u/Fancy_Sweet9577

Does anyone else feel micromanaged by their nanny family and even the nanny kids? Recently, the nine-year-old has been relaying things her parents supposedly want me to do, then checking before I leave to make sure I’ve done them. I try not to get annoyed, but I’ve already asked her not to do that because I communicate directly with her parents. If there’s anything they need me to do or aren’t happy with, they can speak to me themselves. However, it keeps happening and seems to be getting worse every day.

I recently had my yearly review with my nanny family and brought up a few concerns that I felt were completely reasonable. I currently make $25 an hour caring for three children a 9-year-old, 3-year-old, and 1-year-old and consistently work long hours. I requested an increase to $27 an hour based on my experience, responsibilities, inflation, and the market rate for experienced nannies in Connecticut.

I also requested 10 total paid days off five PTO days and five sick days which they agreed to. I already know I’m underpaid and don’t receive the standard benefits many nannies receive, I literally work 50+ hours and sometimes more and don’t recieve OT. I honestly think they know that too, but believe as though they’re doing me a favor.

Ever since I emailed them a written summary of the review, they’ve seemingly been giving me the cold shoulder. They barely say hello or goodbye, and I feel like I have to force any acknowledgment out of them. I received my normal paycheck today with no increase, and they haven’t said whether the raise was approved, denied, or still being considered.

There’s also an issue with taking the children to the pool. Today I asked the dad whether the 9-year-old had class (unrelated to the pool) and he responded, “Nope… she and Muhammad can get ready for the pool for the afternoon when I get home.” I don’t know whether they’re upset that I haven’t been taking the kids swimming, but the pool requires another adult when there are three children under certain ages. I cannot safely supervise a 9-year-old, 3-year-old, and 1-year-old by myself in the water. I can’t leave the older two unattended while caring for the baby. I could take them before the youngest was born, but the situation is obviously different now.

I feel underappreciated and undervalued, and it has been making me constantly sad and miserable at work. I shouldn’t feel guilty for asking for the bare minimum. At this point, I almost feel like they should let me go if they resent me this much for advocating for myself.

Am I overthinking their behavior, or does it sound like they’re upset with me for requesting a raise and benefits?

I want to quit so badly, but I financially can’t right now. My nanny family and I haven’t been on the same page for months, despite what they claim. I’m severely underpaid, don’t receive overtime, barely receive any benefits, and they refused to sign a contract yet they act like they’re doing me a favor.

They also have cameras everywhere and constantly micromanage and monitor me. Almost every time I leave the room, they start talking to the kids through the cameras or text me about something the kids are doing. It makes me extremely uncomfortable, and it has for months. The one time I have lunch or time to myself I have to sit in a dining table front from the camera just so I can feel like they’re not watching me eat. If you don’t trust me and constantly feel the need to watch your children, why hire a nanny and take care of them yourselves? both are doctors btw.

There are so many other things I’ve been unhappy about, too. The bottom line is that I desperately want to quit, but I can’t leave without another job lined up. I’ve been looking, but finding something else hasn’t been easy. I don’t know if I should talk to them about all these concerns or find another job and quit without notice.

I’ve been a nanny for this family for about two years. I care for three children and currently make $25/hour. I recently brought up my yearly review, but our conversation had to be cut short, so the parents asked me to email everything I wanted to discuss.
In the email, I requested an increase to $27/hour and clarified my responsibilities regarding household messes. I explained that I always clean up dishes and messes created during my working hours, but I don’t believe dishes or messes created after I clock out should be left for me to handle the following morning.

Just FYI, They do have cleaning ladies who come every two weeks.

I also explained that I’ve been teaching the children to be more independent by putting their toys away, throwing out their trash and bringing their dishes to the sink. They understand the routine and are normally very good about following it.

The only response I received was, “Received. We’ll make time to discuss.” It has now been two days, and ever since I sent the email, I’ve arrived to find dishes from the previous night in the sink, toys left everywhere and more mess than usual.

