u/Illustrious_Tea_5999

So i'm a 28M and currently unemployed. My mother earns 15k per month and my sister has a government job with a good salary, which will increase further after the 8th pay commission.

We have a house where only my mother and I live. There are 10 shops attached to our house and a court case regarding them has been going on for the past 7 years.

We also own 10 bigha of land that has been encroached by the mafia. We are trying to sell it but no one is showing interest. You know how the tehsil system works, so there is not much hope from there.

I am extremely stressed about how things will work out. My mother is suggesting selling the house but i don’t think that's a good idea instead try to sell the disputed land. My brain isn't braining, ain't able to think clearly. I need guidance from you all how to invest the 25L rs

Please guide me 😞

I have my own house but it has many vastu related issues. My mother wants to sell it and buy another house in the main city, which is obviously much more expensive. There are 10 shops attached to our house but all of them have been closed since 2019 due to a kurki order and an ongoing court case. I know many people don't even own a house, so selling ours and buying another one that may require a home loan feels like a big financial mistake. I'm not earning right now and my mother earns only ₹15,000 per month. We also have land but it's currently under dispute and we have only about ₹25 lakh in liquid assets. I'm very confused about what to do 😕 Kindly guide

My house worth is 1.5cr

The new house in the mainland area is above 4cr

Only shops are under kurki, not the house

So i was diagnosed with h pylori infection last month. I started to take medicines on 22 June but on the same day, in the evening, something happened that emotionally collapsed me. I became numb and quiet and to cope with emotions, i have drunk about 15L of cold drink in just these 11 days. Only 2 days are left for finishing my antibiotics course. I want to know how badly it will impact the effects of antibiotics? Also when completing the course, after how many days the doctor will check for h pylori again (test of cure)? 🥲

So i was diagnosed with h pylori infection last month. I started to take medicines on 22 June but on the same day, in the evening, something happened that emotionally collapsed me. I became numb and quiet and to cope with emotions, i have drunk about 15L of cold drink in just these 11 days. Only 2 days are left for finishing my antibiotics course. I want to know how badly it will impact the effects of antibiotics? Also when completing the course, after how many days the doctor will check for h pylori again (test of cure)? 🥲

I'm feeling depressed. My chest feels heavy and my heart is beating faster than usual, panic attack?

So there's a school friend of mine who sits at his father's clinic. I've been in depression and anxiety for a very long time which made me socially cut off and quiet. I have some medical issues so i went to his clinic for medicine after a long time we met. There's a girl who works there. She's from a different religion.

We made a plan for a Nainital tour by car so there was an issue with ac we went to the mechanic, i didn't have lunch so we went to the nearby food corner, had lunch and then we came back to the mechanical shop and the mechanic asked for "key". He couldn't fix the ac because I left without handling the key to him so my friend said to me "Abey gaandu ho" (Are you fucking an idiot). I had told him that i have anxiety issues and other psychological issues before.

I once visited his clinic for random talk. He was busy gossiping with that girl alone in the chamber. He didn't greet me or give attention to me. I sat there for literally 10 mins and then the girl's brother came to pick her up and my friend went out of clinic and made her sit in the e-ricksaw and then came back to the reception and went straight scrolling the phone and then i said "ho gaya tera ya abhi bhi busy ho" (You are free now or still busy) i really felt bad and ignored

Recently he went on the tour and i had to take the medicine so i went to his clinic and the girl was ill i asked for her health and before leaving i said "apna khayal rakhna" (take care of yourself) when she was all alone in the chamber i later realised that she might have felt uncomfortable. When he came back from the trip, she talked about this incident and he called me asking why i visited the clinic i explained to him and then he said "ab se mat aana warna pele jaoge". I know i might have crossed personal boundaries but due to being socially cut off and depression i never learned these things and i'm very friendly to people

Is he really my friend? He is more concerned about her but doesn't make me understand the situation politely

One more thing i have talked to this girl a bit before as i'm taking medicine since last week of January and told her that i got to know that you're not well

He talked to me like that on the phone in front of her and she trusts him a lot as she considers him like a big bro

I'm concerned about how she thinks about me after this incident

I'm so upset

So there's a school friend of mine who sits at his father's clinic. I've been in depression and anxiety for a very long time which made me socially cut off and quiet. I have some medical issues so i went to his clinic for medicine after a long time we met. There's a girl who works there. She's a minor and is from a different religion.

We made a plan for a Nainital tour by car so there was an issue with ac we went to the mechanic, i didn't have lunch so we went to the nearby food corner, had lunch and then we came back to the mechanical shop and the mechanic asked for "key". He couldn't fix the ac because I left without handling the key to him so my friend said to me "Abey gaandu ho" (Are you fucking an idiot). I had told him that i have anxiety issues and other psychological issues before.

