How to date if I (kinda) have a type but rarely feel attraction? Scared of commitment? Perchance.
Sorry for the weird title, I just couldn't come up with a title that would make more sense. Also sorry about the post. I found it EXTREMELY difficult to put my feelings into words.
So I do think I'm demi (although not 100% sure, sorry) and I've found that I can appreciate a lot of women's beauty but I rarely feel any kind of sexual or romantic attraction because of it.
So the problem is that I know I have a type. (Kind of like an analytical conclusion.) But I also think that because of that I think I should only go for them. Like I'm scared to date someone else because I know I'll take a long time to start feeling stuff only to then figure out that oh I can't do this. Like choosing a career and then finding out you don't like it a few years in and so the time and effort has completely gone to waste. (Sorry if this is a stupid analogy I'm struggling to explain this)
So I feel like it narrows down the dating pool a lot. Like ALOT. I have a select few that I suspect I might fall for and the 99% of the rest I'm scared to invest time in.
Ofcourse dating for a demisexual isn't ideal but I'm finding it difficult to build connections in the current world so I've been trying to date. Trying without ANY success but I want to keep on trying.
So like how do I do this? Before I've always had long time friends from school etc. I don't know how to live like this but I also want to find someone to love. I don't even know what to ask help about?! I'm just hoping someone here understands me haha.