I understand that they are closing on a new house and things may be hectic, so I don’t want to assume the worst. However, the timing feels strange because this started immediately after I clarified that overnight messes weren’t part of my responsibilities and rate increase and feel like in a way both have been giving me cold shoulder since our previous convo about PTO.

Would you see this as moving-related chaos, or does it sound like they may be testing my boundary? Should I leave the overnight messes alone and only clean what is used during my shift, or address it directly before our review conversation?

location: bloomfield CT

I’ve been with my nanny family for two years and work about 50 hours a week, sometimes more, caring for three children who are 9, 3, and 1. I currently make $25/hour, don’t receive overtime, have guaranteed hours, and have eight PTO/sick days combined.
During my yearly review, I tried to meet them in the middle regarding benefits. Last year I already felt like asking for more PTO was difficult for them, so this year I was hoping for at least 10 PTO days with separate sick time, or something reasonably close to that. Instead, I came away from the conversation feeling like my concerns weren’t really being considered.

Their position seems to be that because I have guaranteed hours and sometimes get paid when they travel, I don’t really need two weeks of vacation plus sick days. They brought up a previous two-week trip to California where I was paid while they were gone. I explained that they only gave me around one or two weeks’ notice about that trip, so I couldn’t realistically plan my own vacation. I ended up spending that time at home. Being paid because my employers chose not to use me is appreciated, but I don’t think that should be considered the same thing as PTO that I can actually choose and plan myself.

Guaranteed hours and PTO serve two completely different purposes. Guaranteed hours protect my income when the family chooses not to have me work. PTO gives me the ability to choose and plan my own time away from work.

They normally take Thanksgiving week off, and in previous years I’ve also had that week off and been paid. This year, however, they told me they’ll be home for Thanksgiving week but will still need me to come in. They also said they aren’t sure they’ll take any vacations at all this year. At the same time, they’re suggesting that I should take my vacation when they take theirs.

That essentially means my ability to have a vacation depends entirely on whether they happen to take one. If they decide not to travel this year, I could theoretically work the entire year without having a meaningful stretch of time off unless I use my very limited combined PTO/sick days.

The mom also brought up her own employment situation. She told me that there is apparently a new policy at her workplace where she gets nine weeks of vacation/time off, but that she supposedly isn’t paid for those nine weeks. Both parents are doctors. I understand that every employer structures benefits differently, but I don’t really understand why her personal employment benefits should determine what is considered reasonable for mine. Whether her nine weeks are paid or unpaid doesn’t change the fact that I work 50+ hours a week caring for three children and need the ability to take my own planned time off as well.

What bothers me most is that they keep saying they want things to be fair to me, but I don’t feel like the arrangement is actually balanced. I’m available to them around 50 hours every week, sometimes more. I don’t receive overtime. I care for three children, including a toddler and a one-year-old. I have only eight combined PTO/sick days, and now I’m being told that ideally my vacations should coincide with theirs—even though they might not take a vacation.
I haven’t even discussed my hourly raise with them yet. I currently make $25/hour and was planning to request $27/hour based on my two years with them, the number and ages of the children, my responsibilities, and my hours.

I’m not expecting an excessive amount of time off, and I understand that they need reliable childcare. I just want guaranteed hours and PTO to remain separate. they also stated that they know that I don’t take days off and that when I do it’s because I’m sick and they really do appreciate when I still come in even though I don’t feel well and that they’re grateful for me …….If they choose to travel or otherwise don’t need me, guaranteed hours cover my normal income. My PTO should be time that I can request and use for my own vacation, with reasonable advance notice, rather than my only opportunity for a vacation depending on when or whether my employers decide to travel.

After the review, I honestly left feeling like I was asking for too much even though I don’t think 10 days of PTO plus separate sick days and a reasonable raise after two years is an unreasonable request for a 50+ hour/week position caring for three kids. if they think all this is too much, I can only imagine what they’re going to say to $27 an hour. Also I just want to state that I took this job because I really needed one. The job market was bad back then so I took what I can get. I have been looking, but it hasn’t been easy.

