Hi, I’m looking for a single room for rent or PG.
Uzan Bazar or Silpukhuri. I’ve been staying in a PG, but the conditions have been quite disappointing, so I’m looking for a better and more comfortable place now.
I’m a female tenant, so I’m specifically looking for a safe and decent locality with a secure environment. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
For context, I’m preparing for the Civil Services Examination, while he’s (my bf) pursuing a PhD & While discussing our future together, he said something that completely caught me off guard.
For additional context, he’s pursuing a PhD and plans to do a postdoc. He has often told me that getting a permanent academic job in India after a PhD or postdoc is extremely difficult. According to him, even if you do get a job, you can’t reach the top through hard work alone, connections are what really matter.
He told me that if he eventually became a professor, after years of studying and working hard, he wouldn’t want the burden of regularly going to college. Instead, he wanted me to use my influence and connections to make things easier for him, so that he could stay at home, rest, and still earn his salary.
I told him I had no problem helping him in ways that were legal and ethical, but I would never misuse my position or influence for anyone.
That’s when he said, “If you can’t help me, then dur raho mujhse.”
He also accused me of having an ego and said that if I refused to help him, it meant I wanted to see him struggle.Yahan prelims ka hi bharosa nahi, aur bhai sahab seedha future influence use karne ki planning kar rahe the.
He’d say things like, “So-and-so’s father never has to go to college to teach because they have an IAS officer in the family
And
He even gave the example of one of his friends. According to him, his friend was preparing for the Civil Services Examination because of his family’s financial situation. But once his friend’s elder brother got selected, he stopped preparing because, in his words, “ab ghar mein power aa gayi hai.” He believed that having one influential person in the family was enough, and that the elder brother would help the rest of the family through his position.
& Please don’t tell me to “think about it when the time comes.” That’s exactly why I’m addressing it now.
Aage ke lea rakh dia to ho gayi
His msgs - Samne wala jo mang rha h
Or kya help hoti h,Koi kisi ki naurkri lagwa deta h,itne couple dekhe h...apne husband ya wifi ki naukri lagwa dete h,To help ni vi,are koi bahar wala kahe ki m madad ni kr sakta yaha apna hi gf wifi ya husband bole. To kesa lagega
Ye kesa relation h bhai, Ni rehna aaj asli rang dikh gaya jaan buch kr mene bola... dekhu to kya h andar tere...avi ye haal h aage to ghans v ni dalegi ni rehna mujhe apna ego apne paas rakh, tumhe patanahi kya ki ye ni milti...
College na jane ke liye source lagta h, naukri lagwane ke lea source lagta hai
Bye I can not talk more ye apna kahi or dikhana...
Itna samajh ni aa aha
Agar privelage h
To use kyu ni
Jitna source se help kr sakte h utna to karenge
Mere samajh ke bahar h
I honestly don’t know whether I’m making this into a bigger issue than it is. Was this just one bad argument, or do his words reflect a completely different value system? I’d really like an unbiased opinion.
Also I'm 100% aware of the selection rate, and I know there's a real possibility that I may never make it. So please don't tell me, "Achieve it first, then talk." Nobody can be 100% sure about the outcome. I'm simply working toward my goal.
TL;DR:
My boyfriend repeatedly told me that if I ever ended up in a position of power, I should use it to make his life easier. I said I’d only help people in legal and ethical ways, not by misusing my position. He accused me of having an ego, said I wanted to see him struggle, argued that everyone succeeds through connections anyway, and even told me, “If you can’t help me, then stay away from me.”
Pata Hai Aaj Kya Hua
My boyfriend and I had an argument that has left me really confused, and I'd like some outside perspectives.
For context, I'm preparing for the Civil Services Examination, while my boyfriend is pursuing a PhD. During a conversation about future careers and responsibilities, he said something that has been bothering me.
Since I couldn't include everything, I've typed out the messages below for full context
His msg - Agar koi help ni kr sakta family ka hi
To usse kya expect karoge
My msg - If you cannot help me after becoming an IAS officer, then “dur raho”
Career me support karna aur kisiko tumhare hisab se help karma ki tum kaam pe hi na jao? Same hai kya?
If you can't help your own family (in the way l expect), then what use is your position? Stay away.
Yehi value hai kya meri?
Sidha bol dia "dur raho"
Agar mai bolti ki agar tum meri naukri nahi lagwa sakte to dur raho?
Kaisa lagta?
His msg -Door ke rishtedaar v support kr dete h or yaha apni hi gf bolegi bhad m jao, Isliye ni bola ki ni ban pai to door rho.. sab power hote hue v agar koi help ni kar sakta apne hi bf ki to vo kiska kesa pyar... jab apna hi saath ma de to.
Baane ke baad to cheeti ki tarehe kuchal dogi. Aur bologi , Ja yaha se
My msg - Maine kab bola bhad me jao?
For additional context: I'm preparing for the Civil Services Examination, and he's pursuing a PhD. He has told me that after his PhD and postdoc in India, getting a permanent academic job is very difficult. We were discussing our future careers, and he said that if he eventually becomes a professor, he would want my support as an officer (agar kabhi exam nikla to),to help him in situations like not having to take classes or otherwise making things easier for him. That made me uncomfortable.
Kiuki sab yehi karte hai, gharwalo ko help kar dete hai hamesha , and the conversation eventually led to the argument in the screenshots.
