u/Blues5389

Hi, I've been wondering if those on Wellbutrin, Don't feel the overwhelming urge to be around people? And are content with being yourself, Doing either nothing or something? Before I got on Wellbutrin I still wanted to be myself but it was more because I saw myself as a burden, Now, I struggle to understand why someone would want to go out on a somewhat regular basis? plus, think how come they don't just wanna stay home and sit in their feelings per say? ,I'm also on the spectrum, that might play a factor, Not sure

Hi, I've been hearing this term used by women And I've wondered if there is any truth behind Because what if a guy deeply wants to do, what she asked of him, and he says to her He's finances aren't the best, or he doesn't know where to start, Would she still expect him to find a way no matter what? Or would she be understanding? Or see it as there wasn't any effort

Hi, I want to say I like coming to this subreddit, To find situations that are relatable, Anyway, I'm an Autistic guy, been with a not Autistic woman for a good while now, how can I get her to respect me? There have been times were she'll tell me " I'm a forgettable person" or how she'll compare me to other guys she knows and or mets?.Tell me how they have this or that, and how I don't or won't go hustle?. She'll tell me how I should be lucky she chosen me and how that no other woman would want me to due to me not having value? In the sense of not being stable enough when it comes to handling finances, their emotions, and or their needs? Or how they wouldn't deal with me due to my mild disabilities? I've tried talking to her about the emotional problems from this and how if she was more considerate of what she says to me I would like that and if I have any other emotional problems, She'll tell me to not come to her with my problems,They're my problems to handle by myself She'll get upset when she founds out I've spoken to my female friends about my emotional problems and tells me how I should come to her?Also, how can I communicate better with her? She feels that I put out the "obvious" within conversations too often, How she'll have to explain the who, what, how, why, of situations? How I don't pick up on certain clues such as "Geez, it sure is cold out here" and I said it sure is, then she'll say " sure, wish I had a coat around me" I say I know right, She'll get annoyed and say how I'm just gonna let her stay cold?! I'll give her a confused look and say no, as an example, How I "over explain" myself when describing situations and or solutions, wanna try my hardest to communicate with her, And I feel that I'm not quite getting it right? Starting to blame myself, and picture myself as the problem? Then again she tries to teach me how to communicate in a "not odd or awkward" way Plus, I've asked her when I'm going to meet her friends and she told me I'll embarrass her with my poor social skills, Really wants this work it's my first relationship, And I'm already in my early 30's don't know if I'll get a second chance We're both in our 30s

Hi, I tend to be quiet and whenever I speak to people I'll talk for a bit then they is a long amount of silence and I start talking about anything, The weird thing is that whenever I'm in a group setting it's not as bad and is easier? One on one is kinda tricky for me, Because I'm use to people say "and then what happened" or " so, you were _? And take it form there, I Think part of this is due to me being on the spectrum, I believe sometimes wish people would give me prompts to know when I should keep talking? Otherwise I'll stop talking in the middle because I'll feel they get bored easily, Plus, i don't get how people find it odd that I'll start a conversation in the middle and work towards the end? It's like those song previews where the song will play for 30 seconds and then fade out, Idk, feel like it's kinda normal, PS: is it odd that I interject on other people's conversations? Whenever I do it I come as "nosiy," I see it as joining in like a podcast type of deal

Hi, I've been taking Wellbutrin "off-label" for potential mental version of ADHD, And I've realized I've been choosing myself more? instead of choosing others around me, For instance, before Wellbutrin, I would feel as if I had to choose between who I could go out with due to having anxious/looping thoughts, of what if something bad is gonna happen? / Can't trust myself to be ok by myself, when out and about? Ever since adding Wellbutrin, I've been able to choose myself more and haven't had to deal with anxious/looping thoughts of weather I'm going to be ok when doing errands or going to places alone, I just go, and feel clam that it's ok to be out by myself and everything is going to be ok, If that makes sense

