have kitchens like this and it doesn’t make sense. Why would they do this? I am in a andso this little breakfast nook makes the entire kitchen Inaccessible to me. And the fact that nobody even uses that breakfast nook, why would they close off the entrance of the kitchen with that? They could easily move the sink over one tile and open up the kitchen and not only does that make it more accessible, but it makes it more open and lessclaustrophobic. Am I the only one who thinks so? From the design point of view, do people actually like this would you have your kitchen this way or would you remodel it?

u/AGuyInSoCal — 1 month ago

Everyone should opt out of arbitration agreement.

when you accept DoorDash’s terms of use, you are agreeing to resolve disputes through arbitration rather than a jury trial. By doing this, you are not able to file a class action suit with other customers and you will not have a jury who will likely sympathize for you over a large company and reward you higher damages.

Most people don’t realize this, but you can opt out of this arbitration agreement within 30 days of signing up for DoorDash. This 30 day window resets whenever they update their terms and agreements and you logon and get a notice of such update.

I had no idea about this so I want to make everyone else aware of this and everyone else should opt out when they can because I have suffered extensive damages as I’m sure many other customers have and I would like to see a class action lawsuit against doordash. Don’t you? This is why we haven’t seen one yet. So please keep this in mind next time you get a message that the policies have been updated.

u/AGuyInSoCal — 2 months ago
▲ 6 r/Curry

Please give me a good yellow curry recipe

There used to be a Chinese restaurant next to me and the owners were from China and they were I think classically trained or they mentioned that they were kind of a big deal in China. Anyway, their food was amazing and flavorful and nothing like anything I’ve ever had in any other Chinese restaurant. The restaurant was called. Chinez, in Irvine CA by the way so if they are reading this or if anybody knows them, please get me in touch with them or let me know where they went. They should remember me. I was one of their biggest customers.

Anyway, they made this really good yellow seafood curry. And all the flavors were right, and I can’t find anything comparable anywhere. The Thai Curry’s are too sweet and have too much coconut flavor and not enough actual curry Flavor. The Chinese curries restaurantsare very salty and More Brown and they don’t come anywhere near this. They made a seafood curry, using fish fillet, , scallops, shrimp, and squid. The Curry itself had lots of onions and I believe some carrots too. I don’t remember if they were potatoes but It’s not something I remember. But the curry itself was incredible. I could taste the turmeric and the curry flavors and it was a very bright, yellow vibrant, curry brighter than a yellow crayon. It was very rich and creamy without that coconut flavor you got from Thai curry am sure there was some sweetness in it to balance it out, but it was not overly sweet. It was more savory and creamy.

If anyone knows a recipe that might match this, can you please share it with me? I haven’t had this food in over 20 years and I am still thinking about it. I have dying at dozens and dozens of restaurants across the West Coast and I have not found anywhere that does food as good as this.

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u/AGuyInSoCal — 2 months ago

Can I buy a 55+ senior condo and live in it?

I am 41 years old. I’ve been severely disabled my whole life. I’ve never had stable housing and I’ve reached a crisis point. The only affordable housing in my area(southern ca) is beautiful senior condos. I would be very comfortable in. I want to buy one. And I want it to be my forever home. I will eventually grow old and become 55 in just 10 more years but if I don’t get into stable Housing now I might not make it to 55.

So I was wondering, I know I can’t live there myself but what if I had my mom who is 76 buy the condo and list me as a cohabitant as a disabled adult dependent. I know it’s allowed, but my mom wouldn’t actually live with there. she can make appearances. Would they find out? Are they very vigilant in keeping track of stuff like this? Will they start questioning if they don’t see my mother around?

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u/AGuyInSoCal — 2 months ago

Amazon asking for ID when you submit a refund request

If Amazon wants your ID, it would make sense for them to ask you to verify your identity when you create your account. If this is something they only want to impose on suspicious users then it would make sense that they would ask you to verify your identity before you can make any future purchases.

But when they ask you for your ID before they will refund you on an order you’ve made a refund request on, isn’t that kind of extorting you for your Personal information by holding your funds hostage?

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u/AGuyInSoCal — 2 months ago

Amazon won’t refund a bad order

I used my California EBT to purchase nutritional shakes off of Amazon and shipped to busted and leaking out of the box. Amazon won’t give me a refund. Although I have a long established good account history with them, with very few returns., they gave me some notice about unusual account activity and I’m welcome to keep continuing making purchases, but they won’t refund me. this only happened after I initiated an issue with this item.

