u/Legitimate-Number620

I'm a high schooler currently taking a dual enrollment class. I've taken so many before, but this is the first time where I have a professor adding comments to every answer (a weekly assignment on vocab and etc, usually around 10 questions where we have to answer in around 3/4 sentences). He's adding comments to every answer even if it's correct, just dxpanding on it or giving a more nuanced example.

Should I reply or would it be weird since (if) people never do this?

I'm a high schooler currently taking a dual enrollment class. I've taken so many before, but this is the first time where I have a professor adding comments to every answer (a weekly assignment on vocab and etc, usually around 10 questions where we have to answer in around 3/4 sentences). He's adding comments to every answer even if it's correct, just dxpanding on it or giving a more nuanced example.

Should I reply or would it be weird since (if) people never do this?

Salam everyone.

I’m 17F arab and I live in the U.S. in a state that doesn’t have a large Arab or Muslim population. Ever since I was little, I’ve wanted to become a cardiologist. I genuinely love medicine and can see myself in that field. Lately, though, I’ve been struggling because I also really want to get married young. My parents are fairly strict, and I think they’d probably want me to wait until I’m around 24 to 26, or maybe until I finish my education. Personally I have no issue getting married while I’m still in school. I don’t want children until after I’ve finished my education, but I would love to build a life with my husband, travel together, and support each other while I continue studying.

Part of why I feel this way is because I don’t enjoy my home environment and have always looked forward to having a family of my own one day. I know marriage isn’t an escape, and I’m not looking to marry just anyone. I want someone with good character who values Islam, supports my education, and wants to grow together.

I’m starting to wonder if I should choose a medical career with a shorter training path instead of cardiology, but I also don’t want to give up a dream I’ll regret later. Another thing I worry about is actually meeting someone. Since there aren’t many Arabs or Muslims where I live, I don’t know how realistic it is to find a compatible husband while I’m in college. We are moving to a state where there is a larger arab community, but that's not until around mid of my undergrad.

Has anyone here gotten married during undergrad or med school? How did you meet your spouse? And if your parents initially wanted you to wait, what helped them become more open to the idea?

I’d really appreciate hearing from sisters who have been through something similar. Jazakum Allahu khayran.

Do you celebrate it? Do you think it's halal/haram to celebrate? Putting up a christmas tree? Buying and receiving gifts?

title

I’m looking for outside perspective on possible explanations on a situation I'm trying to understand.

A teacher at my high school is being accused online of inappropriate messages with a recently graduated student. A journalist posted 3 screenshots of an Instagram DM conversation (the student claims that the teacher sent them the friend request first). The student is anonymous, and the screenshots are secondhand (posted by the journalist, not the student directly). The screenshots don’t show the most serious alleged message, but what is shown is still highly inappropriate.

After the post (or what happened) the teacher deleted both his Instagram and Facebook accounts, but still has LinkedIn. There have been no official statements yet. Some people say they always “got weird vibes" from him in the comments, but there are no other serious allegations that I’ve seen.

I also commented my own experience saying I had him this year and that he was always supportive and kind, and that I hoped it was false. My comment however seems to be hidden, and when I look through the post I don’t see any positive comments at all, which really makes it look like only negative comments are visible and that the journalist is hiding the positive/neutral comments about this teacher.

The messages of the teacher with the student also seem very fake, kind of like a teenager messaging. "He" said things like "cuzzzz" and "I dunno," and made a grammatically incorrect sentence. For context, this teacher is very smart and has mentioned that he has autism.

Any ideas?

I’m a high school student and I just saw allegations against one of my teachers. The messages in the post, if they’re real, are highly inappropriate.

The thing is, I had this teacher this year and he was genuinely one of my favorite teachers. He was always very nice and supportive, so I can’t wrap my head around this. I literally took a nap after reading it because I was hoping I’d wake up and realize I made it up or something... idk. Instead I had a dream about it and woke up still thinking about it.

