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At my bank we have the general branch manager and then we have the assistant branch manager who manages the cash side (tellers). Most people at cash are pretty new and I'm somehow the most experienced one there with a whole 1 year under my belt lol.

Anyway we got a new assistant branch manager who came from another bank as a banking advisor. Sounds good on paper right? Except this guy knows absolutely nothing. Can't use our system, doesn't know our policies, and whenever a complicated situation comes up he basically can't do anything. So guess who ends up handling it? Me.

My colleagues always come to me for help but I'm also serving clients so I physically can't be in two places at once. The general branch manager is always tied up with the advisors and partners or on calls so he's never available at the front. The branch is always packed on top of that.

I'm basically doing the assistant manager's job while getting paid the same as everyone else and it's genuinely draining. The guy is nice so it's not like I hate him but competence wise it's rough. And there's no way he catches up to where we're at anytime soon so it's looking like a long year.

Anyone else been in this situation?

So I'm a hetero man and clearly stated that I only wanna date women, however I see tons of dudes on my feed who pretend to be women. What the hell is this? If you're gay or trans that's fine but don't pretend you're a girl and try to go after straight men. This app shouldn't allow this.

Just wanna know if anyone had success with recruiters or they're just a total scam

3 years ago I got diagnosed with IBS and functional dyspepsia after every test and checkup possible came back clean. I've been stressed my whole life, like really badly, and I genuinely believe that's what eventually caused this. It's gone through phases, sometimes better, sometimes way worse. My main symptoms have always been nausea, stomach pain and bloating. The nausea was the worst part but that eventually faded.

I was prescribed amitriptyline and it helped a little while I was on it, but looking back I think it was mostly placebo. I've been off it for 5 months now and nothing really changed.

The interesting part is the Adderall. I was diagnosed with ADHD and took it daily for a year, and for some reason my IBS got so much better during that time. I eventually stopped because it was expensive and I didn't want to be on pills long term, and almost immediately my IBS got worse again, mostly because my mood tanked too.

This makes me think IBS for a lot of people isn't really its own standalone illness. It feels more like a downstream effect of chronic stress and visceral hypersensitivity, basically your gut and brain miscommunicating under pressure. The fact that a stimulant that improved my focus and mood also calmed my gut says a lot.

My dream is for this to go away completely, but realistically I know that might not happen. What I want to know is, what's actually the best path forward here? Are there doctors or specialists who go deeper than "here's an IBS label, here's a pill" and actually try to find and treat root causes? Anyone dealt with something similar, especially the stimulant connection?

It's very hard to find a good GI doctor in the city who will actually make the effort to find the root cause of my IBS instead of just prescribing a bunch of pills and not taking me seriously. Online I see so many doctors with different ways to treat this, but in the city I don't see much of that. If anyone knows a good IBS doctor who will help manage symptoms as much as possible, that would really help.

In my last year of university I landed a teller job at a large financial institution, and now that I've graduated I'm set to move up to banking advisor in a few months. But I honestly can't stand my current job.

Every day I have to deal with rude and impatient boomers who are tech and financially illiterate. These people are so rude and want me to do things that simply can't be done at the cash.

They also come to the counter stressed out of their minds for literally no reason and try to make transactions so much harder than they need to be.

Part of my job is selling bank products and gathering external funds. Clients are always hostile and offended when I offer this.

Managers are also high pressure and want you hitting all these goals for practically minimum wage. Like bruh wtf is this? For the pay I get, I could work some bullshit job and deal with none of this crap.

Another really annoying problem is the technical glitches. My computer always freezes and the pin pads for clients jam up too. Makes us look stupid and ridiculous. This is not normal for a bank.

Overall this is the worst job I've had and I can't wait to find something better. After this I never want to work retail again. I'm looking for a financial analyst job, which is much more suited for me.

Frankly, I don't understand why lack of success at sex is considered a moral failing for men. Plenty of assholes are very sexually attractive and successful with women. This just seems like society enjoying bullying the same poor, asocial, bad looking guys they used to bully in high school.

