u/Lopsided_Goat_7028

This just seems like a dumb post but I don’t have anyone to tell.

I’m 23 F and I have never been in a relationship.

This is for a few reasons.

First is due to the fact that I always thought every guy my age was quite immature, or cared too much about what their friends think.

Second is I struggled with my mental health. I couldn’t possibly imagine bringing him home to my family or parents. I know no good guy would label me with my parents’ behaviour, but it’s the environment I’ve been raised in.

Whenever I feel upset, or sad, or had a terrible and tiring day at work, the one thing I want more than anything is a deep hug from a partner. I don’t want to sound like a pick me, but receiving it from a man just feels a lot more protective.

I can’t talk to my parents about things, and they didn’t hug me as much as my sister so it feels so incredibly weird from both sides. Friends have also been hard in the past few years.

Instead I spend hours on my phone watching shows and dramas of what my life could be like. And I always do this before I go to bed, sometimes up until 3am, wishing someone could hold me. And I watch couple videos on TikTok for hours on end.

And I know he’s not supposed to be my therapist, a relationship goes both ways. We should be together because we both found each other worth being with, not just because we wanted to be in a relationship.

I’m very curious as many people have pointed mine out, but don’t actually say anything about it haha.

I’m South Asian btw, so I have many small tiny gold earrings (12 altogether) I wear on my ears, and I have a small nose stud too.

I wear our gold jewellery, (and have henna on my hands when I can be bothered). Again they’re not flashy, but small unique (because I haven’t been able to find it anywhere in the UK!) pieces that have been passed down in my family.

Just curious to know what you’d think if you saw this in person for the first time?

I asked someone most recently and he said he was just ‘observing’. Some guys have said it’s interesting but that’s it 😂

Also older generation seem to hate it lolllll.

I’m 24F and I know I have very low iron.

I’ve been sleeping for almost 12 hours a day, I struggle to wake up for work, and I’m always tired.

I’ve had a million blood tests and they keep saying I’m fine, but I’m not.

Is there anything else I can do?

My hair is starting to fall out a lot too :(

So there’s this guy. We’re in the same class and we’ve known each other for less than a year, only became closer in the past few months. We’re 19 and 20.

Sometimes I think he’s shy, other times chivalry and comfortable, and other times interest. I can’t seem to understand at all.

One thing I’ve realised is how patient he is, since day one! I got stuck in the door once and it was funny and embarrassing. He stood there and smiled at me, and waited patiently and said it’s okay people can get stuck, (they don’t 😂).

He has also opened the car door for me, even though I was doing it, and also helped me put my chair under the table, again I was doing it.

I’ve realised he also looks for me when we all walk in for class. He stares at me for a bit, but again that could be that he’s acknowledging someone he knows.

But here’s the thing, we hardly see each other, and even when we do we hardly speak as we’re with our own friendship groups.

Last time I saw him I looked back and joined in on their conversation. His friend who was with him immediately went to the other friends but he stayed with me the entire time, even though we hardly had anything to talk about. His friends also kind of ‘ignore’ me now which is weird.

But the reason I think he’s shy is because once we were sat next to each other talking, and he was being expressive with his hands whilst telling the story. Naturally I looked at his hands and he immediately put them away.

This boy just doesn’t judge me at all. I’m incredibly chatty and I talk in circles, sometimes even I don’t know what I’m talking about, and he doesn’t seem to mind at all.

I kind of feel like he’s trying to be ‘careful’ and noticing my behaviour before he decides how to interact with me.

I F23 live in the UK and swear I’m not trying to be a pick me or attention seeking, but I’ve always found those with tattoos and piercings more approachable in a way. Maybe it’s my age?

I have quite a few on my ears but they’re very small and dainty (I’m south Asian so imagine tiny gold earrings), and I have a small nose stud. Again the nose stud is tiny gold too so it doesn’t stand out much.

I don’t have tattoos, but I’ve always found those with tattoos more approachable.

Had anyone else ever felt this way too?

Took until 24 but I finally have friends in class!

Never had friends growing up and was bullied for no reason.

