How to date if I (kinda) have a type but rarely feel attraction? Scared of commitment? Perchance.

Sorry for the weird title, I just couldn't come up with a title that would make more sense. Also sorry about the post. I found it EXTREMELY difficult to put my feelings into words.

So I do think I'm demi (although not 100% sure, sorry) and I've found that I can appreciate a lot of women's beauty but I rarely feel any kind of sexual or romantic attraction because of it.

So the problem is that I know I have a type. (Kind of like an analytical conclusion.) But I also think that because of that I think I should only go for them. Like I'm scared to date someone else because I know I'll take a long time to start feeling stuff only to then figure out that oh I can't do this. Like choosing a career and then finding out you don't like it a few years in and so the time and effort has completely gone to waste. (Sorry if this is a stupid analogy I'm struggling to explain this)

So I feel like it narrows down the dating pool a lot. Like ALOT. I have a select few that I suspect I might fall for and the 99% of the rest I'm scared to invest time in.

Ofcourse dating for a demisexual isn't ideal but I'm finding it difficult to build connections in the current world so I've been trying to date. Trying without ANY success but I want to keep on trying.

So like how do I do this? Before I've always had long time friends from school etc. I don't know how to live like this but I also want to find someone to love. I don't even know what to ask help about?! I'm just hoping someone here understands me haha.

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u/Lyricician — 16 hours ago

Color correction for VERY different clips?

I've got clips from different movies on the same timeline and I'm thinking about color correcting them to make it look somewhat cohesive. However I'm pretty bad at color correction and have only done it for footage that's filmed on the same camera, so it already looks cohesive and needs just a touch up.

Is this a doable thing or should I just not do it?

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u/Lyricician — 1 day ago
▲ 93 r/darwin

Darwin locals

I just wanted to say that I've never in my life felt so included and loved as I do in Darwin.

This city is just full of beautiful souls even though we have some odd problems as well haha.

Must be the warm climate's doing.

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u/Lyricician — 1 day ago

Secret song by Kendrick Lamar?

Kendrick has the "Heart Part" series but I found out that Dr. Dre said there's a secret one called the "Heart Part Is Keeping It Motherfucker".

Where to listen to this song? Thank you and grey poupon Kendrick fans! We humble!

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u/Lyricician — 2 days ago

Probably needed a certificate, company didn't tell me

So I've been working on cliffedges with a harness recently however I didn't realize that I probably need a working at heights cert or something similar.

The company knows I don't have them, and just sent me on the job (on multiple occasions). Haven't brought it up to them yet. They intend to have me work their again soon.

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u/Lyricician — 7 days ago

Keep downloading and deleting dating apps (feeling borderline asexual at this point)

To start of I think you all understand how I feel, I'm just looking for advice.

So I keep on downloading dating apps every now and then because I feel lonely or like I should date. I know for a fact that I will see the same people there plus it's incredibly difficult for me to feel anything based on an internet convo.

Also to make matters worse for me I do have a type and not a lot of people fit into it. I'm not sure if this is something to work on or not...

So the most confusing part is that I'd like to have "life partner" or "long-term" set as my goals but when I open the app I get horny and thing oh maybe I should do short-term. I've never done short-term and I never would. WHAT IS THAT EMOTION AND CONFUSION??

Thank you for your time!

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u/Lyricician — 9 days ago
▲ 113 r/Eesti

Sõnause rant ja maailma kõige uuem eestikeelne sõna

Miks on alati sõnause (igaaastane uue sõna võistlus) võitja mingi kahe eksisteeriva sõna kombinatsioon? Alati võidab mingi kuradi legoläga ja tähendus on klotsisegadus lastetoas.

Muidugi eks tegelikkuses võitjad ole veits kavalad, aga mis on juhtunud päris uute sõnadega? Nuhvel ei ole uus sõna ja see kõlab rõvedalt. Meil on vaja tagasi päris keelefriike sõnu leiutama.

Minu pakkumine päris uute sõnade jaoks: õõretu (omadussõna halli ja vihmase hommiku kohta), koomõtis (nimisõna inimese kohta, kes saab kõik enda arvamused, uudised ja mõtted sotsmeedia feedidelt), pöösikivi (kivid, mis on paigutatud lillepeenra ümber äärisena)

Ja paar laisemat vähem uut sõna ka: alavik (liiga madal kehatemperatuur ehk lihtne vastanud palavikule), änkel (laensõna (ankle), sest vahest on hüppeliiges liiga palju), tehisarulage (inimene kes on täielikus ai psühhoosis), tähend (lühendatud või kaks kokku liidetud sõna ehk tähelühend)

Aitäh kuulamast minu õhtust sõnalägastamist.

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u/Lyricician — 15 days ago

Very organized and productive ONLY on workdays..? Useless and depressed on weekends.