It's crazy how women will say they'll never date a short guy or an unattractive guy and make so much hateful content about men, then wonder why those men are single. It's not their fault they have bad genes.

It's just become popular to pick on men in general, and specifically on the men women consider to have no value for them. They don't stand to gain anything by criticizing the ones they actually want to sleep with.

This is really just an extension of high school bullying that followed people into adulthood. The targets are the same. The reasons are the same. People just don't seem to realize that's exactly what they're doing. If this was happening in a school hallway everyone would call it bullying instantly, but online it gets treated as some kind of fair social commentary.

So you could be a perfectly nice guy who treats other people with respect, and still be an incel and get bashed in the media and on the internet. I'd argue that's probably the most common scenario.

Frankly, I don't understand why lack of success at sex is considered a moral failing for men. Plenty of assholes are very sexually attractive and successful with women. This just seems like society enjoying bullying the same poor, asocial, bad looking guys they used to bully in high school.

It's crazy how women will say they'll never date a short guy or an unattractive guy and make so much hateful content about men, then wonder why those men are single. It's not their fault they have bad genes.

It's just become popular to pick on men in general, and specifically on the men women consider to have no value for them. They don't stand to gain anything by criticizing the ones they actually want to sleep with.

This is really just an extension of high school bullying that followed people into adulthood. The targets are the same. The reasons are the same. People just don't seem to realize that's exactly what they're doing. If this was happening in a school hallway everyone would call it bullying instantly, but online it gets treated as some kind of fair social commentary.

So you could be a perfectly nice guy who treats other people with respect, and still be an incel and get bashed in the media and on the internet. I'd argue that's probably the most common scenario.

Everyone loves to say incels are just bad people who hate women. Nobody wants to actually look at why this happened.

Blackpill content has basically taken over young men's feeds and convinced an entire generation that if you're not tall, attractive, or rich you have no at winning in life. Combine that with a culture that's more obsessed with looks than ever, and you get way more bullying and rejection happening early on in life

Short guys specifically get absolutely destroyed online. Height has become this open target where it's somehow socially acceptable to mock a guy for something he has zero control over. Put yourself in their shoes for a second. You're a teenager getting hammered for your height on every platform you use, told repeatedly you're basically unlovable by default. Of course that messes with how you see your own future. Of course some of those guys turn bitter.

Telling guys to "just go outside and talk to people" ignores that a ton of them already tried that over the last decade and it didn't work. The data backs this up too. Multiple surveys have shown a growing share of young men reporting no sex in the past year compared to previous generations at the same age.

On top of that, the places where people used to casually meet are mostly gone. Streaming killed the reason to go to a movie. Social media is built to keep you scrolling instead of leaving your house. Dating apps moved everything into a format that rewards a good photo over actual personality or social skill.

The dating math has also shifted. Apps make selection almost entirely visual and give a much smaller percentage of men access to most of the attention and matches. Surveys on app behaviour consistently show women being far more selective on these platforms than men are, which makes sense given that most men have zero success on these apps. In the past, smaller social circles capped how selective anyone could realistically be. That cap doesn't exist anymore.

Women's financial independence changed the incentives too. They don't need a partner for security the way they often did generations ago. Good for their autonomy, but it also means a lot of the old pressure to settle down and compromise just isn't there anymore for either side. Obviously it's not the case for everyone, but for the most part I think it is.

None of this excuses misogyny or actual hatred toward women. But if people want fewer young men sliding into bitterness and isolation, looking at the actual systemic causes matters a lot more than just calling them all bad people and not looking further into the root cause.

I've been a bank teller for a year and just graduated university with a finance degree. My boss told me she's very happy with my results and will promote me once I graduate. Anyways, after graduation she took me in her office and discussed a banking advisor position that will be open in October. She told me to continue my hard work and it will be available come October. I asked why it's in such a long time and she straight up told me it's because at my current role most people are new and she needs me there for now so that I can support the team. So I have to wait 4 months for a promotion because she can't keep employees? How is that my problem?

