What are some outdoor activities that I can do that aren’t physically taxing? I love the outdoors and I always wish I was doing more outside, but the obvious things like going for walks or anything more is too hard on my body sometimes. I want to be able to go outside but I also don’t see a point in just going and sitting and staring at my phone. What can I do outside that’s actually entertaining but simple?
Has anyone here with vertigo ever been on a cruise?
I know that cruise ships are huge and many people say that you don’t even notice that it’s moving, but I thought that it might be different for someone with vertigo or it might be more noticeable for us.
I’m just curious because i’d love to go on a cruise, but I don’t want to risk getting on and being wobbly and unable to get out of it.
The biggest boat i’ve been on has been a ferry that’s pretty big, but a little under half the size of a cruise ship and even on calm waters i’ve been unsteady.
How do you shop for clothes? Do you just buy whatever looks cute and then try to style it later? Or do you go shopping with certain pieces in mind specifically to style them in certain outfits. I swear I can’t put together a cohesive outfit to save my life. Sometimes I buy things in the store that I think are cute and get home and never wear it because I don’t know how to style it. And I see inspo pics of outfits online that I see and think “Wow i’d love to wear that outfit” but then I look at the clothing pieces separately and think “I’d never see that in a store and be drawn to it or want to buy it.” It’s only looking at the outfit as a whole that i’d consider it. I’m so frustrated with not being able to envision how clothing items would look together and I just don’t know what to do.
I want to dress cute so bad. But I just end up wearing a plain shirt and a pair of jeans with no accessories, because styling outfits hurts my brain so much.
I don’t know what to do
Signed a frustrated girl who was never taught to dress cute
I’m moving in with my partner in a few weeks and I’m wondering how those of you who have partners sleep comfortably with them in bed beside you?
Personally I use a lot of pillows in bed to support my joints, but when I sleep with my partner there isn’t enough space for the two of us plus all my pillows.
I flip flop around in bed—I sleep on my sides mostly but get bad shoulder pain so sometimes I sleep on my stomach or back. It changes throughout the night.
Alone, I sleep with a body pillow on one side of me, and a large stuffed animal on the other side. I usually put a small squishmallow on top of my body pillow to put my arms around (to keep my shoulder from dropping forward) and keep a pillow between my knees. When in bed with my partner, I keep my large stuffed animal (so I can easily move it to the other side when I flip over) and my knee pillow. It’s helpful, but it’s not enough and I usually wake up in pain. I think being wedged between my body pillow and stuffed animals keeps some leverage under/around my shoulders when I flip onto my back which might be the main thing i’m missing.
I’ve heard a lot of hypermobile people say that sleeping in bed with a partner makes things less painful, and to that I say…HOW? Please, please share whatever positions you’re comfortable in and any pillow supports or pillow positioning that work for you.
Me and my partner have separate beds, in case of my pain flares but we’d love to be able to actually sleep together a few times a week without me waking up in pain.
Part of sitting/laying comfortably for me is having a pillow underneath my knees for extra support. I’m not really sure what exactly it helps with, but i just feel much more comfortable with my legs over a pillow. But I don’t think it’s enough? Even with some elevation under my knees I still feel the urge to cross my legs or bend them up, bend one to the side (like frog legs), or criss cross them while i’m sitting/laying down.
What do I doooo and why does this happen? I feel better with the pillow there but I still want to go all bendy
I’ve been in a reading slump for a year now, i’ve picked up 4 different books to get me out of this, and i’ve deemed all of them as DNF. My favourite genre is probably romantasy (bonus points if it’s wlw, but doesn’t have to be), I really loved the Criers War duology and the Malice duology. I couldn’t put them down, so i’m trying to find a romantasy/fantasy book(s) that are somewhat similar. I love a dystopian world but I don’t want anything super high fantasy (ex. Game of Thrones). I also like to switch things up a lot so I don’t want to commit to a series any longer than 3 books.
Someone pleasseee drag me out of this reading slump i’ll be forever grateful.
What does everyone think about promise rings? I know that lesbians tend to stereotypically move quickly, so I don’t even know if this is a common thing within queer relationships, but i’m curious.
I’ve been dating my girlfriend for over 2 years now, and I lowkey would love one…
I’ve never really told her, because it’s not something you want to have to tell your partner you want. You want them to want to give you one. I would consider myself to be very femme so maybe I sound very cliche by saying that, but anyway.
We were talking about the idea of promise rings one day maybe a year ago, and she said she doesn’t really understand the point of them, when you could just use the money you would spend on a promise ring, toward an engagement ring. Which makes sense, logically. But I don’t know. I see it differently because I’ve been in attachment style therapy for years and I tend to feel a lot more secure in a relationship when I’m reassured that there’s a long term commitment. It just symbolizes more to me than maybe she can see?
I’m interested in hearing everyone else’s opinion on promise rings. Yes or no?
Recently i’ve been experiencing pretty bad blood pooling in my hands. It’s worse in the mornings but happens all throughout the day, and they get so red that they appear shiny. They burn and drive me mad with how uncomfortable they are. It’s become an everyday thing and i’m wondering if anyone else has experienced it this badly?
The skin on my hands and feet are also irritated really easily. For example, I have to be really careful about the fabric of compression socks that I buy, because a lot of materials irritate my skin and make my feet burn even more.
I have POTs, but I have my suspicions about MCAS as well.
What the heck can I do about this?!
