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Feel like I have a good shot at big tech next summer but not sure where to check when these applications come out. Anyone know?

Edit: my goal is Google but any FAANG will be great

Heading into Nags Head on 4th of July. What are some good places for fireworks?

Going to the outer banks this weekend and was wondering whether Nags Head or Cape Hatteras would be the place to go to for fireworks + just attractions in general on Friday night. Staying about 30-45 mins from both.

Should we go to Nags Head Friday night and then Cape Hatteras Saturday night or vice versa?

Going to the outer banks this weekend and was wondering whether Nags Head or Cape Hatteras would be the place to go to for fireworks + just attractions in general on Friday night. Staying about 30-45 mins from both.

Should we go to Nags Head Friday night and then Cape Hatteras Saturday night or vice versa?

I wanna get into big tech in summer 2027 and for that I have to grind leetcode.

I am currently an intern at a F100 company so after waking up, going to the gym, and spending 8 hours everyday at work, it's hard for me to have the energy to do leetcode problems after work.

It would be a lot easier with a couple other people that I could do it with to hold each other accountable and making sure we understand it before big tech applications open.

Not really sure how to do this but if anyone that is down and actually *serious* about getting into big tech, I would love to hold each other accountable until then. Like having a weekly goal and doing review sessions until then. Shoot me a dm if this is something that you'd do

I am an intern at a F100 company right now and I love it here, but I am getting an itch to intern at a startup. I want to learn how to ship code fast using AI and have it be used by real people, and big tech doesn't have the luxury of being able to move fast so it feels like I will learn more at a startup.

At the same time, working at a FAANG company has always been a dream and next summer would be my last opportunity for an internship. Only problem is that I will have to grind leetcode rather than build meaningful personal projects. I can do both but it is really hard while already interning full time.

Should I target big tech or a startup? What will help me learn the most as an engineer overall and set me up for success?

p.s. My long term goal is to build a startup of my own if that helps when replying.

I see big names on X saying how they ship features in one prompt and one shot everything, often using voice to text and talking for 15 mins straight describing each and every feature. But how is this any different from vibe coding? What even separates good code from bad code?

I'd assume that FAANG would not offer this as much but I am sure some startups do. If so, how can I find these offerings?

I am seeing kids literally 16-20 creating these startups in YC and I'm astonished by how they have this level of domain expertise. I am not hating at all, I am genuinely impressed.

I am going into my final year of college and I feel like I lived a pretty standard life. Growing up I played sports, got good grades in high school, and am now heading into my final year at a top 15 software engineering school...but I am confused where these kids are finding so much knowledge in these fields.

Over the last year, I've pushed myself harder in CS and over the last 6 months, I've pushed myself even harder in the startup space. I even got the privilege to compete in a YC hackathon. But one thing I am still struggling to find: domain expertise.

All I can really do is solve my own little problems like create a budgeting app for myself or something of that sort. But my dream is to make something that truly helps people.

I've tried out different things, but I realized I was forcing it and I wasn't able to commit ever because I wasn't passionate about the idea. I only seem to really find passion for fitness and coding when necessary, but I truly do love SWE. The idea of making something that helps people drives me and day and night, but I just can't find that thing.

If anyone has any idea, I would love to know how to gain domain expertise in a specific niche. Or if any YC founders are seeing this, how did your startup journey start in your field?

I have never done this before and feel sort of embarrassed to do so. Some things are happening in my life and I want to consult with a sheikh about it because I feel like I can't talk to anyone about it. Do I just go to my local mosque and ask to consult with a sheikh?

Being around my parents is genuinely aggravating. I feel like I am not close with them at all and I feel stuck around them constantly. For reference, I am a 21 y/o male going into my 4th year of university.

I don't even know where to start. I feel like from a young age, I have neglected my parents completely. I got used to that feeling very early on and not once did my parents ever notice that and try to talk to me about something deep in my life or something that concerned me about my own life. Yes, you could make the argument that I could've talked to them, but why would a 12/13/14 year old kid even talk to their parent if they don't feel safe telling them and feel like my struggles will be used as ammunition later. That pattern has persisted until this point in my life where I don't feel like I can tell them ANYTHING. Even being the age I am now. And that hurts me every single day more than it should. I feel shame. I feel like I am never worthy, despite trying my hardest.