As of now we did not sign any documents or make it official that I will get the promotion. She just said that if I continue my hard work I will get the promotion in October. That's not a very safe bet. If she changes her mind I'm screwed. I also made it clear it's a long wait. I did not graduate to get a job 4 months later.

Anyways, in the meantime I started applying internally to other departments and landed several interviews, roles that actually pay better and align with what I studied. When I told her about the interviews, she got upset and said she was shocked I'd applied elsewhere. She said they're running a business and were counting on me, and that I "can't" apply elsewhere without telling her first, which is honestly ridiculous. She also said if I'd told her beforehand that I wanted to move elsewhere, she would have helped me move up internally, but that's not true either. She just wants people at her own branch. I never signed anything, nothing about this is official, and I don't owe her that kind of loyalty. If she's going to make me wait four months for a role, I'm obviously going to keep my options open.

Anyway, here's the actual problem. I've got several interviews coming up, but my boss is annoyed with me now and isn't going to be thrilled about me taking time off for them. If I don't land one of these by October, I'm in trouble. So what do I do?

So my whole life I was never very sociable and suffered with pretty bad social anxiety. I was always shy and introverted but I was able to get good grades and develop friendships. I also suffer with pretty bad general anxiety but it’s gotten better.  

Based on my profile I should’ve went into a career that has limited client interaction. I think a trade or working back office would’ve been perfect. My parents always forced me to go to university so I made the mistake of taking finance as my major. At the time I was lost and didn’t know what to get into so I chose this field as whatever and didn’t look into the jobs it offered. The problem with finance is that all the jobs consist of client facing roles/sales. In my last year of university, I landed a teller job at a large Canadian bank which I was able to tolerate it in the beginning, but now it’s just draining the shit out of me. I just graduated and my boss promoted me to banking advisor but I’ll only get the job in September which is a really long wait. At my current role, the clients are very impatient, rude and condescending because lots of them are old or struggling financially. A big part of my role is making sales and most of the time the clients are very rude and hostile and don’t wanna be bothered. It really drains me having to deal with that everyday. I always have to take abuse from people who are mad at me for simply following bank policy or for something else the bank did to them that’s not my fault. It’s no wonder the turnover rate at my bank is over 75% per year. 

Even though I performed great at my job and won teller of month many times, I just can’t take it anymore. I always stay professional and I’m very polite but deep down it’s killing me. I feel like to be good at a sales job you gotta be a little bit sociopathic because lots of it is manipulation to make them buy something they don’t really need. I really hate sales but as a finance grad I’m struggling so much to find something that’s back office. Also we gotta worry about AI so that’s another problem.

At 23 I really don’t feel like starting a new career and I don’t know what to do. Why is it so hard to find a non-client facing role?

Overall my job is draining the hell out of me and I can’t stand it. I wake up stressed and can’t go to bed relaxed. Im really in a bad spot and need to find something suited for me. 

The internet has somehow decided that height is the single most important thing about a man and that everything else just doesn't matter. You go on TikTok and it's nothing but garbage looksmax content, these cringe mog videos glazing tall and attractive guys while dudes berate themselves over how they look. It's disgusting and I can't stand it. I wanna burn my phone every time it shows up on my feed.

And the algorithm loves it. Insecurity keeps you scrolling, so the more this stuff makes you feel like garbage the more it shovels into your feed. Half these guys think they're seeing some harsh truth about the world when really they just trained an algorithm to confirm their worst thoughts about themselves.

These guys genuinely believe it's impossible to get a girlfriend as a short man, like it's harder than making the NBA. The worst is when you go on tiktok and it's full of dudes acting like getting a girlfriend is impossible. Then whenever a short guy actually does something to improve they downplay all his hard work and call it "cope." And then there's the whole black pill thing where guys deliberately degrade themselves. I genuinely don't get the humiliation ritual. Why do so many people take pleasure in victimizing themselves and turning into doomers with nothing better to do? Where's the self respect? How can you be a man and actually think like this?

