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I just wanted to know form other women who workout if this is part of the learning curve with just starting out with fitness of if I need to try something else-

I’m trying to do some strength training as part of my routine since I now work in an office & have noticed I’m loosing muscle & gaining a little weight.

I only did a 10 minute beginner friendly exercise yesterday & my thighs are extremely sore & I
having difficulty walking today :/. Which is odd because I felt fine a day yesterday after working out.

I know I’m not in great shape but not that bad! I did not do the training today because I’m having such a hard time moving decent I was afraid to make it worse.

Is this normal? Should I do it again tomorrow? How often do I need to do it before my legs are used to it? I planned on doing the video tomorrow or taking a long walk with my dog to get exercise in. Today was a lot of running around so I kinda made that count.

Thanks for the tips! I want to stay healthy & be somewhat fit! :)

I just got my hair dyed at the salon a very pretty brown with red undertones. I have to wash my hair every day & there have been summers where my hair is FOUL by noon the next day even though I washed it the night before. Luckily, my scalp seems happier & I do t get super greasy until it’s about my shower time anyway.

I want to start only washing every other day & use dry shampoo on days I don’t wash. I also bought the new Amika hair care line that protects my hair. If I am stuck having to still wash it every day, any other tips for preserving color even though it is permanent? Thanks. 😊

I’m trying to thin down my collection- I have limited space & want to expand to other series. I’m soooo indecisive if I want to for series that I have both the manga & light novel to sell one medium & keep the other. 9/10 I prefer the original source which is typically the light novel.

Idk what do you all do? I’d love to hear your thoughts & maybe some reassurance selling one of the mediums would be a good decision for my collection 😅.

For me it’s the age gap trope where it’s a high school student & a teacher 🤮. I quit “Daytime Shooting Star” because of this & was really grossed out by “The Garden of Words” once I became an adult because it was just so disgusting to me & crazy this trope is marketed to teens who wouldn’t notice it for what it is at first (or at least that was the case for me).

Close second would be the “my crush is now my step sibling trope”.

I swear I feel so bored with food except if it’s ice cream & chocolate lol. Yes, I do make myself eat fruits, veggies, protein, etc. I just sometimes find it a struggle to eat at all & all my body wants it very specific sweets!

Any tips on how to cut back on my sweets? I think I would like to get it to just one sweet treat a day instead of multiple. Thank you!

Every time I watch this show I wonder- why the hell anyone would take their child to Abby to learn dance. It’s such toxic environment that I’m floored that people would STILL think it’s a good idea take their child to her dance studio. Like her toxic behavior is on full display on a national TV show!

I’m just confused & questioning the parenting choices here 😅

How can I overcome my phobia of heights? I asked this on No Stupid questions too- but also wanted to ask this sub for more ideas especially from other women who are older than me & can maybe provide other tricks too.

Yesterday, a friend & I went to a carnival & I promised her I would try some of the rides… I’m ashamed to say that even though I did get one a few I had my eyes closed most of the time because I was so terrified & sick. One of them was waaaaaay too high (I didn’t realize it went that high up and at such a steep angle) and made me feel like I was falling… so I started to curl up, cower, and beg to be let down. I only finished it because I mean… I had too. My friend at first thought my screaming was from thrills & quickly realized I was absolutely petrified. I don’t think she has ever seen my body shake as hard as it did or see me as terrified as I was. TBH I didn’t expect myself to react that way either… it took a lot to talk me down, but I’m blessed to have such a good friend who reminds me of my anxiety breathing techniques & doesn’t make fun of me. She even said she was very proud I went on even just one, let alone four & was able to calm myself down before having a full-on panic attack which would involve a lot of crying and other scary physical stuff.

Today I honestly feel very embarrassed I acted like that as a full grown adult. She told me today that I should be proud of myself that I didn’t give up even when one of them scared me as bad as it did. And that usually I don’t even try them. I told her I want to conquer my fear of heights- I don’t ever want to cower again like that.

My main problem is I get vertigo really bad when looking straight down. I feel off balance and like I’m going to fall over. I also am plagued with nightmares of me falling to my death among other things, and past experiences. It was even worse when I was younger- I would refuse escalators, stairs with holes, and even the monkey bars because of this. I found out while researching this vertigo is my anxiety lying to me again & I at least want to get to a point where I can be tolerant.

Any ideas of how I can slowly expose myself to heights? I honestly need to find a decent stairwell & look straight down and practice calming myself. But any other suggestions? I want to fly for vacation next year & do not want to end up panicking like that again… I want to be able to control my fear enough to be tolerant. Thank you.