I genuinely don't know what to think. I was already having issues at home and now with this I feel like I'm so lost. I can't believe he did that. Maybe it's AI, photoshop, or whatever. There's just no way he would do this.

Now I checked and he has deleted all his social media accounts. And his school email is not available. Everything is pointing out to him being guilty, but for some reason I can't get myself to believe this.

On Monday, I emailed my teacher saying I needed someone to talk to and asked if we could talk on Wednesday. She said yes. Today came, and I started feeling really guilty about opening up about my family problems on the last day of school. For context, I’ve posted about these issues before and a lot of people told me I should talk to a teacher or counselor, even if it was the end of the school year. I’m very shy and almost never talk about my family or personal problems, so it felt really difficult. I also wasn't sure how she would react and didn't want her to feel uncomfortable.

I also know she has things going on in her own life, so I felt really bad adding to her stress. After thinking about it, I emailed her before her class today and apologized for bringing it up, and asked if she could just forget about it. She replied that it was okay and that she still wanted to listen to what was going on. I told her it was really okay and that I’d figure it out myself. I thanked her and apologized again.

Would it be too much if I emailed her again and apologized, or should I just leave it alone? I genuinely feel so bad for aaking her and then changing my mind.

And this is going to sound really annoying but I definitely regret not talking to her. I don't have anyone else to talk to about this throughout the summer and this is mainly why I needed to talk to her before summer. I needed genuine advice for the summer. She said I can always email her or something if I needed anything, but I don't know if that would be a good idea. I don't want to have a proof of this conversation on email as I do not know what is going to happen and don't want my parents to see it.

any advice? Than you so much in advance

On Monday, I emailed my teacher saying I needed someone to talk to and asked if we could talk on Wednesday. She said yes. Today came, and I started feeling really guilty about opening up about my family problems on the last day of school. For context, I’ve posted about these issues before and a lot of people told me I should talk to a teacher or counselor, even if it was the end of the school year. I’m very shy and almost never talk about my family or personal problems, so it felt really difficult. I also wasn't sure how she would react and didn't want her to feel uncomfortable.

I also know she has things going on in her own life, so I felt really bad adding to her stress. After thinking about it, I emailed her before her class today and apologized for bringing it up, and asked if she could just forget about it. She replied that it was okay and that she still wanted to listen to what was going on. I told her it was really okay and that I’d figure it out myself. I thanked her and apologized again.

Would it be too much if I emailed her again and apologized, or should I just leave it alone? I genuinely feel so bad for aaking her and then changing my mind.

And this is going to sound really annoying but I definitely regret not talking to her. I don't have anyone else to talk to about this throughout the summer and this is mainly why I needed to talk to her before summer. I needed genuine advice for the summer. She said I can always email her or something if I needed anything, but I don't know if that would be a good idea. I don't want to have a proof of this conversation on email as I do not know what is going to happen and don't want my parents to see it.

any advice? Than you so much in advance

title

title

I'm genuinely so tired of my family

I’m 17 and I’ve been living in the US since I was 12 (2022). I became a hijabi the summer before high school. My family made me feel so insecure about my hijab that, as a “hijab,” I was wearing hoodies to school. I kept doing that until a teacher asked me to take it off, thinking I was a bad kid just trying to cause problems. I said no, and she then realized I was wearing it as a hijab. She apologized, supported me, and encouraged me to wear a normal hijab. Eventually, I started doing that.

The only style I’ve been wearing since I started wearing the hijab is the one where you just put it on and leave one side hanging in the front and the other thrown to the back. My parents have always hated it. I’ve tried different styles, but none of them seemed to match whatever they wanted. I also started out wearing brown and gray chiffon hijabs, then switched to brown, gray, and black jersey hijabs, and now I mostly wear black jersey with everything.

Let me tell you, they HATE it.

