u/Justahumanbeing71

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Men who are single and not desperate at all cause they never clicked it vibes with anyone and had nothing more than situationship or talking stage ? Why was that ?

Did you end at talking stage due to lack of compatibility?

Why ?

And men who are virgins till late 20s cause they don't wanna have sex with women they are not ginan marry or Love ... what's the mindset behind this decision

Also men who leave when their is lack of vibe or compatibility exist or they are rare ? Cause I heard some men just keep talking for timepass or desperation

What do you think

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I want serious advice on this

Me and her have planned to have a kid in frst year of marriage due to age factor....or start trying...

She have put forward a strict non negotiable that she will get pregnant and go through childbirth only when i ensure that she will have a very proper recovery....i agree with her but her demands around recovery sound unrealistic to me

She said she can look after the baby all the time but needs a live in nanny for 6 months to help with the baby ...she will take career break tho

She literally said she doesn't wanna wake up alone every night and hamper her recovery and want a nanny for full night duty so that she can sleep better if not full night but atleast sleep better

She wants the nanny to do the night time diaper changes and prepare milk (she cannot breastfeed for some other health issue) ..

She even wants to set a separate room for her and the baby along with nanny...but wanna sleep seprate if she feels she is sick or needs more sleep ...i got concerned about safety

She told me we can take turns and family can help her we can supervise the nanny and baby through monitoring of needed

I feel she is being unrealistic and missing out on attachment with the baby ....but she is adamant that for first 6 months nanny will do majority night durty so she gets better sleep

I cannot understand who leaves the baby with nanny at night just for sleep that too in different rooms no matter how much we monitor?

She have refused to live with joint set up beyond a few weeks ...

I want serious opinions

Me and her have planned to have a kid in frst year of marriage due to age factor....or start trying...

She have put forward a strict non negotiable that she will get pregnant and go through childbirth only when i ensure that she will have a very proper recovery....i agree with her but her demands around recovery sound unrealistic to me

She said she can look after the baby all the time but needs a live in nanny for 6 months to help with the baby ...she will take career break tho

She literally said she doesn't wanna wake up alone every night and hamper her recovery and want a nanny for full night duty so that she can sleep better if not full night but atleast sleep better

She wants the nanny to do the night time diaper changes and prepare milk (she cannot breastfeed for some other health issue) ..

She even wants to set a separate room for her and the baby along with nanny...but wanna sleep seprate if she feels she is sick or needs more sleep ...i got concerned about safety

She told me we can take turns and family can help her we can supervise the nanny and baby through monitoring of needed

I feel she is being unrealistic and missing out on attachment with the baby ....but she is adamant that for first 6 months nanny will do majority night durty so she gets better sleep

I cannot understand who leaves the baby with nanny at night just for sleep that too in different rooms no matter how much we monitor?

I want genuine advice

Me and her have planned to have a kid in frst year of marriage due to age factor....or start trying...

She have put forward a strict non negotiable that she will get pregnant and go through childbirth only when i ensure that she will have a very proper recovery....i agree with her but her demands around recovery sound unrealistic to me

She said she can look after the baby all the time but needs a live in nanny for 6 months to help with the baby ...she will take career break tho

She literally said she doesn't wanna wake up alone every night and hamper her recovery and want a nanny for full night duty so that she can sleep better if not full night but atleast sleep better

She wants the nanny to do the night time diaper changes and prepare milk (she cannot breastfeed for some other health issue) ..

She even wants to set a separate room for her and the baby along with nanny...but wanna sleep seprate if she feels she is sick or needs more sleep ...i got concerned about safety

She told me we can take turns and family can help her we can supervise the nanny and baby through monitoring of needed

I feel she is being unrealistic and missing out on attachment with the baby ....but she is adamant that for first 6 months nanny will do majority night durty so she gets better sleep

I cannot understand who leaves the baby with nanny at night just for sleep that too in different rooms no matter how much we monitor? She gave strictly refused to live with parents other than a few weeks

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Me and her have planned to have a kid in frst year of marriage due to age factor....or start trying...

She have put forward a strict non negotiable that she will get pregnant and go through childbirth only when i ensure that she will have a very proper recovery....i agree with her but her demands around recovery sound unrealistic to me

She told me she wanna sleep with the baby and the nanny so nanny helps with the night duty and she can just supervise and sleep better....and if she feels like she needs sleep ...she will just leave the baby and nanny with camera monitoring and sleep better and supervise if needed or i anyone in family can take turns to supervise

She said she can look after the baby all the time but needs a live in nanny for 6 months to help with the baby ...she will take career break tho

She literally said she doesn't wanna wake up alone every night and hamper her recovery and want a nanny for full night duty so that she can sleep better if not full night but atleast sleep better

She wants the nanny to do the night time diaper changes and prepare milk (she cannot breastfeed for some other health issue) ..