Over the years, this caused me to rebel pretty hard. I played ice hockey in high school and I would go on these trips with my dad to these tournaments in other cities. I remember barely even talking to him about stuff. I didn't like to talk to him. For context, my dad is not the most sporty and in my eyes, he is a weak man. My mom has taken the more dominant side (which has had a bunch of psychological effects to me as well). I never looked up to my dad. Never went to him for advice. Figured most of the "life" related things out myself. I don't like his character besides the fact that he is a good Muslim overall and is a nice person when it comes down to it. But both my parents are stuck in their own miseries that affect me and my brother and I want it to just stop. Part of me thinks that my mom being the more dominant one gives her anxiety subconsciously because she feel like she has to take control and my dad just abides. By no means am I saying that men should overrule the woman, at all, but my dad is so submissive. I've tended to follow that submissiveness over the course of my life and it has ruined me in so many ways. One thing I have learned is that children look at the actions of their parents way more than what they say.

I had a girlfriend in high school (I have now repented obviously) and I remember finding so much more comfort in her home with her parents than I did at my own home. I thought that was fine at the time, but looking back, that is absolutely not normal. And I am realizing that 4 years later. I'd be out all the time, never at home, always hanging with my friends. Just looking for an escape so I didn't have to deal with my parents. This caused many arguments until the end of high school.

Then came the end of high school and the beginning of university. For my first year of university, I lived in the on campus buildings, and that was the most free I had ever felt in my life. For the first time, I was away from my parents, able to experience life the way I wanted to. Now, as you can imagine, a lot of bad stuff happens when you place an 18 year old who's been plotting to get out his house for so long, in an open environment, without ever learning what it actually means to be a man.

I engaged in a lot of haram, many things that I deeply regret now. But to me, this was an escape and freedom from life at home. I had so much fun my first year, but by the time it was coming to an end, I had a subconscious feeling that something was missing. That something wasn't right. So that summer after the first year, I decided I wanted to quit some of the activities that I had indulged in and find a new avenue for myself. I didn't like the person I became by the end of my freshman year, and I wanted to fix that.

So that summer, I trained the entire summer to try and make my university's hockey team. I tried really hard. I mean really hard. I put everything on the life. Training almost everyday of summer. While working a job. While taking classes. While also feeling guilt from my parents for trying to pursue this. Yes, I got so much guilt for simply wanting to play the sport I loved alongside my studies. That caused me an enormous amount of anxiety and pressure that summer. Then tryouts came, and I got the heartbreaking news that I didn't make the team. Now I know that to some of you, that may be whatever, but to me that was gut wrenching. People had seen me train all summer and I couldn't bare the embarrassment of having to tell people that I didn't make it. Especially because I didn't know how to defend myself. I never learned that skill through my father. I was so scared.

The semester following that summer (still living away from home at this point), I fell into straight depression. I was so lonely, I felt like I couldn't actually talk about how I REALLY felt to anyone. Even just typing this is making me tear up because it was so intense. All because I wanted to become a better person and maybe let my parents see that I am capable of doing great things. All of that just came crashing down. That was the worst 3 months of my life. So much so, that I ended up failing that entire semester of school. Yes, I failed the ENTIRE semester.

Luckily, at this point, my parents took me in gracefully and I am super thankful for that. I moved home, came up with a plan to recover from this, and move forward. I ended up getting that semester removed off my transcript thanks to them. That's one of the moments in my life where I truly learned from my parents and am forever grateful for that moment.

I started to get closer to my deen, realizing why Allah has forbidden certain things that didn't seem to click before. Fast forward a year and a half after that semester and Alhamdulillah, I have a super well paying internship at one of the top tech companies in the world. But that isn't the point of all of this.

Yes, had it not been for my parents, I would probably be dropped out of university by now. Yes, had it not been for my parents, I probably wouln't have a home, food, clothes, school etc. The point is that I had to go to hell and back all because I wanted to feel like enough to them. To show them fruits of what they worked so hard for themselves to give me this life. And through their actions as parents, I literally killed my own psychology down to the ground. Just to feel like I could get some love from them.