Hi, most of my life, I've dealt with having AuDHD

As a POC, And I've came to the conclusion that my family viewed my autism as "normal" instead of odd? Let me explain, growing up I had the common traits of autism and ADHD growing up as a black person it's made for a quite experience, When i started showing signs of autism such as being easily to be taken of advantage of my mom told me her mom would get taken advantage of by other black people within the their neighborhood due to her lacking "street smarts" at the same time being very smart since she had her own business as a a black woman in the 60s and 70s, And how she'd had to "buy" friendships because she'd struggled to make them naturally, Lived with my great grandfather most of her life, Even when she'd was married to my mom's dad she was living with her for sometime, Never heard my mom said my grandmother had alots of friends coming over to the house, My great grandmother who I knew until she was 95, told me how'd she thought something was wrong with my mom's mom however couldn't put her finger on it, Whenever I had a meltdown,

Mom would say her middle brother would have "rage episodes" that were similar at the same time is a self taught electrician due to his ability to figure out technology, has to have his hair done the same way and struggled to keep relationship's?

Don't know if getting married 5 times would count?

Plus, my mom told me how her dad could fix just about anything he could get his hands on?

My struggle with eye contact was similar to her oldest brother's issue where he would make either too little or too much eye contact with people,

He was very smart and could fix cars, we'd know he'd struggled with maintaining relationships, didn't have tons of friends Was closed off to a certain degree, My mom's oldest brother's son is a "spitting image" of him, so much so that my great grandmother said whatever "issues" her oldest brother had he's son has those same issues? except he's good with art instead of cars, one of my great uncles son's on my mom's side is a chess master, is viewed as "can't get right" My dad's dad was emotionally standoffish, And so much about has special interest (hunting) that he'd neglected my dad and his siblings, When I eventually went to the doctor after having a manic episode, the doctor asked me if any of my family were autistic and or had autistic traits? Told them about all my family members, And the doctor said they weren't surprised I didn't get diagnosed until I was an adult, (18 at the time,) partly due to me being black and my family having "similar" issues as me in terms of autism that they saw those behaviors as normal?

Has this happened within your families?

TLDR; did your family ignore your autism due to them being autistic themselves, or having very similar issues that they saw that normal?

Hi, most of my life, I've dealt with having AuDHD As a POC, And I've came to the conclusion that my family viewed my autism as "normal" instead of odd? Let me explain, growing up I had the common traits of autism and ADHD growing up as a black person it's made for a quite experience, When i started showing signs of autism such as being easily to be taken of advantage of my mom told me her mom would get taken advantage of by other black people within the their neighborhood due to her lacking "street smarts" at the same time being very smart since she had her own business as a a black woman in the 60s and 70s, And how she'd had to "buy" friendships because she'd struggled to make them naturally, Lived with my great grandfather most of her life, Even when she'd was married to my mom's dad she was living with her for sometime, Never heard my mom said my grandmother had alots of friends coming over to the house, My great grandmother who I knew until she was 95, told me how'd she thought something was wrong with my mom's mom however couldn't put her finger on it, Whenever I had a meltdown, Mom would say her middle brother would have "rage episodes" that were similar at the same time is a self taught electrician due to his ability to figure out technology, has to have his hair done the same way and struggled to keep relationship's? Don't know if getting married 5 times would count? Plus, my mom told me how her dad could fix just about anything he could get his hands on? My struggle with eye contact was similar to her oldest brother's issue where he would make either too little or too much eye contact with people, He was very smart and could fix cars, we'd know he'd struggled with maintaining relationships, didn't have tons of friends Was closed off to a certain degree, My mom's oldest brother's son is a "spitting image" of him, so much so that my great grandmother said whatever "issues" her oldest brother had he's son has those same issues? except he's good with art instead of cars, one of my great uncles son's on my mom's side is a chess master, is viewed as "can't get right" My dad's dad was emotionally standoffish, And so much about has special interest (hunting) that he'd neglected my dad and his siblings, When I eventually went to the doctor after having a manic episode, the doctor asked me if any of my family were autistic and or had autistic traits? Told them about all my family members, And the doctor said they weren't surprised I didn't get diagnosed until I was an adult, (18 at the time,) partly due to me being black and my family having "similar" issues as me in terms of autism that they saw those behaviors as normal? Has this happened within your families? TLDR; did your family ignore your autism due to them being autistic themselves, or having very similar issues that they saw that normal?

