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Thank you everyone who commented on my original post last week- I finally am getting some help for what we believe is iron deficiency anemia.

In my original post I say my periods make me so tired I cannot stay awake- I literally fell asleep at work multiple times against my will & walking make my chest feel tight and my heart race. I also felt really light headed as well and cold.

I actually had this extreme fatigue for fourish days which is not normal at all, usually it lasts a day. I was sent home from my job that I’m on my feet for because I could not stand up straight without wobbling before moving too much was making my heart race really bad & chest very tight. My friends commented I still looked really pale & just not good. My hands were even shaking I felt so sick. I was then basically bedridden the rest of the day and any time I sat up my heart rate would go up again.

My mom is having me take her prenatal vitamin with a lot of iron in it & my best friend told me foods that are iron rich to eat, which I am now. My mom wants me to try getting more iron in me naturally first but if this happens again next month she’s going to take me to get my iron tested to see if I need to be on iron pills. We believe part of the problem was I essentially bled out in a day & a half instead of my normal four days with a day or two of spotting.

Now that my horrid period is done & im taking my vitamins and eating those foods, I feel much better. Still a little tired, but I have more energy to do things and my mind is not foggy anymore.

If you are wondering why I did not go to the doctor immediately… I do not have health insurance (can’t afford it) & any kind of medical care is stupid expensive… so we try to fix things on our own first before spending that kind of money. My hope is the vitamins & diet changes will be enough- if not then I will be getting blood testing.

Thank you all again for confirming that it was not normal & helping me realize the steps I needed to take to get my health back in order again.

Edit: the Title should be “when” not “where” omg 😭

I’m having a really rough period in terms of fatigue- so bear with me because I’m on the verge of falling asleep again.

Usually I’m home, but today I needed to go to work & thankfully it is an office job. Even with thick blanket, sweater, and one of those plushies you warm up I was still very cold all day.

In addition I was totally exhausted… by 2 I was so exhausted my eye rolled back & I sorta passed out before jerking awake again. This happened quite a few times. When I’m home I basically sleep all day with short windows of being “awake” for maybe a few hours at a time.

I tried walking & everything but walking felt strange… not dizzy but I had no energy either and at times struggled. I couldnt even concentrate on my numbers- like my eyes could not focus at all& tomorrow will have to go back & check it. I would have went home, but I work with family & carpool with my brother & he needed to stay until closing.

I told my mom & all she said was “you should have stayed home like I said” but this morning I was not too, too bad… and didn’t want to disappoint my family by not going in when I only work there a few days a week.

Idk is this kind of fatigue normal? My mom has super bad symptoms so I never know if I’m normal or not… I don’t think I bleed that much- in fact I didn’t have as many blood clots this time… but was still rough. Any suggestions on what to do tomorrow if I’m still struggling with fatigue again? Thank you

I’m tempted to get Raquel & Daisy (when she releases) but I honestly don’t know where I would put them. I’m also tempted to get the hill house outfits for my historicals to wear for the summer- but also I’m very weird & am strict about my historicals staying in their collection… but those dresses would be cute especially since the actual summer outfits are so expensive on EBay.

What do you guys think… should I branch out? lol

If I had all the room & money I’d for sure collect GOTY & Disney, but tend to stick with my true love, my historical girlies 🥰

I'm barely awake enough to type this, so please bare with me.

I'm at work, I thankfully work in an office so I can have my little heatable plushie, curl up when cramping, and have blanket because I can't get warm either. I still have three hours to go- and I'm barely hanging in there.

I've been exhausted all day, but now I'm having a hard time even concentrating on my work at all to do it well. I'm literally dozing off & can't help it. Walking isn't helping, I'm actually starting to feel a little not dizzy... but "off kilter" like I do when I'm just too tired. I also can't seem to get myself warmed up even though it is over 70 degrees in here, I have a thick blanket on me, a sweater, etc. My fingers have even turned blue because I was getting too cold (but now managed to warm u enough they are back to pale).

I'm scared I'll fall asleep against my will & someone will find me passed out when I'm fighting myself to stay awake enough to finish my shift. I do work with my family... but still...