So why am I writing this post now if everything is fine now? Yes, everything has gotten significantly better. I am staying away from haram, I pray 5 times a day, and finally have a deep love for Islam. For a long time, me getting closer to my deen did solve a lot between me and my parents. It helped me feel less shame and they were overall more proud of me. But as I started to heal, I noticed that a lot of those same wounds between me and them, were still wide open. As I get older and prepare myself for a wife, I start to realize why I am the way that I am. Now I am seeing my little brother go off to uni in a couple months, and I am seeing almost identical patterns in him, from myself. He wants to go explore, my parents shame him, he rebels, and the cycle repeats. And it's evident to me that my parents haven't learned a single thing from my situation. My mom is really tempered all the time, my dad is passive and sits back then explodes all of a sudden. It's just shocking that not once did they look internally and see how they are affecting their kids. And this is all unfolding right in front of my eyes at home and I am just a quiet bystander watching it unfold. I am a firm believer in that there are no bad kids, only bad parents. And I will take this same mindset into when I become a parent inshAllah.

On top of that, my brother is so extremely talented. Way more than I am. He's a phenomenal athlete, has amazing grades, good looking dude too MashAllah. But I can sense and feel the guilt that he's feeling right now going through the same thing I did when I was first entering uni. His desire for rebellion, his anger towards my parents. I don't want him to go down that path because I know how much it damaged me.

I am just realizing now, and I neglected it for a long time, that those behaviors are not normal. For a long time, I fell into guilt that my parents pay for everything, so that means that they are great parents because so many parents don't even do that for their kids. While this is true and Alhamdulillah we are blessed financially, that should not come at the cost of my mental heatlh. That takes great courage for me to say because I neglected my mental health for a long time thinking that I have my finances set so everything's fine. It's not. That is only one piece of the puzzle. I realized that those behaviors for both me and my parents are behaviors that need therapy (with the help of Allah of course).

As I am writing this post, I have realized that I have sort of answered my own question of why I get so aggravated around them. But still I would appreciate some of advice. Or if I am the bad one here? I don't want to be dishonest to any side so if I am in the wrong, please tell me. I also want to know how I should approach this situation with my parents and my little brother. I want my brother to be successful and he has all the potential in the world and I don't want my parents to hinder that from him. Also how should I deal with myself? I still have extreme tendencies sometimes that are very harmful still and cause me stress but I am learning to take life more slowly and be more gentle with myself. But it's still hard as I live at home so I do feel the pressure.

Jazakh Allay khayrun.

For context, I am a 21 y/o male, in decent shape about 190 lbs. Lift a couple times a week and also cardio a couple times a week too and have good eating habits.

Should I get my blood work done before starting? Once the blood work results come back, what should I look for? How many mg should I take in each pin of reta and how often should I do it?

I am looking to lose about maybe 15-20 lbs.

The main thing with this is that I won't be going back to this internship after school most likely. So whatever I have after this summer is whatever I will have until next summer. I work from home so all my food and bills are paid for Alhamdulillah.

And do I pay monthly? Yearly? Weekly? How does it work? Jazakah Allah khayrun

I see too many people talk about how if you are poorer then you have a greater chance of Jannah etc. That is absolutely the WRONG mindset to have. Just because you are poor and dont work on yourself does NOT mean you have a higher chance of Jannah.

We know that people with less money have less questioning, but not a guarantee of Jannah. It is important to be wealthy and healthy. In fact you SHOULD strive to get to that level. You should strive to better yourself. You should strive to achieve your dream body.

Yes, wealth can be a distraction, but so can being poor and out of shape. Your influence to help others is way less if you have no money and arent in the right physical shape with the right mind.

The ummah needs warriors, businessman etc. There is nothing inherently wrong having less money, but when people get shamed for having ambitions that could potentially help other people, that's when the line gets crossed.

I myself used to feel a subconscious shame for wanting to be wealthy and have a good body for my future wife and the want to provide for my kids, but that's shaytaan talking, not Allah.

Strive for better in your faith, wealth, and health and don't feel sorry for it.

Been researching the best types of businesses to sell my SEO/GEO services to. I've bounced back between skincare/supplement brands and AI SDR platforms. What is a good niche to go after?

This is honestly such a long story, but to put it short, I was in a haram relationship with a girl for about 10 months (known her for years). We didn't touch, but we talked all the time. The time that I met her, she genuinely caused me to change and we both became more on our deen because of it. Prior to her, I engaged in sins that I deeply regret now and aH have managed to stay away from for over a year now.

As our relationship went on (started in may 2025 and ended in march 2026) I started to get very very religious, and she did too, but she was always a couple steps behind me (which I know now is totally okay), but I realized I started to feel a certain way towards her when she wouldn't be up to my standards.

