u/Grouchy-Dealer-342

I want to start trying for a baby soon so I want to make sure I do them. Ive always shied away because of my endo but im assuming I need to do them now.

I do exercise as well so I do have baseline strength but barely do kegals

I see so much emphasis on prioritising sleep but some nights I can literally not get more than 5 hours no matter how hard I try. Especially around my cycle. Whats your average?

I am 34 this year and we are about to start trying. I want a baby so bad but part of me dosent want to give my career up. Im in an amazing job that pays alot and is super hard to get into. They are really good with people having babies so I know ill be able to take around 7 months off then come back 3 times a week for a year. My concern is how are we going to afford me only working part time? We own our own home and the mortgage we pay is under what youd pay if you were renting but we wouldnt be able to afford it on just my partners income. How do people do this?

I could go back full time which would mean shift work and i do have a mother that would help out but im scared to go back full time and spend so much time away from them.

I want a baby so badly, but I also want my career.

Do I just go back full time after a year and rely on my partner and my mother until he/she is old enough for childcare? My work is flexible and my roster is good so I know I am working in the best possible place to have children.

We have been ready to start for about a year now but things keep happening. First it was the job, second it was the renovations (kitchen got ripped out) now the kitchens finished we found termites so we have to reframe the whole house. It just feels like every time i go to get the mirena out something happens.

Should I just accept that its never going to be a good time?

My partner is a chippy so he is doing most of the work but h3 is not working, only on the house. What if I fall pregnant and I have the baby then he still dosent have a job? If we wait for him to finish this and get a job its going to be another year pushed back. Im 34 and he is 37 so its not like we are getting any younger

I was half considering if we get pregnant just finish our room and a spare room then do the rest as we go

We have just had my partners dad here for 2 months, he leaves in 3 weeks. We moved states to our hometown and are renovating so he comes up alot. He got really sick while he was here so his trip went from 1.5months to 2.5 months. I am exhausted I just want our space back but im obviously not going to kick him out sick. 2 weeks after he leaves my friends from another state have had a trip booked to see me here. Then a week after that my mirena was booked to come out.

His mother (who is the most toxic woman you will ever meet - think typical Italian woman and im dating the youngest son / "its my fault" he moved states) has decided she is coming for 2 weeks at the end of August. He partly moved to get away from her and now he dosent want to move back so im enemy number 1. Im tired from hosting people and I just want the house to ourselves. We obviously cant tell her this because it will be WW3. Her and her ex husband cant even be in the same room, shes obviously heard he has been here so now wants to come up. Because she hasnt seen us since we moved we cant really say no. My partner said yes but I really dont want her here 1/ 2 weeks after my mirena is taken out, im going to be hormonal plus im going to be stressed and on edge the whole time with her here. So once again, we are talking about pushing my mirena removal back. I just feel like there is always something and its doing my head in. Part of me just wants to get it removed as per my plan and doctors appointment which ive already changed twice but the other part knows its going to be absolute torture with her here 😭😭😭😭

Ive seen multiple comments about it

Im so over it. I want to just sell the house and buy a new one. I wish we never did this 😭😭😭 my partner is a chippy and it just feels like everything is taking so long. Its getting to the point now where I need to be making choices about the things I want such as fixings, mirrors, colours, tapa, toilets, windows and basins etc. Im so overwhelmed and i just dont want to do it anymore. Im at the point where I dont care what goes in as long as we dont have to deal with renovating. Please tell me it gets better. It feels like people get their renovations done in 3-6 months but ours is taking so long 😭