u/Glad-Fish5863

early pay?

I just switched to affinity plus because I’ve always heard great things.

One thing that attracted me was the 2 day early pay. It’s 2 days before I get paid and I haven’t gotten paid. What time would early pay go through? Or is it not a guarantee?

So far I am not impressed with them though my husband and I each got our own accounts and then also added a separate joint account that’s linked to our main accounts. We were at a branch for an hour and a half setting everything up and we talked extensively about the joint account. Never once did the guy working with us tell us we have to wait NINTY days to be able to transfer money to/from the joint to/from our main accounts. That’s how we pay bills! I transfer my money to the joint and he transfers that to his account and pays the bills. Now we can’t do that for 90 days and I didn’t find that out until I called their customer support and asked why i can’t transfer money to that account. Very annoying. Wings was not like that at all.

I am trying to use Klover but when I sign into plaid on their app, it tells me to log into my old bank that I don’t have anymore. I triple checked and my old bank is NOT connected to plaid anymore, and my new one is. Why is this happening?

What’s the best way you’ve mounted your TV on manufactured home walls? Mine are SO thin but I want to mount our TV. I’ve tried to look for studs but they seem to be either extremely far apart, or they just don’t exist in the walls at all (yes we used a stud finder).

Pictures are appreciated as well.

I have a post right now I want to limit who can reply to followers only. I changed it, and made sure it was changed and it shows followers only but random accounts not following me are still replying? This happens every time I try to limit who can comment. Why is this happening?

My mom wasn’t always an alcoholic. It’s only been this way for the last like, 2 years. So all of this is new to me. I didn’t have her around for the important years of my life bc my father took my brother and I so as an adult, I’ve always been very very close to my mom.

But now idk who she is anymore. She’s always been someone I can text or call at any moment when I need something or someone to talk to. I worried about her constantly BEFORE her drinking, so I’ve always been one to answer to calls or texts immediately. I have her on life 360 so I know where she is and what her battery % is at, constantly checking to see if she’s active on fb bc that means she’s “okay”.

I’ve posted in here before that she recently was in jail for 2 months and it was the most peaceful 2 months I’ve had in the last 2 years; I could breathe and enjoy my life. I was able to sleep, I gained weight from being able to eat again, I was able to be present in my marriage. She made it 10 hours out of jail and being sober for 2 months before she was drunk again. When she gets drunk she calls and texts me and just cries and complains about everything and she’s so mean. So when she called me at 11 am the day she got out of jail and she was drunk, that’s when I knew I couldn’t live this way anymore.

So I’ve been ignoring her texts and calls in the evenings. I’ve explained to her she cannot call or text me when she’s drinking and 9/10 times she does well with it and doesn’t. I’ve told her I have to set these boundaries for myself otherwise I will have to go no contact with her. My grandfather (her dad) was an alcoholic as well and my mom had to go no contact with him many times, so she said she understands. I took her off life 360 and I stopped checking to see if she’s active on Facebook. I’ve been able to sleep, eat, be present in my marriage. Part of me feels guilty but I have to remind myself that she is choosing alcohol over a relationship with me. She asked if she could live with me (I’ve been asking her to move with me for years) and I told her she only could if she went to treatment and she said “well that’s not happening” so, I know she has no plans to be sober and that is on her.

My therapist is a recovering alcoholic and has been very helpful with this for me.