Can someone please guide me on what my options are? I haven’t been diagnosed with hEDS, but I passed the Beighton scale test 6/9.
I’ve been having pain with my back, hips, wrists and ankles for years, but mostly my neck and shoulders. My shoulders are VERY hypermobile and occasionally sublux. Everytime I move or straighten my posture my shoulder blade feels stiff then clicks and gives me an ounce of relief, but it happens every few minutes.
I’ve tried massage therapy, and physio (with temporary relief of muscle pain) but those are the only things i’ve really tried. I feel like my pain and hypermobility is getting worse and nothing seems to be helping as much as I need it to and it’s starting to really worry me.
Are there any specialists I could try seeing about this or anything I could try to help my shoulders stay in place better? I’ve considered trying KT tape.
My whole body is stiff and i’m at a loss :(
Everytime i have to get ready for an event that involves wearing something that isn’t pyjamas and having to apply makeup i loseee my minddd. I hate the feeling of makeup on my face. it makes my eyes twitch. then i’m out and about and i so much as breathe and it all melts off my face. then there’s lipgloss on my straw and my mascara is turning into a smokey eye and somehow there’s concealer on my eyeball and now i need an emergency rinsing station.
Does anyone relate to this? It’s so frustrating! I rarely ever wear makeup. I don’t get how people do it everyday, but I wish i was able to do it. Maybe once every couple months for important events. How do you contain yourself from crashing out over the sensory aspect of makeup?
My physiotherapist gave me exercises to strengthen my neck, back, shoulders, and legs since i’ve become pretty deconditioned from pain and not being able to move much.
I don’t know if this is apart of the strengthening process but I have found that when I do the exercises (especially for my neck back and shoulders) the next day my neck is stiff and whenever I move my head I get dizzy, my shoulders are popping and things are cracking more than usual (i’m hypermobile).
I work 5 days a week and i’m trying to be consistent but with how I feel after doing the exercises, I don’t want to do them and be miserable at work.
Does this happen to anyone else and will it get easier? How do i keep doing the exercises if i feel so bad after? Is it worth it?
I want to make someone a display plate out of air dry clay for a wedding gift but i’m not sure what to seal it with. I seal all my projects with mod podge but it usually leaves a rough looking surface once it’s dry. I like the look of the finished products of UV resin but I don’t have a UV machine and don’t really want to buy one. But i’d love a glossier shiny look on this plate if possible.
What sort of finish could I buy that might give me same effect?
Does anyone else find that sea salt quenches the craving for salt so much better than regular table salt? I’ve started eating sea salt tortilla chips and i’m addicted to them now
Hi everyone! My partner has OCD and I am unsure how to go about something in the best way, that maybe someone here can help me with.
I made her one of those lego anniversary portrait things, the ones where you put lego characters of you both in a shadow box. I couldn’t afford a shadow box, so I just glued them to a wooden thing and did it like that.
I customized the legos at a second hand lego store, since I didn’t know how else to get them for cheap. She is very against second hand items due to her OCD, so I am a little worried about where the legos aren’t enclosed that she may not want to touch them if she knows they’re second hand (which is 100% okay), i’m just wondering if I should tell her they’re second hand as soon as she opens it so she doesn’t find out after maybe touching them and panic? I washed them really well before gluing them in, so maybe this isn’t even something that will bother her, but I don’t know.
I just want her to enjoy the gift and be comfortable with it, so what do you guys think?
This isn’t a judgement at all, just neurodivergent curiosity. Why do people make social media posts for special events like father’s day, valentine’s day, birthdays, etc? Like if you want to tell the person how much you love & appreciate them on a certain day, why not just text them directly? or tell them directly, instead of posting what you want to say to them online? I’ve even seen people post things like this toward people that don’t have social media!
Is this performative? Or is it something else? Does anyone else have the same confusion as me or would be able to explain it to me?
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The million dollar question;
How do you scissor?!
Seriously, asking personally…how do you scissor?
I think it “exists”, I just think that whether it works depends on anatomy and body mobility.
Me and my girlfriend have been trying to find a comfortable position for forever (I have chronic pain & hypermobility). The only way that’s worked so far has been me straddling her lap while she’s laying on her back. It feels great, but makes my hips hurt after a couple minutes 🥲
Help a girl out ✨🤞
Does anyone else’s knees bend back way far? 😭 If i’m standing for long enough they’ll go back and lock, and then when i move again im terrified they’re going to just snap or something. That’s probably unrealistic but it freaks me out so bad. It feels so weird when they go back to normal as i’m walking.
(Undiagnosed hEDS, Beighton score 6/9)
Controversial topic…
If you have bangs that cover the forehead, should you still apply makeup underneath them?
How do you guys help settle tachycardia symptoms without meds? Some days I can’t even change positions in bed without my heart pounding and it ends up giving me the worst headaches.
today my partner asked if i wanted to try a new sexual activity, which was something i was forced into by my friend years ago. i was hesitant and said i wasn’t interested, which she was really understanding about and didn’t pressure me at all, but then i started to think about my past experiences and immediately had a panic attack and started crying. I was completely shocked by my reaction, because i had no idea the experience that i had affected me that deeply, since i’ve always acknowledged it wasn’t fully consensual, but i didn’t know it was that bad internally. I’m just confused and feeling really anxious about it now, and i’m struggling to reprocess things. I refused to share why I was so upset with my partner because I was processing it myself.