This was my EBT funds and I use them for nutritional shakes throughout the month. Can I issue a charge back or is there a place I can complain? Or is Amazon just allowed to do this?

u/AGuyInSoCal — 2 months ago

I know you've read this before but

I have a pretty good established account history with amazon with just a few hiccups along the way but of recent orders the only refunds ive made was when I was shopping for a laptop bag I ordered 3 bags and returned 2 in perfect condition. recently a bought a small $50 item that didnt assemble correctly and returned it in the condition I got it.

I ordered some nutritional shakes today and they arrived leaking out of the box. they were busted. which I dont understand how because they are in pretty sturdy packaging. but none the less, amazon wouldn't even let me connect to an agent it the ai chat just said that they had sent me an email which asked me to send them my ID due to suspicious activity.

I eventually got through customer service and there was nothing they could do they couldn't even escalate it or connect me to the people who locked my account. but I dont think my activity was suspicious and I wont send my ID. If they think my activity is fraudulent, they can cancel my account. I don't understand what good it does for them to have my ID. Can someone explain that to me? No other retailer asks for this information and I don't know where they are going to store it and for how long, how they are going to use it and who they are going to share it with. It's not acceptable to me

So they say I can continue making purchases, but I won't be eligible for any refunds. And I mostly just buy my medical supplies off Amazon it's cheaper and easier and quicker that way. It's a valuable service for me, but is my established customer relationship not valuable to them? I understand that they're dealing with a lot of rampant fraud, but why was my account flagged?

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u/AGuyInSoCal — 2 months ago

What is the most cost-efficient way to finance a home?

I’m in California and the average houses here are $800,000 and up. My brother and I have inherited a house that is worth about $900,000 obviously I can’t take it for myself so I was thinking of Using the house as collateral for A 10 year mortgage on my own home where I can also rent out the house to pay for that mortgage while I also rent out rooms in my new house to help pay the mortgage as well to get this all paid off very quickly. And once it is all paid for brother wants to sell the we can sell the house but for this reason, I don’t think he would go for a 15 or 30 year mortgage.

Would this be a good idea? Does anyone else have any better ideas?

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u/AGuyInSoCal — 2 months ago

DoorDash automatically re-ordered canceled orders

I placed an order for one item from Staples that was 1 mile away from me, after I placed the order, DoorDash automatically rerouted the order to a further away store to ensure that the item was going to be in stock. Well, it wasn’t. The fact that DoorDash took the liberty of rerouting my order to another store because there might be a better chance that it would be in stock and then it was out of stock was obnoxious. The shopper cancels the order.

I get a notification that the order is canceled and that I was not charged. I place a new order for the same item at the original store again, And as the new shopper arrives at the store, I get another notification that another shopper has arrived at another store and now I look and there’s two active orders going on. Since the order that was canceled was marked out of stock, DoorDash took the liberty of re-ordering it for me without asking me if I wanted them to do that. My orders are being automatically rerouted and re-ordered and I didn’t approve if any of it.

I messaged the Dasher and let them know that the item was out of stock And not to bother. And to please cancel the order. And they did. I had called DoorDash and they had told me that the order was canceled and I won’t be charged. one shopper finally delivered my item and then I noticed again another notification of a shopper going to the store. And I tell them just cancel the order. Again, I get a notification that the order is canceled, but then one hour later someone shows up at my door with the order, now I have two of the same item and have been charged twice.

When I called DoorDash support instead of providing me with a resolution, they were Feeding me crap about How they know how important it is for me to receive my orders that’s why DoorDash reroutes and re-orders automatically. But plain and simple, I asked to cancel the order. It was out of stock. I received multiple notifications that it was canceled and I won’t be charged and DoorDash still quietly and secretly kept re-ordering. I have never experienced this before

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u/AGuyInSoCal — 2 months ago
▲ 13 r/Rants

WHY ARE THERE NO OPEN WINDOWS

I have spent nearly 3 years in and out of hospitals. when you're in the hospital you're a prisoner. You cant get out of bed without permission. you cant eat what you want you cant go out for some sunshine. everything is against policy. but what's most intolerable is theres NEVER ANY OPEN WINDOWS OR FRESH AIR.

I get transferred out to nursing homes and they are worse. just 4 sick people per room and no air flow ever. I had to "break the rules" and get in my wheelchair and force my way to spend my days outside in the courtyard where I was then seen as an intolerable disobedient nuisance to the staff.

