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Edit because apparently I wasnt clear. I am not upset by this phone call. I am not taking the excessive information personally or as a slight against me. I am sharing a phone call that I found interesting and left me wondering why such detail was needed for what I saw as basic common sense. Some of you need to relax.

Got the offer letter last week. This week is background check and onboarding stuff, next week I start. I emailed them to ask if my regular start time was when they wanted me to come in or if they wanted me in earlier / later for my first day. They said they were going to call me with day one details later that day. Cool.

The call comes, she explains that itll be a later start, dress code is buisness casual, the day will start with a tour of the building, then my cubicle, then training with lunch in the middle. She explained the kitchen set up, and some of the on-site amenities. So far so good, normal prep call.

Then she keeps going. Spends 10-15 minutes explaining to me what "buisness casual" means, giving examples. Jeans are okay on Mondays and Fridays, "but not your first day!" And she made sure to specify no jeans with holes or rips. Also spent a weirdly long amount of time explaining my cubicle size and the locker that was in it, but that might have just been something she was excited to share.

I am a 30 year old woman. I have 2 other professional jobs listed on my resume that Inwas at for years. I have worked in an office before. She met me for the (in person!) interview and I was dressed in a blazer and dress pants, so its not like i wasnt dressed appropriately before.

I am so insanely curious what this woman has encountered in her hiring carreer that made this level of detail in a phone call necessary.

*Disclaimer that this post is primarily a joke. I willingly sought out a hybrid role because fully remote wasnt for me.*

We've all seen talk about the commute costs. The gas, wear and tear on cars, pollution, mental health costs, all that. When I was laid off from my fully remote position last month, I knew id end up back in office at least partially. I was ready for those costs, and looked for things within a reasonably commuting distance.

When I started interviewing, however, I realized something vital I had forgotten, *I didnt have office clothes*. I was throwing together pieces from outfits I had worn to weddings. The nicer clothes for family functions. Being entirely remote with very little on video calls, I had slowly been replacing my button downs and nice sweaters with tshirts and hoodies.

I still got dressed every day, didnt feel right to work in my PJs, but they weren't clothes appropriate for an office. I dont think this new financial institution wants me showing up in band tshirts and jeans! So to Amazon I went, looking for office appropriate clothing.

$400 dollars and a job offer later, I am just about prepared to return to office. I have the basics of a capsule wardrobe, and just need to add in some pieces for late fall and winter. This is a cost no one talks about! The price of looking presentable.

I know teal and some others exist, but I dont like how manual they are, or how limited. So I decided to take a bit of my free time and start developing my own. Its just for me, I dont know if id ever make it public, or monetize it at all (hence not an ad), but i am curious what other job seekers would look for and If im missing anything that might be beneficial.

As of right now, it offers a connection to your email to scan for job applications you've completed, and (tries to) match them with postings to pull job title, company, pay, and any other additional information it can. It stores it with the application date as applied. Then also scans for emails to set up interviews, and tracks that status change, as well as adds the interview dates and times to an internal calender. If 14 days pass with no update on an "applied" role, it switches automatically to "ghosted" status. (You can override status manually at any point). It also includes a Sankey diagram, mostly because those are fun.

Some work in progress features include automatically searching for reviews from employees about a workplace to generate a sort of "vibe check", as well as a section for you to add your own notes while interviewing. In addition, an "unemployment tracker" where you select your state, it fetches the data you'll need to file for unemployment, and you can track what you've done to make sure you stay on top of it. It'll also track applications that have been stuck in one state for longer than 7 days, and offer you help drafting a follow up.

Some planned features are a sort of analytics page, where you can track what job titles or companies you had the most success with, as well as which ones you didnt, or ghosted you, black listing ones that have done it repeatedly. As well as a sort of fit checker, which compares your description of your ideal job to the posting details and vibe check sections of jobs you've applied to. And possibly even interview prep based on the job posting and vibe check that adapts to your resume.

This is all because I got tired of trying to keep up with updating an excel sheet as I neared a hundred jobs. I got tired of having to remember to manually update applications and statuses, to remember where jobs were posted, trying to keep notes, just all of it on top of the emotional toll of being unemployed sucked.

So, if you were kind enough to read this all, again, promise it's not an ad. Im just another unemployed person with too much free time and just enough experience in vibe coding to spend too much of it keeping busy.

My grandfather is dying. Its not quick, it's not painless, and its not easy. Im watching my dad watch his dad die, and its odd grieving more for my father than I am myself.

Don't get me wrong, I love my grandfather. We've never been especially close, but I love him, and im sorry to see him go, but my dad... my dad was as close with his dad as I am with him. That is to say, very. They talk every Sunday night, for hours, they have ever since my dad left home.