My dad gets so mad and yells at me about the way I wear my hijab and the color and material I choose. They hate the clothes I wear to the beach and pretty much anywhere we go. I get criticized for everything. I’m genuinely so tired because they’re making everything a lot harder when I’m already not confident. They raised me in a way that left me with very low self-esteem and almost no confidence at all.

Ironically, whenever they come to school events and see me looking insecure or lacking confidence, they get mad at me… even though they were yelling at me about my clothing 30 minutes earlier.

The day we were planning to go to tbe beach, I woke up and got ready. I didn’t want to go in the water, so I wore beige wide-leg linen pants, a lighter beige button-down shirt, and a black hijab. It was a nice outfit, but then my mom got very mad and said, “Who wears button-down shirts to the beach?! And with your hijab and everything, you’re so embarrassing.”

Who wears button-down shirts to the beach? Seriously? I never wanted to go to the beach to begin with.

And just yesterday, we went to someone’s graduation party that I didn’t even know. I didn’t have anything prepared, so I wore business-casual clothes. My mom got mad, but when we got there I was literally one of the few “children” there. It turned out the graduates were much older and the other kids were family members. I didn’t know a single person there. Then one of my relatives criticized me for wearing a button-down shirt.

Please help. I’m so tired of my family and I don’t know what to do. They’re so strict and are making my life feel hard and miserable. I hate how often I find myself wanting to get married just so I can leave this house, but I’m only 17 and I’m planning to go to college and become a doctor. Honestly, I have no idea when they’d even let me get married. Probably around 24… if I even found someone.

I know some people will suggest talking to a counselor or teacher, but we only have two days of school left. I’m also very shy and have a hard time opening up to people at school.

Is there anything a teacher or counselor could realistically do to help in a situation like this? Is it worth talking to someone with only two days left?

I also want to be clear that I’m not looking to get my family in trouble or start an investigation. I don’t want administrators, child services, or other authorities involved. I mostly just want advice on how to cope with this situation and whether there are any school resources that could help.

Thank you in advance

I’m 17 and I’ve been living in the US since I was 12 (2022). I became a hijabi the summer before high school. My family made me feel so insecure about my hijab that, as a “hijab,” I was wearing hoodies to school. I kept doing that until a teacher asked me to take it off, thinking I was a bad kid just trying to cause problems. I said no, and she then realized I was wearing it as a hijab. She apologized, supported me, and encouraged me to wear a normal hijab. Eventually, I started doing that.

The only style I’ve been wearing since I started wearing the hijab is the one where you just put it on and leave one side hanging in the front and the other thrown to the back. My parents have always hated it. I’ve tried different styles, but none of them seemed to match whatever they wanted. I also started out wearing brown and gray chiffon hijabs, then switched to brown, gray, and black jersey hijabs, and now I mostly wear black jersey with everything.

Let me tell you, they HATE it.

My dad gets so mad and yells at me about the way I wear my hijab and the color and material I choose. They hate the clothes I wear to the beach and pretty much anywhere we go. I get criticized for everything. I’m genuinely so tired because they’re making everything a lot harder when I’m already not confident. They raised me in a way that left me with very low self-esteem and almost no confidence at all.

Ironically, whenever they come to school events and see me looking insecure or lacking confidence, they get mad at me… even though they were yelling at me about my clothing 30 minutes earlier.

Now I’m posting this while we’re on our way to the beach.

I woke up and got ready. I didn’t want to go in the water, so I wore beige wide-leg linen pants, a lighter beige button-down shirt, and a black hijab. It was a nice outfit, but then my mom got very mad and said, “Who wears button-down shirts to the beach?! And with your hijab and everything, you’re so embarrassing.”

Who wears button-down shirts to the beach? Seriously? I never wanted to go to the beach to begin with.

And just yesterday, we went to someone’s graduation party that I didn’t even know. I didn’t have anything prepared, so I wore business-casual clothes. My mom got mad, but when we got there I was literally one of the few “children” there. It turned out the graduates were much older and the other kids were family members. I didn’t know a single person there. Then one of my relatives criticized me for wearing a button-down shirt.