Now I’m the only girl in my class, but three boys have adopted me and I never knew being seen felt this way. I love it so much and I’m so grateful.

They’ve helped me realise I’m pretty too! It felt weird to be complimented at first, but I’ve learnt I can accept it and say thank you 🩷

I was quite upset when I realised I was the only girl, but I never would’ve cried if I knew what was to come!!

Never had friends growing up and was bullied for no reason. Now I’m the only girl in a class, but three boys have adopted me and I never knew being seen felt this way. I love it so much and I’m so grateful.

They’ve helped me realise I’m pretty too!

Hello. I’m 24 and I’ve always had a lot of body hair since I was a kid. My mum doesn’t think it’s that big of a deal as she never removed it, and thinks I shouldn’t either, but I don’t like it on me.

I do have pcos, but I think it’s genetics. Only the parts I’ve shaved have come back thicker such as my armpits, leg hair (especially inner thighs looks like a beard), and arms. I get laser on my face and sideburns, and the hair isn’t that thick there really.

My issue is I have hair at the back of my neck. All of my body hair is connected, so back of hair goes down to my back, stomach, chest, and so on. Like I said it’s all connected and a lot, but it’s very fine and very dark.

Would waxing be good for this?

I’ve never been able to wear my hair up in a bun or ponytail because of how much hair I have that’s going down from my hair to my back. It looks like a thick trail and I hate it.

I’d really appreciate some advice :)

There’s a guy in my class who I’ve caught staring at me a few times. We’ve known each other for just less than a year, actually get along quite well, and naturally became closer over the last year.

One thing I’ve noticed is he looks at my waist. Like if I’m stood with my hands on my waist he stares at it a little.

Hello! I’ve had my nose pierced before. So the jewellery actually sank in to my nose and created a massive hole!! Eventually I went back and he changed it to a ring. I got sick of it and took it out altogether.

I’d really like to get my nose pierced again. After doing further researched would you recommend an L shaped jewellery instead of a stud or ring?

I’m almost 24, and you’re telling me NOW I should feel insecure? I never really felt insecure growing up.

I always felt beautiful, whether it was my hair, my skin, acne, whatever it was, I didn’t care really. If I wanted to wear something I would. I didn’t care about what others thought.

Now I’m turning 24 and all of a sudden I feel incredibly insecure.

I don’t like my hair, my skin, my body, or anything about me anymore.

I’m not comparing myself to people on social media, I hardly spend time on it.

What happened is, and it feels like a change overnight, I suddenly began noticing other woman, and how I compare to them. I’m basically nothing. No wonder a man hasn’t ever asked me.

They’re soooo confident too. I’m short and petite, so I don’t feel my voice is heard. Their body language screams confidence. They keep their head high, I have to because I’m shorter.

I just don’t like myself anymore at all.

23 and never had a guy ask me. The guys I’ve liked have ended up talking to 100+ girls at the same time. I crave a genuine relationship :(

Edit- I’m in university. I’m quite introverted and most of my hobbies are quite isolated, so I prefer introverted guys too. Then out of nowhere the type I mentioned pay attention to everything I do. I feel I am quite good at reading people, so by the second or third time at least I figure out why they’ve approached me, so I don’t give them attention. I don’t drink or go clubbing or anything either.

(We’re all 20)

So she’s completely ignored me from day one despite my efforts :(

I think I am a nice person, and I have a naturally smiley face, I’ve been told I’m approachable. I like learning about other people and their interests, and what makes people their own individual. I also understand not everyone can like you, but this has been from day one.

At first I thought it was because she was shy, but it seems she just wants to stay with the boys, specifically one specific boy, shoulder to shoulder, touching at all times. She’s also in a relationship so it seemed odd to me but maybe they’re just really good fiends?

However, she’s completely avoided eye contact with me since day one.

On the first day we all met, me and her went to the toilet at the same time, came out at the same time, and washed our hands. I looked at her and smiled. She gave me a smug look and looked a little disgusted(?) by me. I’m not sure how to explain it but she gave me the look that she doesn’t like me.

I said it’s really nice to have another girl in this class and smiled (it’s a stem class), and she said yeah and walked out.