How do I start overcoming my phobia of heights?

Yesterday, a friend & I went to a carnival & I promised her I would try some of the rides… I’m ashamed to say that even though I did get one a few I had my eyes closed most of the time because I was so terrified & sick. One of them was waaaaaay too high (I didn’t realize it went that high up and at such a steep angle) and made me feel like I was falling… so I started to curl up, cower, and beg to be let down. I only finished it because I mean… I had too. My friend at first thought my screaming was from thrills & quickly realized I was absolutely petrified. I don’t think she has ever seen my body shake as hard as it did or see me as terrified as I was. TBH I didn’t expect myself to react that way either… it took a lot to talk me down, but I’m blessed to have such a good friend who reminds me of my anxiety breathing techniques & doesn’t make fun of me. She even said she was very proud I went on even just one, let alone four & was able to calm myself down before having a full-on panic attack which would involve a lot of crying and other scary physical stuff.

Today I honestly feel very embarrassed I acted like that as a full grown adult. She told me today that I should be proud of myself that I didn’t give up even when one of them scared me as bad as it did. And that usually I don’t even try them. I told her I want to conquer my fear of heights- I don’t ever want to cower again like that.

My main problem is I get vertigo really bad when looking straight down. I feel off balance and like I’m going to fall over. I also am plagued with nightmares of me falling to my death among other things, and past experiences. It was even worse when I was younger- I would refuse escalators, stairs with holes, and even the monkey bars because of this. I found out while researching this vertigo is my anxiety lying to me again & I at least want to get to a point where I can be tolerant.

Any ideas of how I can slowly expose myself to heights? I honestly need to find a decent stairwell & look straight down and practice calming myself. But any other suggestions? I want to fly for vacation next year & do not want to end up panicking like that again… I want to be able to control my fear enough to be tolerant. Thank you.

Yesterday, a friend & I went to a carnival & I promised her I would try some of the rides… I’m ashamed to say that even though I did get one a few I had my eyes closed most of the time because I was so terrified & sick. One of them was waaaaaay too high (I didn’t realize it went that high up and at such a steep angle) and made me feel like I was falling… so I started to curl up, cower, and beg to be let down. I only finished it because I mean… I had too. My friend at first thought my screaming was from thrills & quickly realized I was absolutely petrified. I don’t think she has ever seen my body shake as hard as it did or see me as terrified as I was. TBH I didn’t expect myself to react that way either… it took a lot to talk me down, but I’m blessed to have such a good friend who reminds me of my anxiety breathing techniques & doesn’t make fun of me. She even said she was very proud I went on even just one, let alone four & was able to calm myself down before having a full-on panic attack which would involve a lot of crying and other scary physical stuff.

Today I honestly feel very embarrassed I acted like that as a full grown adult. She told me today that I should be proud of myself that I didn’t give up even when one of them scared me as bad as it did. And that usually I don’t even try them. I told her I want to conquer my fear of heights- I don’t ever want to cower again like that.

My main problem is I get vertigo really bad when looking straight down. I feel off balance and like I’m going to fall over. I also am plagued with nightmares of me falling to my death among other things, and past experiences. It was even worse when I was younger- I would refuse escalators, stairs with holes, and even the monkey bars because of this. I found out while researching this vertigo is my anxiety lying to me again & I at least want to get to a point where I can be tolerant.

Any ideas of how I can slowly expose myself to heights? I honestly need to find a decent stairwell & look straight down and practice calming myself. But any other suggestions? I want to fly for vacation next year & do not want to end up panicking like that again… I want to be able to control my fear enough to be tolerant. Thank you.

I quit my toxic job a month ago & that was the best choice I ever made because it is now just collapsing there. 6 or more people are quitting now and all of them were the once shouldering most of the workload and even more after I left.

I figured I would have 5-6 friends that I could carry the friendship over. Except, I don’t. My best friend is the only one who I speak to regularly about everything & has been the only one respectful enough to not bring up the drama there or if she does it’s brief & she actually catches herself doing it & switches the topic.

Everyone else, my messages get ignored… until they need something which is free therapy. I’m at the point where I may not even respond anymore. I’m starting to feel physically sick again & my sleep has been poor because of it. My worsening anxiety issues & the fact I had mental breakdowns every week was why I left.

It’s sad… I’m questioning my friendships with people now. Were they my friends? Or were we just coworkers? Was I only a free therapist?