Please help. I’m so tired of my family and I don’t know what to do. They’re so strict and are making my life feel hard and miserable. I hate how often I find myself wanting to get married just so I can leave this house, but I’m only 17 and I’m planning to go to college and become a doctor. Honestly, I have no idea when they’d even let me get married. Probably around 24… if I even found someone.

EDIT: typos

I’m F17 and I’ve been living in the US since I was 12 (2022). I became a hijabi the summer before high school. My family made me feel so insecure about my hijab that, as a “hijab,” I was wearing hoodies to school. I kept doing that until a teacher asked me to take it off, thinking I was a bad kid just trying to cause problems. I said no, and she then realized I was wearing it as a hijab. She apologized, supported me, and encouraged me to wear a normal hijab. Eventually, I started doing that.

The only style I’ve been wearing since 2022 is the one where you just put it on and leave one side hanging in the front and the other thrown to the back. My parents have always hated it. I’ve tried different styles, but none of them seemed to match whatever they wanted. I also started out wearing brown and gray chiffon hijabs, then switched to brown, gray, and black jersey hijabs, and now I mostly wear black jersey with everything.

Let me tell you, they HATE it.

My dad gets so mad and yells at me about the way I wear my hijab and the color and material I choose. They hate the clothes I wear to the beach and pretty much anywhere we go. I get criticized for everything. I’m genuinely so tired because they’re making everything a lot harder when I’m already not confident. They raised me in a way that left me with very low self-esteem and almost no confidence at all.

Ironically, whenever they come to school events and see me looking insecure or lacking confidence, they get mad at me… even though they were yelling at me about my clothing 30 minutes earlier.

Now I’m posting this while we’re on our way to the beach.

I woke up and got ready. I didn’t want to go in the water, so I wore beige wide-leg linen pants, a lighter beige button-down shirt, and a black hijab. It was a nice outfit, but then my mom got very mad and said, “Who wears button-down shirts to the beach?! And with your hijab and everything, you’re so embarrassing.”

Who wears button-down shirts to the beach? Seriously? I never wanted to go to the beach to begin with.

And just yesterday, we went to someone’s graduation party that I didn’t even know. I didn’t have anything prepared, so I wore business-casual clothes. My mom got mad, but when we got there I was literally one of the few “children” there. It turned out the graduates were much older and the other kids were family members. I didn’t know a single person there. Then one of my relatives criticized me for wearing a button-down shirt.

Please help. I’m so tired of my family and I don’t know what to do. They’re so strict and are making my life feel hard and miserable. I hate how often I find myself wanting to get married just so I can leave this house, but I’m only 17 and I’m planning to go to college and become a doctor. Honestly, I have no idea when they’d even let me get married. Probably around 24… if I even found someone.

EDIT: typos

I’m 17 and I’ve been living in the US since I was 12 (2022). I became a hijabi the summer before high school. My family made me feel so insecure about my hijab that, as a “hijab,” I was wearing hoodies to school. I kept doing that until a teacher asked me to take it off, thinking I was a bad kid just trying to cause problems. I said no, and she then realized I was wearing it as a hijab. She apologized, supported me, and encouraged me to wear a normal hijab. Eventually, I started doing that.

The only style I’ve been wearing since 2022 is the one where you just put it on and leave one side hanging in the front and the other thrown to the back. My parents have always hated it. I’ve tried different styles, but none of them seemed to match whatever they wanted. I also started out wearing brown and gray chiffon hijabs, then switched to brown, gray, and black jersey hijabs, and now I mostly wear black jersey with everything.

Let me tell you, they HATE it.

My dad gets so mad and yells at me about the way I wear my hijab and the color and material I choose. They hate the clothes I wear to the beach and pretty much anywhere we go. I get criticized for everything. I’m genuinely so tired because they’re making everything a lot harder when I’m already not confident. They raised me in a way that left me with very low self-esteem and almost no confidence at all.