I feel she is being unrealistic and missing out on attachment with the baby ....but she is adamant that for first 6 months nanny will do majority night durty so she gets better sleep

I cannot understand who leaves the baby with nanny at night just for sleep that too set up different rooms for her and baby ?......

I am just second feeling confused ..but i do love whe and she have been amazing with me

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Me and her have planned to have a kid in frst year of marriage due to age factor....or start trying...

She have put forward a strict non negotiable that she will get pregnant and go through childbirth only when i ensure that she will have a very proper recovery....i agree with her but her demands around recovery sound unrealistic to me

She said she can look after the baby all the time but needs a live in nanny for 6 months to help with the baby ...she will take career break tho

She literally said she doesn't wanna wake up alone every night and hamper her recovery and want a nanny for full night duty so that she can sleep better if not full night but atleast sleep better

She wants the nanny to do the night time diaper changes and prepare milk (she cannot breastfeed for some other health issue) ..

I feel she is being unrealistic and missing out on attachment with the baby ....but she is adamant that for first 6 months nanny will do majority night durty so she gets better sleep

I cannot understand who leaves the baby with nanny at night just for sleep

Yes i have posted before about parenting friction with her ...this ain't karma post I'm genuinely seeking advice

I'm (31M) unable to understand my wife's expectations at all

Me and her have planned to have a kid in frst year of marriage due to age factor....or start trying...

She have put forward a strict non negotiable that she will get pregnant and go through childbirth only when i ensure that she will have a very proper recovery....i agree with her but her demands around recovery sound unrealistic to me

She said she can look after the baby all the time but needs a live in nanny for 6 months to help with the baby ...she will take career break tho

She literally said she doesn't wanna wake up alone every night and hamper her recovery and want a nanny for full night duty so that she can sleep better if not full night but atleast sleep better

She wants the nanny to do the night time diaper changes and prepare milk (she cannot breastfeed for some other health issue) ..

I feel she is being unrealistic and missing out on attachment with the baby ....but she is adamant that for first 6 months nanny will do majority night durty so she gets better sleep

I cannot understand who leaves the baby with nanny at night just for sleep

Yes i have posted before about parenting friction with her ...this ain't karma post I'm genuinely seeking advice

I'm (31M) unable to understand my wife's expectations at all

Me and her have planned to have a kid in frst year of marriage due to age factor....or start trying...

She have put forward a strict non negotiable that she will get pregnant and go through childbirth only when i ensure that she will have a very proper recovery....i agree with her but her demands around recovery sound unrealistic to me

She said she can look after the baby all the time but needs a live in nanny for 6 months to help with the baby ...she will take career break tho

She literally said she doesn't wanna wake up alone every night and hamper her recovery and want a nanny for full night duty so that she can sleep better if not full night but atleast sleep better

She wants the nanny to do the night time diaper changes and prepare milk (she cannot breastfeed for some other health issue) ..

I feel she is being unrealistic and missing out on attachment with the baby ....but she is adamant that for first 6 months nanny will do majority night durty so she gets better sleep

I cannot understand who leaves the baby with nanny at night just for sleep

Yes i have posted before about parenting friction with her ...this ain't karma post I'm genuinely seeking advice

I [31M] is just not able to make a decision and wrap my head around my fiance's ideas around parenting

Me and my fiance are about to get married and we are planning kids soon after marriage...so we had a conversation around parenting

Please do give a read It's a bit long

My fiance's ideas and opinions about raising a kid -

1. She told me that the kids well being and mother's peace after pregnancy should be very important and she doesn't want to call over in laws permanently after kids ...she would welcome them temporarily and we will continue living in nuclear set up only

2. She wants a lott of control and independence in raising the kid her way she said she cannot be at peace leaving the kids with her own mom or my mom every day cause she wants co control what the kid eats watches and learns

3. She feels grandparents (both sides) will just raise kids like they raised us and she cannot tolerate that at all and she fears they will feed and make them watch screens and will not teach them anything for their development and brain growth

4. She told me that she will by choice take a break from work for 1 year after baby ...and raise the kid herself but after 1 years she will join the work back ...3-4 days a week 6 hours max (she have her family business and one of her own business)

5. She wants the kid to go to the premium day care centre for various reasons 3 days a week for 6-7buours -

She believes the kid will develop better if he interacts with other kids and learn new activites which helo cognitive function at the pre school ...she told me that they will learn things be and have brain growth and she wants to watch them at the day care continuously as they offer live feed for the kids for every single second ....

