u/Lassie-girl

Like playing bass-heavy music loudly on speakers so it rattles the whole building. Maybe I’ll host a karaoke party like the wife did for six hours in the dead of winter when there was no escaping hearing it. Shout on the phone for hours every day like the husband does when he gets home from work. Stomp around on my heels back and forth all day.

Not gonna throw things at the floor and scream “go fuck yourself” at the top of my lungs at my boyfriend like the husband does though. That’s just not cool. Maybe I’ll submit a domestic tip to management or the police after I leave so they won’t know it came from me.

In all seriousness, I’m going to be moving to the top floor of a two family house in a week and I’m going to take everything I’ve suffered through living under these people and make sure I’m a better and more considerate upstairs neighbor.

I know the people below me will probably hear me walking around, but all of the other things I’ve been subjected to hearing constantly (like loud fighting and fucking) are not going to be something I disturb the downstairs neighbor with. There’s a fine line between what you have the right to do in your home vs. whether you should be subjected other people in a multi unit to hearing it.

I’m in my early 30s. My parents just separated a few years ago and my dad retired and moved to a lakehouse a few hours away that’s been in our family since he was a kid. He inherited it and so I spent almost every weekend growing up there with him and my mom.

Now he lives there full time and has been seeing a woman from the town for quite a while. I just met her for the first time when I went up to visit this weekend and she was nice, but she very much treated me like I was a guest in a house I’ve been going to since I was a baby.

I know her intentions were good and she was trying to be hospitable, but there were times when it became too much. Didn’t want me cleaning up after myself, told me to “help myself” to stuff there, telling me where things are… it started to make me feel a little weird. At one point my dad said “she’s not a guest here, this is her house” and looked at me and smiled. Because my sister and I are going to be inheriting it from him.

He told me recently he’s planning on putting the house in me and my sister’s name, and he’s also told me numerous times he’s not ever letting this girlfriend move in with him. So I’m not necessarily concerned, but now that I’ve spent a weekend with her I don’t want to have to feel like I’m being seen as a guest every time I go to visit when she’s technically the new person in the dynamic.

She also made a comment about my mom right in front of me and I think she realized she messed up right after it came out of her mouth lol.

AIO?

UPDATE: Spoke with my dad about it today and told him I thought she was nice and I had a great weekend but felt a little weird being treated like a guest in his home. He said “I’ve made it very clear to her that it’s my house” and said her hospitality is probably a result of her working in the restaurant biz for a long time.

The shows are still selling. I was at MetLife and it was packed, and I saw some people here suggest that maybe everyone is just waiting to buy tickets until the last minute and that is why it looks like so much more is available leading up to the shows.

What worries me is the things people are saying about the performances, sharing weak clips of Axl that are going viral, publications picking up on things people are saying about him and amplifying it even more… does he see all that stuff? Does he care? Will that affect their desire to tour in the future?

I love this band so much it hurts. And I’ve accepted that these guys have aged. I still have a blast at every show and you can see that they do too. I would hate to see them stop because of nobodies online telling them they “should.”

I don’t think it’d be appropriate to ask the bride so I’m not sure how to go about this. It’s a destination wedding in a different country. My flight was over $600, my dress was $250, several nights in a hotel and she also had a destination bachelorette that probably cost me over $1,000 (her MOH also asked us each to bring her gifts for the bachelorette).

Is the bridal party expected to gift money on top of all of the costs to travel to/be in the wedding?

Bride knows I have five other weddings between now and NYE and keeps expressing how grateful she is that I’m sacrificing so much to be her bridesmaid, but hasn’t said a “please don’t get me a gift” message or anything.

I’m boarding an in-tact golden doodle and they shaved him between our meet and greet and drop off and his… parts are way more obvious and like. Prominent. Lol.

I know this is unprofessional to say which is why I’m sharing it here but I’m slightly grossed out 🤣

I have been boarding for almost 4 years but have never done a drop in because I work from home from 9 to 6 during the week and most owners obviously don’t prefer someone who can only come outside of their work hours.