I once visited his clinic for random talk. He was busy gossiping with that girl alone in the chamber. He didn't greet me or give attention to me. I sat there for literally 10 mins and then the girl's brother came to pick her up and my friend went out of clinic and made her sit in the e-ricksaw and then came back to the reception and went straight scrolling the phone and then i said "ho gaya tera ya abhi bhi busy ho" (You are free now or still busy) i really felt bad and ignored

Recently he went on the tour and i had to take the medicine so i went to his clinic and the girl was ill i asked for her health and before leaving i said "apna khayal rakhna" (take care of yourself) when she was all alone in the chamber i later realised that she might have felt uncomfortable. When he came back from the trip, she talked about this incident and he called me asking why i visited the clinic i explained to him and then he said "ab se mat aana warna pele jaoge". I know i might have crossed personal boundaries but due to being socially cut off and depression i never learned these things and i'm very friendly to people

Is he really my friend? He is more concerned about her but doesn't make me understand the situation politely

One more thing i have talked to this girl a bit before as i'm taking medicine since last week of January and told her that i got to know that you're not well

He talked to me like that on the phone in front of her

He is no longer a friend of mine and i'm concerned about how she thinks about me after this incident

So there's a school friend of mine who sits at his father's clinic. I've been in depression and anxiety for a very long time which made me socially cut off and quiet. I have some medical issues so i went to his clinic for medicine after a long time we met. There's a girl who works there. She's a minor and is from a different religion.

We made a plan for a Nainital tour by car so there was an issue with ac we went to the mechanic, i didn't have lunch so we went to the nearby food corner, had lunch and then we came back to the mechanical shop and the mechanic asked for "key". He couldn't fix the ac because I left without handling the key to him so my friend said to me "Abey gaandu ho" (Are you fucking an idiot). I had told him that i have anxiety issues and other psychological issues before.

I once visited his clinic for random talk. He was busy gossiping with that girl alone in the chamber. He didn't greet me or give attention to him. I sat there for literally 10 mins and then the girl's brother came to pick her up and my friend went out of clinic and made her sit in the e-ricksaw and then came back to the reception and went straight scrolling the phone and then i said "ho gaya tera ya abhi bhi busy ho" (You are free now or still busy) i really felt bad and ignored

Recently he went on the tour and i had to take the medicine so i went to his clinic and the girl was ill i asked for her health and before leaving i said "apna khayal rakhna" (take care of yourself) when she was all alone in the chamber i later realised that she might have felt uncomfortable. When he came back from the trip, she talked about this incident and he called me asking why i visited the clinic i explained to him and then he said "ab se mat aana warna pele jaoge". I know i might have crossed personal boundaries but due to social cut off and depression i never learned these things and i'm very friendly to people

Is he really my friend? He is more concerned about her but doesn't make me understand the situation politely

So there's a school friend of mine who sits at his father's clinic. I've been in depression and anxiety for a very long time which made me socially cut off and quiet. I have some medical issues so i went to his clinic for medicine after a long time we met. There's a girl who works there. She's a minor and is from a different religion.

We made a plan for a Nainital tour by car so there was an issue with ac we went to the mechanic, i didn't have lunch so we went to the nearby food corner, had lunch and then we came back to the mechanical shop and the mechanic asked for "key". He couldn't fix the ac because I left without handling the key to him so my friend said to me "Abey gaandu ho". I had told him that i have anxiety issues and other psychological issues before.

I once visited his clinic for random talk. He was busy gossiping with that girl alone in the chamber. He didn't greet me or give attention to him. I sat there for literally 10 mins and then the girl's brother came to pick her up and my friend went out of clinic and made her sit in the e-ricksaw and then came back to the reception and went straight scrolling the phone and then i said "ho gaya tera ya abhi bhi busy ho" i really felt bad and ignored

Recently he went on the tour and i had to take the medicine so i went to his clinic and the girl was ill i asked for her health and before leaving i said "apna khayal rakhna" when she was all alone in the chamber i later realised that she might have felt uncomfortable. When he came back from the trip, she talked about this incident and he called me asking why i visited the clinic i explained to him and then he said "ab se mat aana warna pele jaoge". I know i might have crossed personal boundaries but due to social cut off and depression i never learned these things and i'm very friendly to people

Is he really my friend? He is more concerned about her but doesn't make me understand the situation politely

I want to accept islam and will do it sooner but i'm worried about marriage. Look my family won't accept my decision so i will be all alone, will a girl's family accept me as their son-in-law? If not, then what plus points or advantages should i have so that they think he can keep their daughter with care, happy and provide all basic necessities

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Look it's a serious matter to me and i want genuine answers, don't utter rubbish

I'm into the risky business so my income is highly fluctuating and i want some stable kind of business. I also want to earn some money through passive sources to cover my basic needs. If you can suggest/ advice me what to do will be appreciated 🥲

