u/Clawingnails

So I had a severe flare up, got recommended something at the pharmacy that made it ten times worse, sent pics to the dermatologist that told me to use Mildison for 1 week, then go back on Elidel. (I've used Elidel for 1.5 years and it stopped working that how all this started)

Mildison is a mild, group I topical corticosteroid cream containing 1% hydrocortisone. That is honestly a crazy advice?? That's the LAST thing you use with PD?? I told them I'm not doing more "testing" and certainly not cortisol, so please give me antibiotics...I am so done and so frustrated.

Am I wrong? I've been doing zero therapy for 1 week and it's getting better, skin is dry and flaky meaning it's starting to heal right? Am I crazy for not doing what the specialist said? Input please!

I have a terrible flair up and have been going crazy with the burning, so I had this idea....Gua sha stone is cold...what If i pot that in the fridge and press it gently on my skin to cool off?

I've been doing it all evening and it helps you guys!

NOTE:

Just be careful to just hold it, do not rub or pull like you are supposed to, just press it gently against the skin and its soooooo soothing! Remember to clean it after use! Just a little tip from a VERY desperate girl.

He is 16, and just stated collage, and he already feels left out even tho he got invited to his first party and a concert. He says he doesn't know how to talk to teenagers, he honestly do not know how to act, stand, sit, talk, look....it's overwhelming.

We try to give advice but for us being gen X is so bizarre, its like...how do I breathe? It's second nature...at least it was to us? I hate social media so much....they spend all their time on that damn screen, even when they are together! Sitting in the sofa texting each other....

I know I am venting but I am so sad and frustrated and I am so afraid his best teenage years will just pass him by...this is the time for fun, making friends, going to parties, meet people....please is this something we struggle with just in Scandinavia or do the rest of the parents of the world struggle? I just want him to be happy and he is so lost....

He is not autistic if anyone was thinking that etc.

I've been struggling for _2 years_ now with PD, 2 antibiotic treatments, Elidel, and skin specialist. Elidel has been able to keep it under control, but the moment I stop the next day it's back.

My doc told me to keep on using Elidel even tho the skin clears up, all summer I avoided the area totally for creams etc, and been using nothing for a 4 days because I have to be indoors due to another health issue.

Today the flair up is so bad, it on both sides of my nose, even on the tip thats new (!?) and my chin, the burning is so bad and Elidel now burns too!?? What on earth could this be?? I have been in extreme state of stress the last month. I am literary loosing my mind at this point!!

Any tips????

I use warm wax, heated in a water bath, I use thin paper over the pot so no water get into the wax, still the wax gets sticky, and it doesnt remove fine hairs on my face, like the peach fuzz? And it got totally stuck in my armpit today so that was fun! NOT :O I don't understand, because the wax works fine on my legs and arms...? Any input! Thx!!!

I hate body lotions, I hate it on my skin and on my hands but I have lost so much elasticity and my skin is so dry, I have my face and chest on lock down but have been neglecting the rest of my body. I read today that body oil is essential. I've ordered CeraVe body lotion and Eucerin pH5 Shower Oil. Is this a good combo?

English not my first language so be kind please:

As many of you, I am survivor of child SA, and on top of that a several fall as a child that lead to several surgeries and years with teeth complications.

All of this made me develop odotophobia, and my teeth has been a constant problem all my life. Horrific pain, extraction, developed periodontists and lost several teeth and lost too much bone so I am not a candidate for implants.

So I have had 2 partial prostheses made, the first lasted maybe 8 years and then I got a sever mental health crisis lasting 6 years, got diagnosed with DID, PNES and SH. Had to go under in the hospital because my seizures would not be safe at the dentist office.

Waited 1 year to get into a program from odotophobia where you train with the dentist cognitive therapy to be able to get dental treatment, that took another 1 year...and in the end I got a partial prostheses in the front part of my mouth.

I was besides my self with joy, it took soooooo long so much pain and stress to get to the point and my teeth looked amazing.

1.7 years later...the prosthesis cracks. That day I thought I was going to die...I was besides my self, 1.7 years for all that work?? I read online and it said those are supposed to last at least 5+ years....now the dentist say they have 1 year for complaints for me to get a new one done and they cover it....if they say no that's 17.000 Norwegian NOK (ca 174 dollars)....and I have to go through the whole fitting process and pain all over again....I can't live without my teeth....I am 50 I look my best, I am finally mentally stable with a wonderful partner, and I now feel everything is falling apart again.

So anyone been through this? Please tell me your experience, how to cope, because i feel like i am loosing my mind all over again....

Skirts are my nemesis, I have wide hips, a narrow waste and a very curved back, and a round butt, so skirts ALWAYS ride up under by boobs. I need a waste band that is loose enough to lay around my hips. Are the Snag flare v2 good for that?? anyone??

