u/Matt2382

I’m in shape so I don’t exactly fit the stereotype. But I’m also anti social and I have a similar style face to many of these mods. I just saw a post on threads of a guy (if it’s real, the guy may be neurodivergent) looking for love and he was being trolled on the comments. I realized I looked very similar to him in many ways.

He isn’t really attractive. Neither am I. I was tested when i was younger and I supposedly don’t have autism but that’s besides the point.

It just sucks that I look so conventually unattractive and that I look like a stereotype because I’m not like that but I can’t really do anything about it.

My self esteem is pretty bad and while that isn’t new it’s starting to really get in the way. The last few weeks I’ve been talking to this coworker and the convos have been going good. We have a lot in common. What made me go up to them was that they were kinda play eye tag with me, and they’re on a completely different shift so it doesn’t matter as much.

Last night I kinda wanted to go for the number but I Couldn’t get the courage to go talk to her. I feel like I’m too much of a creep and weird looking dude. This feeling gets so overwhelming I literally can’t control it. People tell me I’m not a creep and just do it. (I’ll obviously take no as no) but the idea of possibly being reported for sexual harassment or god knows what else literally freaks me out. And I’ve felt this way for all these girls before. Whether I met them outside, in class etc.

I just feel to creepy and unattractive to make moves. I’ve done a lot to improve how I look but I still hate how I look and girls don’t really come up to me so that doesn’t help. Something just keeps calling me to make the move but I can’t get myself to do it. I feel ultimately stuck but I also feel like this is a safety net and my body is telling me something.

I’m just in a rut and any advice would be appreciated.

About a month ago I was at the gas station and I realized I overfilled my gas can and a bit leaked into my trunks carpet.

I have aired out my car for hours, washed the area down with hot water and dawn dish soap and used baking soda and let it sit. It temporarily makes it better, but it seems to come back especially with the AC sometimes.

Does anyone have any advice for this? Google told me to let the car air for 24 hours and leave the baking soda that long but I can’t leave my car that long. On top of it, I have to close my garage at night so I can’t let it completely air out.

Thanks!

Hi everyone, for most of my life I’ve been insecure and I would always use some excuse that would stop myself from pursuing women. At first it was I was fat, then it was my hairline and overall health, and then it became I didn’t have my own car.

Well most of these problems have been solved and I’m now 21. I’ve come to terms with other ones and now I do feel like I should date and try.

Yet, I just feel as there’s something still holding me back. Mostly the fear of being creepy. I’ve been told by many girls I’m not creepy and all but I also just don’t completely see the point dating. It feels like a weird limbo state of I want it but I don’t know if it’s worth it. But at the same time I feel the most confident now. I’ve felt this way before and then I ended up going back to self sabotaging.

Does anyone have any advice or experience with this?

Thanks

I’ve worked with this girl for a few years. We work different shifts but we overlap by a hour. I’m often not around where she works but the times I have been she had stared at me. It’s been a while but every so often we’d have long periods of awkward eye contact.

I finally grew some balls and talked to her one night and she seemed very responsive and smiled the whole time. I don’t take anything that happened here as signs she is interested in me and I take it all as her just being friendly. Been on this planet 21yrs and no girl has found me attractive and i doubt she does too. Either way, I do want to talk to her more and potentially maybe ask her out/get her number.

Does anyone have any advice for this? Is it even worth it? I dont have many opportunities to speak with her. Thanks

Hey everyone I’ve been doing OGP for about a month and everything has been fine. I’ve been with Walmart for four years and know my way around my store but the one thing I don’t understand are unknown walks.

How come half of these “unknowns” have locations? What’s the point of these having in unknown walks when they can be in regular pick walks? Half of the time I get these walks and they have the item location. I thought the point of unknowns is to find things on the sales floor that don’t have a location.

If anyone can explain the logic behind these I’d appreciate it bc I’m genuinely interested.

Thanks

I’m a 20 year old guy who is about to turn 21 and I’ve never dated. I’ve had one friends with benefits but that’s about it. For years now I’ve struggled with the concept that someone would be interested in me so because of that I’ve never tried dating.

I know I’m not the worst looking dude out there and I have good traits but I just don’t see myself as datable. I always think there’s a better option out there for other person so I don’t try.

