u/Glittering-Agency435

Friends and I are staying in Parc Hotel in Flushing. Looking for bar/club recommendations! Or even recommendations for areas that allow for great bar hopping. Willing to take up to 25 min commute (train/car.) We're a group of six 21 year old ladies who want something busy, social with around the same age group ISH, and exciting. Like cool and intricate places/people. Thanks so much :)

Sort of hard to fit us all into one particular vibe, but we definitely want to dance. We are white, so not necessarily looking for a specific space, but some diversity would be nice. We are party girls.

Friends and I are staying in Parc Hotel in Flushing. Looking for bar/club recommendations! Or even recommendations for areas that allow for great bar hopping. Willing to take up to 25 min commute (train/car.) We're a group of six 21 year old ladies who want something busy, social with around the same age group ISH, and exciting. Like cool and intricate places/people. Thanks so much :)

Sort of hard to fit us all into one particular vibe, but we definitely want to dance. We are white, so not necessarily looking for a specific space, but some diversity would be nice. We are party girls.

Edit: Learned that Flushing itself is not the place for us, haha! However IF anybody has any recs for places we could commute to, that would be nice :,) Sorry and thank you.

F21. About to enter my senior year of college, looking to move as soon as I graduate. Somewhere where I can afford to live alone (please tell me if this is outlandish! I am just optimistic lol.) Would absolutely LOVEEE a walkable city. Afraid to be alone with my thoughts. Want somewhere populated and busy. Just throw out any cities, or cities near cool cities.

My dream is new york one day, but already know that is unattainable for now unless i had connections. I love trees, so preferably just nowhere out west. (Obviously no forests in cities, but maybe some parks with trees & such.)

My hopes for moving out include having safe spaces, open minded people, good night life. Would love to not be 2 or more hours from the ocean. Would like to be able to express myself to my fullest extent.

Looking for career in social work/criminal justice esque.

F, 21, 5'7, 160lbs

my goals: slimmer, leaner, toned. want a nice tight tummy, abs would be cool. don't want my arms to look so pudgy. don't want my back to look so pudgy. want to decrease appearance of hip dips. strengthen my hip flexors so i can do cardio. tinyyy waist. biggest goal. don't really care that much about legs but i guess i should work on them if doing everything else haha. would like a fatter ass.

Maintenance level: 2050 calories

Slight deficit: 200-400 less
New Daily Calorie Goal: 1,650 - 1,850

Protein goal: 160g a day (640 calories)
at least 30g of protein per meal for muscle recovery

Fats: 0.3g-0.4g per pound (around 450g calories)
= 48g-64g per day

Carbs: roughlyyy 150g carbs (whatever's left of calorie goal!

Monday: Glutes + Legs
Tuesday: Back + Shoulders + Arms
Wednesday: Core + Cardio
Thursday: Rest (minimal hip flexor workout)
Friday: Glutes + Legs
Saturday: Upper Body + Core
Sunday: Rest (minimal hip flexor workout)

Questions:

1. I really enjoy cardio, I like running. I saw somewhere on tiktok that it is good to end workouts with some running. Is that true?

2. how long should my workout be? how to know how many reps and sets to do when creating my actual workout routine?

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I guess just posting this for anyone to point out any flaws, give any tips, any advice that I should just hear! I am excited to start and worried about finding things out too late/realizing i've been doing something wrong. Any advice appreciated.

Throughout my teenage years i always presented myself in alternative sense. Dyed hair, facial piercings, experimental styles, etc. I had never once felt inferior, embarrassed, ashamed, shy, nervous, or anything of the sort. I loved how I looked, and i was never afraid to be myself.

Now, in my early 20s, i still love how i look. i love my fashion choices, my body modifications, the new choices ive made with my hair. I would want to talk to someone who looked like me. However, i noticed ive been dealing with an anxiety around my appearance in public, when meeting new people, when being around peers, when on social media, when speaking to people of authority, even around people in my life. I have the feeling of not being taken seriously, and it getting to me. I feel judged sometimes. I feel different.

This has been really bothering me lately only because i never felt like this. I've always loved myself. I hate this feeling, feeling like i need to change myself. I find myself afraid to present myself on my more so "basic" campus anymore (im about to be a senior.) Im afraid to show my face to my managers, professors, even an adult customer! I feel ashamed almost. I guess im just venting, but if anyone had any advice that would be great. I don't know this has been coming up lately, and I don't like it. Has anyone else experienced this with their alternative physical presentation?

I've been dating around sort of. Occasionally sleeping with them, but also going places, having fun, hanging out, texting and talking. I am not really looking for anything serious. However I realize that with men, or at least the men I have been involved with, they want to get serious really fast. Really fast as in 1-4 months in. Labels. Jealousy. Pet names. Seeing eachother multiple or several times a week.

This makes me feel overwhelmed. I am not completely against the idea of settling down with somebody, but I don't know. It's going to take me much longer than that. I know this may be controversial, but my last relationship took me about a year of hanging out and what not and gradually built into a long term (3 year) relationship. That was perfect to me.
However, I don't know if im the issue anymore. After these guys immediately want to lock me down, i seem to just lose interest, like the snap of a finger. I don't really want to see them anymore, I stop texting back. And i feel terrible about it. "Nice guys finish last" might quite literally be true but it makes me feel like shit saying that lol. These guys are usually always great too, so i know something must just be wrong with me.

Do i just stop dating completely? How do I break it to someone that hey, i know we've been doing literally everything together for the past two months, but we are nowhere close to being a couple to me. I know this is pretty unreasonable and stupid, but i honestly cant force myself to be in a relationship where i feel uncertain or as if im lying. I feel terrible about it and wish I wasn't this way but I don't know what to do about it. And mostly, how the hell do i break it off with this guy now lol.