This humiliation fetish where they feel the need to degrade themselves and others by claiming that being short makes one unlovable is genuinely harmful to everyone involved and it's the reason so many see us short guys as pathetic.

I picked up my gown and convocation tickets at the EV building yesterday. Now a family member wants to come last minute, so I would need one extra ticket. I'm a JMSB student and I can see online that tickets are still available for us, the other faculties don't have any left. What I'm trying to figure out is whether the distribution spot at the EV building is closed now. And if it is, is there somewhere else I can go to grab the extra ticket? If I can't it's no big deal but if I can would be great. Thanks.

Been a client advisor at RBC for about a year, just got promoted to banking advisor 3 months ago. I have a bachelor's in finance and just finished my CSC so I've been thinking seriously about making the move into investments, specifically RBC Dominion Securities.

I'm curious how people here actually got in. Did you apply internally or was it mostly networking? Did anyone go through an internship route or was it all direct hire? I feel like DS is one of those places where who you know matters more than what's on your resume but I could be wrong.

Also wondering what the best entry level position would be for someone with my background. I've seen things like investment advisor associate but I'm not sure what actually gives you the best shot at becoming a full IA eventually. What does the day to day actually look like in those positions?

Any advice from people who've made a similar transition would be helpful.

When I try to close my account on Reddit, the delete button simply does not work. I am fed up with this platform and want out, but it won't let me delete my account. Reddit's customer service is also impossible to reach. It should never be this difficult to delete an account. If this continues, I will sue Reddit.

So last night I went out with my friends and on the way back I was driving a little over the limit. I was on a residential two way road where there weren't really any lights, so it was pretty dark but not exactly pitch black. Out of nowhere I saw someone tailgating me in the back. At first I thought nothing of it but they were really staying on my bumper. Since I was getting tailgated I decided to speed up to lose him a little but he just kept going fast right behind me.

He then tried to pass me by pulling into the opposite lane and I just gunned it so he couldn't pass me. I'm not gonna lie I was being extremely petty and I honestly don't know what I was thinking in that moment. I was just focused on not letting this guy get ahead of me. I was so stupid for not even realizing it was a cop car, but in my head I was just annoyed at the driver. Anyways as I approach a stop sign I see him pull up right next to me in the other lane. I look over and I see it's a cop.

I completely froze and then he puts on his lights. In my head I was just like oh fuck it's over. I'm a student and I was already picturing my car getting impounded and losing my license for stunt driving since I basically drag raced a cruiser. I pull over and he comes up to see me at the window. I decided to just be honest because there was no way out of it. I told him look I honestly thought you were just some guy trying to pass me but it doesn't excuse what I did and I'm completely in the wrong.

He took all my info and went back to his car for a bit. When he came back he just told me to be careful because I was going way too fast and then he actually let me go. Honestly I've no idea why he let me go but thank god he was a chill cop because that would've been really bad for my record. I've definitely learned my lesson about being petty on the road.

TL;DR tried to floor it so a tailgater couldn't pass me on a dark residential road, turned out the guy was a cop, and I somehow walked away with a warning instead of getting a fat ticket.

So I recently started at RBC and found out I'm insured under Sun Life. I went to the pharmacy and gave them my Sun Life insurance card hoping I would pay less from now on. The pharmacist came back and told me my prescription was $85 instead of the $55 that I was used to paying. So my work insurance is actually more expensive than what I had before. Honestly I didn’t even know I was being insured prior to her mentioning it. This whole time I thought I was paying full price lol.

She then told me that here in Quebec you can't be on both RAMQ (the provincial government health insurance plan) and a private employer plan at the same time, and that I need to unsubscribe from RAMQ. I had no idea about this but I find it really strange that I’m paying so much more with private insurance.

Is this actually how it works? It makes no sense to me that I'm paying more under the work plan. I’ll call Sun Life but before I’d like to hear from fellow employees why it’s like this.

 

I went to private school my whole life and all they ever pushed was white collar work. University was the expectation, and trades were kinda looked down on. My parents reinforced that same mindset so it was never really a question of what I wanted, it was just assumed I'd go the white collar route.