So during workdays I get up before 6am, pack my lunch and my stuff, walk to a bus stop, catch the bus, and then read like 20 minutes on the bus (with noise cancelling headphones). This is an amazing start to my day, especially since I don't drink caffeine anymore and I don't pick up the phone besides turning off the alarm. Feels very good physically to move early, and for the brain to get a clear head for the day.

Then the day usually goes well after, I do physical work which feels pretty rewarding. Maybe it's just the money earning part that feels rewarding though, don't know.

However I don't have much time to allocate to my hobbies which I am pretty sad about and the weekends could be the perfect opportunity but for some reason I spend my weekends like a depressed student (that I used to be). Sleep in like 3 hours, barely get out of bed, eat some shit food, boot up the computer and watch videos until it's time to sleep again. It's very rarely a good day.

It's like I'm two different people. How should I approach this? I feel like the sense of urgency during working days comes from the need for money, but it also feels a bit internal. During my off days I feel neither, no work so no money plus no internal motivation.

Thanks in advance! (I have diagnosed ADHD if that's useful info, might mess with energy levels idk)

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u/Lyricician — 16 days ago

There's cities, there's metropolises, and then there's the capital of Estonia

The whole population is on this image

u/Lyricician — 18 days ago

Best source for "non traditional" film scoring?

I'm struggling to find sources for non traditional movie scoring. My personal favourites are Ennio Morricone, Ludwig Göransson, and Vangelis (mainly his work on Blade Runner).

Of course it's orchestral adjacent because that's the nature of film scores but I hope it makes some sense. (Not like a full John Williams kind of score).

Thanks!

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u/Lyricician — 25 days ago
▲ 15 r/darwin

Darwin to Asia destinations

Hi! I've been in Darwin for about half a year now. Everyone keeps telling me about how the flights to Bali used to be so cheap etc, but they're like 600 bucks for the round trip now. Even flying to Timor Leste costs a ton.

Are there any destinations that still have alright fare prices. Plus points if I can get a sick fitted suit made there for a cheaper price.

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u/Lyricician — 27 days ago

Fake sense of accomplishment from job?

Whenever I work I tend to end the day on a somewhat positive note. Made some money, worked a bit. Whenever I stay home (due to being sick, having a day off etc) I usually am feeling empty and unaccomplished. I said usually because sometimes I work on my creative projects and make real progress. Then I feel pretty alright. I tend to get stuck behind mental blocks though so usually the progress is small and slow.

That being said I feel like the feeling of accomplishment is just fake? Like yeah something's there but it's not real. I don't believe that I'm a positive to the world with my job if I'm being honest.

Do I just produce serotonin from earning money? Or just by doing something active for 8 hours? I don't get it. I want to feel as proud when I do work that I love. I hate that I have to slave away 8 hours in a system that I don't believe in to feel good. It's like my beliefs and emotions are completely disconnected.

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u/Lyricician — 1 month ago

Confusion about the 88 day counting

So I've come to the understanding that if I work 38 or more hours a week, I get 7 days ticked off from the 88 days, as it's a full workweek. Correct me if I'm wrong.

However I get my paychecks fortnightly. On weeks I work 76 or more hours I assume I get 14 days ticked off. But some weeks I have to miss a day or two, for example 60 hours. Do they take off the 38, add it up to 7 days, and then use the remaining 22 hours to tick off 2 or 3 days?

Thanks.

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u/Lyricician — 1 month ago

Looking for job recommendations in the wild

Hi! So I've been living the city life for way too long and I need a change. I'm a backpacker currently in Darwin and I had the plan to go to Alice Springs because I'm fed up with the city.

However I've started thinking about going fully remote and isolated. Kind of like a firetower guard in the US, or a park ranger etc. Are there any kind of similar jobs in the wilderness here?

Not necessarily looking for FIFO mining because it's out of town, I want to be truly alone. Like a Simpson Desert park ranger checking the sand or something

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u/Lyricician — 2 months ago

Confused about if my type is healthy or not

I'm trying to date but I'm pretty much exclusively attracted to black women. It wouldn't be weird if I wasn't a white man from a 99.9% white country. I'm pretty sure I saw a non-white person for the first time when I was like 12 or 13. However I live abroad nowadays in a much more diverse place.

The problem is that I don't understand how this attraction came to be. I feel like if I heard someone else be in that situation I'd think they were fetishizing these women.

Also an extra problem it creates is whenever I meet a non-black woman and we're both having a great time in each other's company my brain automatically goes "no this isn't your ideal dream woman don't fall for her".

It has always confused me so I would love to heard your opinions on this. I'd like to look deeper into myself to see it's origins but I struggle with it.

Cheers, have a nice weekend y'all!

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u/Lyricician — 2 months ago