He said he loves me after one and a half months of seeing eachother and has asked me to be his girlfriend. I said i would sit on it, and with each passing day I get more and more hesitant to say yes. I think I just don't want to. I feel so terrible, nothings even wrong with him.

Also, isn't loving someone after one and a half months insane? Or is that just me. Idk. I feel broken maybe

Really interested in doing a body recomp. I have never stepped foot in the gym once in my life, however I do moderate cardio every day (1 - 1.5 mile runs). I keep watching so many videos online and reading so many forums, but I still feel so scatter brained on where to start.

My goal is what most women probably want right now, hourglass body and to be lean and toned. Not necessarily giant muscles. I am specifically excited to grow my glutes, but that's only in addition to everything else that goes into this.

Does anyone have any tips as of what to start researching SPECIFICALLY? I feel like I keep watching general body-recomp videos for women who are all entirely different body types and what not. I would like to do my own research. What parts of the body is there to work out? I feel like once I figure that out then I can research what exercises work for me and for those parts of the body. How do I know what to focus on? Are there any recommended guides or tools I can use to figure this all out? Thanks so much.

Any bar recs? Friend visiting (Wednesday) and would love some day bars-type vibes and great vibes for going out that night!! Was thinking somewhere in Bethlehem as I know they have a cool art scene but open to diff areas and/or specific places!! Looking for cool people & cool music. Any recs for other fun things up that ally also encouraged!

Also preferably more popular amongst younger people?

I've been rummaging my brain trying to think of an online name to use and my favorite so far is Kitty. I have cat tattoos, I love cats, I feel a lot of my already existing persona is very kitty-like. I love tails and ears, thought it was fitting. However it is very generic. Does that really matter? There are other names I'd love to use like Evangeline and Lorelei, but I fear those may be too intricate for an OF name? Am i over thinking this? Thoughts? Thanks 💕

Edit: I'm going with Evangeline!! Thank u for ur comments and messages 🤗🤗Appreciate the help ladies

Hi guys, pls no hate for my confession but I am so anxious and nervous that I don't really care at this point. Today is Tuesday, and Saturday night (into wee hours of the morning, 3-4am) I went to a nightclub with a pool and had sex with two different men. The first one I don't even remember, but I know it happened. The second one happened after my friends and I got back to the AirBnb, and was the brother of my friend, and I also had sex with him the night before on Friday night.

Yesterday my vagina had been itchy and pretty sore all day, so I was like I'll just wait til Tuesday to see if it feels better. My clit was also pretty bright pink, irritated, sensitive, and a tad swollen. It's itchy again today, not really sore and my clit looks normal again. But it is so. Itchy. And making me freak out internally lol. I was thinking maybe me and the guy I don't remember used a condom? Probably not. Maybe it was because I had sex with two people in one night and it's just irritated? Maybe it's because I was swimming in the chlorine pool and didn't shower for like 24 hours? I want to get tested but I just found out you should be waiting atleast 3 weeks to 3 months after exposure to get tested and getting tested a couple days after exposure typically won't work. I have boric acid supplements that I use sometimes, should I try one of those? I just feel so paranoid right now and don't know what to think. And Itchy

Hi guys, pls no hate for my confession but I am so anxious and nervous that I don't really care at this point. Today is Tuesday, and Saturday night (into wee hours of the morning, 3-4am) I went to a nightclub with a pool and had sex with two different men. The first one I don't even remember, but I know it happened. The second one happened after my friends and I got back to the AirBnb, and was the brother of my friend, and I also had sex with him the night before on Friday night.

Yesterday my vagina had been itchy and pretty sore all day, so I was like I'll just wait til Tuesday to see if it feels better. My clit was also pretty bright pink, irritated, sensitive, and a tad swollen. It's itchy again today, not really sore and my clit looks normal again. But it is so. Itchy. And making me freak out internally lol. I was thinking maybe me and the guy I don't remember used a condom? Probably not. Maybe it was because I had sex with two people in one night and it's just irritated? Maybe it's because I was swimming in the chlorine pool and didn't shower for like 24 hours? I want to get tested but I just found out you should be waiting atleast 3 weeks to 3 months after exposure to get tested and getting tested a couple days after exposure typically won't work. I have boric acid supplements that I use sometimes, should I try one of those? I just feel so paranoid right now and don't know what to think. And Itchy

Hi guys, pls no hate for my confession but I am so anxious and nervous that I don't really care at this point. Today is Tuesday, and Saturday night (into wee hours of the morning, 3-4am) I went to a nightclub with a pool and had sex with two different men. The first one I don't even remember, but I know it happened. The second one happened after my friends and I got back to the AirBnb, and was the brother of my friend, and I also had sex with him the night before on Friday night.

Yesterday my vagina had been itchy and pretty sore all day, so I was like I'll just wait til Tuesday to see if it feels better. My clit was also pretty bright pink, irritated, sensitive, and a tad swollen. It's itchy again today, not really sore and my clit looks normal again. But it is so. Itchy. And making me freak out internally lol. I was thinking maybe me and the guy I don't remember used a condom? Probably not. Maybe it was because I had sex with two people in one night and it's just irritated? Maybe it's because I was swimming in the chlorine pool and didn't shower for like 24 hours? I want to get tested but I just found out you should be waiting atleast 3 weeks to 3 months after exposure to get tested and getting tested a couple days after exposure typically won't work. I have boric acid supplements that I use sometimes, should I try one of those? I just feel so paranoid right now and don't know what to think. And Itchy

Pls no hate. Out of pocket question, i know. Just wondering if anyone knew of anywhere that offered these services for free as they existed in my previous area of living.