I’m grateful I have one close friend that I know will stick around & has so far respected my boundaries.

I deal with horrible health anxiety directed towards others (ironically I kind of ignore my own stuff). This is way worse if it is people closest to me & the intrusive thoughts are horrible. I literally believe it is “worse case scenario” and my body panics.

A friend of mine has been dealing with something medical which is honestly a normal thing for me to deal with & have been my whole life- for them it’s not. Logically- I know the cause is probably not something to freak out about but my brain automatically goes to “worse case scenario.” I’ve had horrible acid reflux for days over it because they are now going to the doctor for answers, even thought their ailment is getting much better now.

I hate dealing with this. I understand this is my anxiety’s way of fighting for control because the root fear is I’m really fucking afraid that my loved ones will die/abandon me here on this rock called earth. Made worse that my own medical care was treated as “you don’t go to the doctor unless you are dying” due to not being able to afford it. I know these thoughts are all lies my brain comes up with- and yet in the moment I feel like I’m drowning in them.

I’ve never told people in my personal life about this, because I know it would freak people out. It would freak me out if someone kept thinking I was going to die or had nightmares about my death. However, people are starting to be able to tell & have to tell me I’m being way too overbearing & then when my mind is right again I’m totally embarrassed.

I’m tired of dealing with this… does anyone have any sort of suggestion that I could try to get this part of my anxiety under control? I’ve worked so hard over the years to defeat near agoraphobia & other issues- but this is the one I have been really struggling to cope with. Thank you.

I need advice from a fellow woman who is older than me… I just don’t know if I can talk to my mom or best friend about this one. :(

I deal with horrible health anxiety directed towards others (ironically I kind of ignore my own stuff). This is way worse if it is people closest to me & the intrusive thoughts are horrible. I literally believe it is “worse case scenario” and my body panics.

A friend of mine has been dealing with something medical which is honestly a normal thing for me to deal with & have been my whole life- for them it’s not. Logically- I know the cause is probably not something to freak out about but my brain automatically goes to “worse case scenario.” I’ve had horrible acid reflux for days over it because they are now going to the doctor for answers, even thought their ailment is getting much better now.

I hate dealing with this. I understand this is my anxiety’s way of fighting for control because the root fear is I’m really fucking afraid that my loved ones will die/abandon me here on this rock called earth. Made worse that my own medical care was treated as “you don’t go to the doctor unless you are dying” due to not being able to afford it. I know these thoughts are all lies my brain comes up with- and yet in the moment I feel like I’m drowning in them.

I’ve never told people in my personal life about this, because I know it would freak people out. It would freak me out if someone kept thinking I was going to die or had nightmares about my death. However, people are starting to be able to tell & have to tell me I’m being way too overbearing & then when my mind is right again I’m totally embarrassed.

I’m tired of dealing with this… does anyone have any sort of suggestion that I could try to get this part of my anxiety under control? I’ve worked so hard over the years to defeat near agoraphobia & other issues- but this is the one I have been really struggling to cope with. Thank you.

Hello everyone,

I have hormonal acne caused by ovarian cysts that come and go and causes issues (not PCOS as far as I know, but my one ovary keeps having a cyst that comes and goes). Most of it is on my back and I am so ashamed to even let people see my skin anymore.

I'm super pale, and my back looks like a war zone. My scars are either angry red or purple and take years before they turn closer to my skin tone. I'm working hard to get a skincare routine that will help keep my hormonal acne under better control. Not only does it look horrible, it is very painful since I think a lot of them are cystic in nature.

I'd like to get my upper back covered up with colorful flowers instead so I don't have to hide my back anymore... or feel embarrassed about it. I do have a few questions thought.

1). Can you get former acne battlegrounds covered up with tattoos

2). If I have another breakout will it destroy my tattoo?

3). Will getting my back covered up with a tattoo actually help prevent more breakouts?

4). Also- I myself am an artist, would it be frowned upon if I sketched what I wanted and asked the artist to please go with my design?

5). I'm actually afraid of getting a tattoo so any tips on pain management or giving me an idea of what it will feel like would be helpful too.

Thank you!

TL;DR : My boomer friend keeps hounding me about “wasting my life away” do I start shutting the conversation down or do I just let them talk?

I have a friend who is basically a second mother figure for me. She helped me”raise me” during my young adult years and has helped me overcome agoraphobia and other anxiety issues my parents could not help me with since- they were already my safe people. I also used to work for her but quit that toxic job because I kept having frequent panic attacks due to being overworked & constant drama (thanks corporate).