Hi, I've wondered how'd your ADHD meds affect y'all when it comes to sex, Do they help you stay focused and or "in the moment" easier? Does it make you want sex more or less? Have had any sexual side effects? For instance, feel that since I've added Wellbutrin alongside my mood stabilizer,

It's been a lil more easier to get excited and staying

"In the moment" is a more easier as well Sometimes, my genitals are overly sensitive especially during oral sex, which is good and bad?My 🥜 is more intense than before, However, it's more poof than bang ( I'm a male)

Hi, I've wondered how'd your ADHD meds affect y'all when it comes to sex, Do they help you stay focused and or "in the moment" easier? Does it make you want sex more or less? Have had any sexual side effects? For instance, feel that since I've added Wellbutrin alongside my mood stabilizer,

It's been a lil more easier to get excited and staying

"In the moment" is a more easier as well Sometimes, my genitals are overly sensitive especially during oral sex, which is good and bad?My 🥜 is more intense than before, However, it's more poof than bang ( I'm a male)

Hi, I've wondered how'd your ADHD meds affect y'all when it comes to sex, Do they help you stay focused and or "in the moment" easier? Does it make you want sex more or less? Have had any sexual side effects? For instance, feel that since I've added Wellbutrin alongside my mood stabilizer, It's been a lil more easier to get excited and staying "In the moment" is a more easier as well Sometimes, my genitals are overly sensitive especially during oral sex, which is good and bad?My 🥜 is more intense than before, However, it's more poof than bang ( I'm a male)

Hi, I've been wondering if there were a few you'd got pass? Mine is a silly one, it's being able to wash my hair in the shower 🚿 have had issues do to sensory issues

between my bipolar, autism, Potential ADHD, it's a Vietnam war battle inside Bipolar mask the ADHD, (Manic episode's were brush off as ADHD,) ADHD masks the Autism, Autism comes out and storms the battlefield alongside shooting a AK,It's a one big 🫟 It's interesting tho When I've choose to not take my bipolar meds constantly, That's when it's becomes a shit show,Bipolar and Possible ADHD are in the driver and passenger seats, while Autism is in backseat staring outside the window at the sky Had to cover up as much as possible

Hopefully this is allowed within this subreddit;

Hi, I've been wondering what it's like as a POC,

with AuDHD life experience is like? For instance, I'd always been the class clown, And would love to be not as predictable When it came to school if I were interested in a topic that would do very well and end up having a Smithsonian type of knowledge of said topic, If I wasn't interested in a topic, I would tap my pencil, make noises, bounce my leg,

Wander off within the classroom and out

Always asked "are we done" over and over

Had a short attention span, Loved being a sensory seeking area's (Still do, just to a lesser degree now)

Would come up with comments, within the conversation that were funny (Still do to a lesser degree now) Always enjoyed NT centered interests such as music, sports, food, current events, psychology, Etc Once I gotten on bipolar meds, "my impulse control issues" came up Thus said problems showed up On top of leftover depression, despite me being stable on a mood stabilizer, My doctor and I chose to put myself on Wellbutrin to combat Leftover depression, and impose control issues,

Ever since adding Wellbutrin, My mind has been completely silent, can hear myself think instead of background noise, not as impulsive, able to access internal motivation and energy, be more hyper focused on having consistency etc

That's when I wondered about AuDHD,

Plus, on top of that when I looked into pathological demand avoidance, it described a good amount of my personal experience, especially the social aspects of PDA, Due to me thinking of examples of said traits showed up within my life

TLDR; what was your experience like being a person of color and autistic with ADHD?