Location: CT

EDIT: I also want to add that Fridays are pretty much the only days I’m able to leave early for appointments or personal matters, and even then, I have to schedule them around 2 p.m., which is only three hours before my shift normally ends.

I’ve been with my nanny family for two years, and they’ve expressed that they’d like me to stay for another three years, possibly even longer.
I’m in Connecticut and currently make $25/hour working 50 hours a week. My only benefits are guaranteed hours and paid holidays. I don’t receive overtime or paid vacation and instead 8 pto/sick combined.

We also don’t have a contract in place. I’ve brought up having one numerous times, but they don’t think it’s necessary because they feel like we’re all already “on the same page.”

Since we’re discussing me staying with them long-term, I want to ask for a raise from $25 to $27/hour, two weeks of paid vacation, and five paid sick days. I have a feeling they’ll either decline the $27 or counter with $26, so I’m trying to figure out what would be reasonable before having the conversation.

For the two weeks of vacation, should I be asking for both weeks to be at my discretion with reasonable notice? Or is it standard for one week to be my choice and the other to be coordinated with the family’s vacation? Since I already have guaranteed hours, I’m also wondering whether their vacation should really count toward my vacation time at all.

I’d also like some advice on paid holidays. The parents are doctors, so their work schedules don’t always line up with traditional holidays. These are the days I’m considering asking to have paid/off:

Labor Day, Thanksgiving, Black Friday, Christmas Day, New Year’s Day, Presidents’ Day, Memorial Day, July 3rd (my birthday), and Independence Day.
I may also take October 28–30 off, but that vacation isn’t confirmed yet and I would use my vacation time for those days.

For other career nannies, especially anyone familiar with the CT market: Does $27/hour + 50 guaranteed hours + two weeks paid vacation + five sick days + paid holidays sound reasonable for a nanny caring for three children after two years with the same family? And how would you structure the vacation time?

My ex and I were together for about a year. During that relationship, he cheated on me throughout it, gave me genital herpes and probably gave it to others, lied to me about countless things, abused me, and threatened me and my family numerous times.

After I found out about everything he had done, I left him and we were apart for about three months. Then he came back into my life claiming to be a completely “changed man.” He insisted that he wasn’t the same person anymore, that he had worked on himself, and that he wanted the opportunity to prove to me that he had genuinely changed.

Against my better judgment, I let him back into my life. I know now that it was stupid, and I regret it, but part of me still loved and cared about him. I wanted to believe that maybe he really had changed.

However, I was honest with him from the moment I allowed him back into my life that my feelings had changed because of everything I found out. I told him that if at any point I decided I didn’t want to continue talking to him or wanted to move on with my life, I would tell him, and that needed to be the end of it.
I’ve been trying to do exactly that for months, but every time I tried to walk away, he would manipulate me into feeling guilty about leaving. He would remind me how much he had supposedly changed, tell me that he had been loyal since coming back into my life, and make me feel like that meant he deserved another chance.

Recently, we got into another conversation about our relationship. He kept saying he’s human and made mistakes and basically asked me how he could be such a terrible person if I had fallen in love with him.
So I finally told him the truth

“I wasn’t in love with you. I liked you because of your personality, or at least who I thought you were, and I saw potential in you. But looking back, our relationship was never real because you were hiding things from me from the beginning and cheating throughout the entire relationship. I fell for the fake version of you that you presented to me, not the reality of who you actually were. So I honestly don’t know what you ‘lost,’ because the person I thought I was with never actually existed.”

He got extremely upset because that wasn’t the answer he wanted to hear.

I wasn’t saying it to purposely hurt him or get some kind of “gotcha” moment. It was genuinely how I felt. How am I supposed to know whether I was actually in love with someone when the person I thought I was falling for wasn’t being honest about who he was? Finding out everything he had done completely changed the way I saw him and the way I felt about him.

Another huge issue has been money. Since coming back into my life, he chose to spend money on me, buy things for me, and pay for certain things things he has never done the entirety of our relationship. At the time, he told me he was doing those things because he loved me, wanted to be with me, and wanted to prove that he had changed. I never thought he would eventually use any of it against me.
But once I started seriously trying to leave, he began bringing up how much money he had spent on me and making me feel like I owed him something because of it.