6. She said she cannot focus on her career or work peacefully without watching the kid or leaving the kid with nanny or grandparents as she will keep worrying what are they teaching the kid and what are they feeding it and she can't see the baby all the time

7. She feels she will be able to focus on her work if she can watch the baby all the time and she is assured that the kid is doing activities... eating what she made ...and the kid is learning new things and socializing with other kids and she will be the happiest and she believes this is the best for the kid and it's just matter of 3 days a week for a 1 or 2 years then the kid will go to school as well

8. She have said no for a joint family but wants to take kids to grandparents every week for both sides, she have said no to nanny alone but wants a premium live feed and activities kinda day care (we can afford financially very well)

9. She is against calling our parents cause she thinks they will raise the kid their way and post pregnancy rebuilding her identity and her marriage dynamics with kids are more important to her and she cannot do that with parents around for either side and she wanna roam around in whatever she likes and cuddle whenever wherever she likes cause marriage are harder after kids and with in laws she will be more stressed apparantly

10 she have made it clear the maximum compromise she will make is reducing her work days offline and taking some break and she will not compromise in sending kids to the grandparents every day or leaving with nanny ...she wants to watch all the time and prefers this day care thing only so that kid learns and socialize....she refused to move in either parents and told she will never compromise this for kids ...she would visit them every week and maybe move them in if they physically need us but not for raising kids

My points -

1. I wanted to call my parents with us after baby but my fiance have said she will not compromise on this she is already compromising her career for a while but she will raise the kids accordingly to her and don't want either parent's interference

2. I thought about dropping the kid with either side parent's for 3 days a week but she said no and said it's not parent's responsibility and she wanna raise an active healthy kid and she is compromising a lot already

3. I feel day care are not safe but she told me premium day cares offer her peace of mind cause she can and will continuously watch the kid and the kid will learn activities and socialize their with constant supervision and learn what she wants and grow better ..

4. I feel grandparents are just better for safety and attachment but she says someday he will go to school as well and it's just a few hours 3 days a week and it's good for the kid and she have seen so many kids doing great that way

5. She wants her parents to help in the business for a while more instead of with the kid and wants my parents to help with the logistics if needed but she wants absolute control about what kid learns and eats and wants to send him to a day care only

For context - me and my fiance both are in business so quiting is not an option, her parents can manage family business for while if she takes break but mine can't do that either cause they don't know anything about it so we both cannot quit and it's not even the question i don't want her to quit at all

We are well off and can afford most things and live in tier 1 city

I am struggling to wrap my head around this...what should I do ? I keep wondering if she is being wrong here or something

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Me and my fiance are about to get married and are planning kids soon after marriage...so we had a conversation around parenting

Please do give a read It's a bit long

My fiance's ideas and opinions about raising a kid -

1. She told me that the kids well being and mother's peace after pregnancy should be very important and she doesn't want to call over in laws permanently after kids ...she would welcome them temporarily and we will continue living in nuclear set up only

2. She wants a lott of control and independence in raising the kid her way she said she cannot be at peace leaving the kids with her own mom or my mom every day cause she wants co control what the kid eats watches and learns

3. She feels grandparents (both sides) will just raise kids like they raised us and she cannot tolerate that at all and she fears they will feed and make them watch screens and will not teach them anything for their development and brain growth

4. She told me that she will by choice take a break from work for 1 year after baby ...and raise the kid herself but after 1 years she will join the work back ...3-4 days a week 6 hours max (she have her family business and one of her own business)

5. She wants the kid to go to the premium day care centre for various reasons 3 days a week for 6-7buours -

She believes the kid will develop better if he interacts with other kids and learn new activites which helo cognitive function at the pre school ...she told me that they will learn things be and have brain growth and she wants to watch them at the day care continuously as they offer live feed for the kids for every single second ....

