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Pessoal, tudo bem? Gostaria de orientações jurídicas sobre uma situação de prestação de serviços como PJ. Fui contratado informalmente para prestar serviços em um evento com período de execução entre 15 de agosto e 15 de outubro, pelo valor total de R$ 5.000,00, divididos em duas parcelas de R$ 2.500,00, sendo a primeira com faturamento previsto para setembro e a segunda para outubro. No início das conversas, me solicitaram os dados de MEI e conta bancária PJ. O problema principal é que nunca me enviaram o contrato. Além disso, o mês de setembro acabou e não recebi as orientações fiscais com os dados da empresa para que eu pudesse emitir a Nota Fiscal de Serviços referente à primeira parcela.

Apesar da ausência do contrato formalizado, possuo arquivada toda a troca de e-mails com a produção detalhando o período de trabalho, o valor total, a divisão das parcelas com os meses de pagamento e a solicitação dos meus documentos. Também tenho o e-mail automático de confirmação e o registro do preenchimento do formulário oficial de cadastro da equipe do evento, o que vincula diretamente o meu nome, função e dados bancários à organização responsável.

Neste momento, resta apenas um encontro presencial para encerrar 100% das minhas atividades no projeto. Estou deste o ínicio desta semana pedindo as informações e o contrato, sem grandes avanços. Estou pensando em, caso eu não tenha essas informações até, no máximo, segunda-feira, entrar em contato informando que caso a situação continue, não irei realizar estar presente nessa ultima atividade.

Outro ponto é que a maior parte do trabalho já foi realizada, e gostaria de ser compensado pela atividade, a troca de e-mails são suficientes para comprovar o vínculo e cobrar judicialmente o pagamento pelo serviço prestado? Há outros materiais provando a minha presença nas atividades também

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*acho que o flair não está correto, mas não sei se encaixaria

Eu, apesar de ser ansioso, tento sempre ser muito tranquilo no meu trato com as pessoas. Meu norte é sempre pensar que, todo mundo tem problemas, eu busco ao máximo não ser mais um. Também não sou uma pessoa de ficar falando muito das minhas coisas a não ser que eu sinta necessidade.

Logo, se tudo está bem comigo, eu geralmente vou expressar isso com silêncio mesmo, e deixo claro nas minhas relações mais próximas que eu tô sempre disposto a ouvir e conversar, mesmo que seja desconfortável.

Isso parece bugar algumas pessoas, familiares e algumas relações amorosas, que parecem tratar minha serenidade como sinal de algo errado com a nossa relação. É como se eu precisasse justificar a paz, ou tivesse que ficar reiterando toda hora que, se a pessoa quiser falar, eu irei ouvir.

Por exemplo, tenho 30 anos, estou trabalhando, fazendo uma segunda graduação à noite e moro sozinho. Meu tempo livre é, infelizmente, curto por motivos mais do que óbvios, final de semana é o momento que tenho para ajeitar certa coisas na casa, fazer alguns trabalhos da faculdade e cozinhar as marmitas da semana.

Já expliquei isso para parentes meus que reclamam de não me ver a meses, mas parece que eles simplesmente não entendem e ficam buscando algo de errado comigo. Eles parecem entender no príncipio, mas logo voltam para o mesmo padrão.

Em relacionamentos amorosos, a dinâmica é a mesma. Eu sempre pontuo que não sou leitor de mentes e que não sou de ficar perguntando coisas do nada, caçando problemas onde não tem. Se a pessoa quer ter algo para falar, se quer discutir ou desabafar, é só falar. O espaço está dado.

Mas parece que não basta, e já ouvi uma parceira falando que "não sente espaço para conversar" quando eu pontuo, de modo claro e repetitivo, que ela tinha sim esse espaço.