Over the last few years I’ve gotten into good shape where girls have called me attractive but I just can’t believe them. I don’t know why, I either tell them they’re lying or just say thanks. This has caused me to self sabotage many opportunities. But the idea of dating also freaks me out.

I’ve felt this way for years now and I don’t know if I can do anything about it. Therapy has kinda helped but it doesn’t really change my view. I just want to know if anyone else is in this situation or has been and if they’ve been able to get out of it.

TIA

Hi everyone, I’m a guy in my 20s and I’ve struggled with depression for years. It goes through ups and downs but it’s been on a down for about a year now. Often I distract myself with my job because it forces me to talk to people which overall helps me feel better.

Recently, my job has cut hours drastically so that option isn’t really there anymore. I am applying to other jobs in hopes I find something. On my days off I’m able to keep myself busy with chores and hanging out with friends but obviously I can’t hangout with friends everyday as we all have our own lives.

I workout 3-5 times a week and that would normally make me feel better but now it keeps me feeling the same. I’ve lost motivation to really do anything over the last few years and the hobbies have died out just due to lack of motivation. I don’t even try to date because the idea is too draining and I screwed up my last talking stage.

For guys in a similar situation what advice do you have? Anything would be appreciated. Thanks

Hey everyone, I’m a 20 year old guy and for the last few years I’d say all motivation to do anything has basically disappeared. It would come back on the occasion, but it’s mostly nonexistent. I think the last time I’ve had like a long period of motivation was when I was seeing a girl.

But like I use to like playing video games. I have no motivation to play anymore. I use to have motivation to do things with my friends I just have no energy to do anything anymore. Whether I’m in school or working 40 hours a week like I do in the summers/breaks I just never want to do anything.

The idea of doing stuff just drains me and I don’t enjoy it anymore. It gives me anxiety and I mostly feel numb. All I really do is work and go to the gym and on my days off I spend most of my days just sleeping. All motivation is gone, I just don’t see a point in it anymore.

I don’t know if anyone experiences this or if this is abnormal but yeah. Any insight would be appreciated thanks.

Hi everyone, for years now I’ve been wanting to get contacts. I think they would improve my look over glasses. Last year I practiced a bit with videos but when I went to the optometrist I struggled intensely.

My eyes wouldn’t stay open no matter the method I used to train and the contact would always fall off my finger. Once the contact would get near my eye my hands would start shaking with my eye reflexes going nuts. This whole thing really demotivated me from trying especially the eye reflex thing. It makes me think there’s something wrong with me.

Either way, I want to try again. I have my yearly appointment at the eye doctor in August and I’d like to practice now. Does anyone have any advice for people with extreme eye reflexes? Also, how to keep it on your finger when you shake? Any advice would be appreciated.

Thank you!

Hi everyone, I just came back from leave and went onto my Walmart app to check my shifts. I was logged out and asked to log back in. I was told I needed to reset my password so I went through the process for it to tell me my account isn’t enrolled in self reset I must contact an administrator or call a number.

My coworkers have told me my PL is on LOA and is unable to help. Did anyone have this problem before? If so, how did you fix it?

Thank you!

I have a friend who recently got into a relationship. Her new boyfriend doesn't want her talking to any guys. So, whenever she hangs out with him she puts me (the one platonic male friend) on silent and sometimes removes me from snapchat. Immediately once they're done hanging out she re adds me and things go back to normal.

This is starting to get me uncomfortable because if he does find out it will cause a huge fight between the two which will lead to me probably getting cut off, if not messaged by the boyfriend and also it's just frustrating. Her and I are just platonic friends and I shouldn't need to be hidden. I don't know why she won't just set a boundary back at him and basically say this is all that is, you're gonna have to accept it. At the end of the day all it shows is he doesn't trust her and he's insecure.

What should I do here? This thing will blow up eventually and I'm just getting tired of it. Hiding me, putting me on silent and god knows what else makes it look like she's cheating on him when she is not.

TIA

Is this normal? I’m 20 in college and I’ve never perused a girl. I’ve liked girls but often they have to start the conversation with me to get to that point. I never go out of my way to start convos with girls unless they do first. I just don’t see a point to it.

I’ve never been in a relationship because of this. I also just don’t want to come off creepy. I was reading on this and some people say quit porn. I don’t watch porn. I do crave a relationship but I just don’t see a point to persue probably because of self esteem.

I just want to know if this is normal and if I should internally change this. Thanks!