During the conversation, I asked him, "If having that kind of influence is so important, why don't you prepare for the Civil Services yourself?" He said he doesn't want to because he's passionate about pursuing a PhD and a career in research.But at the same time, he said he'd expect me to use my position to help him later if he became a professor.
Honestly, the part that hurt me the most was "dur raho.”That one sentence stayed with me long after the conversation ended, and it was the main reason I reacted the way I did.
The initial conversation took place over a phone call. The attached screenshot and the messages I've written below are from our discussion afterward, where we were trying to explain our perspectives. Based on all of this, do you think I misunderstood him, or was my reaction understandable? I'm genuinely looking for unbiased opinions.
TL;DR: I'm preparing for the Civil Services, and my boyfriend is pursuing a PhD. During a conversation about our future careers, he said, "If you can’t help me after clearing the exam, then dur raho." Am I overreacting?
I've been trying to read more books, articles, and study material, but I feel like my reading speed is holding me back. Right now, I often find myself rereading sentences, getting distracted, or reading much slower than I'd like.
I'm looking for practical ways to improve my reading speed while still understanding and remembering what I read.
For those of you who read a lot, did your reading speed improve naturally, or did you actually do something to get faster?
We're planning a family trip to Puri in August. How is the weather during that time?
Is the rain usually light or heavy? Can we still enjoy the beach and sightseeing, or does the monsoon affect travel plans a lot?
My boyfriend’s birthday is coming up soon and I’m trying to plan a small surprise since we can’t celebrate together this year. I’ve already ordered a T-shirt for him, but I want to send a cake and one more gift.
My main issue is the address delivery . Most websites (like Ferns N Petals) aren’t accepting or delivering to his location. He’s currently at IIT Indore (Simrol campus)
, so I’m not sure how people usually manage this. And I’m not sure which websites or bakeries actually deliver there successfully.
Would really appreciate any suggestions from IIT Indore students or anyone familiar with delivering to campus.
Also open to gift ideas 😊
Before this, if I didn't like the PG food, I'd just order from Swiggy or Zomato and call it a day. Cooking never really crossed my mind because ordering felt easier.Then someone found a dead cockroach in the mess food and that was enough motivation for me to start learning how to cook. Still a beginner, but at least I know what's going into my food now.
Nothing elaborate, but I've gone from noodles and boiled eggs to making rice, curries, and proper meals.Thankfully, our PG has a kitchen that residents are allowed to use.
These are the things I've been making for myself almost every day lately 😊
I'm a govt job aspirant, and I feel like my life has become entirely focused on studying. I'm looking for book clubs, art groups, writing circles, volunteering opportunities, or any community where people meet regularly and do creative or meaningful activities together.
If you know of any such groups or have suggestions on balancing exam prep with other interests, I'd love to hear them.
Pata hai aaj kya hua , mujhe bht roo rahi hu subha se
Kal mera bday hai aur mere exams aane wale hai (govt exam ki taiyyari chal rahi hai) aur us wajah se mei ghar nahi gayi, pg me rehti hu.
Pg me bhi sab hi hello types hai aur jo sath prep karte hai woh sab busy hai prep me.
Mai ghar pe hoti toh mai apna bday celebrate karti. Yaha koi nahi
Kal mai kya karu? What should I do to celebrate my birthday alone?🙂
Mujhe rona aa raha hai bas
Aap log batao, agar aap meri jagah hote to apna birthday akele kaise celebrate karte? Koi simple ideas ya suggestions ho to please share karo. Aur agar kisi ne apna birthday aise hi akela spend kiya ho, to apna experience bhi bata dena. ❤️
Hi everyone,
My last period started on May 25 to May 29
Today I noticed a very small amount of light brown discharge with a few pink/red streaks, along with a noticeable increase in clear watery vaginal discharge. I also recently started walking about 10,000 steps a day + exercise.
I haven’t had sex, so pregnancy isn’t a concern.
Is this kind of spotting and discharge normal for anyone else? It’s not heavy, just light spotting with increased discharge.
No pain, itching, burning, or unusual odor.
Hi everyone,
My last period started on May 25 to May 29
Today I noticed a very small amount of light brown discharge with a few pink/red streaks, along with a noticeable increase in clear watery vaginal discharge. I also recently started walking about 10,000 steps a day + exercise.
I haven't had sex, so pregnancy isn't a I'm wondering if this kind of spotting and discharge is normal or something I should be concerned about.
Is this kind of spotting and discharge normal for anyone else? It’s not heavy, just light spotting with increased discharge.
No pain, itching, burning, or unusual odor.
Compared to my first try, I think the color came out richer and the gravy has more depth. Kalker ekta comment “jhol rektu rakha uchit chilo”
Aaj seta try korechi 😌
For today's version, I kept a bit more gravy than before, but I also cooked this primarily for myself, and honestly I didn't need much more jhol than this.
For most of my life, I never really enjoyed the idea of cooking and didn't have much interest in learning. The only things I had made before were a simple egg curry(seta teo maa help kore dewa) and fried fish. That's about the extent of my cooking experience.
What I find interesting is that the ingredients were almost exactly the same, but a few small changes made a noticeable difference.
This time I: Kept more jhol in the final curry, focused on building flavor before adding water & tried to be more patient throughout the cooking process😊