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I'm a hindu and since childhood i've been attracted to islamic culture and traditions. In 2014, when pakistani dramas aired in India, watching their dramas make my emotions much stronger because i find muslims to be very cultured and well mannered. I want to accept Islam but i don't know the conversion & legal process for it. Is it necessary to change surname at the time of accepting islam or i can change it later? It's a very tough decision for me because converting to islam means relatives and some friends will break relations with me and my mother will get very hurt. I don't have faith in hindu gods

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Kindly guide me

I'm in extreme stress due to below reasons and it's killing me from within

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I’m skinny, so I don’t look good enough, and I also feel unfit from within. For many years I didn’t know why this was happening, but I’ve finally identified the possible causes: H. pylori infection, GERD, pelvic floor dyssynergia, and hemorrhoids. Now I’m trying to understand and build a lifestyle around these conditions.

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I used to get bullied in school, college, and at home for my dark complexion. I didn’t receive emotional support during that time, which made me distance myself from society and eventually led to depression and anxiety. I often think and talk negatively about myself, which pushes people away. Being sad has almost become my default state 🥲

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I don’t have full confidence, a clear voice, or courage to speak what I really want, especially in stressful situations. My physical appearance and the way I feel internally both affect my confidence.

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I’m not earning right now, and instead I’m losing money in F&O. It’s not because my strategy is completely wrong, but because I have unrealistic income expectations (like 9L+ per month). I’ve asked people, and most say 3–4L is enough for a comfortable life, but I still struggle to accept that. I just want a stable income of around 40k/month to cover basic needs and household expenses.

Hi girls 🙂

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I'm 28M and few days ago i was watching a YouTube video where a person asked random girls "how much do you expect your partner to earn?" and their answers or expectations were quite unrealistic and shocking to me. Some girls said 1cr per month, some 50L or some 20L. I want to a genuine and practical answers from you, how much income you want your partner to earn so that you feel secure and comfort 🙄

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Some of you might be earning and can share responsibilities but i ain't asking your income so...

I want to understand the lifestyle of people from different class and cities. List down all of your basic needs (not wants or desire) and how much do you spend on it and how much do you left with at the end 🙂

Hi guys 🙂

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I'd been in depression for few years and have anxiety disorder. I've seen people in mumbai how do they travel in local trains to get their workplace and back to home, have seen hats how poor people live there even people in footpath without any blanket and proper clothes in, people who live under rented roof still i'm not able to understand the value of having your own house, importance of money and feeling of being privileged for what i have. I try a lot to feel the life of different class but failed. I want to value everything that i have which would eventually make me a better person. How do i do it?

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I’m skinny, so I don’t look good enough, and I also feel unfit from within. For many years I didn’t know why this was happening, but I’ve finally identified the possible causes: H. pylori infection, GERD, pelvic floor dyssynergia, and hemorrhoids. Now I’m trying to understand and build a lifestyle around these conditions.

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Emotional :

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I used to get bullied in school, college, and at home for my dark complexion. I didn’t receive emotional support during that time, which made me distance myself from society and eventually led to depression and anxiety. I often think and talk negatively about myself, which pushes people away. Being sad has almost become my default state 🥲

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Social :

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I don’t have full confidence, a clear voice, or courage to speak what I really want, especially in stressful situations. My physical appearance and the way I feel internally both affect my confidence.

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Financial :

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I’m not earning right now, and instead I’m losing money in F&O. It’s not because my strategy is completely wrong, but because I have unrealistic income expectations (like 9L+ per month). I’ve asked people, and most say 3–4L is enough for a comfortable life, but I still struggle to accept that. I just want a stable income of around 40k/month to cover basic needs and household expenses.

I'm a 28 years old man. I've been experiencing restless leg syndrome for few months, blood in stool, fatigue, hair thinning, rapid grey hair and severe low appetite (bilkul mann nahi karta khaane ka). I had colonoscopy back in 2019 and hemorrhoids came in report. Iron studies, fecal calprotectine, ttg-iga, lft, lft, thyroid reports are normal. I also experience decrease in vitamin d & b12. Oh yes, i have noticed mucus in stool. I had roundworm ascaris in past. I'm very skinny weigh just 52kg and my height is 161cm. I go to washroom 4-6 times a day because bowel doesn't clean in once which causes me migraine (gut linked)

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I don't understand why i'm facing vitamin & ferritin deficiency and music in stool. Is it because of parasite infection, hemorrhoids, malabsorption or i have IBD, IBS?

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What tests should i ask gastroenterologist to do? I'm so tired and fed of my health 😞

My mother has around 25L in her bank account from which i want to transfer 20L in my bank account. As she is getting old, she isn't able to manage the fund. I wanna know how to transfer such huge amount from her account to mine without facing any scrunity by itd in future?