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He got protein powder and is trying to increase his protein intake. His friends are like “when did you become a mf gym bro???”

He’s so cute, I can’t!

I know this is a simple question, but please go easy on me. I’ve been recovering from social anxiety and still struggle with confrontation.

A guy had been guiding me through an exam in exchange for my sister helping him look for an internship. I recently found out through a third party that he actually found a pretty good internship a while ago and started it almost two months ago. He isn’t looking for an internship anymore, which means he’s essentially been helping me for free.

It might not be sinister at all. My friends and family think he has a thing for me. The issue is that I don’t like making assumptions like that, and regardless, he’s been secretive about something that directly affected our arrangement. Even if he does like me, the lack of transparency feels disappointing to me.

My sister hasn’t mentioned him in months because this was originally supposed to be the kind of arrangement where I’d reach out whenever I needed help with something. However, he changed it into something where I end up checking in every month or so. I assumed he was continuing because he still needed my sister’s help, but clearly that isn’t the case anymore.

It’s possible he told my sister and she simply never mentioned it to me, but I don’t really want to involve her in this conversation. I don't think it's right to.

Maybe he’s helping me because he genuinely doesn’t think it’s a big deal, because he enjoys it, because he felt awkward bringing up the compensation situation, or because everyone is right and he likes me. Maybe I’m making too much of this. Still, the secrecy is what’s bothering me.

I want to ask him why he didn’t tell me without making him feel cornered or accused. I’m also anxious about bringing it up because I don’t want it to seem like I’m prying into his personal life, even though it feels like this was something he probably should have mentioned. Is it reasonable for me to ask why he didn’t tell me? And if so, how can I phrase it in a way that won’t make him defensive or upset?

I also want to ask him why he’s still been helping me for free.

I wanted to get my younger brother enrolled into boy scouts. The best option would've been the one led by his school, but unfortunately, while his school has a lot of options, scouts isn't one of them.

Posting here to ask if anyone has any reccs?

I was trying it as a way to build intrinsic motivation to sit for an exam. I listed out the pros and cons in a worksheet, along with what my next steps should be.

I feel so stressed after doing so! I feel like if I don’t step my game up, there will be super unpleasant consequences — consequences that are a lot more real and scary than my fear of failure. All of it has been stressing me out.

Is this expected? I’ve already taken some actions, like telling a friend about it and doing some CBT to address my fear of failure, but thinking of what could happen if I don’t sit the exam is scaring me, even though I was pretty ambivalent about it before.

Is it okay to feel this way? Should I do something to address the stress, or just let it be?

I recently found out that someone’s been helping me in exchange for a compensation they don’t need anymore. They don’t know that I know the truth since they’ve been keeping it from me.

My bsf thinks it’s because they want to “keep me in their life” and thinks it’s “astonishing” the lengths they go to in order to make that happen.

She’s convinced that they have always had a thing for me while I am concerned that they might be doing it because they feel guilty at the thought of letting me know. I plan on talking to them about it.

This is just an example but it’s so strange how one thing can lead to such wildly different interpretations.

I personally find doing so v helpful, it also keeps me aware of my thoughts which I think is v important. I'm not exactly struggling with anythin anymore but it's a form of journaling for me.

I personally find doing so v helpful, it also keeps me aware of my thoughts which I think is v important.

This guy who everyone says has a thing for me has been helping me out in exchange for compensation that he never needed (I just found out). He has been actively trying to keep that from me just to keep me in his life and doesn't know that I know the truth. My friends think the lengths he goes to are astonishing.

No one has made me feel so loved before. I feel moved but also distracted to the point that I almost got into my first car accident today (not fun) and I can't stop crying.

I feel like I had been holding onto my unworthiness so strongly that I failed to realize that my worth never depended on those things. It's so overwhelming. Idk how to proceed or what to do. I guess it'll take time for me to process this. Have you ever been in a similar situation?

Like, do you take initiative?

I’ve been seeing this guy, and he does so many things simply because he thinks they’re fun. He tutors kids as a hobby, invests in his artistic interests, creates content, is pursuing something he thinks is fun, participates in dancing and other activities; not because he’s necessarily good at them, he usually is but he does them because he enjoys them.

He encourages me to keep investing in my own hobbies, and I find him very inspiring. Being around him has made me take more initiative in life and catastrophize less.

How often do you participate in the things you genuinely enjoy?

AC mei neend aati, garmi mei dimagh nhi chalta. My productivity has gone down the drain. Wbu guys?