So I told him to write down everything he believes I owe him for, give me the total amount, and I will pay him back. I don’t want anything hanging over my head or for him to be able to claim that I used him.
His response was basically, “That’s not the point.” He said he didn’t do those things because he expected repayment. He did them because he loved me and wanted to prove he had changed.
So then why bring the money up every time I try to leave?

The final straw was finding out that he was lying to me AGAIN about other women. After everything he had done and all the promises about how different he supposedly was, he was still lying.
At that point, I decided I was completely done. I told him I didn’t want to speak to him anymore and started blocking him.

Since then, he has contacted me from around 15 different phone numbers. I block one number, and another one contacts me. I block that one, and somehow there’s another. Now he has involved his friends and family. he is pinning everyone against me and making himself look like the villain.

For the past two days, I’ve been getting constant texts and calls from people connected to him attacking me and my character. I’ve been called a gold digger. I’ve been questioned about why I accepted anything from him if I supposedly wasn’t in love with him. I’ve had people make fun of me for continuing to talk to him after finding out what he had already done to me, and some of them have threatened me.

I genuinely don’t know what he’s telling these people.
Everything he did financially was something he CHOSE to do while actively trying to convince me that he had changed and that I should give him another chance. I never told him that spending money on me would make me take him back or fall in love with him again.

and again, the SECOND he tried holding that money over my head, I told him to give me a list and an amount of what he believes I owe him and I would pay it.
It’s been two days. He still hasn’t given me an amount.

Instead, I’ve gotten nonstop calls, texts, insults, threats, and harassment from him and people connected to him.

He even had another girl contact me about getting belongings he left at my house. Meanwhile, he’s already following new women again. That’s his business and he can do whatever he wants now that we’re done, but I don’t understand how he can simultaneously act like he’s completely devastated over losing me while involving other women and sending an army of people after me because I don’t want to be with him.

“You liked j bc of his personality & guess what ? Yours is ugly and you need to fix it you think your that “bitch” & your not tryna put my brother down like he’s an ugly n*** and he’s not. get it together bbg, get help also if you need it and leave j df alone.”biz what his sister told me ….

I am just so fucking angry... All I wanted was to move on peacefully.

I know I shouldn’t have let him back into my life. I regret it more than anything. But part of me still cared about him, and after hearing over and over again how much he had changed, I wanted to believe maybe it was true.

But my feelings were never the same after finding out what he had done to me. I knew deep down that this wasn’t going anywhere, and I finally decided to stop dragging it out and be honest with him.
Apparently, because the truth wasn’t what he wanted to hear, I’m now the villain.

He made me feel like it was wrong for me to leave because he had supposedly changed so much. He acted like because he had been “loyal” since we started talking again, he deserved a second chance and I was somehow wrong for not being able to forget everything that happened before.

But now that I’m actually leaving, I’m seeing the same behavior again lying, manipulation, threats, refusing to respect my boundaries, contacting me from different numbers after being blocked, involving other people, and trying to destroy my character because I don’t want to be with him.

I feel like I’m going crazy because there are so many people coming at me and telling me what a horrible person I am when all I have been trying to do is END THIS.
I’m considering going to court and trying to get a restraining order because I genuinely don’t know what else I’m supposed to do. I’ve blocked him. I’ve told him to stop contacting me. I’ve blocked the new numbers. I’ve tried not responding. It doesn’t stop.
I’m saving screenshots of the messages, calls, and threats because at this point I don’t know how far this is going to go. he has left me alone for now, but eventually, he will reach out.

I’m angry at him, but I’m also angry at myself for letting him back into my life when I knew better. I wish I had walked away permanently the first time and never looked back.

I just wanted to move on with my life in peace, and now it feels like he’s involving as many people as possible to hurt me, embarrass me, and make me look like the bad person because I finally decided I don’t want to be with him anymore.

AIO for being this angry and considering going to court for a restraining order just to finally get him and everyone he’s involving to leave me alone?

