u/FlamesFPS

I’m at university and I’m in a student club and there’s this dude who’s bigger in size and always tries to insult me and to be aggressive towards me. He always tries to be the alpha in the group and I know this sounds cringe but it’s literally what he’s doing. For some reason he has targeted me and whenever he tries to attack me I always stand up for myself. The problem is however that I’m afraid this will escalate into physical violence.

If this happens I need to know what I can do in order the defend myself, and then cause to him as much damage as possible to neutralise his threat. Some will suggest to run away but the issue is I will put myself in a really bad position socially if I run away because he knows a lot of people and will try to ruin my reputation.

I’m really sad that I’m in this situation to begin with and I don’t know what to do. I want to at least be prepared if it escalates.

Also I just want to say I can’t speak to anyone about this because they will think I’m overreacting, lying etc. You know how in school, teachers don’t do anything against the bullies. This is something similar and it’s even worse because we are all adults in a more “professional” supposedly environment.

In general I want to say I’m very stressed about this and I fear for my life and reputation.