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It's been some time since I recovered. It feels surreal and like I've lost an identity, a friend.

It sucks to realize that my triggers are my parents and my therapist told me to move out. Their home is such a chaotic place to live and I know she's right. I have to leave, I am working on it. It feels so scary. I have nothing to heal now-- just things to work towards.

The kid I used to be no longer exists. The woman I am now, initiates conversations with strangers, sends voice notes left and right, confronts people, doesn't have test anxiety the way she used to before, manages to make time for her hobbies, has hobbies, she is nothing like the kid she used to be. She is so social now, in fact her therapist told her that isolation is her second trigger. Agreed.

I don't know who I am anymore. I am the person I was before my parents gave me a mental illness. I barely remember her. I don't know who I am anymore and it feels overwhelming.

It's been some time since I recovered. It feels surreal and like I've lost an identity, a friend.

It sucks to realize that my triggers are my parents and my therapist told me to move out. Their home is such a chaotic place to live and I know she's right. I have to leave, I am working on it. It feels so scary. I have nothing to heal now-- just things to work towards.

The kid I used to be no longer exists. The woman I am now, initiates conversations with strangers, sends voice notes left and right, confronts people, doesn't have test anxiety the way she used to before, manages to make time for her hobbies, has hobbies, she is nothing like the kid she used to be. She is so social now, in fact her therapist told her that isolation is her second trigger. Agreed.

I don't know who I am anymore. I am the person I was before my parents gave me a mental illness. I barely remember her. I don't know who I am anymore and it feels overwhelming.

So I recently recovered from anxiety. I wanted to celebrate by going to movies later this week to watch Insidious. I thought it would be a good idea since I love going to the movies alone but I'm skeptical since I found the last Insidious movie disappointing, and I really want to have a good time.

So I wanted to ask people who recovered from any mental health struggle, how did you celebrate recovery?

So I recently recovered from anxiety. I wanted to celebrate by going to movies later this week to watch Insidious. I thought it would be a good idea since I love going to the movies alone but I'm skeptical since I found the last Insidious movie disappointing, and I really want to have a good time.

So I wanted to ask people who recovered from any mental health struggle, how did you celebrate recovery?

I haven't really been feeling anxious (for the first time in 2 years or my entire life, can't decide) since the beginning of this month, except for minutes long bouts here and there. The last time I had anxiety, it was because I felt anxious until I realized I was fearing a beast that wasn't there anymore.

I suppose it is a good thing to be able to sleep and wake up in peace but that also means that I'm left with a lot more mental space to realize how exhausted I am. My vision's blurry enough for me to notice it, my head feels heavy, I feel sleepy 24/7, I wake up tired, I cannot focus or process things while studying, it's like I'm zoned out and can't zone back in. I've been experiencing this lack of mental clarity which makes it very hard to think things through and refrain from giving into impulses.

Is this what brain fog is? If so, does it clear up with time? Has anyone else experienced this?

Edit: It really isn’t that bad now that I think about it, it’s just the third day of my period and I’m PMSing

I haven't really been feeling anxious (for the first time in 2 years or my entire life, can't decide) since the beginning of this month, except for minutes long bouts here and there. The last time I had anxiety, it was because I felt anxious until I realized I was fearing a beast that wasn't there anymore.

I suppose it is a good thing to be able to sleep and wake up in peace but that also means that I'm left with a lot more mental space to realize how exhausted I am. My vision's blurry enough for me to notice it, my head feels heavy, I feel sleepy 24/7, I wake up tired, I cannot focus or process things while studying, it's like I'm zoned out and can't zone back in. I've been experiencing this lack of mental clarity which makes it very hard to think things through and refrain from giving into impulses.

Is this what brain fog is? If so, does it clear up with time? Has anyone else experienced this?

You can’t tell the other’s person’s tone let alone their body language. It also keeps you waiting for hours just to get a response back.

Every response you send/receive can be curated and there’s no way of actually knowing the person on the other side.