I (27F) dated my ex for about a year. During that time, he cheated on me for the entire relationship, was emotionally and verbally abusive, lied constantly, struggled with alcoholism, put me through hell put me and gave me genital herpes without disclosing it.

I eventually left him, but a few months ago I agreed to talk to him again because he wanted another chance (I gave him two) Since then, he’s been going to therapy, no longer drinks, got a better job and is a firefighter now and has been doing everything he can to prove he’s changed. I’ll admit that part of me believes he has changed, but the more we talked, the more I realized I couldn’t get past everything he’d done. I don’t feel the same anymore, and I’ve told him multiple times that I don’t see us ever getting back together even getting back into this I told him that there’s no guarantee I’ll be with him and my feelings can change at any moment.

The problem is that he refuses to accept it.
Every time I try to end things, something comes up. One time it was his dad getting into an accident. Another time, after I told him I was done, he said he was coming to my apartment to talk even though I repeatedly told him not to. When I told him not to come, he said he’d been arrested. It feels like every time I try to leave, the conversation turns into something where I feel guilty for even bringing up my feelings. then he’ll bash me and tell me that his friends would tell him to stop talking to me to move on and just be with someone new and I have agreed with him so many times like if that’s how you feel that’s how your friend feel then do it?

Now he’s started bringing up money. He’ll say things like, “I paid for this,” or “I did that for you,” as if I owe him something. So I finally told him to make a list of everything he believes I owe him, include the amounts, and I’ll pay him back when I’m able.
His response was, “That’s not the point.”

That made me feel like the money isn’t actually the issue. It feels like he expects me to stay because he’s changed and because of everything he’s doing now he’s never done when we were actually together.
At this point, I’m emotionally checked out. I don’t hate him, I don’t want revenge, and I’m not trying to expose him or tell people what he did. I genuinely just want to move on with my life and be left alone.

I realized I just can’t move past everything. Now I feel guilty because he’s putting in all this ‘effort’, while I’m asking him to leave me alone. crazy thing is after everything HE has done to me I feel bad for him and just feel guilty for leaving.

AITAH for deciding it’s too late and wanting him out of my life, even after giving him another chance?

I’m 27F and ran into this guy at a bar a few weeks ago. I recognized him and decided to say hi. I wasn’t flirting or trying to pursue anything I was genuinely just being friendly which I made that clear.

Afterward, he DMed me on Instagram and asked if I wanted to go on a date because there was a movie coming out that he wanted to see. I said yes, and we agreed on Sunday. Since he was the one who asked me out and planned the date, I assumed he would eventually send me the time/details.

He never did.

Instead, two days before we were supposed to go out, he texted me late at night asking if I wanted to come over. It was almost midnight. I told him I’d let him know, but I never got back to him because, realistically, I wasn’t about to go to a guy’s house at midnight. I also felt like it was pretty obvious what he was looking for by inviting me over that late.
The next day he messaged me again asking if I was alright because I had basically disappeared. I saw the message and completely forgot to respond. I actually planned on responding today, but then I noticed he had unfollowed me on Instagram. (only been a day)

I was already a little iffy about him, so now I’m kind of glad I followed my gut. I originally said hi to him because I’m a friendly person, not because I was secretly interested in hooking up with him or planning on sleeping with him.

What bothers me more than the unfollow is that he was the one who asked me on an actual date, we picked a day, and then he never followed through with any of the plans. Instead, he tried to get me to come over around midnight. Then when I didn’t, he unfollowed me.

Am I reading too much into this, or does it sound like he was mainly looking for a hookup and lost interest when I didn’t go over? should i even say anything? AITA?

I called my mom today just to check in and see how she was doing. We talked for a little bit, and I eventually tried to express how I’ve been feeling. I told her that I feel like if I don’t call her, I won’t hear from her at all. She also never comes to visit me, even though we only live about 10 minutes away from each other. I’ve lived in my apartment for two years, and she has only been here once during that entire time. she also doesn’t plan anything with me and when I try, she’s always busy or has a headache or there’s just always an excuse but I had always noticed when it comes to other people, especially men she has all the time.