6. She said she cannot focus on her career or work peacefully without watching the kid or leaving the kid with nanny or grandparents as she will keep worrying what are they teaching the kid and what are they feeding it and she can't see the baby all the time

7. She feels she will be able to focus on her work if she can watch the baby all the time and she is assured that the kid is doing activities... eating what she made ...and the kid is learning new things and socializing with other kids and she will be the happiest and she believes this is the best for the kid and it's just matter of 3 days a week for a 1 or 2 years then the kid will go to school as well

8. She have said no for a joint family but wants to take kids to grandparents every week for both sides, she have said no to nanny alone but wants a premium live feed and activities kinda day care (we can afford financially very well)

9. She is against calling our parents cause she thinks they will raise the kid their way and post pregnancy rebuilding her identity and her marriage dynamics with kids are more important to her and she cannot do that with parents around for either side and she wanna roam around in whatever she likes and cuddle whenever wherever she likes cause marriage are harder after kids and with in laws she will be more stressed apparantly

10 she have made it clear the maximum compromise she will make is reducing her work days offline and taking some break and she will not compromise in sending kids to the grandparents every day or leaving with nanny ...she wants to watch all the time and prefers this day care thing only so that kid learns and socialize....she refused to move in either parents and told she will never compromise this for kids ...she would visit them every week and maybe move them in if they physically need us but not for raising kids

My points -

1. I wanted to call my parents with us after baby but my fiance have said she will not compromise on this she is already compromising her career for a while but she will raise the kids accordingly to her and don't want either parent's interference

2. I thought about dropping the kid with either side parent's for 3 days a week but she said no and said it's not parent's responsibility and she wanna raise an active healthy kid and she is compromising a lot already

3. I feel day care are not safe but she told me premium day cares offer her peace of mind cause she can and will continuously watch the kid and the kid will learn activities and socialize their with constant supervision and learn what she wants and grow better ..

4. I feel grandparents are just better for safety and attachment but she says someday he will go to school as well and it's just a few hours 3 days a week and it's good for the kid and she have seen so many kids doing great that way

5. She wants her parents to help in the business for a while more instead of with the kid and wants my parents to help with the logistics if needed but she wants absolute control about what kid learns and eats and wants to send him to a day care only

For context - me and my fiance both are in business so quiting is not an option, her parents can manage family business for while if she takes break but mine can't do that either cause they don't know anything about it so we both cannot quit and it's not even the question i don't want her to quit at all

We are well off and can afford most things and live in tier 1 city

I am struggling to wrap my head around this...what should I do ? I keep wondering if she is being wrong here or something

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Me and my fiance are about to get married and we are planning kids soon after marriage...so we had a conversation around parenting

Please do give a read It's a bit long

My fiance's ideas and opinions about raising a kid -

1. She told me that the kids well being and mother's peace after pregnancy should be very important and she doesn't want to call over in laws permanently after kids ...she would welcome them temporarily and we will continue living in nuclear set up only

2. She wants a lott of control and independence in raising the kid her way she said she cannot be at peace leaving the kids with her own mom or my mom every day cause she wants co control what the kid eats watches and learns

3. She feels grandparents (both sides) will just raise kids like they raised us and she cannot tolerate that at all and she fears they will feed and make them watch screens and will not teach them anything for their development and brain growth

4. She told me that she will by choice take a break from work for 1 year after baby ...and raise the kid herself but after 1 years she will join the work back ...3-4 days a week 6 hours max (she have her family business and one of her own business)

5. She wants the kid to go to the premium day care centre for various reasons 3 days a week for 6-7buours -

She believes the kid will develop better if he interacts with other kids and learn new activites which helo cognitive function at the pre school ...she told me that they will learn things be and have brain growth and she wants to watch them at the day care continuously as they offer live feed for the kids for every single second ....

6. She said she cannot focus on her career or work peacefully without watching the kid or leaving the kid with nanny or grandparents as she will keep worrying what are they teaching the kid and what are they feeding it and she can't see the baby all the time

7. She feels she will be able to focus on her work if she can watch the baby all the time and she is assured that the kid is doing activities... eating what she made ...and the kid is learning new things and socializing with other kids and she will be the happiest and she believes this is the best for the kid and it's just matter of 3 days a week for a 1 or 2 years then the kid will go to school as well

8. She have said no for a joint family but wants to take kids to grandparents every week for both sides, she have said no to nanny alone but wants a premium live feed and activities kinda day care (we can afford financially very well)

9. She is against calling our parents cause she thinks they will raise the kid their way and post pregnancy rebuilding her identity and her marriage dynamics with kids are more important to her and she cannot do that with parents around for either side and she wanna roam around in whatever she likes and cuddle whenever wherever she likes cause marriage are harder after kids and with in laws she will be more stressed apparantly