Ironically, whenever they come to school events and see me looking insecure or lacking confidence, they get mad at me… even though they were yelling at me about my clothing 30 minutes earlier.

Now I’m posting this while we’re on our way to the beach.

I woke up and got ready. I didn’t want to go in the water, so I wore beige wide-leg linen pants, a lighter beige button-down shirt, and a black hijab. It was a nice outfit, but then my mom got very mad and said, “Who wears button-down shirts to the beach?! And with your hijab and everything, you’re so embarrassing.”

Who wears button-down shirts to the beach? Seriously? I never wanted to go to the beach to begin with.

And just yesterday, we went to someone’s graduation party that I didn’t even know. I didn’t have anything prepared, so I wore business-casual clothes. My mom got mad, but when we got there I was literally one of the few “children” there. It turned out the graduates were much older and the other kids were family members. I didn’t know a single person there. Then one of my relatives criticized me for wearing a button-down shirt.

Please help. I’m so tired of my family and I don’t know what to do. They’re so strict and are making my life feel hard and miserable. I hate how often I find myself wanting to get married just so I can leave this house, but I’m only 17 and I’m planning to go to college and become a doctor. Honestly, I have no idea when they’d even let me get married. Probably around 24… if I even found someone.

EDIT: typos

I’m 17 and I’ve been living in the US since I was 12 (2022). I became a hijabi the summer before high school. My family made me feel so insecure about my hijab that, as a “hijab,” I was wearing hoodies to school. I kept doing that until a teacher asked me to take it off, thinking I was a bad kid just trying to cause problems. I said no, and she then realized I was wearing it as a hijab. She apologized, supported me, and encouraged me to wear a normal hijab. Eventually, I started doing that.

The only style I’ve been wearing since 2022 is the one where you just put it on and leave one side hanging in the front and the other thrown to the back. My parents have always hated it. I’ve tried different styles, but none of them seemed to match whatever they wanted. I also started out wearing brown and gray chiffon hijabs, then switched to brown, gray, and black jersey hijabs, and now I mostly wear black jersey with everything.

Let me tell you, they HATE it.

My dad gets so mad and yells at me about the way I wear my hijab and the color and material I choose. They hate the clothes I wear to the beach and pretty much anywhere we go. I get criticized for everything. I’m genuinely so tired because they’re making everything a lot harder when I’m already not confident. They raised me in a way that left me with very low self-esteem and almost no confidence at all.

Ironically, whenever they come to school events and see me looking insecure or lacking confidence, they get mad at me… even though they were yelling at me about my clothing 30 minutes earlier.

Now I’m posting this while we’re on our way to the beach.

I woke up and got ready. I didn’t want to go in the water, so I wore beige wide-leg linen pants, a lighter beige button-down shirt, and a black hijab. It was a nice outfit, but then my mom got very mad and said, “Who wears button-down shirts to the beach?! And with your hijab and everything, you’re so embarrassing.”

Who wears button-down shirts to the beach? Seriously? I never wanted to go to the beach to begin with.

And just yesterday, we went to someone’s graduation party that I didn’t even know. I didn’t have anything prepared, so I wore business-casual clothes. My mom got mad, but when we got there I was literally one of the few “children” there. It turned out the graduates were much older and the other kids were family members. I didn’t know a single person there. Then one of my relatives criticized me for wearing a button-down shirt.

Please help. I’m so tired of my family and I don’t know what to do. They’re so strict and are making my life feel hard and miserable. I hate how often I find myself wanting to get married just so I can leave this house, but I’m only 17 and I’m planning to go to college and become a doctor. Honestly, I have no idea when they’d even let me get married. Probably around 24… if I even found someone.

EDIT: typos

how would you compare it to:

ap physics 1
ap calc ab
ap bio
apes
ap lang
ap gov