Problem is, I had no idea what I actually wanted to do. I picked finance because that's what people default to when they have no clue. I also had this mentality that things would just fall into place eventually, so I never really thought critically about my future. I didn't take school seriously early on, had a bad GPA, took only 2 or 3 classes per semester, and ended up graduating a year late. My grades only turned around once I actually applied myself in my last two years.

I just graduated three weeks ago. The only real experience I have is two years working as a bank teller. But here's the thing, I strongly prefer non client facing work. Not because I dislike people, I just know I'm not a salesperson. In finance, most client facing roles end up involving some degree of selling, and that side of it doesn't suit me. Cold soliciting, pushing through objections, accepting rejection as part of the job, that's just not how I'm wired.

My whole plan was to go into back office finance. Operations, settlements, compliance, something behind the scenes where I could actually do the work without the sales component. But AI is making that look less and less realistic. Those are exactly the kinds of roles that are getting automated. On top of that, entry level finance is completely saturated and the pay reflects it. You spend years in school, graduate with debt, and the starting salaries for a lot of these roles are nothing special. Meanwhile skilled tradespeople are genuinely out earning a lot of white collar workers, and there's actual demand for them. Nobody talks about that growing up, at least not in the environment I was in.

What I keep coming back to is that I wish I had done a trade. I love working with my hands, I don't mind early hours or physical work, and the idea of a role that's hands on and not centered around sales sounds ideal to me. But I feel like I'm too late for that now as I'm already 23, and I'm kind of stuck in a field where I'm not naturally suited for the roles that are most in demand and where the roles I did want are disappearing.

Has anyone been in a similar spot? What would you do?

So I'm 22 and 5'5" and I've never been in a relationship. The closest thing I had was a girl at work who was into me, but I wasn't attracted to her so I turned it down. That's literally it.

After high school I went through a rough stretch. A lot of personal problems piled up and my self-esteem was pretty much nonexistent, so dating was the last thing on my mind. I wasn't in a place for it and honestly didn't even try. But things have settled down a lot since then. I feel genuinely better about myself and my life, but now I'm starting to feel loneliness kick in. I actually want to be in a relationship.

The thing is, whenever I go down the rabbit hole online I see the same message over and over: short guys are undateable, women filter you out instantly, you don't stand a chance. It messes with my head. I know I shouldn't let it get to me but it's hard not to internalize that stuff after seeing it constantly.

So I just want to hear from people who have actually been through it. Is it really as bleak as the internet makes it seem? How did you meet your girlfriend or partner? Dating apps, mutual friends, just randomly? What actually worked?

I really don't want to be alone forever lol. Any honest advice or perspective would mean a lot.

Made a new account after being off this site for years and honestly some things never change. Just spent an hour going through posts and it's the same thing everywhere, someone asks for help and gets told to quit instead.

When I was a teenager I hit a parked car and posted asking how to reverse properly. First comments were basically "you should never be allowed to drive.

I drive perfectly fine now.

Started a new job once and was struggling, asked for advice, and instead of getting any actual help the comments were all "customer facing roles aren't for you, you need to find something else."

Been at that job 2 years now and I'm totally fine

Why is this place so obsessed with telling people to give up the second they show any sign of struggling? Nobody posts asking for help because they want to be told to quit. They want to actually improve. But there's always that group of people who see someone having a hard time and act like they've already seen enough to write off that person's entire future at something.

And think about how genuinely harmfl that is. Driving and having a job aren't hobbies you can just skip. They are things most people actually need to function in life. Imagine if someone actually listened and gave up their license or quit their job because a bunch of strangers on Reddit told them they weren't cut out for it. that's a real impact on a real person's life and nobody in those comment sections would ever think twice about it.

Struggling at something doesn't mean you should give up. It means you're still learning. That's it. Just because someone is bad at something right now doesn't mean they always will be. People need to remember that before they tell a stranger to throw in the towel over a Reddit post