Instead of acknowledging where I was coming from or genuinely listening to how I felt, she kept turning everything back around on me. She kept saying that I can call her too and that I can also go see her. The problem is, I DO call her and I DO go see her. That was literally the point I was trying to make. I feel like if I stopped putting in the effort, I wouldn’t see or hear from her at all.

I also told her that I don’t understand how she has time to call and spend time with other people, but when it comes to her own daughter, she doesn’t seem to make the same effort. I respectfully asked her to stop repeating everything back to me and turning it around because I was just trying to explain how I felt and wanted her to listen. Eventually, I told her that I originally called just to check on her, but I didn’t want to continue the conversation because I no longer had the time or energy to keep going back and forth.
Honestly, this feels like something I’ve dealt with my entire life, and now that I’m 27, I feel like it’s only getting worse.

It’s also the same situation with my sister. I recently had two weeks off from work and let both my mom and sister know ahead of time because I wanted us to plan something and spend time together as a family. During those entire two weeks, I didn’t hear from either of them about making plans. I’ve never really had a relationship with my sister because she was very abusive and mean to me when we were younger. She never treated me or acted like a real sister, and unfortunately, things are still the same now that we’re older. She’s five years older than me, and despite everything, I still try to have a relationship with her.

I’m just tired of feeling like I’m always the one who has to call, visit, and make plans in order to have a relationship with my own family. I’m not asking them to constantly call or see me, but I would like to feel like they actually want to talk to me or spend time with me without me always being the one to initiate it. i’m actually over it and it has been getting to me a lot. i’m also not going to sit here and pretend like this is normal or a healthy family dynamic (entire family is like this) because it’s not and I know I deserve better. Crazy thing is i’m thinking about moving to texas in two years and I didn’t sooner because all I could think about was not leaving my mom.. now i’m considering it.

I’m a nanny, and the 9-year-old I care for asked me to make her paratha this morning with some pickled garlic. Before giving it to her, I checked the expiration date and realized it expired LAST YEAR.

Her dad still told her she could eat it, and I said I really didn’t think she should. I personally don’t feel comfortable serving a child food that’s been expired for that long. I know some expiration dates are more about quality than safety, but a whole year past the date? Especially when I’m the one responsible for preparing and serving her food?

Maybe I’m being overly cautious, but I was honestly shocked that her dad was completely fine with her eating it.……. reasons like this I just want to quit, lol.

I called my mom today just to check in and see how she was doing. We talked for a little bit, and I eventually tried to express how I’ve been feeling. I told her that I feel like if I don’t call her, I won’t hear from her at all. She also never comes to visit me, even though we only live about 10 minutes away from each other. I’ve lived in my apartment for two years, and she has only been here once during that entire time. she also doesn’t plan anything with me and when I try, she’s always busy or has a headache or there’s just always an excuse but I had always noticed when it comes to other people, especially men she has all the time.

Instead of acknowledging where I was coming from or genuinely listening to how I felt, she kept turning everything back around on me. She kept saying that I can call her too and that I can also go see her. The problem is, I DO call her and I DO go see her. That was literally the point I was trying to make. I feel like if I stopped putting in the effort, I wouldn’t see or hear from her at all.

I also told her that I don’t understand how she has time to call and spend time with other people, but when it comes to her own daughter, she doesn’t seem to make the same effort. I respectfully asked her to stop repeating everything back to me and turning it around because I was just trying to explain how I felt and wanted her to listen. Eventually, I told her that I originally called just to check on her, but I didn’t want to continue the conversation because I no longer had the time or energy to keep going back and forth.
Honestly, this feels like something I’ve dealt with my entire life, and now that I’m 27, I feel like it’s only getting worse.

It’s also the same situation with my sister. I recently had two weeks off from work and let both my mom and sister know ahead of time because I wanted us to plan something and spend time together as a family. During those entire two weeks, I didn’t hear from either of them about making plans. I never had a relationship with my sister as she was very abusive and mean when we were younger, she also never traded me or acted like a sister and it’s the same thing now especially that we’re older (she’s 5 years older) and I still try.