I've been struggling with this for almost two years, Ive been to a skin specialist twice, done two antibiotic treatments and use Elidel nightly. It went away for a month came back...it seems there is nothing I can do I've read that PD can evolve into a chronic situation...I am just o beyond frustrated...I am 50 and can't do a proper skincare rutine because of this....just venting I guess....

So...do boys talk to each other on what to do, teach tricks and tips etc? I mean how do you know what to do? Men usually have to do the most in bed, it seems like a daunting task for a young boy? Girls talk about sex but in a different way me thinks, more on what happened than what and how to do things. How did you learn?

I turned 50 a week ago.

And every night I am filled with sadness. It's not depression, it's just this sadness and feeling life as I know it is over. This sounds shallow but I grew up being beautiful, I always got the men I wanted, always got attention, and I felt pretty all my life, I was never skinny, more of a curvy girl and I've always loved showing of my shape, my breasts, hips etc.

These past months so much has changed in the way I look, it happened to fast and I truly do not recognize the woman looking back at me from photos or in the mirror. Who is she? I have had to buy a whole new wardrobe to deal with all the physical changes, deflated chest area, sagging skin on legs and arms....I just do not feel like _me_ what so ever.

I think i am mourning, I wonder if its a kind of grief, that its me understanding my time is over, I will soon be invisible or a irritation to younger people, and I _hate_ to think that. I hate how I look, I hate having to worry about how I sit, to constantly rearrange my top, worry about what kind of bra to wear....I've spent 50 years finding out who I am, my style, my personality...now?

I am nobody, I feel hollow, like a shell....I just want to cry thinking about summer and not being able to wear my lovely summer dresses, but having to hide and be ashamed. Yeah...I know a lot of you might think im shallow, and I know a lot of you think aging is the best thing ever, and that "I will find peace"....I am not so sure...

I am totally changed and I was totally not prepared...anyways...if anyone f going through this, please, please tell me how you are coping, or just share your feelings because I feel so terribly alone right now...Thank you.

English is not my first language so I'll do my best:

So...I'm 48F my partner is 60M. I discovered two small lumps in my private areas. Both can be fixed with treatment but I am worried how my partner will react to me saying certain things are off the table when it comes to being intimate. The lumps are visible and it makes me feel really insecure.

I havent told him until after the meeting with my doctor today, he could tell I was worried all day and I told him and cried because they have to check it to make sure its nothing dangerous.

So....now I feel like I don't want to be intimate...he casually mentioned he had noticed one of them and was just focused on me getting help etc....

Do mature men care less when it comes to things like these? Or do situations like these make you feel less attracted to your partner?

Thank you for your advice.

Me F49 (not Greek) dating Greek M60. I have made him melomakarona and bought him praying beads, beautiful crucifixes, Greek decoration items etc and I am running out of ideas. Would deeply appreciate some advice on how to spoil him and make his heart happy! Thank you!

Greetings! I prob has every palette that came out 3-5 years ago then I fell off and now I am looking to get a few new ones, im cool toned, fair skinned, green eyes, magenta hair, I am not a fan of glue or green, but taupe, purple etc. I love glitter, duo chrome, shimmers, and I love indie brands. Have to have international shipping. Let me hear your best suggestions!

I am doing it.

I have started the process of the lengthy, legal process of going after the state for my abusive childhood and the loss of income.

I am turning 50 in a few days. I am sitting here feeling scared, proud, worried, but determined. It took me 30 years to go no contact, and I never told anyone what happened in that house as a child, except my therapists and a few close friends.

What happened ruined my life in so many ways, I managed to get a higher degree and worked in a very high paid job when I suddenly got an acute mental health crisis that lasted 6 years. DID, PNES, C-PTSD, SH and psychosis and endless hospitalizations. And now I am on welfare.

So.

I was looking at my picture of my brother that took his own life years ago, and I felt this powerful feeling in my chest and and I told him "I am fucking going to do this for you too, it's for both of us"

No more hiding, no more protecting someone who deserves nothing but punishment, If I win I will get not only a financial solution to a very hard life situation but I will win my life back, I will end the cycle of being stepped on and just taking it. I'm done. I'm on a warpath and I will stop at nothing to take my abusers down.

I just really needed to share that with someone who knows how hard this is, how hard it will be, but I know many people in here will support me.

Thank you if you read of of this, and I wish nothing but the best for you all.

I am very hourglass shaped, I have a _very_ curved back that makes most dresses to big in the back, and a balloon-like belly due to some meds and a very rounded butt, I only wear dresses and I can wear stretchy pencil skirts, but I desperately want a flared skirt. But those _always_ just ride up and the band end up under my boobs not around my hips. I don't want to pay the 600 nok to get the Snagtights ones, I'm lookin for something cheaper, so anyone got any tips??

I love wearing pointy flats, but the shoes always rub against the instep area, is there any good protection that wont be too visible? Thx!