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“The Creative Adult is the Child who survived.”

Six years ago, I shared that quote on the blue app together with another quote by Anaïs Nin:

"Something is always born of excess: great art was born of great terrors, great loneliness, great inhibitions, instabilities, and it always balances them."

At the time, I don't think I fully understood what either quote meant.

Like many people, I was drawn to them because they sounded profound. But six years later, after experiencing more of life, making mistakes, facing challenges, and watching people around me go through their own struggles, I think I understand them a little better.

That quote made me think about how many of us deal with problems today.

We live in a world where almost everything is instant. Food arrives in minutes. Information is available in seconds. Entertainment is always within reach. Because of that, it's easy to expect life to work the same way.

When something goes wrong, we immediately look for answers. We search for advice, watch videos, read quotes, and hope to find the one thing that will make everything make sense.

We want a formula.

And when the problem doesn't disappear, we start questioning ourselves. We think we're weak because we're still struggling. We think we're failing because we're not "over it" yet.

To make things worse, we're often told to just stay positive, move on, or trust the process.

The problem is that life is rarely that simple.

Some things take time. Grief takes time. Healing takes time. Trust takes time. Growth takes time.

But time alone is not the answer either.

Some people wait when they should act. Others act when they should wait.

There are problems that require immediate action. Difficult conversations that need to happen. Boundaries that need to be set. Decisions that need to be made. Help that needs to be sought.

There are also situations where no amount of forcing, worrying, or overthinking will speed things up. Sometimes all you can do is take the next right step and allow time to do what it does.

I think maturity is realizing that neither action nor patience is always the answer.

The challenge is knowing which one the situation requires.

The truth is, I don't think most of us possess some special ability to always know which one to choose. We learn along the way. Sometimes we act when we should have waited. Sometimes we wait when we should have acted. Sometimes we make the wrong choice entirely.

Yet somehow, those mistakes become part of the lesson. We often only understand our choices in hindsight.

Maybe wisdom isn't about always making the right decision. Maybe it's about remaining humble enough to learn from the wrong ones.

Maybe strength isn't solving every problem immediately. But it also isn't sitting around hoping time will magically fix everything.

Real strength is facing reality as it is. Acting when action is needed. Being patient when patience is needed. And accepting that sometimes we won't know which is which until much later.

Maybe that's what those quotes were pointing to all along.

Not that suffering is good.

Not that loneliness, fear, uncertainty, or hardship should be romanticized.

But that life has a way of shaping us through experiences we never would have chosen for ourselves.

The child survived.

Not because life was easy. Not because every problem had a quick solution. But because despite the setbacks, disappointments, mistakes, and hardships, something important remained intact.

The curiosity to keep learning.

The courage to keep trying.

The willingness to hope again after being disappointed.

The older I get, the more I realize that wisdom is not having all the answers. It is learning how to live with uncertainty without losing yourself in the process.

Life will not always be beautiful. Some seasons will be painful, unfair, confusing, and far different from what we imagined.

But even when life is not beautiful, we can still choose to have a beautiful perspective about it.

Not a perspective that denies reality or pretends everything is okay. Rather, a perspective that sees meaning in struggle, lessons in mistakes, growth in hardship, and reasons to keep moving forward despite it all.

Perhaps that is what survival really means.

Not simply making it through difficult times, but making it through them without allowing bitterness, cynicism, or disappointment to take away our capacity for wonder.

The creative adult is the child who survived because, despite everything life placed in their path, they never stopped believing that there was still something worth learning, something worth hoping for, and something beautiful worth seeing.

Life does not always become easier. Problems do not always disappear. Some questions remain unanswered and some wounds leave scars.

But perhaps growing older is not about finding perfect solutions. Perhaps it is about learning to carry life's imperfections with grace, humility, and perspective.

And sometimes, that is enough.

"The creative adult is the child who survived."

Six years ago, I shared this image quote on the blue app together with another quote by Anaïs Nin:

"Something is always born of excess: great art was born of great terrors, great loneliness, great inhibitions, instabilities, and it always balances them."