Hi, I've been wondering what it's like as a POC,

with AuDHD life experience is like? For instance, I'd always been the class clown, And would love to be not as predictable When it came to school if I were interested in a topic that would do very well and end up having a Smithsonian type of knowledge of said topic, If I wasn't interested in a topic, I would tap my pencil, make noises, bounce my leg,

Wander off within the classroom and out

Always asked "are we done" over and over

Had a short attention span, Loved being a sensory seeking area's (Still do, just to a lesser degree now)

Would come up with comments, within the conversation that were funny (Still do to a lesser degree now) Always enjoyed NT centered interests such as music, sports, food, current events, psychology, Etc Once I gotten on bipolar meds, "my impulse control issues" came up Thus said problems showed up On top of leftover depression, despite me being stable on a mood stabilizer, My doctor and I chose to put myself on Wellbutrin to combat Leftover depression, and impose control issues,

Ever since adding Wellbutrin, My mind has been completely silent, can hear myself think instead of background noise, not as impulsive, able to access internal motivation and energy, be more hyper focused on having consistency etc

That's when I wondered about AuDHD,

Plus, on top of that when I looked into pathological demand avoidance, it described a good amount of my personal experience, especially the social aspects of PDA, Due to me thinking of examples of said traits showed up within my life

TLDR; what was your experience like being a person of color and autistic with ADHD?

Hi, I've been wondering what it's like as a POC, with AuDHD life experience is like? For instance, I'd always been the class clown, And would love to be not as predictable When it came to school if I were interested in a topic that would do very well and end up having a Smithsonian type of knowledge of said topic, If I wasn't interested in a topic, I would tap my pencil, make noises, bounce my leg, Wander off within the classroom and out Always asked "are we done" over and over Had a short attention span, Loved being a sensory seeking area's (Still do, just to a lesser degree now) Would come up with comments, within the conversation that were funny (Still do to a lesser degree now) Always enjoyed NT centered interests such as music, sports, food, current events, psychology, Etc Once I gotten on bipolar meds, "my impulse control issues" came up Thus said problems showed up On top of leftover depression, despite me being stable on a mood stabilizer, My doctor and I chose to put myself on Wellbutrin to combat Leftover depression, and impose control issues, Ever since adding Wellbutrin, My mind has been completely silent, can hear myself think instead of background noise, not as impulsive, able to access internal motivation and energy, be more hyper focused on having consistency etc That's when I wondered about AuDHD, Plus, on top of that when I looked into pathological demand avoidance, it described a good amount of my personal experience, especially the social aspects of PDA, Due to me thinking of examples of said traits showed up within my life TLDR; what was your experience like being a person of color and autistic with ADHD?

Hi, I've been taking the lupin brand of Wellbutrin,. For the longest and been wondering if I switched different manufacturers will it cause mania? The lupin brand hasn't caused mania at all A part of me wants to try the accord brand of Wellbutrin as an experiment to see how'd it was react to a my 🧠 Thought about going on the Honeybees Heath website to order some and than compare the two? i don't know, If it's a good idea

I've been taking Wellbutrin since August of 2025, alongside lamitcal for bipolar 1 noticed that when I take 300 xl my mind is completely silent, there's is no inner voice at all, and clam as well, plus l makes me complete the task without overthinking or not having energy and motivation to do so, Wonder is that what ADHD meds supposed to do? plus, How would I know if ADHD meds are unmasking my autism l? I've never unmasked my autism beforehand so don't know what that would look like

Hi, been wondering if anyone else feels anxious on 150xl but have a calming effect on 300 xl? Whenever I take 150 xl, my mental anxiety is still somewhat there although more "quiet" However, when I taken 300 xl The mental anxiety isn't there and my mind is completely silent PS, does anyone alternate between taking 150 xl some day's and 300 xl other days?

Hi, was wondering if anyone else has a issue with lying instead of telling the truth I've been told how I would rather lie about any and everything instead of being honest, For instance, someone could be talking to me, They Ask me if I ate their food Tend to say" no, I didn't it was right here " get asked a second time, I'll tell the truth, People tell me how they've don't understand why feel comfortable lying, my answer was don't wanna feel like getting lectured and or disappoint those around me

Hi, was wondering if anyone else has a issue with preferring to lie instead of telling the truth

I've been told how I would rather lie about any and everything instead of being honest,

For instance, someone could be talking to me,

Ask me if I ate their food

Tend to say no, I didn't get asked a second time,

I'll tell the truth

People tell me how they thought Autistic people

Have trouble lying and tend to be honest?

Been told I'm the complete opposite of it?

Has anyone else dealt with this problem

How did you fix it?

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