I feel bad for my dad, but I mostly think to myself in the (hopefully distant) future. That someday I too will have to watch him get older and sicker and eventually die.

Im not ready to lose my daddy.

Edit: thank you guys so much for your help. I only left the hellscape that is retail 3 years ago, and every job hunt since then has been a desperate scramble to keep my bills paid. This is my first real job search with time, savings, and most importantly, experience employers want, so I am unsure how to handle having a life outside work. I guess it's time to settle in to being a grown up with a proper job who doesnt have to prostrate themselves for whatever crumbs they can receive. I'll tell them after I get the offer (manifesting that positive outcome!)

My wedding is in 79 days. My current job ends tomorrow. I was told last week.

My venue is paid for, my (non refundable) accomidations are booked, my family has taken time off. How do i address this with the employers im interviewing with? I have an interview today that im a good candidate for, and i think I can land, but I dont want to scare them off with needing 2 weeks off (Oct 8th- 21st) so soon after starting. How do i tell them this (because I know i should before I accept) without losing the opportunity?

I know, I know, they aren't supposed to discriminate, and they cant ask which disability it is, but I also know that selecting "yes" on those disability questions gives them pause at least, and I also know that if I could specify "as long as i dont eat gluten it doesn't matter!" It would be better.

Im so tired of having to decide between lying and saying no disability, saying yes and likely not getting selected, or not disclosing and them assuming that means yes.

(Edited because I cant type for shit.)

Last time I was in office I was far more feminine. Then I went fully remote and have been wearing t-shirts and jeans since. Now im about to return to office and I dont want to be in heels and blouses.

What do you wear for your office jobs? It doesn't need to be overly formal, something buisness casual I suppose?

I just checked my most recent bloodwork, and had a fasting A1C of 5.6. I know this is technically below the threshold, but not by enough to be comfortable! I'm working on losing weight, but it feels like CICO isnt enough if im still eating the wrong things.

So what swaps / eliminations / additions did you make first? What had the biggest impact? What has made the transition easier?

Edit: thanks to everyone who has replied! I should also note that im celiac, so low carb and whole grain swaps aren't easy, so removing breads and such mostly if not entirely might be my best best

We have:

1. Americans are afraid of fresh food

2. Trump got elected so obviously we know nothing about food

3. Only Europe has real bread

4. Food in America isnt real.

And im sure if "Bread is cake" isnt here yet, it will be.

I get annual earnings infections. My eustachian tubes are too narrow to drain properly so when the spring allergy season starts, they get backed up and infected. Ive dealt with it My entire life, and usually I catch it early, have a day of suffering before the antibiotics kick in, and move on with my life. Other than that, im usually pretty healthy, so i dont like to complain.

This time, however, the antibiotics cleared the infection, but my ear wouldnt drain. It took 2 weeks of steroids and anti-inflammatory meds to finally ease the pain. Then I got about a week of some fullness and discomfort before my teeth started... the best way to describe it is fitting wrong.

Now my jaw aches and I can barely open my mouth to eat without stiffness and pain, its tender to the touch, and my ear is still full. Its been a month since my face has felt normal and im losing my mind. I can't keep eating mashed potatoes and soup. I just want a goddamn cheese burger 😭

How do you cope? Is there a way to fix it faster, other than rest and soft foods?

Edit: i had no idea a litte pride in replacing a lighting fixture was going to be so divisive. You guys are assholes.

The people who owned the house before us were... quite the DIY-ers. The guy was a mason, and added on an impressive addition, a less impressive chimney (that is pulling away and we now have to spend thousands to have taken down), and not at all impressive everything else. We have had actual professionals come in to take a look at some of the stuff they'd done and have gotten a "i have no idea why they did it this way" just about every time.

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But I digress, onto the light.

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This is the light in the closet-turned-half-bath attached to the master bedroom upstairs. The light had been on its last legs for a while, and just recently lost the screw caps holding it in place. My wife years ago had bought a replacement but was unsure about putting it up. So was I. My general rule with DIY is once it goes behind the wall, im calling a professional. Lighting falls in a sort of in between, and electricity always gave me the willies.

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But, it was decided for me when the light finally gave in and was just dangling from the wires, so off went the breaker and out came the screwdriver (and eventually drill and magnet on a string, and many curse words). Getting the old one off was the easy part, mostly because the holes the mounting bracket was screwed into were stripped and it was holding on with nothing but hopes and prayers.

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But after about an hour, I got it. We flipped the breaker back on and while a small part of me braced for smoke and flame, none came. I pulled the chain and lo and behold, light! I. Sitting here next to it now, wondering how long it'll be before I stop listening intently for buzzing, or waiting to see smoke and flame coming from it, but rather pleased with my work.