u/Adventurous-Ad250

Hello,

Just had my first emergency and of course it falls on the weekend and holiday AND during a heatwave and on top of a bunch of other personal things making this super inconvenient!

Air conditioning unit is on the roof and the condo is strict about letting HVAC technicians up there.

so I can only schedule HVAC calls when maintenance is here. In order to do it on a Weekend/holiday, the condo charges $400 for 4 hours. And regardless if you use those 4 hours or not you STILL have to pay the $400.

I’ve found this really frustrating.. I wish I had known to ask about emergencies before buying a condo.

Is your condo like this?

My fiance and I are interracial couple so I want music from both sides!
How do you get to know the dj’s capability to deliver?
What questions do you like to ask?
Is it normal to ask for sample playlist??

From my experience, sunscreen + makeup was a disaster for me. Pilling…I would use a skin tint with SPF but what do professional make up artists do?

I have a 30 minute ceremony planned for the outside at 4pm (if it doesn’t rain).
As well as outside bridal party pictures since the venue is a garden.

Please tell me if your makeup lasts and I’m just over thinking it

I just sent 2 emails thanking wedding planners for their time and proposal but moving forward with a different planner. Not sure if m wasting my breath and they don’t care. Do you guys just ghost ? Or thank them and move on.

So my bridesmaids consist of the matron of honor, her sister, and her cousin. The 4 of us were really close during high school and college.

But as we got older things definitely changed. I moved out the neighborhood and matron of honor got married and she still lives close to her sister and cousin so they’re definitely very closer than I am to them.

Matron of honor is pregnant and she expressed many times to not let her pregnancy make me think I shouldn’t come to her about issues.
But this issue I’m having right now is hard to grasp.

Right now everyone’s talking about her baby as she shares updates. Her baby shower coming up. she happily shared with us that she secured a date. Of course I said I’m going to help plan it. She expects everyone to be on time .

But when we did our food tasting from my caterer they all came late together. She apologized with no explanation .but at the tasting she was mostly making an effort to talk to everyone expect me and I felt kind of side character .

And I’ve shared some updates regarding my wedding planning hoping for the same excitement but only the cousin responded so far. I don’t feel the same excitement for something going on in my life when I share updates..

I’ve tried to think of the other things she’s done on the side that I’m thankful for . She’s reviewed my contracts and timeline and gave me advice from her own wedding experience. But I can’t help but feel I’m alone in all this and that I just have to accept no one cares as much I do . Not even my bridal party

After I stepped into wedding planning this year I started not sleeping well. Night terrors, mind racing, doom scrolling.

I tried a bunch of the things in the title. Omg I think I lost WEEKS worth of sleep. I was somehow surviving by falling asleep at like 5am or taking naps during work..but I’d still feel horrible . Especially being easily woken up by my fiance getting ready for work. It was so annoying how id wake up to the LEAST disturbing noise 😂 like him sighing, or lightly close the dresser or the door.

Finally I randomly thought to change the rain noise to white noise….i slept like an ANGEL.

You’re kidding me!! I didn’t think what type of noise mattered. Fast forward it’s been a WEEK and I’ve finally been sleeping HEAVYY consistently. I don’t even hear my fiancé’s alarm either. I only wake up when he’s petting the dogs on the bed before he leaves and by then that’s a good time to wake up.

I wonder if it’s my high anxiety and brain racing needing the white noise to calm it down.

I don’t know how else to explain the type of nerve this hits.

It’s always around good people to. In front of my fiance, my friend, my brother’s In Laws! Like we’ll just be having a good convo and then bam. She says something about me in a condescending way or weaponizes something i did against her.

I get mad and then she says “oh please, it’s not serious” what!! Then she goes on a silent treatment afterwards . She immediately detaches herself when she thinks I’m mad and acts like I hurt her.

Then if I explain why I’m mad. She’ll play the
You are so ungrateful card.

😑😑😑😑😑😑

Has any Bride here did a first look with bridesmaids ?

Like how does that timeline look on ur wedding day?