At the time, I don't think I fully understood what either quote meant.

Like many people, I was drawn to them because they sounded profound. But six years later, after experiencing more of life, making mistakes, facing challenges, and watching people around me go through their own struggles, I think I understand them a little better.

That quote made me think about how many of us deal with problems today.

We live in a world where almost everything is instant. Food arrives in minutes. Information is available in seconds. Entertainment is always within reach. Because of that, it's easy to expect life to work the same way.

When something goes wrong, we immediately look for answers. We search for advice, watch videos, read quotes, and hope to find the one thing that will make everything make sense.

We want a formula.

And when the problem doesn't disappear, we start questioning ourselves. We think we're weak because we're still struggling. We think we're failing because we're not "over it" yet.

To make things worse, we're often told to just stay positive, move on, or trust the process.

The problem is that life is rarely that simple.

Some things take time. Grief takes time. Healing takes time. Trust takes time. Growth takes time.

But time alone is not the answer either.

Some people wait when they should act. Others act when they should wait.

There are problems that require immediate action. Difficult conversations that need to happen. Boundaries that need to be set. Decisions that need to be made. Help that needs to be sought.

There are also situations where no amount of forcing, worrying, or overthinking will speed things up. Sometimes all you can do is take the next right step and allow time to do what it does.

I think maturity is realizing that neither action nor patience is always the answer.

The challenge is knowing which one the situation requires.

The truth is, I don't think most of us possess some special ability to always know which one to choose. We learn along the way. Sometimes we act when we should have waited. Sometimes we wait when we should have acted. Sometimes we make the wrong choice entirely.

Yet somehow, those mistakes become part of the lesson. We often only understand our choices in hindsight.

Maybe wisdom isn't about always making the right decision. Maybe it's about remaining humble enough to learn from the wrong ones.

Maybe strength isn't solving every problem immediately. But it also isn't sitting around hoping time will magically fix everything.

Real strength is facing reality as it is. Acting when action is needed. Being patient when patience is needed. And accepting that sometimes we won't know which is which until much later.

Maybe that's what those quotes were pointing to all along.

Not that suffering is good.

Not that loneliness, fear, uncertainty, or hardship should be romanticized.

But that life has a way of shaping us through experiences we never would have chosen for ourselves.

The child survived.

Not because life was easy. Not because every problem had a quick solution. But because despite the setbacks, disappointments, mistakes, and hardships, something important remained intact.

The curiosity to keep learning.

The courage to keep trying.

The willingness to hope again after being disappointed.

The older I get, the more I realize that wisdom is not having all the answers. It is learning how to live with uncertainty without losing yourself in the process.

Life will not always be beautiful. Some seasons will be painful, unfair, confusing, and far different from what we imagined.

But even when life is not beautiful, we can still choose to have a beautiful perspective about it.

Not a perspective that denies reality or pretends everything is okay. Rather, a perspective that sees meaning in struggle, lessons in mistakes, growth in hardship, and reasons to keep moving forward despite it all.

Perhaps that is what survival really means.

Not simply making it through difficult times, but making it through them without allowing bitterness, cynicism, or disappointment to take away our capacity for wonder.

The creative adult is the child who survived because, despite everything life placed in their path, they never stopped believing that there was still something worth learning, something worth hoping for, and something beautiful worth seeing.

Life does not always become easier. Problems do not always disappear. Some questions remain unanswered and some wounds leave scars.

But perhaps growing older is not about finding perfect solutions. Perhaps it is about learning to carry life's imperfections with grace, humility, and perspective.

And sometimes, that is enough.

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2. Nishane Ani
3. Nishane Hacivat
4. Le Beau Le Parfum
5. Le Male Le Parfum
6. Afnan Supremacy Collector’s Edition

Please give me the pros and cons based on your experience with the mentioned scents. I have researched na sa fragrantica but I would like hear your views po. Salamat!

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