10 she have made it clear the maximum compromise she will make is reducing her work days offline and taking some break and she will not compromise in sending kids to the grandparents every day or leaving with nanny ...she wants to watch all the time and prefers this day care thing only so that kid learns and socialize....she refused to move in either parents and told she will never compromise this for kids ...she would visit them every week and maybe move them in if they physically need us but not for raising kids

My points -

1. I wanted to call my parents with us after baby but my fiance have said she will not compromise on this she is already compromising her career for a while but she will raise the kids accordingly to her and don't want either parent's interference

2. I thought about dropping the kid with either side parent's for 3 days a week but she said no and said it's not parent's responsibility and she wanna raise an active healthy kid and she is compromising a lot already

3. I feel day care are not safe but she told me premium day cares offer her peace of mind cause she can and will continuously watch the kid and the kid will learn activities and socialize their with constant supervision and learn what she wants and grow better ..

4. I feel grandparents are just better for safety and attachment but she says someday he will go to school as well and it's just a few hours 3 days a week and it's good for the kid and she have seen so many kids doing great that way

5. She wants her parents to help in the business for a while more instead of with the kid and wants my parents to help with the logistics if needed but she wants absolute control about what kid learns and eats and wants to send him to a day care only

For context - me and my fiance both are in business so quiting is not an option, her parents can manage family business for while if she takes break but mine can't do that either cause they don't know anything about it so we both cannot quit and it's not even the question i don't want her to quit at all

We are well off and can afford most things and live in tier 1 city

I am struggling to wrap my head around this...what should I do ? I keep wondering if she is being wrong here or something

My wife to be told me we will live in Nuclear set up and i agree with it totally

She said she will compromise on working days and hours with ...she goes to work 4 days a week Max 6-7 hours including commute

She said post kid she will take a few months break, but when she join back due wants kid to be at a good childcare centre like day care with CCTV or a nanny with cameras

I am worried about safety and other issues

She said she won't be ready to move in with either set of parents for kids ..she doesn't want my parents or her parents to handle the kids at all ..

Her opinion is that she will loose privacy when she needs it the most and she wants a nuclear set-up only untill any of our parents need us genuinely due to health or something.

She said day care or nanny is her only option...she won't leave the kid daily with parents cause they spoil the kids with diet and care that she doesn't want..

While I am of opinion that Grandparents are better

If anyone have experienced this ? Can you gimme advises?

Had marriage talks with gf ...now confused

I talked to my gf about getting married ..we both wanna get married...

I earn well and she earns well ...we both wanna buy a house ..we both agree in that with equal contribution

I was looking for flats ...I liked a few ..i like apartments for lower maintenance and safety and closer to my office .

Today she made it clear to me that she hates apartments, she spent her young age un trying to make an independent house accordingly to her and she got a house along with her mom after a while long wait...she won't leave her house and shift to apartment again.

She told me it's her childhood dream to be in an independent house with her partner instead of apartments again and again. ...she said a clear no to getting a flat....she said if safety is my issue we can look for gated society

She found a few ..the issues are maintenance and safety somewhat and also around 20 min extra commute to my office (but hers as well)

We can afford the house...but I'm into apartments...she told me she cannot start a marriage or plan kids in apartment ...she wants her own house...and she already have her own house....she won't move from there for an apartment...she will only move in our new house

She also told me pros like independence garden terrace etc ....she said she spent her whole life wanting that kinda house...and won't go for an apartment after having it

what should I do now... it's a friction point between us ...she said she will be happy in a house not an apartment while i am concerned about maintenance and safety which she said will be managed eventually

Had marriage talks with gf ...now confused

I talked to my gf about getting married ..we both wanna get married...

I earn well and she earns well ...we both wanna buy a house ..we both agree in that with equal contribution

I was looking for flats ...I liked a few ..i like apartments for lower maintenance and safety and closer to my office .

Today she made it clear to me that she hates apartments, she spent her young age un trying to make an independent house accordingly to her and she got a house along with her mom after a while long wait...she won't leave her house and shift to apartment again.