It’s been almost a year now and despite my efforts things haven’t really changed. The boys she sticks with only comment on female appearances and ‘how hot’ women are. I’d rather not be around that, especially as a girl myself.

I just feel a little sad. Again just because she’s a girl that doesn’t mean that we have to be best friends, but there’s something about the only other girl in the class not wanting to be friends with you :(

So I’m 24 in the UK and I’ve grown like crazy in the past few years.

The expectations, boundaries, accountability, and so on, I hold for myself, is completely different to when I was 18. Naturally this has changed my expectations with a spouse.

My question is, those who met their spouse naturally (NOT an arranged marriage), how did it happen?

I’m not going down that route as 1, my parents don’t want me to marry in to a culture> religion family, and 2, the guys who are looking for arranged are all in to traditional cultural stereotypes.

This includes the type of men imams have recommended to some women in my area unfortunately, they were unaware of these husbands poor character.

I’m also asking about reverts and non Muslims too. A lot of women in my family have married men who became Muslim for the sake of Allah, and then got married after deciding they WANTED to be a Muslim, not just for her or for the sake of marriage.

But how does it all work? Do I just approach a guy I like? I have no experience at all. What if I like someone at work then what? I’m so confused. I don’t believe in using apps either, I’m just asking about the in person interaction.

I don’t know how else I should word the title, but I’m really craving male validation. I know I shouldn’t, we don’t live for men, but I can’t stop thinking about it.

I’m almost 24 and I’ve never had a guy interested in me or call me pretty or anything similar and I’m feeling terrible about myself :(

I didn’t think I’d reach 24 and still be in the same place. I think I am pretty now but I genuinely just don’t know.

I just feel invisible and ugly.

Edit- I’m realising it’s not even about wanting a lot of attention from men, I just want to be seen :(

Hello. I’m 24 F and I’m currently taking a stem class. This means that I’m the only girl and the rest of them are guys. The age range is from 18-32.

I tried being friends with the extroverted guys, but they just seem sooooo quiet around me.

Their body language looks more ‘well behaved’ and less expressive.

I don’t understand why because I’ve tried really hard to talk to them. They’re lovely people and really funny. I’m more introverted and shy, but I’ve really come out of my comfort zone to speak to them.

What can I do? I don’t understand why they’re incredibly quiet around me. When it’s one on one they’re a lot more vocal, but generally when they’re together they’re a lot more reserved.

Once one of them was talking to his friends asking each other what their favourite colour and animal was, and the other told him to ask me. He said no I don’t want to ask her, he seemed scared to speak to me. Eventually he did but he seemed to scared and shy speaking to me.

I feel left out like I don’t belong. We used to talk normally before, now hardly

Hello. I’ve decided to go in to project management. My current workplace has been incredibly supportive.

I’ve been booked on to a one day intensive course with a few other people for the ‘study’ part before the exam.

Personally I don’t think one day would be enough… is there another way I can study for the exam and take mock exams?

Hello. I live in the UK and I stopped wearing my headscarf for safety reasons a while ago.

One thing that’s happened since is the boys avoid me completely. We have the same humour so we’d always laugh together, and we used to talk to each other and ask how our day has been…

It doesn’t help that I’m the only girl in class too.

They won’t even look at me.

I’m still the same person. I don’t feel like I need to share why I don’t feel comfortable wearing my headscarf sometimes. I still dress the same too.

Is it my head scarf or could it be something else? The change in their behaviour happened when I didn’t wear my scarf anymore.

Edit- it’s just a normal school. I’m the only religious person in my class the rest of them are English and non religious, they’re also respectful and open minded so I don’t think they cared when I wore a headscarf.

I know this is an odd question, but does a guys friends make it obvious when he likes you?

Are there any behaviours his friends may show?

Currently one of them is giving me an awkward downward smile and widens his eyes every time I talk to him, but that could just be teasing him that he’s talking to a girl.

I know this is an odd question, but can you tell by a guys friends as to whether he likes you or not?

Are there any behaviours his friends may show?

Currently one of them is smiling every time I talk to him, but that could just be teasing that he’s talking to a girl.