I’m just tired of feeling like I’m always the one who has to call, visit, and make plans in order to have a relationship with my own family. I’m not asking them to constantly call or see me, but I would like to feel like they actually want to talk to me or spend time with me without me always being the one to initiate it. i’m actually over it and it has been getting to me a lot. i’m also not going to sit here and pretend like this is normal or a healthy family dynamic because it’s not and I know I deserve better.

Am I wrong for being this upset about it, or would you also start stepping back and matching their level of effort?

I’m 27 and have been working for the same family for two years. I work about 50 hours a week, five days a week, and I only receive eight combined PTO/sick days per year (something I will be talking to them about and changing this month).

I’ve never taken an actual vacation during the time I’ve worked for them. Usually, I only plan things around the family’s vacations or weeks when they already don’t need me. The problem is that they sometimes give me very little notice. For example, they recently took an almost two-week vacation but only told me about a week in advance, so it was too last-minute for me to plan or book anything without me spending an arm and a leg.

The only upcoming time I have off is about three days during Halloween week, and I’m usually off for Thanksgiving week. Other than that, I don’t have anything planned.

I really want to start traveling at least once or twice a year instead of always waiting for the family to schedule their vacations. How do other nannies bring this up with their employers? How much notice should I give, and is it reasonable to request a full week off even though I have limited PTO?

I’d appreciate advice from other nannies or nanny employers on how to handle this professionally.

I’m thinking about going back on a GLP-1. I previously used semaglutide through Freya Meds for about three months and lost around 20 pounds. Since stopping, I’ve gained about 5 pounds back.

This time, I’m considering switching to tirzepatide. I’ve been looking into Trillium Meds ($249) because their prices seem much cheaper than Freya’s ($390 for Tirze) but I want to make sure I’m choosing a reliable and safe company, I loved Freya Meds and had no issues but can’t justify almost $400 a month.

Has anyone used Trillium Meds for compounded tirzepatide? What was your experience with the medication, customer service, shipping, and pricing? I’d also appreciate recommendations for other reputable compounded GLP-1 providers.

My employers were away for two weeks and this passed sunday they asked me if I could stop by their house to put the garbage and recycling bins outside. I realized I accidentally left the key inside the house when I was there and wasn’t expecting for them to mind because they have other ways of getting in, they also knew i’d be leaving the key there once I was done.

Today is my day back and they texted me saying “Hi. Please feel free to use the key and come in. We slept late so might not be able to open the door.”
I told them I couldn’t let myself in because I left the key and offered to come back later when someone is awake to open the door. I feel really bad and embarrassed. was that the right way to handle it, or should I do something else?

I’ve been talking to this guy on and off for a couple of years. When we first met, we were getting to know each other, flirting a lot, and it felt like it could become more than a friendship. Eventually things fizzled out because nothing was progressing. A few months later, I got back together with my ex.

Months into that relationship, I found out my ex had been cheating on me and had given me HSV-2. I left him, and about a year later this guy and I reconnected.

We started texting again and made plans to meet a couple of times. Before we continued, I disclosed that I have HSV-2. He reassured me, treated me exactly the same afterward, and thanked me for being honest. He also told me he liked me, but that he no longer saw a relationship with me because HSV was something he’d always been afraid of getting.

I accepted that and figured we’d just stay friends.
The confusing part is that lately he’s been flirting with me again. He’ll make sexual comments, answer my calls or texts every time, and is always there when I need him. One day he even sent me a post that basically admitted he liked me without directly saying it. But then he’ll switch up and act like we’re just friends or when I match his energy. Whenever it comes to actually seeing each other or taking things further, he seems to pull away. Just hot and cold.

I’m honestly confused. Part of me wants to say, “Just kiss me already and let’s get it over with,” because I do like him and feels like he likes me. At the same time, I feel like I’m constantly matching his energy because I don’t want to invest more than he is.

Am I wrong? Do you think he’s genuinely conflicted, or am I reading too much into his flirting? Should I move on, or is this something worth trying to figure out with him?