I am finally free of all that, but I have to stay in hotels now until I can find permanent housing and all these hotels have bolted their windows shut. it's some law or something. I live in the safest city in America so I dont buy that it's for safety at all

I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY EVERYONE HATES FRESH AIR. AT THIS POINT LIVING IN A TENT OUT IN A NICE FIELD SOMEWHERE IS A BETTER QUALITY OF LIFE BUT EVERYONE THINKS ITS BETTER TO BE IN THESE SHIT HOLES THAT ARE ASBESTOS RIDDEN AND HAVE NO FRESH AIR. I WANT TO DIE I DONT WANT TO LIVE THIS WAY . FOR THE LOVE OF FUCKING WINDOWOPEN THE FUCKING WINDOWS

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u/AGuyInSoCal — 2 months ago

What is the best portable solar power station?

I need something as a main source of power for my electronics, laptop tablet phone, some medical equipment like a nebuluzer air compressor. I would also like it to have(but lower priority) the ability to power a tv and a PlayStation console wifi-router, hot plate, microwave, mini fridge. Priority on it must be portable enough that I can move it around without a car or a vehicle and I need it to be able to charge quickly as I only get a few hours of direct sunlight every day and then it’s all in indirect sunlight. let’s say if you were living out of a tent.

I know there are a bunch of different kinds. Smaller ones that take forever to charge and larger ones that might be too heavy duty. Can anyone recommend one that might be just right?

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u/AGuyInSoCal — 3 months ago

Another wrong order, another denied refund

As you can see I ordered a meal with barberry rice. Do you see any berries on my rice? it’s no big deal just some berries but it’s a very big deal that DoorDash does not even refund the $7 it cost to add the barberries to the rice.

because the restaurants don’t have to deal with complaints and refunds they don’t have to worry about putting out accurate orders either, and since DoorDash is just going to deny the refunds and pay the restaurants anyway nobody has to be accountable for anything except for the customer who has to eat the cost.

Yesterday I ordered a protein shake and I got the wrong kind. The refund was denied. The day before I ordered PHO and I didn’t get what was in the descriptio, it was supposed to have short ribs but it had tripe and then they just plopped raw meat on top of everything and my refund was denied. I had to throw it out. there was a couple more wrong orders last week and no refund. But I’m going to keep a file now with evidence of all my wrong orders and when the evidence piles up to thousands of dollars I’ll look into taking legal action. I recommend everyone else keep evidence of your wrong orders too in case the day comes where there’s a class action lawsuit.

u/AGuyInSoCal — 3 months ago

How do you flirt in a charming age appropriate way?

I’m 41 and when I was younger, I was very attractive and flirting was easy. Just giving a look was often enough. Now. I’m old and out of shape and I’m not really someone you look at an immediately think of in that way so flirting is awkward now people are not generally looking at me in that kind of way.

But sometimes I meet people that I think they are attractive in more ways than just physically. And sometimes those kinds of connections are more important than physical appearance, and people can surprise you.

Right now I’ve been staying in a hotel for a few weeks and the guy at the front desk has been helping me out because I am in a wheelchair and I don’t wanna confuse kindness with attraction and I don’t want to come off as a creep but at first I thought it was physically attractive, but I wasn’t really excited because there’s a lot of physically attractive people out there but I’m noticing more and more as we have conversations and as I interact with him that I lm attracted to him as a person. Maybe emotionally attracted.

I don’t expect anything. Likely he’s straight even if he’s not likely he’s not interested. But I don’t wanna assume anything because when there’s a chemistry, romantic connections, can sneak up on you and surprise you without even realizing it so I feel like flirting is harder when it comes to two guys. And I don’t wanna be awkward and inappropriate, especially since he’s a hotel staff, but if how can I flirt in a very gentle charming way that it doesn’t necessarily require a response from him, but just let him know that if he wanted to he could respond that way

P.s. Speech to text kind of butchered that a little bit, but please try to read with your best comprehension skills. Thank you.

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u/AGuyInSoCal — 3 months ago

Question for Amazon delivery drivers

do you not read the delivery instructions? In 10 months not once have you delivered directly to my apartment but you keep leaving my packages in the leasing office. My apartment is easy to access faces. The parking lot is first floor easy to find. I even leave clear directions. Why out of eight months and dozens of you have not read the delivery instructions and followed them one time? You’re not supposed to deliver to the leasing office. I don’t need them to know my business and see everything I’m getting so that stuff is sensitive and it’s delivered and it’s original packaging..

And no matter where I go, whether I’m staying in a hotel wherever I am delivering instructions are never followed

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u/AGuyInSoCal — 3 months ago
▲ 2 r/TikTok

TikTok won’t let me login

whether I login with username or phone number when I enter my password, it wants to send me a text message to verify a code, but then it says it won’t send the code because there has been too many attempts. It has said this since the very first attempt before I made any attempts at all so I waited a couple days and I came back and I tried it again and it says the same thing what is going on?

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u/AGuyInSoCal — 4 months ago