Enfim, não quero me colocar como o homem mais saudável do mundo, minha terapeuta sabe que não, e até nesse caso começo a pensar que o problema seja comigo, mas não sei se outras pessoas tiveram experiências parecidas e queria trocar ideia sobre

Hello all, been feeling kind of down lately and just want to vent and hear some perspectives from some like minded folks. Sorry, this is going to be kind of long and I'll skip on some specifics.

I often share in some comments and posts about my previous relationship with a polyamorous person. It lasted 4 years and, despite how it ended, it was the longest relationship I've ever had and the healthiest both of us had.

We opened the relationship early on, and I never had any problem with it, mostly because I stick to my words and agreements, probably to a unhealthy degree, but that's another therapy session waiting to happen.

I expected the same of him, we agreed that our relationship would be the only "serious" one, and for me, that's was it. One thing that I made clear was: I wouldn't like to change relationship strutctures already being involved with someone else, something he also said he disliked

I trusted and loved him, and that was enough for me.

But not for him. He brought up having more partners twice, and guess what? both times he already had someone in mind, even if he claimed that it was not "because of them" but something he was thinking for a long time, he justified bringing this up in a way that I clearly positioned as negative by saying he "wanted to be sure"

I realize that, the second time it happened, I should have broken up with him. But I did not, I wanted to be a good partner and give him some grace. I proposed we read some chapters from poly books, which ended because he was rude after a disagreement over some concepts. Proposed monthly talks, which ended because he clearly wasn't engaged with it and I was the only one bringing it up.

The only thing that stuck was couples therapy, which I proposed, but the more I think about it, the more I realized he wanted the therapy to "fix me", not the relationship as a whole, and by "fixing me", I mean be polyamorous and adhere to the same concepts as him, even when I made very clear that it wasn't something vital concept for me. I wanted to know how OUR relationship would work, not fit into a "mold".

After dragging this for months, we've ended it in mostly peaceful terms, but now I am struggling with dating again.

By the end of that relationship, I was left feeling like the person I had been for those four years didn't matter at all. The fact that I was someone he could completely count on and trust felt devalued, simply because I had no interest in endlessly reorganizing our relationship for the sake of polyamory, or adding meaningless buzzwords to my vocabulary. I consistently kept the lines of communication open, but that wasn't enough for him, he didn't just want me to listen, he needed me to actively prompt him about polyamory and ask about his other potential flings.

I am just tired. I have always tried to be entirely straightforward, if I say "I want A, and I don't want B," that is exactly what I mean. But none of that mattered. He always found just enough mental leeway to feel justified in doing "B" by convincing himself it was actually just a "b".

Constantly having to enforce my own reality against those kinds of loopholes is exactly what burned me out. I know there is plenty of fish in the sea, but I am feeling that my efforts to be as transparent and honest as possible will always be meaningless.

TL;DR Was in a 4-year open relationship that ended because my partner repeatedly tried to change our agreed-upon structures (polybombing) only after he already had someone else lined up. Despite my clear communication and boundaries, he constantly used mental loopholes to justify his actions and wanted therapy to "fix" me into accepting his polyamorous ideals. We broke up peacefully, but the emotional drain of having to constantly enforce reality against his half-truths has left me completely burned out and struggling with the idea of dating again.

It’s genuinely frustrating to take the time to write a clear post, only to have people in the comments arguing against points you never even made. It feels like a lot of users just skim the title, pick a few words from the first paragraph, and fill in the rest themselves. You can explicitly write "I do not think X," and the top comment will inevitably be someone telling you that your main problem is that you think X.

It totally defeats the purpose of asking for perspective when you have to spend your time clearing up misunderstandings. You end up defending yourself because someone cherry-picked half a sentence and ignored the actual context. People will even ignore basic stated facts—like specific logistics you deliberately clarified—just to make the story fit whatever narrative they have in their heads.

If you don't have the attention span for a few paragraphs, that’s completely fine, just keep scrolling. But it's wild that people will put the energy into typing out a long, confident response to a situation that wasn't even in the post. It takes two minutes to read the whole thing before hitting reply.