She told me it's her childhood dream to be in an independent house with her partner instead of apartments again and again. ...she said a clear no to getting a flat....she said if safety is my issue we can look for gated society

She found a few ..the issues are maintenance and safety somewhat and also around 20 min extra commute to my office (but hers as well)

We can afford the house...but I'm into apartments...she told me she cannot start a marriage or plan kids in apartment ...she wants her own house...and she already have her own house....she won't move from there for an apartment...she will only move in our new house

She also told me pros like independence garden terrace etc ....she said she spent her whole life wanting that kinda house...and won't go for an apartment after having it

what should I do now... it's a friction point between us ...she said she will be happy in a house not an apartment while i am concerned about maintenance and safety which she said will be managed eventually

I talked to my gf about getting married ..we both wanna get married...

I earn well and she earns well ...we both wanna buy a house ..we both agree in that with equal contribution

I was looking for flats ...I liked a few ..i like apartments for lower maintenance and safety and closer to my office .

Today she made it clear to me that she hates apartments, she spent her young age un trying to make an independent house accordingly to her and she got a house along with her mom after a while long wait...she won't leave her house and shift to apartment again.

She told me it's her childhood dream to be in an independent house with her partner instead of apartments again and again. ...she said a clear no to getting a flat....she said if safety is my issue we can look for gated society

She found a few ..the issues are maintenance and safety somewhat and also around 20 min extra commute to my office (but hers as well)

We can afford the house...but I'm into apartments...she told me she cannot start a marriage or plan kids in apartment ...she wants her own house...and she already have her own house....she won't move from there for an apartment...she will only move in our new house

She also told me pros like independence garden terrace etc ....she said she spent her whole life wanting that kinda house...and won't go for an apartment after having it

what should I do now... it's a friction point between us ...she said she will be happy in a house not an apartment while i am concerned about maintenance and safety which she said will be managed eventually

Pata hai aaj kya hua

My parents call themselves very educated and liberal people but are absolute hypocrites

They are making sure my brother ends up single (later on maybe me too) and they just don't want him to get married or be happy or find love

They have rejected 50+ solid matches for my brother on skin colour, waist size, hair length, caste and background wealth probably due to their dowry mindset

All these matches were really well educated well to do good looking and well spoken

And it's not like my brother didn't take a stand...he did, a lottt...but I would still blame him partially cause he always falls for emotional blackmail my mom does to him

My mom's criteria is super stupid.....she wants caste colour income education wealth everything alone with the girl being absolute homely docile type

Now my brother did have a girlfriend earlier, he wanted to marry her, and faught for that relationship for 1 whole year

That girl waited for my mom to approve, but my mom went on to insult that girls parents and the girl for caste and colour and those things

This resulted in that girl leaving my brother forever and that too very harshly (she was not wrong tho)

I am so done with my parents sabotaging all the relationships of my brother

And i adviced him a lot to run away with his gf earlier but he didn't

Pata hai aaj kya hua

What if you like a person in arrange marriage but your parents do not like them for superficial reasons like caste colour background

Is it like the guy or girl choose and date their partners through matrimonial websites and parents usually agree or parents are the final choosers of partners ?

Like people you meet on matrimony apps you choose them freely or parents have the final say ?

Like suppose you like someone and are compatible so will your parents come around and trust your decision and go ahead or they have a final say on who you marry ?

What if you like someone and your parents later don't or you don't like someone but your parents do ?

These days do people choose and date for a while on their own without parents into it and then parents usually agree ? That's rare or happens ?

I'm sorry if the question sounds odd but i really wanna ask this to parents of late teens and early 20s folks

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Suppose you meet a great match through matrimony like good looking well educated a compatible and good girl whose family is well off and good people

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But her mom dad (senior government officials) are separated and her mom got remarried to a muslim man (advocate) and didn't convert...and the girl is a practicing hindu and have both her parents involved in her life...and have good relationship with all the parties and extended family

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Will you be okay with such a match give the girl itself is good person and accept such a match for your child

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Well this happened to my brother and my mom rejected solely based on this background while my brother found her compatible, both the parties live in Mumbai and are well off and her family seems liberal and progressive

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I'm genuinely curious about parent's pov so I'm posting here

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I want opinions from men about their families and parents pov not just guy's pov in arranged setups

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Suppose you meet a great match through matrimony like good looking well educated a compatible and good girl whose family is well off and good people

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But her mom dad (senior government officials) are separated and her mom got remarried to a muslim man (advocate) and didn't convert...and the girl is a practicing hindu and have both her parents involved in her life...and have good relationship with all the parties and extended family

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Will your parents be okay with such a match give the girl itself is good person

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Well this happened to my brother and my mom rejected solely based on this background while my brother (30yo) found her compatible, both the parties live in Mumbai and are well off and her family seems liberal and progressive, but still today my mom rejected solely on this