Over time, other priorities came into my life and I realized that I can't afford a relationship at this moment. I had been thinking this subconsciously for months already, but what confirmed it was during the last 10 nights of Ramadan, we decided not to speak to devote it fully to Allah. During that time period, again and again I prayed to Allah asking if this is the right person. Allah gave me so much peace in those 10 days that I realized that a lot of the chaos in my life was because of her. I am not saying she was a bad person or she was doing it on purpose, because the truth is that we both loved each other deeply and she is a really good person, but she wanted certain things from me that I just could not give her.

Fast forward about 2 weeks after last 10 nights, we break up. For me, it was for the sake of Allah. I wanted to actually be on my own for the first time in my life and face the reality of my own thoughts and use this time to heal from the sins I had been accumulating for some years now.

Even while I was with her, my deen increased exponentially, but breaking things off with her was the last step to fully give everything to Allah.

I have found peace with myself over the last couple months and have truly healed when I am not seeing pictures of her on Instagram or with her friends time to time. She seems happy too. But as a man, this journey is lonely. Not watching anything haram. Working all day to achieve financial freedom and donate to charity iA.

I have friends that are there for me. While they do understand my pain, they are pretty much all non-muslim. So I can go deep with them, but they will never understand how it really feels at the core.

I am also not sure how to just for Muslim friendships now.

Idk just wanted to make this post because this is such an uphill battle. Everyday. Being away from haram, while actually constantly working on yourself.

I want to preface this by saying that although this is hard. I have the utmost faith and hope in Allah that he will bring good out of this situation. I know one day I will be financially free and with a woman and kids that I love inshAllah. These days are what will define it. May Allah me and the rest of us deal with every endeavor of our lives with the utmost patience. Ameen.

P.S. Should I go talk to a sheikh about these problems? Idk how to do that I have never done it before. I feel like talking to someone that's Muslim would help me tremendously.

This is honestly such a long story, but to put it short, I was in a haram relationship with a girl for about 10 months (known her for years). We didn't touch, but we talked all the time. The time that I met her, she genuinely caused me to change and we both became more on our deen because of it. Prior to her, I engaged in sins that I deeply regret now and aH have managed to stay away from for over a year now.

As our relationship went on (started in may 2025 and ended in march 2026) I started to get very very religious, and she did too, but she was always a couple steps behind me (which I know now is totally okay), but I realized I started to feel a certain way towards her when she wouldn't be up to my standards.

Over time, other priorities came into my life and I realized that I can't afford a relationship at this moment. I had been thinking this subconsciously for months already, but what confirmed it was during the last 10 nights of Ramadan, we decided not to speak to devote it fully to Allah. During that time period, again and again I prayed to Allah asking if this is the right person. Allah gave me so much peace in those 10 days that I realized that a lot of the chaos in my life was because of her. I am not saying she was a bad person or she was doing it on purpose, because the truth is that we both loved each other deeply and she is a really good person, but she wanted certain things from me that I just could not give her.

Fast forward about 2 weeks after last 10 nights, we break up. For me, it was for the sake of Allah. I wanted to actually be on my own for the first time in my life and face the reality of my own thoughts and use this time to heal from the sins I had been accumulating for some years now.

Even while I was with her, my deen increased exponentially, but breaking things off with her was the last step to fully give everything to Allah.

I have found peace with myself over the last couple months and have truly healed when I am not seeing pictures of her on Instagram or with her friends time to time. She seems happy too. But as a man, this journey is lonely. Not watching anything haram. Working all day to achieve financial freedom and donate to charity iA.

I have friends that are there for me. While they do understand my pain, they are pretty much all non-muslim. So I can go deep with them, but they will never understand how it really feels at the core.

I am also not sure how to just for Muslim friendships now.

Idk just wanted to make this post because this is such an uphill battle. Everyday. Being away from haram, while actually constantly working on yourself.

I want to preface this by saying that although this is hard. I have the utmost faith and hope in Allah that he will bring good out of this situation. I know one day I will be financially free and with a woman and kids that I love inshAllah. These days are what will define it. May Allah me and the rest of us deal with every endeavor of our lives with the utmost patience. Ameen.

P.S. Should I go talk to a sheikh about these problems? Idk how to do that I have never done it before. I feel like talking to someone that's Muslim would help me tremendously.

This is honestly such a long story, but to put it short, I was in a haram relationship with a girl for about 10 months (known her for years). We didn't touch, but we talked all the time. The time that I met her, she genuinely caused me to change and we both became more on our deen because of it. Prior to her, I engaged in sins that I deeply regret now and aH have managed to stay away from for over a year now.