A new client just brought his dog over for a meet and greet to meet my dog and it didn’t really feel like a good fit so the owner asked if I offer drop ins.

He said his mother-in-law will be around while they are away and can go one or two times a day to feed him, but they ideally want someone who can go and spend a little time with him and walk him and play with him too.

He said that he would be fine working around my work schedule since he can have his mother-in-law go during the times that I can’t and that I would just go after work and give him some exercise for an hour or two.

What should I charge for that and how? Would it be multiple 30 minute drop ins or are you able to schedule it for like a two hour drop in instead?

If you wanna get close to the rail, then get there before everybody else.

You dig wtf I’m saying, homefuck?

Tonight at MetLife, this girl and guy went barreling through the pit trying to make it to the front about a third of the way through the set on slash’s side. A guy a few spots ahead of me blocked them from going past him and basically said get the fuck out of here.

When the song that was playing finished, everyone around us started yelling at them and the girl said
“we all paid the same amount of money to be here.”

No sis, that doesn’t make you entitled to shove through everybody and stand in front of people who’ve been holding their place since before public enemy.

And not only did they block my view for a while but then the dude started screaming along to YCBM and a few other songs in a Sebastian Bach-style voice. I was alone and didn’t feel like getting thrown out over a fight but come on.

I am a bridesmaid in an international wedding this fall. The bride only sent us the options for dresses like three weeks ago so I had to prioritize buying that before getting my flight because the cheapest dress option she gave us was $250…

The wedding is on a Saturday and the welcome party is on a Friday evening. Looking at flight flights right now and flying in on Thursday is about twice the price of flying in on Friday, plus the cost of the additional night in the hotel.

Should I tell the bride that we’re gonna have to come Friday and get there Friday afternoon and potentially risk missing the welcome party if there’s a delay or an incident? I think after spending $250 on a dress, plus whatever alterations are gonna be, plus a $450+ flight and multiple nights in a hotel is enough money that she should be understanding if I’m trying to make it a little bit affordable on myself.

My boyfriend also has to get a tuxedo because it’s black tie so between the two of us were spending a few grand just to go to this wedding.

As a sitter and owner, here are things I would tell a prospective sitter about my dog for both boarding at their home or house sitting at ours.

Of course there are some things she may do differently in another home, but these are the behaviors I KNOW of and can warn sitters about ahead of time so that they’re not texting me and I have to pull a “oh yeah….”:

- Is fully house trained. Will pee on grass right outside the door immediately after walking out. I take her too pee about 4 times a day.

- Loves other dogs and playing. Has only ever shown defensiveness if another dog went after her first but no fights or biting. Typically has gotten along with every dog we’ve boarded.

- She has noise phobia, especially with noises in our neighborhood. If it’s a particularly high-traffic or rainy day, she may not eat, drink water, or want to poop until the afternoon when it’s quieter. (She does have anxiety medication if needed.)

- She is crate trained and will walk to her crate with the “crate” command. I generally let her to free roam when I leave (she usually just crawls under the couch), but I can’t guarantee how she’d act in your home so I’d suggest just crating her if you leave.

- She does sleep with me in my room, usually on her bed on the floor and then makes her way into my bed later on but she will also sleep in the crate if you don’t want her in your room.

- I clip her leash on the front of her harness to help with pulling and she’s generally okay, but if a noise spooks her she may start pulling back home on walks. She does best on walks during the evening when it’s quieter out. Also will jump and get excited and pull if she sees another dog, but loves dogs.

- She will chew napkins or paper towels left around so just be wary of that. She’ll also steal shoes to play with but has rarely destroyed them. I’d suggest keeping them somewhere elevated so she doesn’t think they’re a toy. Will also steal socks and other garments left around. Again mainly to play, but you never know.

- She tends to be a ball of energy when she is in a good mood and not frightened, will roll around making crazy bear noises, dig the floor and rearrange pillows out of excitement. She’s still only 2!

