u/Dangerous_Poet_5831

I cannot deal with stress at all. My brain is constantly fogged, my tolerance is so bad right now. In my household I am exposed to highloads of second hand stress.

I can think 1+5+4+7 = and forget the first 3 numbers, or say sentences instead of A, B, C, D the words will come out A, T, E, 4 or D, B, A, C. This is really affecting my work. In the past 3 months I have been asked if I have a brain impairment.

Somedays (once in 2 weeks) things look positive, I will be on full alert then, I will have a slight conflict, be rushed to do something and my brain is fogged.

Narcissist coworker is on holiday for the next two weeks until she starts new job out of town at our new department.

She proudly states and her words that she is a stalker, that she loves malicious gossip, and likes to know personal information. She knows information about clients families because she looks the up on facebook, she will often rattle off how much a clients house is worth and where their brother / sister works, and sometimes gossip she has learnt.

Over the past almost two years she has asked me where I live and where my husband works. She has asked me a lot about my family. I've not shared anything. She thinks we all live together. The thing is I'm estranged from them, they are just like her.

Her new coworker, who is friendly, I went to school with far away from where we are. I have no contact with her.

I'm worried narcissistic coworker is going to contact my family as she is going to know where I am from and there is a very high chance she will.

I don't know what to do.

Narcissist coworker is on holiday for the next two weeks until she starts new job out of town at our new department.

She proudly states and her words that she is a stalker, that she loves malicious gossip, and likes to know personal information. She knows information about clients families because she looks the up on facebook, she will often rattle off how much a clients house is worth and where their brother / sister works, and sometimes gossip she has learnt.

Over the past almost two years she has asked me where I live and where my husband works. She has asked me a lot about my family. I've not shared anything. She thinks we all live together. The thing is I'm estranged from them, they are just like her.

Her new coworker, who is friendly, I went to school with far away from where we are. I have no contact with her.

I'm worried narcissistic coworker is going to contact my family as she is going to know where I am from and the is a very high chance she will.

I'm don't know what to do.

I'm 35, 15 years ago I went through a string of stressful and toxic bullying which lasted 4 years. And would have episodes where I could have a visitor leave and instantly forget who it was. I lost a lot of weight from stress and went on medication for 8 years. Since then things haven't been the same.

The medication helped a lot with the physical symptoms and rumination. But I slept, A LOT, I felt I was always in a daze.

Now, I sleep and eat well. I have a demanding job in terms of paper work, and I am a supervisor of a team of people who sometimes cause trouble and create a toxic environment.

When talking my mind goes blank, I forget things like names of shows I watch every day. The other day we had a social event, (I find social events very stressful), and I found myself talking to myself, "I am getting myself a latte". I thought one person I know was another person I know, I was sure I saw her face.

Things can happen around me, such as a child came into our building the other day was right next to me pouring water from our water cooler, I could see them but I could only focus on talking, which was full of blankness. I mention this as although I saw the child, it did not register in my brain what he was doing.

I don't have much screen time outside of work. I use my phone only for calls. Go to bed at 10, wake up at 7 every day.

I could start to have a good day, where I am a bit more alert, or my brain is working, then something minor will happen it doesn't need to be a stressful event, such as husband will complain about something, or manager will give me another task, or I cannot find something. And my mind will go.

This morning we had a meeting. We brought up a non work topic and one member Rachel became embarrassed face went red and slouched in the chair. Jenny a raving narcissist called out "Rachel, ha What's wrong, ha ha you look sooo embarrassed ha ha ha" giggling away as if they were on a comfortable friends terms but Rachel became more embarrassed and slouched more. ​​​

I've seen this before why do they do this to the quieter ones? ​​​

In the past year. Assistant manager has said.

"I'm an only child, yeah I know it's hard I have a lot of responsibilty for my mom"​​ when I ​found she is her single mothers caregiver (her mother is in a wheelchair). 2 weeks later told me that she spends alot of time with her 2 sisters and brother​.

Lied to me last week saying coworker said she could have our new desk. Coworker was really suprised she would lie like that as she said she clearly said no.​

Our HR is leaving. Our department have gotten together flowers and signed a card. She asked what we are doing I told her. "Us too just that" she said. I found her department have brought her jewelry, flowers, a spa day, and ​3 nights at a hotel. ​We don't care but why lie?

She just lies and lies. She constantly lies about me and what I've said creating conflict between me and manager. ​Manager always sides with her. She is also very confrontational so it isn't doneout of fear. Why does she do this?

December 2024 I took on supervisor job originally offered to Jill. Jill couldn't take it as had to look after husband until March 2025. Came back and made it obvious I had her position, and she cannot appear to get over it, and I am her target. Clear narcissist, and I know narcissists. Turned everyone against me, and now the manager, won't listen to me, calls me a liar, and takes her side on everything. (Jill has since been promoted to assistant manager). My department has finally realized how toxic Jill is, and she is also swooping in on them. But becoming more sneaky towards me and the other 5 departments are against me and my department.

I manage finances, I have been to middle school this behavior is not my thing, and I am going to leave. I have been looking for a new position since March. This has been the best job I've had, until Jill and if Jill wasn't here it would be fantastic.

I have some happiness, as I am skilled in three areas, do three peoples work, and at a very good standard, when I leave, it will cause some short term problem.