Me (30M) and my partner (31 FTM) have been together for four years, and we've been in couples therapy for the past few months. It was actually my suggestion, and I don't regret it at all. The experience has been eye-opening, and it's helped me recognize ways I can be a better partner.

At the same time, I've been struggling with something I didn't expect.

I've always wanted my relationship to be a peaceful part of my life. Life is already stressful enough, and I've always tried to make sure I'm not another source of stress for the person I'm with. So I keep wondering: if a relationship needs ongoing therapy just to function, is that a sign it's worth fighting for, or a sign that we're fundamentally incompatible?

I know a few months of therapy isn't a long time, and I don't expect years of patterns to disappear overnight. But after four years together, I still find myself surprised by things my partner says or does that I thought we'd already understood about each other.

It also feels like he often overcomplicates situations where I'm trying to keep things simple. Therapy has helped us unpack those moments, but sometimes I wonder whether we're solving problems that naturally come with relationships, or constantly managing differences that may never really go away.

I don't regret starting therapy, and I think it's made both of us more aware of ourselves. I'm just struggling with the idea that a relationship might require this much maintenance. Has anyone else felt this way?

TL;DR: My partner (31 FTM) and I (30M) have been in couples therapy for a few months, and while it's been genuinely helpful, I'm struggling with the idea that our relationship seems to require so much ongoing work. After four years together, I still feel like we're having issues that I thought we'd already understand about each other. How do you tell the difference between a relationship going through a normal rough patch and one that requires more maintenance than it's healthy to sustain?

We've been together for 4 years, we're non monogamous, and we're in couples therapy. One thing that has been our focus is sex. His libido is very high, mine isn't, but we're trying to make it work, with one thing we're trying is me being more "dominant" since he enjoys this dynamic, and I'm willing to give it a try.

In my mind, we are taking the first steps with this, we've had a date to talk and try new things but, since our routine is pretty busy, we still didn't explore more of this.

In our last session, he was already worried if it didn't "work out", what if I found out I was really "vanilla" and just had a low sex drive, and wondered about having another relationship to "cover" this.

I was pretty down by this. I do understand his feelings, but I felt hurt that while I was trying something new for me to make our relationship better, he was already expecting failure.

This is not the first time this happened, where I am trying something for us only for him to not care and not give me support.

I have a pretty difficult time expressing my feelings, but I tried this time, talking about how I felt hearing him say this.

My partner shut me down completely.

I don't even remember what he said, I just remembered him rudely interrupting me and I just started sobbing. The therapist tried to calm me down, but I just cried and kept mostly silent during the session.

He justified it saying he felt "attacked" and when he does that he strikes back, and also he had a bad day.

That happened yesterday, and I still have to hear an apology from him. Not the first time something like this happens and... I am tired. Tired of having to hear him apologize, tired of him turning things around and it all being about his trauma or bad day or whatever it is, its always something

I came across an instagram reel (damn algorithm) where a poly psychiatrist was talking about "not having time to be polyamorous".

I got curious and decided to watch it.

The therapist was addressing the whole "I don't have time for multiple partners" argument. But her defense was entirely based on the wild assumption that "monogamous" people dedicate absolutely all of their free time to their one partner. All the examples she gave to counter the time issue were things like monogamous couples always going to social gatherings together, attending every single family event as a unit, etc., etc.

I was honestly surprised listening to her, because things like having individual friends, personal hobbies, a demanding career, or just wanting some solitary downtime didn't even enter her equation. Her baseline for managing time seemed completely devoid of a life outside of romance.

It made me realize something deeply ironic. A lot of polyamory discourse revolves around the idea that monogamous people put too much pressure on finding "the one" and make that relationship the absolute center of their universe. But from the outside looking in, it seems like polyamorous people are the ones who make relationships their entire personality and full-time job.