Any tips at all on how I can get through my shift? I know I'll feel like myself again tomorrow- the first day or two is always the worst. At least keep myself awake enough so I can function for the next three hours?

And no- going home is not an option since I am carpooling with my brother today & he has to stay until five for his work... if not sometimes longer. :(

Hey everyone, I’m 26F & for the last year or so I’ve been getting at night what I call these mini “hot flashes”. I’m normally really cold- but then all of a sudden my bodies heats up like crazy for about 10 minutes before cooling back down

This always happens a few days before my period starts & I assume this is PMS? I get a lot of jacked up PMS symptoms & period symptoms… I just have never heard of anyone getting these as PMS just menopause- I don’t think I would be that lucky to get early menopause & be done with my horrid cycles & be naturally sterilized (I’m very much child free!).

I just want to make sure this is technically okay… and if it turns out it is early menopause I’ll throw a legit party- a Goodbye Period party lmao 😂

Thank you!

I’m literally forcing myself to stay awake lol… but tbh im going to need to go to bed here. I’ll write my diary entry for today & if it’s still not up I’m going to bed.

I know things happen- I just wish they would have had someone on their team make an announcement. Especially to all our overseas fans who literally stayed up all night for the release.

Can’t decide for me if it’s Dear Agony or Without You- both are favorites of mine :)

TL;DR should I choose myself & risk not having anyone in my life at all, or choose my loved ones & loose myself? (This goes for all life decisions)

Something that has been on my mind lately… the minute I become “not useful” people in my life are so angry if I try to go my own direction. I guilted because they say I’m “abandoning them.” Even my own mother was furious I wanted my own apartment one day with a cat (she is now supportive of this goal). My best friend told me if I quit the job we share they were so upset and claimed we “wouldn’t see each other anymore” even though we literally talk every night & I only work weekends with them. So many times in my life because are just upset if I leave.

I feel backed in a corner & forced to choose: myself & risk being alone or my loved ones and loosing myself.

My best friend now keeps saying I need to choose myself, but question if they mean it.

I’m tired of pleasing everyone, and when I am wanting to go after my goals getting no support. Yet terrified I will end up all alone. I’m starting to get depressed over this seeing everyone else on social media chasing after their goals & actually receiving support front their loved ones. Some days I question what the fuck I’m even here for… and if it’s only to serve others.

So who am I supposed to choose? Myself or my loved ones?

I’ll share a little about my life & hopefully help someone too. I have four part time jobs that if I were to work maximum hours for it would be 40 hours a week, I also am taking 2 courses this semester & 3 next semester. I also have two undergrad degrees & have been on the Dean’s list every semester of college & graduated undergrad with a 3.95 GPA- AMA! 😁

How do I cope with separation anxiety?

My best friend who is like my second mom (she is many years older than me & kind of “adopted” me) is on a much needed trip away to the other side of the country. I am very proud of her for achieving her goal & happy she is getting her much needed vacation after so much BS.

We usually talk every night, and so far my anxiety has been really calm even though I won’t hear from her much. I miss her like crazy, but use my time to write which is nice. And I have to admit, I think some separation will be good for a little bit.

What is going on is in the morning I wake, find myself grabbing my phone right away to see if she messaged me over night (she is now several hours behind me) & my stomach hurts. I wake up with stomach/gut troubles I only get when anxious… and I think it’s because my other “mother” figure is “gone” and my body is kind of freaking out. I feel better as the day goes on & I remind myself that she is on vacation, okay, and happy.

I have dealt with extreme separation anxiety since infancy, and it even caused me not to leave my house unless it was work/school because I would get so sick with anxiety at the thought of leaving my mom. Now I leave my house all the time & even travel too!

I’m honestly embarrassed to say I still struggle with this issue even though I’m almost thirty- it’s a lot better, but still… my mind & body needs to stop relying on mother figures to feel okay.

Does anyone have any tips so I stop waking up feeling stomach sick from the anxiety? I don’t want to deal with this all week while she is gone. Thank you!