u/FunInflation5316

Hello. I relate a lot to Intjs and have always struggled with finding my mbti because my whole life I had to repress myself or got critiziced when I was myself, which is why until a few months ago I was constantly in a stressed mode.

Like impulsive, not having backup plans, skipping school etc, not executing things

I never learned those things and chose running away to survive or to not conform to society as rebelion or chasing for validation instead of finding solutions

I wanted to ask if I am still Intj for finally being out of that mental fog and learning how to plan with backup plans, to execute MY plans and to do whatever is good for MY life instead of chasing others

Thanks - young adult

Hey. I didnt pass my drivers license month ago even after my 3rd try I think it was and after that I gave up because the stress of driving, drivers exam, university, MONEY and the way my drivers teacher treated me made me break down and give up and now I‘ve wasted my mental health and 5k for…nothing. It is like dreams that shattered to me. I had always imagined to drive around my favorite places. To work. To travel.

(I dont have the money to start over with drivers license at the current moment anymore)

My parents had even reserved a car for me because their friend would have sold a car for us for a lower price.

My drivers license teacher had his own way of teaching. He never wanted to practice exams with me saying ,,Thats as if I would ask someone if they should be nice to me. Its a question you mustn ask‘‘

Meanwhile my friends practiced exam stimulations all the time?

Then he also said I am stupid for watching Youtube videos to learn and in general said ,,Those who always make the same mistakes are stupid‘‘

The lessons always felt like weird therapy sessions where he told me abstract shit and make me confused. He also talked about sexual and racist stuff often but I didnt argue often because I wanted to focus on the road not on his remarks….

I get extremely stressed from spontaneous situations and would have preferred to practice the situations that still confuse me more often.

Yes some rules confuse me and I agree here. I take the risk of my and other peoples lives extremely seriously which makes me even more nervous.

I just wish I knew beforehand everything. I wish I had changed my teacher before all that. I wish I drove automatic and not Schalter just like my friends.

I am grieving everything right now my whole life. The money Ive lost. Idk it really destroys my mental health, ignoring it and focusing on the good in life helped temporarily but drivers license was one of the most traumatizing things that happened in my 20s yet so far. Ive learned a lot about myself but at what cost. Everyone got their license and knows me as the loser who gave up.