If your concept of freeing up time relies entirely on cutting down shared events with one partner just to slot in another,while completely ignoring the rest of human existence (work, hobbies, platonic friendships), aren't you the one overvaluing romantic relationships? Between the shared Google Calendars, the endless "processing" conversations, and scheduling "intentional time," you aren't dismantling the intense focus on romantic relationships; you're just multiplying the administrative workload of them.

It really seems like they are the ones who focus disproportionately on romantic relationships to the detriment of everything else, not (healthy) monogamous people.

To doido pra fazer uma tatuagem nova, ai vi um tatuador de confiança que tá com uma promoção boa, 150 reais a tatuagem até 12 cm

Show de bola, já tava até escolhendo o desenho.

PORÉM

To com uma infestação de barata na casa, já coloquei veneno por conta própria e nada, vou chamar a detetizadora, fiz orçamento.

300 reais

E veja, eu até tenho dinheiro para fazer os dois, o grande problema é aquela vozinha da responsabilidade financeira buzinando no ouvido. A tatuagem é um luxo que eu não preciso fazer agora e, logicamente, gastar "apenas" 300 para resolver um problema real da casa é muito mais sensato do que torrar 450 no total.

Enfim, vou fazer o que tem que fazer, mas ter juizo com as coisas é mt chato, especialmente quando vejo gente endividada curtindo a vida e eu aqui tentando viver dentro dos meus meios

Sou terceirizado em um orgão publico municipal. Por algum milagre, entrei sem indicação politica. Contudo, com as eleições chegando, estou sendo cobrado de superiores que eu participe de reuniões de um deputado federal. Sei que isso configura assédio eleitoral, mas gostaria de saber de modo mais concreto no que posso me amparar e fazer sobre isso.

Sei que posso perder o emprego por conta disso. Dispenso conselhos que não sejam legais.

Não dá para justificar R$ 450 em um jogo assumidamente incompleto, e a versão completa ser R$ 100 mais cara.

Não dá, mas se GTA VI for um sucesso (spoiler: vai ser), isso vai se tornar ainda mais padrão, mais escancarado. Se antes DLC que liberava conteúdo que já existia era mal visto, hoje as empresas nem fazem questão de esconder.

E o preço é só parte da história. Agora estamos chegando ao ponto de vender uma "edição física" que nem sequer inclui o jogo em mídia física, apenas um código para download dentro da caixa. Você compra uma caixa vazia, perde o mercado de usados, perde parte da preservação do jogo e ainda paga mais caro por isso.

O problema não é GTA VI ser caro. O problema é a indústria olhar para o maior lançamento da década e concluir que pode cobrar mais, entregar menos propriedade ao consumidor e ainda bater recordes de vendas.

Por isso GTA VI deveria fracassar. Só que não vai acontecer. E quando GTA VI vender dezenas de milhões de cópias, a lição que a indústria aprenderá não será "faça jogos melhores", mas "descubra até onde você consegue empurrar o consumidor".

EDIT: O pior inimigo do gamer é ele mesmo.

EDIT 2: Queria agradecer a galera que tá discutindo namoral, papo tá bom.

Quero deixar claro uma coisa: sim, é claro que tem muita falcatrua que deixa tudo ainda mais ineficiente, afirmar o contrário seria burrice. Mas, mesmo em um cenário de corrupção mínima, as coisas talvez não fossem tão eficientes quanto gostariamos que fossem.

Digo isso porque tive um contato, ainda que superficial, com a gestão pública na educação municipal, e essa experiência foi suficiente para me mostrar o tamanho da complexidade envolvida. Às vezes as pessoas falam como se bastasse "investir mais em escolas" ou "administrar melhor o dinheiro". Na prática, o orçamento precisa se dividir entre reformar escolas antigas, construir novas unidades, manter as que já existem, contratar professores e equipes de apoio, adquirir materiais e acompanhar as constantes mudanças nas exigências pedagógicas, tecnológicas e legais da área da educação.