Lately she has been on my butt as I am I am now in my late twenties about “what am I going to do with myself.?” Last week she got on me about how I should consider having a baby- despite her knowing I never wanted kids & enjoy my quiet. She’s gotten on me to try dating… even though I am aro-ace sooooo not applicable to me lol. Last night it was about me moving out of my parents house.

At the moment I am a graduate student, I also work three jobs, two with my university and I work at my family’s business. Even with all my jobs because they equal to about 31 hours a week I still cannot afford rent & because I am taking three classes at time I literally don’t have time for full time work. I told her my goal is once I graduate in a few years I am going to get an apartment & in the meantime save up money. She then made a comment again that I’m letting life “pass me by” & I commented back “no- I’m being financially smart.” The retort to that was “if you are really living then you always worry about having enough for a roof over your head.”

No. That’s called surviving not living.

Anytime I share exciting updates on my research work they always ask “is this actually going to help you?” I’ve come to accept they just don’t understand the work I do.

I understand a lot of her comments are genuine concern- she did say when I quit she was scared I’d go back to not leaving my house again. But also it’s frustrating that she doesn’t listen to me either rent around here would eat up all of my check leaving me very little for other bills. I am in a position to set myself up better financially.

Idk is my want of a quiet life as a librarian, having cats, and doing my hobbies really a waste? What should I do when she does this? Idk what to do anymore :(

Not just pelvic exams… but anything that goes in me while I’m awake. One reason I never really brought up my periods & how horrible they are is because I’m so terrified of the testing. I’m so scared of anything going in me like that (that’s why I don’t even wear tampons) & I’m sure it’s a trauma response on top of it.

I’m scared it’ll hurt, I’m scared I’ll fight them out of panic or have a mega panic attack out of terror.

Can they just scan me & call it good? Or be put to sleep? What is testing really like for endometriosis or other conditions?

I have a friend who is really concerned about my cramps (and periods in general) but to me it’s “normal”.

My cramps feel like someone is shredding my uterus and my right leg feels like someone threw it in a paper shredder. Sometimes I feel really stomach sick from them, I’ve had to stay home from work, and if it’s really, really bad pain meds don’t even touch it. I have to wait for them to naturally back off.

I’ve even had it a few times where my abdominal muscles just lock themselves & I’m suck curled until they unclench themselves… I figured everyone’s cramps are horrible like this.

Is it normal? What are normal cramps even supposed to feel like?

I will add I get one or two months a year where I’m pain free.

I’ve never even heard of this series until I saw it all over the place at my local bookstores. There was a sale & I got the first book thinking “eh-I’ll give it a go”

I’m 100 pages in & really digging it so far! Really funny & weird- but I like it. Anyway… I’ll probably end up with all eight books by the end of next week lmao 🤣

Hello, I’m questioning if my issues are really because of an ovarian cyst that keeps returning or if maybe my doctor wondering if endometriosis is something to explore.

I get cramps I can only describe as sharp, shredding pain and worse in my leg. It’s like someone threw my leg in a paper shredder. Last month my abdomen felt like it was being clawed out of me… I was curled up in a ball crying it hurt that bad & pain meds did nothing. I had to wait it out. Sometimes I’m forced out of a dead sleep in complete agony from the leg cramping.

I also find my cramps come in waves, like I imagine labor pain does. So I’ll have 20-30 minutes of cramping before it will back off for a while.

So, what is the cramping like for you all? Do you experience it every month? (I get a month or two out of the year where I’m basically pain free) And is the cramping 24/7 until your period is done?

If you can drop other symptoms you have that would be helpful too. Thank you for sharing 😊

Hello, I’m questioning if my issues are really because of an ovarian cyst that keeps returning or if maybe my doctor wondering if endometriosis is something to explore.

I get cramps I can only describe as sharp, shredding pain and worse in my leg. It’s like someone threw my leg in a paper shredder. Last month my abdomen felt like it was being clawed out of me… I was curled up in a ball crying it hurt that bad & pain meds did nothing. I had to wait it out. Sometimes I’m forced out of a dead sleep in complete agony from the leg cramping.

I also find my cramps come in waves, like I imagine labor pain does. So I’ll have 20-30 minutes of cramping before it will back off for a while.

So, what is the cramping like for you all? Do you experience it every month? (I get a month or two out of the year where I’m basically pain free) And is the cramping 24/7 until your period is done?

If you can drop other symptoms you have that would be helpful too. Thank you for sharing 😊