- She may whine for no reason at all, she is part hound. As long as she’s fed, has water and has gone out recently then she’s probably just whining for attention or because she doesn’t know what to do with herself lol. Best to just ignore and give her “lay down” command.

- She has somewhat of a sensitive belly and will get soft poop or diarrhea if fed too many rich treats. Is not allergic to any foods that I know of.

I know that’s a long list but I feel like getting every little quirk and behavioral thing out of the way ahead of time will 1) Allow sitters to know exactly what they’re sitting up for and 2) Not panic if she does something they aren’t used to in dogs because she is def a weirdo.

It’s better to be transparent upfront and have somewhat of a more difficult time finding the right sitter than for the sitter to find out the hard way that they should have asked more questions about things you probably already knew about.

My dog has pretty bad noise phobia, and is also terrified of storms and even just rain. She didn’t eat or drink anything on Tuesday because it was raining and since it was supposed to be bad weather on and off all week, I brought her to the vet Wednesday. The vet got her to eat a can of the Hills Prescription Diet urgent care food, prescribed gabapentin every 12 hours to get through the weather bout and sent us home with a few of the cans.

I gave her another can that night for dinner and another the next morning mixed with some of her kibble and some boiled chicken. That afternoon she started having diarrhea so I fed her just chicken and rice mixed with water for dinner last night and she ate it.

She had diarrhea every few hours during the night and this morning, threw up yellow foamy bile (which she has a history of doing when hungry) and doesn’t want to eat any of the chicken and rice. I haven’t given her the gabapentin yet today because I’m waiting for her vet to call back but he’s busy with appointments.

Now the rain is picking up, she is crying and walking around trying to dig for somewhere to hide so I put I her in her crate with a blanket on top. Can I give her the gabapentin despite her having stomach upset? I genuinely think it was the nutrient dense food that caused her belly to be upset and I can’t take when she doesn’t eat due to her anxiety over the weather.

2 year old spayed female foxhound/pit bull mix

A client who requested a boarding stay for their dog told me a few hours ago that they’d like to go ahead and book with me. I told them I would gladly accept and that they would just have to confirm on their end.

They asked me what the extended care rate was and I explained that it’s a cost Rover automatically tacks on if pickup on the final day is a few hours later than dropoff time on the first day since it goes by 24 hour days. They thanked me for clarifying, I told them to let me know if they had any other questions and gave them a list of things I’ll need for their dog during its stay.

They thanked me again and said sounds great but haven’t confirmed or paid yet. It’s only been a few hours, but the booking is to start in just a few days and is a week long. And given how flakey some of my requests have been and how poor some owners’ communication has been with me lately, I’m nervous they’re going to end up canceling after leaving me hanging.

I’m not sure if rover sends them reminders about having to pay or not but just wondering when I should be following up to confirm that they are going to go through with it so I know my calendar isn’t being blocked off for nothing.

I’ve taken both English and Western lessons in the past but never became advanced at either. I took English lessons on and off for a few years as a kid, mostly in the spring and summer. I also did horse camp a few summers, but eventually stopped because it became too expensive for my parents to keep up with.

The last thing I remember working on in the English lessons was the two-point position, and I remember getting frustrated because they wouldn't let me canter yet. I never had any interest in competing or jumping, I just loved riding. As a teenager, I rode a few more times for fun and finally got to canter, and I loved it so much.

A few years ago I decided to try Western lessons for about a year, but my instructor ended up having health issues so I stopped. Cost became a factor again as well. I also found it a little overwhelming because he taught a lot of different cues all at once, and I never really got the sitting trot down.

I'm 30 now and would love to get back into riding because I’ve always loved it and horses. My dad and I always talked about getting them on his property one day, so that could be a possibility in the future.

Cost is a factor right now and I know this is an expensive sport, I'd probably only be able to take two lessons a month right now. I'm in the Northeast, and there are a lot more English barns near me than Western barns, although there are some that are just a bit further away.

All of that said, should I go back to English lessons or Western?