O que mais me chamou atenção foi perceber que praticamente toda decisão envolve abrir mão de alguma outra coisa. E mesmo quando há recursos disponíveis, ainda existe a questão da capacidade de execução. Reformas, construções e manutenções dependem de equipes técnicas, planejamento, licitações e fiscalização. Além disso, uma Secretaria de Obras, pelo menos no caso que observei, não trabalha apenas para a educação: ela também atende demandas da saúde, infraestrutura urbana, drenagem, contenção de encostas e diversos outros setores. Os mesmos profissionais e estruturas precisam dar conta de necessidades que surgem simultaneamente em todo o município.

Isso não significa que não exista desperdício, má gestão ou corrupção. Eles existem e devem ser combatidos. O ponto é que, depois de ter visto um pouco desse funcionamento por dentro, ficou difícil enxergar a gestão pública como algo que se resolveria apenas com bom senso ou soluções aparentemente óbvias. Muitas vezes o gestor não está escolhendo entre uma opção boa e uma ruim; está escolhendo entre várias prioridades legítimas, sabendo que não há orçamento, pessoal e capacidade operacional suficientes para atender todas ao mesmo tempo.

Apologies for any mistakes as english is my second language.

First, some context.
My dad is not a bad father or a bad man. He was never abusive and made sure I had the best life I could have.

BUT

He often was a difficult person to be around. He could be very rude for no reason, and my mom once used to describe him as a "pitbull". He could be very sweet, but any perceived slight would cause him to tear you down with words. Other times, he could just be very grating, minimizing your views to prioritize his own.

He sometimes acted like my life was an extension of his. More than one time he had to cancel trips he planned because he disregarded things like my school calendar.

This, amongst many other things I experienced with him and stories that my mom told me about the earlier years of their marriage, made me take a stance of healthy distance from him. I love him, but being with him is a russion roulette, could be good, could be very bad.

So, a few months ago, I started living on my own after years of living with my mom. I had some carrer changes that made this possible and necessary.

The consequence being that I now have less time for some things. I have to take care of my apartment now (cleaning, cooking etc), which I have to do on weekends, and also just have a social life and other obligations.

I would expect my dad to realized that. He does not.

I used to see him every other weekend when I lived with my mom. Since moving out, that has naturally changed to about once a month.

He frequently asks when I'm going to see him. When I do visit, he asks why I'm not staying the whole weekend. He often tells me how much he misses me. He also worries that there's "something wrong" with me.

Any of those things, by themselves, would be perfectly fine. But because of our history, they feel loaded.

There isn't anything wrong with me. My life just changed.

I've explained this to him multiple times. I've told him that I have more responsibilities now and less free time than before. He has even offered to help me with chores around my apartment, despite me never asking for help. I know he means well, but it annoys me because it feels like he keeps looking for a problem that doesn't exist.

I should also mention that I've never been much of a family person. I enjoy being left alone and always have. I don't need frequent contact with people to feel close to them.

What frustrates me is that it feels like whatever time I give is never enough. Instead of just enjoying the time we do spend together, the conversation often turns into why I don't visit more often or stay longer.

TL;DR: My dad isn't a bad person, but he's always been difficult and can be emotionally manipulative. Since moving out on my own, I've gone from seeing him every other weekend to about once a month because I have more responsibilities and less free time. He constantly asks when I'm visiting, why I don't stay longer, worries that "something is wrong" with me, and even offers help I never asked for. I've explained multiple times that nothing is wrong, my life just changed, but it feels like he refuses to accept that.

Queria o Neymar em plena capacidade de jogo nessa Copa.

Com ele machucado, e se não jogar até o Brasil ser eliminado, o Neymar Hipotético seguirá vivo na mente dos fanboys de todo o canto. O papo vai ser "ganharíamos 2026 se Neymar tivesse bem", ignorando que ele nunca fez nada de bom nas outras Copas também.

Enfim, torço para uma recuperação rápida dele.