Why do people even prefer this mode of communication? The only perks it seems to have is (1) convenience and (2) it’s an easy option in case you have social anxiety. The cons outweigh the pros like crazy imo.

My morning anxiety crashes around 11 am and I start dozing off, it's a struggle to stay awake. It gets comparatively better as the day progresses but I feel so sleepy the entire day.

I've been experiencing this on a regular basis. I try my best to go about my day but I feel like it's really slowing me down, sadly.

Can anyone else relate? What's the best way you know to deal with it?

My morning anxiety crashes around 11 am and I start dozing off, it's a struggle to stay awake. It gets comparatively better as the day progresses but I feel so sleepy the entire day.

I've been experiencing this on a regular basis. I try my best to go about my day but I feel like it's really slowing me down, sadly.

Can anyone else relate? What's the best way you have to deal with it?

My morning anxiety crashes around 11 am and I start dozing off, it's a struggle to stay awake. It gets comparatively better as the day progresses but I feel so sleepy the entire day.

I've been experiencing this on a regular basis. I try my best to go about my day but I feel like it's really slowing me down, sadly.

Can anyone else relate? What's the best way you know to deal with it?

I like him more than I've ever liked anyone, if I could get him the world I would, but I feel so anxious all the time. The only time the anxiety ceases is when I tell myself that I'll go with the flow or that I won't ask him for said amount of time because he's busy with work.

He honestly seems scared of messing things up with me by confessing and it's true that I would want to spend actual time with the person I'm dating. However, I don't know if I actually mean it or if this is self sabotage. I feel like dating someone that busy would be a desperate move but the idea of losing him to someone else freaks me out tbh.

We’re not dating yet but I don’t think I’ve ever liked anyone as much as I like him before. This is the first time I’ve met someone as amazing as him and I don’t know if anyone else can ever come close to him.

He respects me, is caring, makes my life easier without even telling me about it and when I find out and thank him he brushes it off like it’s nothing. He tries maintaining a relationship with my sister and tells me that he thinks that she’s “awesome” and never talks badly about her, he tells me he loves my city, encourages my hobbies, is incredibly supportive. There are no games or anything to decode. He even thanks me for even reaching out to him and staying in touch haha.

He’s an incredible person. Super smart, fun, kind and real. Super cute. I could go on and on and never stop. The problem is that I’m terrified that I’ll say or do the wrong thing and he’ll hate me for it and lose whatever interest he may have.

I overthink everything I do and how it would land. He hasn’t done anything to make me feel that way but he’s so incredible and I feel like I’m not good enough for him. He keeps on giving and says that it’s because he wants to. I fear that one day he’s going to get tired of me because again I’m not good enough and leave.

I have a friend who’s getting married to a batch mate. I have known her since we were kids and I know her real DOB which is Dec 2002. However, she has a different DOB in her records— Dec 2003. The guy she likes was born in Jan 2004.

The girl hasn’t told him her real age. He knows what’s written in her records (Dec 2003). She says she can’t tell him the truth because aitbaar uth jaye ga. He’ll start doubting her even more if she tells him her real age and he might even judge her family. Our other friend thinks that she should tell the guy that she was born in Dec 2004 instead of 2003 mtlb 2 years younger than her actual age so as to not “threaten” the guy’s or his family’s ego.

Why is age such a big deal in our society? Even if my friend goes ahead and tells the guy that she was actually born in 2002, what’s the big deal? Even then she’ll be like a year older.

Khair, how common is this in our society where girls feel the need to not even be a year older than the guy while guys can be 10 years older than the girls they marry? How do people even live with such lies?

I feel fine whenever I’m not studying but the minute I start, I feel tired and it takes half an hour before I start dozing off. I let myself do that today so it looked pretty much like studying for half an hour and then napping for 10 minutes. It helps temporarily.

If I do anything except studying, I don’t feel even half as tired and if I stop studying and do something else, it refreshes me.