Do you see them only until after your makeup and dress is done?

I wish I could attach a picture that I’m referencing but the bridesmaids were all ready. And then they saw the bride for the first time and she was ready.

So I’m wondering did you all get ready separate?
Or maybe the video is fake and it’s just for content.

I’m curious because I’m wondering what it’s like to get ready by yourself. (If that’s what you all did). Is it more peaceful than around the chaos of the bridesmaid getting ready?

A sad, traumatizing story.

1 year ago: May 27, 2025 I made the impulsive decision to adopt a puppy for my senior dog JJ to have as a friend.

I named her Toffee. She was cream just like JJ. Just a 5 lb burrito Chihuahua. She gave me a lick that sealed the deal. I felt my world spin when she did that. I took that as a sign of two souls meeting, or that it was meant to be.

But our time was short. Within a week the cough she had wasn’t getting better with antibiotics. Her paws and nose were cracking. Her skin was shedding endlessly. Then I was told to take her to the ER. I was in shock the whole time. 3 days in the ER. Oxygen, antibiotics, IVs. They said there was no improvement.

Test came negative for Parvo. Distemper test result still didn’t come.
She couldn’t breathe on her own anymore.
They told me it would cost almost 30k a day to keep her in the oxygen chamber and that she would be fully dependent on it. And that it would be up to her body if she can recover, but the odds were not in her favor.

They told me to put her to sleep.
I refused. Everyone in the vet office was staring at me .
They told me she would pass. I took her home anyway because I refused to believe their opinion .

I contacted the adoption rescue I got her from.
they referred me to their own vet.

I stayed up with her that night until that vet opened.
Steam inhalation to open up her nostrils which were closing. Rubbing her eyes to remove the green goo that kept coming back. She didn’t look the same anymore. Face unrecognizable

Finally saw The vet. She said the ER and I did everything right and that it doesn’t look good. She said the odds of her surviving an intubation and plasma transfusion are low and not even sure if it would save her.

She calmly advised me to lay her to rest. June 15th
. I barely had her for 20 days. It all consisted of vet trips, ER trips, sleepless nights.

After she passed, the results came: positive for distemper. A litter of puppies also tested positive for distemper and were put to sleep at the rescue within a 2 weeks . They had shared the same room with Toffee at the rescue .

The rescue said they started an investigation with the shelter she was pulled from to see if her vaccine failed her, if they improperly vaccinated her, or not at all.

Never heard anything after that.

The rescue never shared our story to the public, though I wish they did for distemper awareness . But they reimbursed her adoption fee, gave me $200 for their vet , and offered me another puppy for free when I was ready.

I miss toffee. She deserved better. I think of her everyday. She was the cutest, sweetest, gentlest soul. I never imagined in my 30 years of life that I’d endure such a traumatic story with my own pet.

I wish she had survived. I’ll never know if she had a chance if I did anything differently.

I love you toffee. I’ll never forget your story for the rest of my life .

assisting my brother who is an out of state landlord with his rental properties. My fiance and I were doing a handyman task for him .

A neighbor on the floor below us started asking my fiance who is he and what is he doing out here? In an aggressive manner. My fiance tried to ignore him. Then finally answered and said I’m just doing work my man. He said I’m not ur fucking man. I’m the fucking neighborhood Watch.

Fiance flicked him off. He was then following my fiance purposely getting behind him. my fiance then said fucking bitch under his breath.

He said, “What u say, i will slap the Fuck out of you” my fiance said “I dare you. I will fucking sue u for battery and assault”

At this point I heard everything and I came down screaming what’s going on?! And the guy is like “I DONT KNOW YALL I DONT KNOW WHAT YALL DOING”

Like what?? You need to know every single person in this condo?

I talked to my brother in the past and he mentioned a guy harassed him before and it really upset him.
This is the same guy.

I’m pretty sure the new tenants are moving in are not going to be happy if this guy harasses them too.

Can an HOA do something about this?? Would the police do anything? It all happened so fast, no camera or recording