As our relationship went on (started in may 2025 and ended in march 2026) I started to get very very religious, and she did too, but she was always a couple steps behind me (which I know now is totally okay), but I realized I started to feel a certain way towards her when she wouldn't be up to my standards.

Over time, other priorities came into my life and I realized that I can't afford a relationship at this moment. I had been thinking this subconsciously for months already, but what confirmed it was during the last 10 nights of Ramadan, we decided not to speak to devote it fully to Allah. During that time period, again and again I prayed to Allah asking if this is the right person. Allah gave me so much peace in those 10 days that I realized that a lot of the chaos in my life was because of her. I am not saying she was a bad person or she was doing it on purpose, because the truth is that we both loved each other deeply and she is a really good person, but she wanted certain things from me that I just could not give her.

Fast forward about 2 weeks after last 10 nights, we break up. For me, it was for the sake of Allah. I wanted to actually be on my own for the first time in my life and face the reality of my own thoughts and use this time to heal from the sins I had been accumulating for some years now.

Even while I was with her, my deen increased exponentially, but breaking things off with her was the last step to fully give everything to Allah.

I have found peace with myself over the last couple months and have truly healed when I am not seeing pictures of her on Instagram or with her friends time to time. She seems happy too. But as a man, this journey is lonely. Not watching anything haram. Working all day to achieve financial freedom and donate to charity iA.

I have friends that are there for me. While they do understand my pain, they are pretty much all non-muslim. So I can go deep with them, but they will never understand how it really feels at the core.

I am also not sure how to just for Muslim friendships now.

Idk just wanted to make this post because this is such an uphill battle. Everyday. Being away from haram, while actually constantly working on yourself.

I want to preface this by saying that although this is hard. I have the utmost faith and hope in Allah that he will bring good out of this situation. I know one day I will be financially free and with a woman and kids that I love inshAllah. These days are what will define it. May Allah me and the rest of us deal with every endeavor of our lives with the utmost patience. Ameen.

P.S. Should I go talk to a sheikh about these problems? Idk how to do that I have never done it before. I feel like talking to someone that's Muslim would help me tremendously.

This is honestly such a long story, but to put it short, I was in a haram relationship with a girl for about 10 months (known her for years). We didn't touch, but we talked all the time. The time that I met her, she genuinely caused me to change and we both became more on our deen because of it. Prior to her, I engaged in sins that I deeply regret now and aH have managed to stay away from for over a year now.

As our relationship went on (started in may 2025 and ended in march 2026) I started to get very very religious, and she did too, but she was always a couple steps behind me (which I know now is totally okay), but I realized I started to feel a certain way towards her when she wouldn't be up to my standards.

Over time, other priorities came into my life and I realized that I can't afford a relationship at this moment. I had been thinking this subconsciously for months already, but what confirmed it was during the last 10 nights of Ramadan, we decided not to speak to devote it fully to Allah. During that time period, again and again I prayed to Allah asking if this is the right person. Allah gave me so much peace in those 10 days that I realized that a lot of the chaos in my life was because of her. I am not saying she was a bad person or she was doing it on purpose, because the truth is that we both loved each other deeply and she is a really good person, but she wanted certain things from me that I just could not give her.

Fast forward about 2 weeks after last 10 nights, we break up. For me, it was for the sake of Allah. I wanted to actually be on my own for the first time in my life and face the reality of my own thoughts and use this time to heal from the sins I had been accumulating for some years now.

Even while I was with her, my deen increased exponentially, but breaking things off with her was the last step to fully give everything to Allah.

I have found peace with myself over the last couple months and have truly healed when I am not seeing pictures of her on Instagram or with her friends time to time. She seems happy too. But as a man, this journey is lonely. Not watching anything haram. Working all day to achieve financial freedom and donate to charity iA.

I have friends that are there for me. While they do understand my pain, they are pretty much all non-muslim. So I can go deep with them, but they will never understand how it really feels at the core.

I am also not sure how to just for Muslim friendships now.

Idk just wanted to make this post because this is such an uphill battle. Everyday. Being away from haram, while actually constantly working on yourself.

I want to preface this by saying that although this is hard. I have the utmost faith and hope in Allah that he will bring good out of this situation. I know one day I will be financially free and with a woman and kids that I love inshAllah. These days are what will define it. May Allah me and the rest of us deal with every endeavor of our lives with the utmost patience. Ameen.