However, the mental exhaustion is affecting me more than just that. I have brain fog, trouble focusing and recalling. My practice test scores have just plummeted. My friend is worried about me and has asked me to try using a different resource for a week and see if that helps.

How do I deal with this? Please help.

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I feel fine whenever I’m not studying but the minute I start, I feel tired and it takes half an hour before I start dozing off. I let myself do that today so it looked pretty much like studying for half an hour and then napping for 10 minutes. It helps temporarily.

If I do anything except studying, I don’t feel even half as tired and if I stop studying and do something else, it refreshes me.

However, the mental exhaustion is affecting me more than just that. I have brain fog, trouble focusing and recalling. My practice test scores have just plummeted. My friend is worried about me and has asked me to try using a different resource for a week and see if that helps.

How do I deal with this? Please help.

It’s just how it’s always been for me. One day my brain finds something to feel super anxious about then the next day I manage to get to the bottom of my anxiety and it’s always grief of some sort. By the end of the day my mind’s already looking for something else to worry about and the cycle continues.

I talked to a therapist about it she said I’m just sad and that’s understandable. There’s nothing more to it. She doesn’t even think I have anxiety anymore. Is this simply a sign of fluctuating cortisol levels then?

It’s just how it’s always been for me. One day my brain finds something to feel super anxious about then the next day I manage to get to the bottom of my anxiety and it’s always grief of some sort. By the end of the day my mind’s already looking for something else to worry about and the cycle continues.

For example, 2 days before I was feeling anxious/stressed because of how much my parents fight then the next day I was simply sad about it. The day after (yesterday) I was anxious because I’m not sure how a certain guy feels about me, today I’m sad because I don’t think I’d pursue a relationship even if he likes me (not compatible atm).

I talked to a therapist about it she said I’m just sad and that’s understandable. There’s nothing more to it. She doesn’t even think I have anxiety anymore. Is this simply a sign of fluctuating cortisol levels then?

It’s just how it’s always been for me. One day my brain finds something to feel super anxious about then the next day I manage to get to the bottom of my anxiety and it’s always grief of some sort. By the end of the day my mind’s already looking for something else to worry about and the cycle continues.

For example, 2 days before I was feeling anxious/stressed because of how much my parents fight then the next day I was simply sad about it. The day after (yesterday) I was anxious because I’m not sure how a certain guy feels about me, today I’m sad because I don’t think I’d pursue a relationship even if he likes me (not compatible atm).

I talked to a therapist about it she said I’m just sad and that’s understandable. There’s nothing more to it. She doesn’t even think I have anxiety anymore. Is this simply a sign of fluctuating cortisol levels then?

This guy goes out of his way to help me. He regularly texts back in the middle of the night, even though I almost always text him in the morning.

I don't know him personally. He cold emailed my sister asking her to help him find an internship. She agreed in exchange for him helping me academically. I recently found out through someone else that he found an internship months ago and actually started it two months ago. He isn't keeping it a secret from anyone, he posts about it publicly and has even added it to his bio. He never told me, so he's essentially been helping me for free.

At one point, I stopped contacting him because I was dealing with some family issues. He texted me at 3 am to check on me, told me to contact him whenever the situation resolved, and then we spent the next five days talking about his hobbies, his city (because I've never been there), and how much he loves my city and how much he knows about it. However, on the fifth day, he abruptly withdrew. He told me he didn't know much about a place he had suggested I visit, and then he went radio silent. However, he didn't have to do any of it. I had stopped contacting him and he had found an internship.

I don't know whether he likes me or if he's just a very kind person. The question has been bugging me, though. I feel like asking him point-blank would put him on the spot, and I don't want to do that. I was thinking of congratulating him on the internship and then asking whether he's being "altruistic." I'd keep the conversation light and figure that he'll tell me if he wants to.

I know that approach would give him an easy way to play it off, but it would also give him an opportunity to confess if he wants to. Either way, it might give me some clarity.

Is this a good idea?

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ETA: Turned into a funny thread. Feel free to come and read the comments ig 🍿